how to keep a virgo interest?

Hello. I have never done most of what I am about do. By that I mean reading up on virgos, post on a message boards, etc.
I have been seeing a 22 virgo (I'm a 27 sag) for about a month and a half. Everything was going amazing til about a week ago.
She was all about me since day one. We would hang out 3 to 4 times a week for a couple of hours. She spent the night at least once a week. We told each other how much we like each other and that we missed one another. It felt like we were heading for a something good. We didn't have sex for 3 weeks. Which really doesn't bother me.
The night it went sour she came over with her friend & sister. We were all drinking and at some point I felt like she was ignoring me. I honestly vaguely remember talking to her. Just remember her telling me she doesn't like being affectionate with her sister around. I woke up feeling like an asshole. I knew something wasn't right. Once i did speak with her she told me she was shy and that I disregarded it and went about the whole situation to aggressively. I apologized and she told me she appreciated it. We had plans to go out that night(Friday) and did with a group of friends. Everything seemed normal til i attempted to put my arm her she moved away and stepped in front of me.
Saturday we had plans to hang out at my house. She messaged me that evening cancelling. I knew something was wrong and asked if I had scared her away because of my actions. She told me "yeah kind of. You were way to aggressive and that we don't know each other well enough to be acting affectionate in front of others. I want to be treated more friendly I guess"
It killed me i honestly do like this girl. I gave her space and didn't text as much as we use to. Our texts were nothing like how we talk to one another. It was like friends. We hung out Wednesday with our friends. It went well except I felt more confused about "us"
Friday I decided to speak with her in private. She told me she was scared to talk to me(in private) because she thought i was going to ask her out. We came to the conclusion that we both like each other but that we are not looking for a relationship. She told me she needs to focus on her career. She said we could still cuddle and hook up. The night went great.
Saturday she text all day like she use to. Hung out a good portion of the day before going out with our friends. The evening went well, walked her to her door and we kissed a bit.
Since then the friend texts have begun.

She is very into astrology so I am trying to figure her out anyway I can.
How can I keep her interested without coming off desperate or clingy.
Can i bounce back from my drunk actions?

When is her birthday?

If you have the date, place, and time (if possible) someone can run a chart.


Have you run your own?


** I'm not a Virgo, but my Venus is. 😄

The best thing you could do is give her space like she'd asked. You've already disrespected her by pushing her boundaries, even though you were aware that it made her uncomfortable. I would just lay low for now and see how she reacts. Besides, if you both came to the conclusion that you don't want a relationship, then I don't see what the big deal is. Unless you were being dishonest?

How to keep a virgo interest?

Your girl sounds very driven. A young lady who has goals for her future. So to keep her interested in you, you should find out what that goal is and support her by giving her what she needs. Usually she would need space, a lot of space. She would some time want you to be scarce so she can focus.

If she is into astrological, then definitely ask her about her birth date, birth time and birth place. Google it or post it here so the expert can work it for you and provide more insights.

Yeah, we don't do deep affection and PDA in front of people. Did you get drunk and started kissing her in front of her sister?

It's disrespectful. And yeah, I know few things are disrespectful for Sag Men.

Continue building what you have with her and watch your manners.

Lol, you've been inside her but you can't put your arm around her?

Sorry, I don't have any answers. I just came to laugh. Seriously y'all can rationalize this?

Posted by Astrobyn
Lol, you've been inside her but you can't put your arm around her?

Sorry, I don't have any answers. I just came to laugh. Seriously y'all can rationalize this?

I took 'too aggressively' to mean that he probably tried to kiss her or something to that extent in front of her sister. I'm uncomfortable with any form of PDA in front of my family, so I can understand why she was offended by it. But yeah, if you can't even put your arm around her without her freaking out, then there's definitely a problem.

9/18/91 She was born in san diego.

I didn't realize how I felt about her til shit hit the fan. If she wanted a relationship I would go for it.
I guess I'm worried about hanging out w her and having her find someone, by all means she deserves to be happy.

i feel like i blew my chances w her. i guess i will back off and see how she reacts to it. hopefully she will see i do care and will come around when she is ready

Being virgo woman I don't like public affection ... Normally, I don't forgive such faux-pas unless a) I really like you and can look beyond that or b) you reveal something awesome about yourself that surprises me and am attracted back to you.
She seems very career oriented- what do you do for a living? and are you driven like her? I feel that might be important here..

I'm about to go back to school for diet & nutrition and business. Im trying to show her my true self again.
She likes who I am and what I do. I am a musician and also involved in my community.
Silly I feel so childish trying to find ways to be infatuated w me again

LMAO! Cap moon, your totally fucked! Could be Aqua (doubt it) but that doesn't help much.

Keep in touch but keep it light. Be ready with some solid activity plans..approach her casually.
Try to laugh about what happened, and do not do it again!

Apologize, don't do it again and be yourself. If you are trying to change who you are/what you are about it will eventually be seen as fake and will potentially have an even worse reaction.

I don't get those that "try to win/mold themselves to be different/put on an act/manipulate" to "get" someone. In the end it gains nothing, as once the other finds out who you are really on the inside, they will be gone. I personally won't stand for a "game" to be run on me and others may not view it as a game or manipulation, but it really is.

The person you end up with should love & respect you! ALL of you, the good, bad and indifferent parts of you. At least that's who I want to spend my life with, because that's how I will be with them.

best of luck to you...

If she really like u, she will alway come to u. U can give her some space, text her once in awhile. But dont leave her for too long time, she will be gone.......yea, its true that we dont like to be affectionate in front of frienda or family ... We are shy ppl. Well, u will know wht she thinks, she likes u or not, im so honest to the guys that im not interested in...

Btw, if u didnt something tht made her angry, give her an apologize, she will accept it.

Posted by ggrox

her telling me she doesn't like being affectionate

i attempted to put my arm her she moved away

You were way to aggressive and that we don't know each other well enough to be acting affectionate

She told me she was scared to talk to me(in private) because she thought i was going to ask her out.

we are not looking for a relationship.

She said we could still cuddle and hook up.

She only wants you as a fuck buddy.

I completely disagree with everyone telling you to be patient and give her space, in that she likes you because the signs are written all over your testimony .... even at the end of this, you say the friend texts have begun.

The friend texts have begun because you are in a FWB situation. Do yourself a favor and wake the fuck up to realize it, instead of droning on about being confused.

There's nothing uglier than a fuck buddy acting like they're suppose to be special .... because you're not special ... you're her dick, and they're every fucking where to be had.


:::: shakes head ::::

Aint that the truth.

She spent the night Wednesday, all we did was make dinner and cuddle. She told me she felt like she hadn't seen me in a while (Saturday was the last time we hung out) then later told me she came over because she kind of missed me.
We went out yesterday with some of our friends, finally did something that she enjoys doing. She seemed a bit touchy at first. we went to a show and I was saying hi to my friends that were there when I came back to her she looked at me and said "i found a white girl for you" I had her repeat herself because I was shocked she said that. We hung out for a little longer then left. When we pulled up to her house she told me she really had to pee and kind of rushed out. I am assuming she was trying to avoid kissing me?

To make my story short I realized I am just her friend. She may have feelings for me but mine are much deeper than hers. It sucks honestly but all I can do make sure I don't hurt myself by reading into everything to much. If her feelings are strong hopefully she realizes I am a great catch and could potently help her in life. I will continue to try to be her friend but I will probably have to get over this crush.

@ggrox: Were you 2 FWB to begin with? (w/o sex even?)

i guess? I would describe it as "Seeing" one another

With a virgo you should never sell yourself short. Virgos have a set of standards that ppl have to meet in order to gain their love/attention. I know that for a fact because my bull has a virgo moon and how my virgo rising impacts me. You have to have self worth....im guessing since you fell for her first you just gave into her whims and now she doesnt think of you as a man. Just a buddy she can hook up with....

^^^ somewhat true.

not that she doesn't think of you as a man... i'm sure she does... but slow and steady wins the race usually with virgos.

i get wary of men that come on too strong.