I want my virgo man back!! help!!

We have dated for a year exclusively but unofficially. We were taking it slow but everything was going amazing. Then recently, my virgo guy opened up to me about his deep thoughts and even cried in front of me. (He did this on his own). Then, right after he started being distant with me and last week said we shouldn't be together anymore because he doesn't feel the "romantic spark" that he should. Is he just scared he opened up to me? or am I wasting my time?

What was your reaction when he opened up to you? Did you reciprocate?

When a Virgo guy opens up, he needs to feel reassurance and acceptance. You most likely didn't respond to it the way he needed you to. In my experience, that's when this brings him closer to you and the relationship evolves to the next stage.

But you apparently screwed it up.

How can two people be exclusive without being official?

That's sounds pretty vague.

If neither of you are going to bother to put in the effort to find out where you stand after a year of being (whatever the unofficially exclusive is suppose to mean), then what's your big deal now with him needing to back off into space after he exposed his feelings?

I mean ... what the fuck does it matter to you? You don't even care to have a relationship talk to him during or after a year of fucking him unofficially.

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When a Virgo guy opens up, he needs to feel reassurance and acceptance. You most likely didn't respond to it the way he needed you to. In my experience, that's when this brings him closer to you and the relationship evolves to the next stage.

But you apparently screwed it up.

Well, I was always the one trying to initiate a real relationship but he said he was not ready so I was trying to be patient and not push him. I also was the first one to open up to him, and he said since I was honest with him that he wanted to open up to me too. Thats what I meant when I said he did this on his own.

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What was your reaction when he opened up to you? Did you reciprocate?

Yes. I initiated the openness. he said that since I was so honest with him that he wanted to be open with me too.

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Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
When a Virgo guy opens up, he needs to feel reassurance and acceptance. You most likely didn't respond to it the way he needed you to. In my experience, that's when this brings him closer to you and the relationship evolves to the next stage.

But you apparently screwed it up.

Well, I was always the one trying to initiate a real relationship but he said he was not ready so I was trying to be patient and not push him. I also was the first one to open up to him, and he said since I was honest with him that he wanted to open up to me too. Thats what I meant when I said he did this on his own.

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Ouch, I guess you're not what he's looking for.

Traditionally, Virgos reserve the best part of themselves for those who they deem deserving. Otherwise it's a waste of effort. I worked hard for 4 years and gave my absolute best. Paid off big time in the end. I'm still pinching myself sometimes because for me it's a dream come true in more ways than one.

We only know a paragraph about your situation, so this is as far as I can speculate. But Virgos are very stubborn when they make up their mind about someone. It's clear that your guy made up his mind about you. It's gonna take something ferocious to make him change it.

You need to find out what he needs the most. I became my Virgo's best friend in the beginning and helped him get comfortable enough around me to the point where he would tell me things he wouldn't dare tell his own brother. I never laugh at him, never make fun of him in a malicious manner except for friendly co-jousting (showing him respect as a person & a friend) and I'm always there when he needs to talk, no strings attached.

Posted by MiZLeo
@heavyentertainmentshow : I agree.... unfortunately OP totally did not get what you just said.

Eh, noone's perfect. No substitute for experience. Got enough Virgo experience to last several reincarnations lol.

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What was your reaction when he opened up to you? Did you reciprocate?

Yes. I initiated the openness. he said that since I was so honest with him that he wanted to be open with me too.

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Didn't ask if you initiated. I asked what your reaction was when he opened up??

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What was your reaction when he opened up to you? Did you reciprocate?

Yes. I initiated the openness. he said that since I was so honest with him that he wanted to be open with me too.

Didn't ask if you initiated. I asked what your reaction was when he opened up??

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My reaction to him was that I said that with time will help heal the losses he has suffered, and that all of his doubts and weaknesses can build him up and make him stronger.

It shoulda made you guys closer not further apart.. Sounds like a jerk..