i have been in two relationships before and this is my third with a Virgo man. We met last year and he instantly took a liking for me. We dated for two months before actually committing to each other in the month of August. He was in a 7 year on and off toxic relationship which he had ended not long before we met. His ex was never willing to let him go because she always felt no matter what, he would eventually come back to her. Even after having told her that they were broken up, she would not agree to it. Two months into the relationship and he asked if he should talk to his ex and make it very clear that they were over. Owing to my awful experiences from the past, I asked him not to because I had a guy feeling it would turn out bad. But hello... He did contact her without my knowledge, which I eventual did find out. I was mad at him and asked him if I should stay. He begged me to stay and promised me his loyalty and love. And me being a good person accepted him back with open arms. Now let's get to their conversation, which he had with her. He said he didn't want to hide things from me and that he would be honest with me. He told me that the girl was emotionally trying to manipulate her and that he got all emotional and had decided to go back to her, but then realised that he didn't want to be with her because of how toxic their relationship was. He said that she had even said to him that if you don't love the new girl, come back to me. I have a job, are you stupid? This were her exact words and this is what he told me. I let that matter pass and moved on. But problems started creeping into our relationship because of the immense insecurity the whole issue brought in me. We had a huge fight in January and since then he has been a little distant. But I have changed my ways and have been nothing but calm and patient with him. He talks to me about our future together, about how he sees a wife in me and he has treated me very well in the past few months. He has done a lot for me as well. But these days, he has been very irritable and gets mad at the slightest thing. He doesn't communicate and is hot and cold too often. A few days back when he was in his best mood, we talked for hours and it felt good. I knew he was happy talking to me as well but as soon as I told him a funny story about my ex, he got mad at me saying I should be more careful about what I say because it hurts him. I apologized but he became distant again. So the next day my friend called me asking if my boyfriend and I were doing good. I said yes and asked why what had happened? She casually said that she had a bad dream where she saw that my bf was trying to contact his ex and that she was avoiding his calls. I laughed at it and later called my bf regarding movie purchases on YouTube. When I called him he asked if I talked to my friend. And I said yes we did. I asked him why to which he said that she had messaged her asking if he wasn't happy with me. He was confused and so was I. He asked me what my friend and I had talked about. I told him about the dream that she saw, to which he yelled at me calling me a liar. Taken aback I tried to make him understand that I wasnt and that she dreamt about him trying to contact him ex. He laughed saying why is everyone after his ex. I didnot like how he was behaving and so I called my friend again wanting to know why she had to message him what she did. She then said this to me. Apparently, my friend and his ex share a mutual friend and the mutual friend reached out to my friend telling her that my bf has tried to contact his ex. She didnot believe it at first and then the mutual friend sent screen shots of all the calls. I was surprisingly calm and didnot react to it. I confronted My bf about the issue and at first he denied it only later accepting it when I mentioned the screenshots. He had no explanation to give and only said do your own work. I didn't bother him after that. Next thing in the morning I hear that his ex had been telling everyone that back when they lasted contacted each other in the month of October, my bf had said to his ex that I was the one who forced him into the relationship and that he didn't want to stay with me. She also added that he asked her not to date anyone and that he will come back to her after he leaves me, and that he only loves her. Well, as sad as all this might sound let me tell you guys something. Long before this incident happened, I checked my boyfriends phone without his knowledge in which I saw his msg to her which read that she forgive him because their relationship would not workout and that she should move on. And now I don't know who to believe. Either the ex is over exaggerating the entire matter or that my bf hasn't told me the whole truth. When I asked him about what she said, he flatly denied it except for the part where he got all emotional and thought of getting back to her. He never lied about that and has cared and loved for me dearly. I asked his ex to talk to me but she wouldn't, she just doesn't want to talk to me. And this raises eyebrows because if what she claims is true, she wouldn't bat an eyelid before talking to me. But she just won't. And my bf has been acting cold ever since when it isn't even my fault in the first place. Please help me guys... I don't know what to make about this situation and that if I should stay or leave. My bf has a hard time communicating and doesn't open up easily. If he isn't wrong, I want to help me. Also, he has been dealing with a lot of family issues lately and that could also be the reason he is a little distant.
