Leo lady dating Virgo man.. confusing HELP

Hi, I have been dating a Virgo man for about 4 months now, and it has been a lot of hard work.. not to mention we have a significant age difference between us.. I just find him very confusing

In short, the other day was my birthday and he took dinner and got me the gift that I wanted (although I appreciated it, at the time I complained because I thought it was inconsiderate that he wanted until the last min... because of that he told me I was difficult to please) at dinner I poked fun at him a lot and I think I hurt his feelings. I tried to make it up to him when I slept over but I could tell it was some unspoken friction between us.

The next day I text him and apologized because I thought I hurt his feelings and he responded the next morning saying "I think we both know it's over enjoy your gift and I wish you the best" I called him and he said we just don't work and that I'm mean. I didn't know what to say and I told him that so he told me to call him back when I figure it out.. I stayed on the phone a little longer and he insisted I call him back and that he'd be available so just call later... I called back about 3 hours later and he didn't answer or call back.

Aside from me being critical and pettty disagreements about him not showing enough emotion we get along well. On the phone he said I know we care about each other it just doesn't work.. I feel bad because I didn't know it was this serve that he wanted us to end. I know he has other things going on too so I'm sure that's playing a part too.. I'm just not sure if he's serious about ending it with me or if this was just another test I failed. Did he seriously want me to call him back or did he just want to get off the phone. If so, why didn't he answer etc

I want it to work, I just don't know if it will or if it's worth continuing trying and if he seriously wants us to end or he just wants me to get it together

-Sincerely a confused Leo

IME, Leo/Virgo romance = fail (especially Leo f/Virgo m)

We just don't really get each other.

Posted by sultrykitty
IME, Leo/Virgo romance = fail (especially Leo f/Virgo m)

We just don't really get each other.

Seconded. I wouldn't say it's impossible, but emotions work very differently between the two signs.

@ladyleo07 to expand on this further, Leos get bored and irritiable when the passion isn't apparent. Virgos hold back their emotions until they have thoroughly anaylzed the situation. Leo gets impatient and confused by Virgo's seemingly platonic/critical mindset. This makes Leo obstinate and judgmental, which of course rubs the Virgo the wrong way because he/she isn't as detached as he/she appears.

From personal experience I've found that expressing interest then being emotionally detached but consistently friendly is the best route to attract a Virgo. Virgos can be paranoid of heavy emotional displays in the beginning since they seek to analyze EVERYTHING and find out the true nature of a person's intentions. This means they can appear very hot and cold.

By remaining emotionally detached and keeping expectations low, the Virgo can feel more comfortable analyzing the situation. However this doesn't mean you should go cold yourself. You still want to be warm whenever the Virgo reaches out (even if it doesn't seem like your warmth is being reciprocated).

Seems like the root of the issue was this Virgo man's actions didn't quite meet your expectations (which be honest Leo, might have been admittedly a bit high). You tried expressing this displeasure through playful/teasing humor which rubbed the Virgo the wrong way. This is because (like Leos) Virgos aren't fans of being critiqued. This is because (unlike Leos) Virgos are internally critical of themselves as well. They are much more critical of themselves than they are of everyone else. You pointing out his flaws only made things worse.

If you really want to win this guy back, it will be a LOT of work. Virgos don't mince words. If he's done, he's not lying. He's calculated everything in his head and it doesn't seem to add up for him. However this is because he's being sensitive (Yes Virgos can be sensitive, ESPECIALLY the men).

It's a bit passive aggressive, but he's going to push you back to see how much to push for him. There's no guarantee that any additional effort on your part will result in succes, just relaying what I've personally witnessed. For some Virgo men I've known, their girlfriends had to seemingly drag them kicking and screaming into a relationship.

Astrology aside, my person advice would be to apologize and move on after that. There's no point in chasing a person who is actively trying to push you away. If he values you, he'll be back. They ALWAYS come back.

Lol you were inconsiderate and took jabs at him for such petty things, I would break it off too

It has nothing to do with you being a Leo, sounds like you're just still immature