How Do I Approach This?

Okay ... I don't know how to put this but I will give it a shot 🙂

There is a relationship forming between a virgo man (Aug. 24 -- maybe he's a leo, I don't know) and me. However, it seems to be a stop and go, stop and go kind of thing.

One minute, he seems like he wants to ask me out. However, the next minute he acts so darn bashful, I don't know what to say to him.

LOL, I remember too days ago, I was doing my homework in the lobby. He and I had aleady spoke to each other, but he needed to go back to the gym so he couldn't stay long. Afterward practiced, he had to rush to class. However, just before he went to class, I looked up and I saw him looking at me. Then he looks away without saying a word LOL!!!

Tonight, I saw him walking with his friends (they are going to a club tonight). He didn't know I was around because he doesn't know my work schedule. Haha, I guess he heard me talking and gestured goodbye as he was walking out with his friends.

My manager and supervisor seem to think the guy likes me or has a crush on me. I have no idea what's going on but he is interesting.

Now, here's my question -- how do I approach this situation? I mean, clearly I don't know what's really going on in his head but I don't want to assume anything either.

If a virgo guy is *honestly* interested, does he behave in a sheepish manner?

Last, a scorpio girl really liked him but he seemed to be turned off my her eagerness LOL!!! I'm very laid-back and I'm not the one to make the first move anyway -- I'm a capricorn afterall 😉

So what can I do to nurture any potential happens without scaring him away?

Hi ma'am,

How old is he?

He just turned 20 years old -- Aug 24

aww this is soo cute! poor guy.. ok well I'm born august 24 but I'm a girl and there are a few of us Aug 24's floating around here...but I'll try to help

Now, here's my question -- how do I approach this situation?
ok approach him as a friend first.....see if you guys can hang around and just get comfortable being around eachother......cause Leo/Virgo's cusp to a degree are shy and bashful.....especially when young....then show him you accept him just the way he is ....that might get him to open up .....acceptance is key.......also just be yourself and be honest....if he likes you......he already likes you for YOU!....also if he is staring at you it's a good sign.....but he won't say anything cause we have a bit of trouble expressing emotions sometimes


I mean, clearly I don't know what's really going on in his head but I don't want to assume anything either. ..........are you sure about that! :-) lol

If a virgo guy is *honestly* interested, does he behave in a sheepish manner? yes, he will especially when young or hasn't had much relationship experience

So what can I do to nurture any potential happens without scaring him away?

well don't come on too strong....but just be yourself..be sincere and honest in what you are feeling..that can make a big difference.......also a good sense of humor is key.....just have patience .....it won't happen that quickly even if the attraction is strong..trust me I know.and i have had some very strong intense attractions......but he might be very intersted since he at least acknowledges you and stares at you


let me know if you have any more questions ...........i'll be happy to try to help! :-)

If a virgo guy is *honestly* interested, does he behave in a sheepish manner? yes, he will especially when young or hasn't had much relationship experience
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Yea, thats pretty much it right there. Thats why I asked about his age. I can't speak for the other V's but for myself, that's dead on when I was 20.

The friends approach StarBlue offered should work very well. That might be the only way he's comfortable with it all.

Thank you all so mcuh for the advice. I really needed it because I think I ... kinda like this virgo guy 🙂 It just sucks when you have no idea what they feel about you.

At the gym today, I was fooling around when I saw him. He wanted me to check out his Abs (the dude is ripped!) but instead ... I shyed away (on purpose that is) and told him to put his shirt on LOL!!!

I hope he didn't take me personal ... I hope Leo/ virgo men aren't that sensitive when a lady if playing around with them ... even if she makes it all dramatic LOL.

ok approach him as a friend first.....see if you guys can hang around and just get comfortable being around eachother......cause Leo/Virgo's cusp to a degree are shy and bashful.....especially when young....then show him you accept him just the way he is ....that might get him to open up .....acceptance is key.......also just be yourself and be honest....if he likes you......he already likes you for YOU!....

Yes, that's the plan 🙂 I want him to open up but I don't want to seem pushy, you know?

l don't come on too strong....but just be yourself..be sincere and honest in what you are feeling..that can make a big difference.......also a good sense of humor is key.....just have patience .....

I can be insanely goofy at times 😛 Like tonight when I made a big deal about him not wearing a shirt 😛 😛 😛

LOL, I really hope he didn't take it personal ...

I wasn't there, but odds are, I wouldn't be offended. In fact, I might think that I got you a little flustered with my visual masculinity -- cool!

Well, he wasn't offended by any means -- as a matter of fact, walked around me without his shirt for like five times on Monday LOL!!!!! The guy is ripped, but I don't think he's aware of how ripped he is. Sorry .... my vanity took over for a moment 🙂

He was being an idiot that day, he knee was really puffy and sore from practice and he wouldn't tell me he was in pain. I had to see him limping around before I figured out he needed ice.

After all the stuff you've read on DXP about what a-holes us Virgs are (Hey P-Angel!), I'm surprised you still want one.

Yeah! Haha, that puzzles the hell out of me too! LOL, although I believe all the sun signs are capable of good and bad 😉 Virgo guys are no exception ;D For some odd freaking reason, I draw virgo guys and I'm attracted to them. Maybe it's the pisces Mars or the Scorpio Jupiter 😄

Yeah, from the CAPS I've met, not being pushy would be a good thing. Poised, self-confident, firm, are OK. Just be yourself, and let the chips fall.

Well, it's hard for me to be poised because I'm a naturally goofy person 😛 He is too! He's so kooky and off-beat, but that amuses me about him. I know how intelligent he is because I can see through the "I'm a fool" front he puts on. BUT I will never let him know that.

What gets on my never is how bashful he can be at one moment ... but then when I ignore him and tend to my work, he does crazy things to get my attention LOL, I have no idea what do with this situation but I will just see if anythimg comes of it.

I was planning my academic career the other day and I thought I give him some info on his career. Only because so many people cut him down about wanting to be a fire fighter, so I decided to let him know that his career choice is totally cool 🙂

"What gets on my never is how bashful he can be at one moment ... but then when I ignore him and tend to my work, he does crazy things to get my attention"

That sounds about right, Cappysweetie .. if that translates into me thinking Virgo's are assholes, then interpret the way you like.

However, if you want to know how I really feel about it and not someone's interpretation who isn't in control of their feelings, then I'll tell you .. what the above paste means is that he doesn't know how to handle the emotional stuff, like the rest of his kind.

It's normal for the male Virgo to behave this way because they are so logical, leaving no room in them for emotions being an answer for things that happen in life .. that when something does happen, such as something emotionally based, like an attraction .. they will push and pull. They push forward because they know they are feeling, but then they pull away because then when they tried to apply logic and reasoning then this confuses them.

In fact, from my experience .. 90% of anything that has to be processed from the emotions, pretty much gets put on the back burner, so reason and practicality can be considered.

If something isn't lived, it isn't learned.

So, back to your original question .. how do you approach this.

"Last, a scorpio girl really liked him but he seemed to be turned off my her eagerness LOL!!! I'm very laid-back and I'm not the one to make the first move anyway"


Virgo's, though they project an image of superiourity and/or dominance, they really aren't dominant at all, and actually prefer a strong woman who will take the lead.

There's a difference between being eager and being pushy .. and his past Scorpio woman was probabaly being forceful/pushy and he relayed it as being eager, so not to say something negative against her character. That's admirable .. he could have bashed her.

Being a Cappy, you're going to naturally be submissive and sit back to wait for him to make the first move .. him being an earth sign, he will also sit back and wait for you to make the first move.

Catch-22 .. most Cappy's and Virgo's never hook up, though, they both sit in the balance for a prolonged period of time, patiently awaiting the other to take the lead. He's likely sitting back, thinking the same thing you are .. for instance ..

"He wanted me to check out his Abs (the dude is ripped!) but instead ... I shyed away (on purpose that is) and told him to put his shirt on LOL!!!"

This was an approach by him to you to make a move, he was showing you his interest in you by trying to impress you and you backed off, to await a more direct approach by him .. if both of you are being subtle and neither are being direct than this could go on for a while. This was your opportunity to show him your interest .. instead, you slipped away to continue giving the vibe of being bashful.

Not faulting you or him .. simply saying that neither of you are being the dominant one and taking charge. You want him to (your earth) and he wants you to (earth) .. it's just in both your natures.

In most cases, where someone has a solid relationship with a Virgo, it's because they took charge of the union. That doesn't mean you have to be forceful (that turned him off) .. it means you have to be confident and sure .. Virgo men actually like a woman who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to go for it.

Go for it, Sweetie .. show him that you KNOW what you want and that it is him. In fact, there are a couple male Virgo's in here, who have said that one of the attractions to their women was because she KNEW what she wanted without fear. Displaying excessive shyness often looks like insecurity to Virgo's.

Ah... you are really my astro twins cappysweeite - pisces mars and scorpio jupiter.

ARE SERIOUS— Hahaha, that's pretty darn cool if you ask me! BUT wait! I'm on the Aqua/ Pisces cusp with my Mars ... now if you are on the cusp too, then that will be a shocker LOL!!!

Moon Opposition Pluto

Venus Opposition Saturn

Him .... I'm going to check that out. Just for the sake of it, here's part of his chart. I post the whole thing later.

Here's part of it:

Sun: Leo/ virgo cusp
Moon: Virgo
Mercury: Leo/ virgo cusp
Venus: Leo/virgo cusp
Mars: Leo/ virgo cusp

DON'T insult his intelligence. This is an offense. We don't reveal our intelligence because we don't feel we need to.

Well 25th Decan 😛 ...

I tell him he is intelligent quite often. I also tell him he makes me laugh -- I told him that yesterday as a matter of fact. Haha, I told him to never stop being himself, like don't change because he makes me laugh LOL. I don't know if that was a good thing, but I just felt the need to say it. I do hope he read that info I gave him about fire fighting ... if he doesn't at least I tried to help 🙂

However, if you want to know how I really feel about it and not someone's interpretation who isn't in control of their feelings, then I'll tell you .. what the above paste means is that he doesn't know how to handle the emotional stuff, like the rest of his kind.

Hi P-Angel 🙂

You know what, he just walked past my area a moment ago (no lie) and he wouldn't look me in the face when he asked to get into the locker-room to get his clothes. UGH! That drives me crazy!!! In the very beginning ... when we started talking in early August (haha after a year of knowing each other, the boy didn't say a freaking word to me ... except hi), he would make eye contact when he was doing something crazy.

Now, that he doesn't act AS nutty as he use to ( because of the Fall Semester has started and the pressure is on), he stare at me for a while and then look else where when he talking to me. Actaully, this didn't start happening until one of my alternate supervisors suggested that he liked me ... right in front of me. Now that I think about it ...

In fact, from my experience .. 90% of anything that has to be processed from the emotions, pretty much gets put on the back burner, so reason and practicality can be considered.

Really P-Angel? Then that's been my problem with Virgo men then, somethings I can be a sea of emotions and that seems to scare them.

For some reason, I can "feel" that he likes me but he just won't come out and admit it you know? This has happen before but THIS time, the feeling is same ... I actually like the same guy that likes me.

Leo/ Virgo slipped up one evening when we were talking (I think it was last week). As he told me goodnight, went to shake my hand and he pulled me out of the door way near the outside. He held my hand for a while before he had to leave ... but he still wouldn't look at me ... he seemed nervous. Anyway, this was very out of character and it shocked me a little. Soooooo, of course I became really gitty after he left 😉 😉 😉 A few other things happened that nighyt too ... So, I guess he kinda "told" on himself without realizing it until later.

Which from what I'm hearing is not good 😢 When they start realizing stuff, they freak out ... oh dear 😢

Catch-22 .. most Cappy's and Virgo's never hook up, though, they both sit in the balance for a prolonged period of time, patiently awaiting the other to take the lead. He's likely sitting back, thinking the same thing you are .. for instance ..

WHAT! Well that's no good 😢 Hmm, maybe it's time to bring my Saggie personality out then 😉 I haven't channeled that Saggie side for a while.

This was an approach by him to you to make a move, he was showing you his interest in you by trying to impress you and you backed off, to await a more direct approach by him .. if both of you are being subtle and neither are being direct than this could go on for a while. This was your opportunity to show him your interest .. instead, you slipped away to continue giving the vibe of being bashful.

OOPS! Yes, you are right, I wanted more directness from him, now I'm still getting his bashful side ... more then ever and it's driving me crazy. I'm just afraid that if I get in his face, he'll block me out like the Scorpio girl (who he tonight as a matter of fact *giggles*, she likes to be around alot of guys and the gym is full because of practice. LOL the Leo/virgo left rather quickly)

If only we can get to know each other outside of school, that would be helpful.

Go for it, Sweetie .. show him that you KNOW what you want and that it is him. In fact, there are a couple male Virgo's in here, who have said that one of the attractions to their women was because she KNEW what she wanted without fear. Displaying excessive shyness often looks like insecurity to Virgo's.

Hmmm, alrighty then. I don't know how far I will get with him but hey it's worth a try. We aren't like best friends or anything, so I don't have much to lose. He is sweet and I wouldn't want to scare him away, but hey, I'll give it a go.

Probably true - and not just for Cappy Women. Unless he's really experienced, the typical VirGuy is gonna hold back until he's 99.99% certain that you're interested in him before he declares himself.

Okay DY, how on earth do I get him to know I'm interested. When I tried to put it out there, he seemed to shy away ... not in a reserved manner, but he got nervous. Hahaha, he talks to me while looking at the sky, the wall, a poster ... everything but me. Oh he'll talk my ear-drums off but he paces from side to side and ....

I don't know LOL, maybe he's moody! There's no cancer in his chart so it proves that cancer men are not the only ones with this problem LOL.

For all 3 of my serious adult LTRs: She knew herself first, before she tried to know me. She was an honest, genuine woman - who didn't play games. She didn't lead me by the nose, but she did point me in the right direction.

Well, honestly, I know what I want at the moment, but I don't know if I know who I am yet. Well, I went through the whole self-discovery thing between 20 and 21 but I'm not sure what good it did. Some things I want to improve about myself, so I'm unsure if I really "know" me.

Hmmm, you and P-Angel gave me something to think about 🙂

Hey! Here's your chance to prove the Ol' Dawg wrong about Cappy Women & Virgo Men!

Hey! For your info Mister DY, a Capricorn woman is just like a Scorpio woman except we aren't as intense because we don't know how to be LOL. Capricorn women show there emotions in REALLY backward-ass ways because we are too afraid to actaully be who we KNOW we are. In so many words, that's what P-Angel was telling me 🙂

LOL, sorry for all the posting. There was alot of info I needed to reply too!

well cappysweetie

how's it going with the Leo/Virgo Cusp? :-)

Hi Starblue 🙂

Well, it's going ... but it's not a bad direction and not a good direction either. For Pete's sake I can't read the guy LOL. See, the last few guys I've been involved with have been two water signs and a fire sign. I'm not sure what to do with this virgo dude because I can't read him. One minute, I think he wants nothing to do with me ...

(well, he was talkin to another girl, and sense it wasn't me, I got a bit jealous, so I interpreted that as wanting nothing to so with me LOL) ...

Then, the next day, he does stupid stuff to get some attention. Like, he was bouncing a tennis ball and it bounced towards me and hit me, he said didn't mean to do it -- but I know he did 😉

The day after, I tried to pretend I didn't see him so I walked past. Next thing I know, he hit me in the back side with rolled up flyer. When I looked at him, he said : "It wasn't me, the guy behind me did it ... I know you can't see him, but he's there". LOL, I hit him several times with the same flyer.

I don't know, we have this odd "flirty"(dare I say it) thing going on. However, I don't know how to get past that point.

""25thDecan

Just ask him what's up. He's a mud dick. It doesn't take me too long to just get on with it. Sheesh! LOL""


he's no a mud dick...........he just really shy and well young....LOL!

""Hi Starblue

Well, it's going ... but it's not a bad direction and not a good direction either. For Pete's sake I can't read the guy LOL. See, the last few guys I've been involved with have been two water signs and a fire sign. I'm not sure what to do with this virgo dude because I can't read him. One minute, I think he wants nothing to do with me ...

(well, he was talkin to another girl, and sense it wasn't me, I got a bit jealous, so I interpreted that as wanting nothing to so with me LOL) ...""

No you can't think that way!........people talk to eachother all the time........it doesn't mean anything.....or atleast you have to think that way....i know it's hard not knowing where you stand with someone


""Then, the next day, he does stupid stuff to get some attention. Like, he was bouncing a tennis ball and it bounced towards me and hit me, he said didn't mean to do it -- but I know he did""

hmmm maybe trying to get your attention....

The day after, I tried to pretend I didn't see him so I walked past. Next thing I know, he hit me in the back side with rolled up flyer. When I looked at him, he said : "It wasn't me, the guy behind me did it ... I know you can't see him, but he's there". LOL, I hit him several times with the same flyer.

well he has a sense of humor........awww that is cute......it looks like he is being playful and wanting to get your attention......since you ignored him......

I don't know, we have this odd "flirty"(dare I say it) thing going on. However, I don't know how to get past that point.

well flirty thing is good......if he is flirting with you....then that is good.....Leo/Virgos suck at flirting lol...and also we don't really flirt that much......so this could be a good sign............

just take things slowly......you both have time.......don't rush into things