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Posted by Jules-llNeed advice... I found a woman's name and phone number tucked under the Scorp's windshield wiper this morning when I left for work. What do I do after I calm down?
Call it,
Also if you need someone in a sting operation, im your girlllll
Posted by Phantom_LimboDoes he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
No, I found it and took it with me.
Ask yourself why you’re so mad before you even know the scenario? Isn’t it possible she just saw him and thought he was cute and didn’t know anything about him - like if he was single or not?
Posted by MyStarsShineCall the number to see who it is?
I did a reverse phone look up, registered to a man. Looked him up on FB, he's single. Yeah, my mars is fully activated right now Stars. I'll call the number when I calm down.
Posted by PinsNNeedlesDefinitely cool your anger. One can do really dumb shit when their feeling angry. Then all of sudden it's not about what made you angry, it's about you being angry. And that'll be worse when you want to be heard.
This is how I always try to conduct myself, cool off before I react. virgo ways...
Posted by Phantom_LimboDoes he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
The note had a woman's name, phone number and said "I saw you pulling into the complex". Who would randomly put their phone number on a man's windshield without some sort of encouragement? I wouldn't, but maybe I'm guarded?
Posted by Jules-llPosted by MyStarsShineCall the number to see who it is?
I did a reverse phone look up, registered to a man. Looked him up on FB, he's single. Yeah, my mars is fully activated right now Stars. I'll call the number when I calm down.click to expand
Yes calm yourself first girl, it could be anything? Does he play sport?
Posted by Jules-llPosted by MyStarsShineCall the number to see who it is?
I did a reverse phone look up, registered to a man. Looked him up on FB, he's single. Yeah, my mars is fully activated right now Stars. I'll call the number when I calm down.click to expand
wut? calm down
it is a woman name registered as a single man and you are mad? is your bae a female or male?
maybe its a therapist?
Wait, who are you even mad at?
You can’t possibly be mad at him about this?
This would be like him getting pissy with you because some construction worker catcalled you
Posted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboDoes he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
The note had a woman's name, phone number and said "I saw you pulling into the complex". Who would randomly put their phone number on a man's windshield without some sort of encouragement? I wouldn't, but maybe I'm guarded?click to expand
Oh I saw earlier you said a man, but this is a bit more worrying.....
why are we like this?
i suck at this, probably worse than you.
Posted by Phantom_LimboPosted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboDoes he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
No, I found it and took it with me.
Do you have reason to suspect him of anything prior to this?
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Hmm not sure about this. He has lied about going to a baseball game with a female friend he used to date, told me he was going with his daughter. Also has lied about going to dinner with his ex wife. I wouldn't even care about him seeing them, just don't lie to me about it. That to me is the biggest insult anyone can give.
Posted by Boots1313Posted by Jules-llNeed advice... I found a woman's name and phone number tucked under the Scorp's windshield wiper this morning when I left for work. What do I do after I calm down?
Call it,
Also if you need someone in a sting operation, im your girlllll
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Thanks @Boots1313! Same for you girl if the Taurus acts up!
Posted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboDoes he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
No, I found it and took it with me.
Do you have reason to suspect him of anything prior to this?
Hmm not sure about this. He has lied about going to a baseball game with a female friend he used to date, told me he was going with his daughter. Also has lied about going to dinner with his ex wife. I wouldn't even care about him seeing them, just don't lie to me about it. That to me is the biggest insult anyone can give.click to expand
Yes it is.....I'd lose trust if that happened to me, so you've a right to be wary Jules x
Posted by Phantom_LimboPosted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboDoes he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
The note had a woman's name, phone number and said "I saw you pulling into the complex". Who would randomly put their phone number on a man's windshield without some sort of encouragement? I wouldn't, but maybe I'm guarded?
Oof. That's not encouraging, but it could still be innocent. If I were worried, I would have left it there and camped out to see his reaction. Is that crazy?
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I had to leave for work... Maybe I'll hand it to him when I see him later without saying a word, gauge his reaction.
Posted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboDoes he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
The note had a woman's name, phone number and said "I saw you pulling into the complex". Who would randomly put their phone number on a man's windshield without some sort of encouragement? I wouldn't, but maybe I'm guarded?
Oof. That's not encouraging, but it could still be innocent. If I were worried, I would have left it there and camped out to see his reaction. Is that crazy?
I had to leave for work... Maybe I'll hand it to him when I see him later without saying a word, gauge his reaction.click to expand
"I had to leave for work... Maybe I'll hand it to him when I see him later without saying a word, gauge his reaction."
I still dont understand, how the reverse thing went, how that woman name is registered as a male and why are you mad at a single male (which you checked already)
Posted by brianafayAsk yourself why you’re so mad before you even know the scenario? Isn’t it possible she just saw him and thought he was cute and didn’t know anything about him - like if he was single or not?
Possibility is there about 0.1%
BUT on the other hand why would anyone leave HER contact if she KNEW his...—
She probably doesn’t.
So he probably is innocent...🙌
@Jules-II
"I did a reverse phone look up, registered to a man. Looked him up on FB, he's single. Yeah, my mars is fully activated right now Stars. I'll call the number when I calm down."
or do you think its him who is registered as the single man on FB, luring chicks?
Posted by brianafayWait, who are you even mad at?
You can’t possibly be mad at him about this?
This would be like him getting pissy with you because some construction worker catcalled you
I'm not mad at him, I'm mad that something encouraged a woman to put her name and phone number on his windshield. This is the scorpio mars equivalent of scorpio moon when something upsets us, we want to figure things out and protect ourselves from being played.
Posted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboDoes he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
The note had a woman's name, phone number and said "I saw you pulling into the complex". Who would randomly put their phone number on a man's windshield without some sort of encouragement? I wouldn't, but maybe I'm guarded?click to expand
There is your answer!
If she knew anything about him they would be talking on media!
She just saw him and went ‘gotta have it’...
Don’t call! Show it to him because if you call it might anger her and make her want to play nastily like approaching him and saying shit and he will feel like a fool and you will be the one who did it to him...
Man is obviously unaware...
Jeez! Honestly...I would call but who said I am a good example? 🤦♀️
Look up both the woman’s name and the man’s name to whom the phone is registered. See if there are any links present. Like work or facebook connections. If there is no tangible evidence, then it could just be a creep stalker. In which cases, take appropriate measures.
Posted by Pandora101@Jules-II
"I did a reverse phone look up, registered to a man. Looked him up on FB, he's single. Yeah, my mars is fully activated right now Stars. I'll call the number when I calm down."
or do you think its him who is registered as the single man on FB, luring chicks?
No, did the reverse look up to see who the number was registered to and it showed belonging to a man. Doesn't mean anything, could be he isn't the current person the cell number is active with.
Posted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboDoes he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
No, I found it and took it with me.
Do you have reason to suspect him of anything prior to this?
Hmm not sure about this. He has lied about going to a baseball game with a female friend he used to date, told me he was going with his daughter. Also has lied about going to dinner with his ex wife. I wouldn't even care about him seeing them, just don't lie to me about it. That to me is the biggest insult anyone can give.click to expand
Those are some shitty signs.
Posted by Pandora101Posted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboDoes he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
The note had a woman's name, phone number and said "I saw you pulling into the complex". Who would randomly put their phone number on a man's windshield without some sort of encouragement? I wouldn't, but maybe I'm guarded?
Oof. That's not encouraging, but it could still be innocent. If I were worried, I would have left it there and camped out to see his reaction. Is that crazy?
I had to leave for work... Maybe I'll hand it to him when I see him later without saying a word, gauge his reaction.
"I had to leave for work... Maybe I'll hand it to him when I see him later without saying a word, gauge his reaction."
I still dont understand, how the reverse thing went, how that woman name is registered as a male and why are you mad at a single male (which you checked already)
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She could be married so the phone is in her husband name or father...you know...and how does it determine ‘single’? If he was single and then got married - where would that ‘update’ show up? I don’t think it would...
Posted by Pandora101@Jules-II
"I did a reverse phone look up, registered to a man. Looked him up on FB, he's single. Yeah, my mars is fully activated right now Stars. I'll call the number when I calm down."
or do you think its him who is registered as the single man on FB, luring chicks?
That's not always reliable. If it's a cell phone sometimes the name does not get changed when someone else gets the line. I had to have the phone company go in a manually change the name off my number cause I always kept getting calls for someone else. Once I had it changed I stopped getting those calls. OR the phone is registered under her husband or boyfriend. My dad buys all the phone so even when my mom calls from her phone the caller ID shows my dads name.
Posted by Phantom_LimboIs there a gym or laundry or something there where he might have talked to a woman who interpreted it as flirting ? Allow him to be innocent until proven guilty.
Exactly! Apparently she doesn’t know shit about him!
Posted by Foxy777Don't tell him. Don't call it do nothing. Rip it up.
Make a copy of the number and name for a mental note though.
The BEST advice yet!
You're far too willing to let your man see you sweat 🤦 Get a grip.
Also, maybe your BF hit something when he pulled into the complex and the lady saw him and knows what he did. Lol sooo many reasons for this. I'd confront him about it but don't flip out and put him on the defense.
Posted by SeaLionPosted by Pandora101@Jules-II
"I did a reverse phone look up, registered to a man. Looked him up on FB, he's single. Yeah, my mars is fully activated right now Stars. I'll call the number when I calm down."
or do you think its him who is registered as the single man on FB, luring chicks?
That's not always reliable. If it's a cell phone sometimes the name does not get changed when someone else gets the line. I had to have the phone company go in a manually change the name off my number cause I always kept getting calls for someone else. Once I had it changed I stopped getting those calls. OR the phone is registered under her husband or boyfriend. My dad buys all the phone so even when my mom calls from her phone the caller ID shows my dads name.
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Riiight! I have 5 lines registered in my name...
Posted by GemitatiPosted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboDoes he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
The note had a woman's name, phone number and said "I saw you pulling into the complex". Who would randomly put their phone number on a man's windshield without some sort of encouragement? I wouldn't, but maybe I'm guarded?
There is your answer!
If she knew anything about him they would be talking on media!
She just saw him and went ‘gotta have it’...
Don’t call! Show it to him because if you call it might anger her and make her want to play nastily like approaching him and saying shit and he will feel like a fool and you will be the one who did it to him...
Man is obviously unaware...
Jeez! Honestly...I would call but who said I am a good example? 🤦♀️
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That's why I'm picking brains here on the best course of action. I want to call the number and say- you left your name and number on my man's windshield, is there something I can help you with? But not calling from my cell so she doesn't have my number then.
Posted by GemitatiPosted by Pandora101Posted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboDoes he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
The note had a woman's name, phone number and said "I saw you pulling into the complex". Who would randomly put their phone number on a man's windshield without some sort of encouragement? I wouldn't, but maybe I'm guarded?
Oof. That's not encouraging, but it could still be innocent. If I were worried, I would have left it there and camped out to see his reaction. Is that crazy?
I had to leave for work... Maybe I'll hand it to him when I see him later without saying a word, gauge his reaction.
"I had to leave for work... Maybe I'll hand it to him when I see him later without saying a word, gauge his reaction."
I still dont understand, how the reverse thing went, how that woman name is registered as a male and why are you mad at a single male (which you checked already)
She could be married so the phone is in her husband name or father...you know...and how does it determine ‘single’? If he was single and then got married - where would that ‘update’ show up? I don’t think it would...
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true
I just wasnt sure I understood the whole thing..... and I still dont 🙂 I am a dummy
so, she gave her number, which is registered as her husbandś or fatherś number, so its not her phone number? If she was trying to lure him, why she wouldnt give him her own phone number? I AM really a dummy, but still not clear 🙂 🙂
edit: if its registered under your name, it means everyone can find your name, if they want to find the 5 persons who are registered under your name? how its working? its quite scary
Posted by GemitatiPosted by Phantom_LimboIs there a gym or laundry or something there where he might have talked to a woman who interpreted it as flirting ? Allow him to be innocent until proven guilty.
Exactly! Apparently she doesn’t know shit about him!
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I'm not assuming he's guilty, I just want to know what prompted this. Have you ever left your number on a man's windshield unless you tapped his car while he wasn't in it? Oh wait, you probably have @Gemitati lol.
I understand this happens a lot. Women put their phone numbers on guy's cars - not sure wtf that is but obviously if he doesn't have her number it would be difficult to believe he knows her.
HOWEVER, nothing else mattered when I saw that he lied to you on several occasions. That was it for me. I don't tolerate lies.
Posted by RamOfPeacePosted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboDoes he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
No, I found it and took it with me.
Do you have reason to suspect him of anything prior to this?
Hmm not sure about this. He has lied about going to a baseball game with a female friend he used to date, told me he was going with his daughter. Also has lied about going to dinner with his ex wife. I wouldn't even care about him seeing them, just don't lie to me about it. That to me is the biggest insult anyone can give.
Those are some shitty signs.
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I agree... Why not be fully open if you don's have anything to hide? He told me about the game after the fact, told me that they had dated after the fact. I always thought the whole dating thing would get easier as you get older, more settled down. Obviously I was wrong.
Posted by Phantom_LimboPosted by GemitatiPosted by Phantom_LimboIs there a gym or laundry or something there where he might have talked to a woman who interpreted it as flirting ? Allow him to be innocent until proven guilty.
Exactly! Apparently she doesn’t know shit about him!
What? I understand the concern. It’s just best to hope for the best and not assume the worst since that will only make her feel horrible.
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I meant the author of the note...
Posted by Jules-llPosted by GemitatiPosted by Phantom_LimboIs there a gym or laundry or something there where he might have talked to a woman who interpreted it as flirting ? Allow him to be innocent until proven guilty.
Exactly! Apparently she doesn’t know shit about him!
I'm not assuming he's guilty, I just want to know what prompted this. Have you ever left your number on a man's windshield unless you tapped his car while he wasn't in it? Oh wait, you probably have @Gemitati lol.click to expand
Sorry. I meant that woman doesn’t know shit about him...otherwise she would text him!
And yes...I would but I hadn’t and please don’t give me an ideas...I have plenty of my own...😂😂😂
Posted by SilveradoWhat does your BF do for a living?
My advice will depend on your answer.
He's retired from NYPD.
Posted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboDoes he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
No, I found it and took it with me.
Do you have reason to suspect him of anything prior to this?
Hmm not sure about this. He has lied about going to a baseball game with a female friend he used to date, told me he was going with his daughter. Also has lied about going to dinner with his ex wife. I wouldn't even care about him seeing them, just don't lie to me about it. That to me is the biggest insult anyone can give.click to expand
Hon. Maybe he knows you would freak out? Would you if he told you? Did you talked about it and how really handsome IS he? 👀
Im so untrusting...this would be a major red flag for me.
Not one did he lie, 1x, 2xs, 3....this would send me into hyper drive (virgo moon)
The stories and narrtives i would be making up in my head...lordy
Im always PROVE your trustworthy first, then ill trust you.
Im not the other way around...give trust first....
Nah, ive been hurt and naieve too many times before.
With that being said women don't usually leave numbers unless there was an interaction.
I've been that woman...after I hooked up with a guy to leave my number on their car. We didn't exchange numbers for whatever reason.
The one thing where he gets a pass is the note said "saw you pull in"...
So it might have just been someone trying their luck.
Posted by Jules-llPosted by brianafayWait, who are you even mad at?
You can’t possibly be mad at him about this?
This would be like him getting pissy with you because some construction worker catcalled you
I'm not mad at him, I'm mad that something encouraged a woman to put her name and phone number on his windshield. This is the scorpio mars equivalent of scorpio moon when something upsets us, we want to figure things out and protect ourselves from being played.click to expand
I’m Scorpio mars too and I didn’t come to the same conclusion at all, but I am not in your relationship and don’t have the added trust issues obviously.
Especially after reading what the note said I feel there isn’t a screaming reason to suspect he has conversed with this person...sounds like she saw him, thought he was cute, and decided to shoot her shot.
It was irresponsible on her part to do so without knowing if he was available or not I guess, but how would she know? Realistically? I think his not calling her will be the message she needs to receive.
Or if it really is eating you up, you could text her (as him) and let her know the message was received but he’s not interested, thanks anyway ?
No I wouldn't, I'm not a jealous woman. I just really freaking hate being lied to. It's the scorpio omission if I don't say anything it's not a lie/what she doesn't know until after the fact won't hurt her thing I guess.
Posted by Phantom_LimboPosted by GemitatiPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by GemitatiPosted by Phantom_LimboIs there a gym or laundry or something there where he might have talked to a woman who interpreted it as flirting ? Allow him to be innocent until proven guilty.
Exactly! Apparently she doesn’t know shit about him!
What? I understand the concern. It’s just best to hope for the best and not assume the worst since that will only make her feel horrible.
I meant the author of the note...
Oh, gotcha. Seems she knows his name and his car. Nothing else is confirmed.
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Not even his name probably...
OP, did the note said his name?
Posted by Boots1313The one thing where he gets a pass is the bote said "saw you pull in"...
So it might have just been someone trying their luck.
That was telling to me too
It wasn’t just her name and number like as if he should know who she is or why she’s leaving her number...she is literally telling him “I saw you pull in”
It’s ballsy for sure but I really don’t get the impression from that that she has ever interacted with him
He used to be a cop, Jules?
So he knows all about lying?
Posted by brianafayPosted by Jules-llPosted by brianafayWait, who are you even mad at?
You can’t possibly be mad at him about this?
This would be like him getting pissy with you because some construction worker catcalled you
I'm not mad at him, I'm mad that something encouraged a woman to put her name and phone number on his windshield. This is the scorpio mars equivalent of scorpio moon when something upsets us, we want to figure things out and protect ourselves from being played.
I’m Scorpio mars too and I didn’t come to the same conclusion at all, but I am not in your relationship and don’t have the added trust issues obviously.Especially after reading what the note said I feel there isn’t a screaming reason to suspect he has conversed with this person...sounds like she saw him, thought he was cute, and decided to shoot her shot.
It was irresponsible on her part to do so without knowing if he was available or not I guess, but how would she know? Realistically? I think his not calling her will be the message she needs to receive.
Or if it really is eating you up, you could text her (as him) and let her know the message was received but he’s not interested, thanks anyway ?
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I like this idea @brianafay, squash the whole thing. But I want to see his reaction to the note.
Posted by GemitatiPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by GemitatiPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by GemitatiPosted by Phantom_LimboIs there a gym or laundry or something there where he might have talked to a woman who interpreted it as flirting ? Allow him to be innocent until proven guilty.
Exactly! Apparently she doesn’t know shit about him!
What? I understand the concern. It’s just best to hope for the best and not assume the worst since that will only make her feel horrible.
I meant the author of the note...
Oh, gotcha. Seems she knows his name and his car. Nothing else is confirmed.
Not even his name probably...
OP, did the note said his name?
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No
Being the petty queen I am I’d probably just hand deliver the note to him like you planned on doing and make a joke/snide remark like “hey, I think you have a secret admirer” or “damn, I better lock you down, mrs steal yo man on the loose”
Posted by Arielle83Posted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_LimboDoes he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
The note had a woman's name, phone number and said "I saw you pulling into the complex". Who would randomly put their phone number on a man's windshield without some sort of encouragement? I wouldn't, but maybe I'm guarded?
Is he that attractive?
I’d never.
Unless he’s murdered someone and she saw and is a lawyer.
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This made me laugh, thanks @Arielle83. Right? I would never do that but I prefer direct interaction.
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Need advice... I found a woman's name and phone number tucked under the Scorp's windshield wiper this morning when I left for work. What do I do after I calm down?