Love virgos but....

First and foremost I love everything about virgos but I just don't understand why you guys hide out when things get confusing. Why not talk it out?

I met a viguy a year ago, he was in an on off relationship at the time. (we never had sex) When I asked about the relationship he was honest but became distant for some months then came back around. Now he's single, with a new job, in a new city. We never talked about things but ended up having relations (I held out for a year!! Just to waive out the drama) and been consistent since...
This is basically a long distance fwb situation. he has been ignoring me the past two weeks.

Last time he came I denied sex because Im just confused on how to feel about this situation (think I'm catching feelings) and it was hard to explain that without him thinking its him when it's just me running from my feelings and trying to protect myself from getting too involved only because I don't know how he see things between us.. What would solve everything is communication!!

Problem is, he asked what was wrong, I choked up & said "nothing wrong". Later on I got my thoughts together and texted him an apology for acting weird & briefly expressed how I'm still figuring things out (life wise) & blahh blah. My question is why would I get ignored—? Mind you I made sure we left on a GOOD note. (Touchy feely stuff) & I'm just confused..... I've been very patient and don't mind being patient but I need to talk things out with my loved ones. & this is a hard one....

Help! Thanks loves!
(I'm a newbie btw) 🙂

"Problem is, he asked what was wrong, I choked up & said "nothing wrong".


LOL and you still have the nerve to ask "why Virgos cant talk it out?"

I've experienced a virgo who was weird on communication. Anytime I got where I didn't care anymore they were like 'waaaaaiiiiit'..

Eventually we got to the point where he would hint at what's on his mind, yet if I asked questions he would say not to force him to talk about it. I'm like you brought it up soooooo.. Well ok then. Then he would bring it up again and I wouldn't say anything. Then I would change the subject with no response.. So I said I would go for now and talk to him later. Then he would say I'm mad at him because he won't talk about it. I'm like duuuuuude ..

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Then he would rant all about it, finally. This was the norm. So all that time I tried to get his thoughts on things with no success and stopped trying altogether.. Then everything reversed. It was so weird lol.

How do I respond to each post?? Anywho yes I understand the contradiction in the choking up line BUT I still made up for it later (right?) lol I texted him once I sorted through my feelings and thoughts. I don't mind being vulnerable but I tend to be calculated with my feelings and words. Which always make me hesitate when answering questions. I'm working on the opening up part, but do you know how hard it is to go first—? Gahhh my nerves! Someone has to do it!

I agree with you all, the Virgo/cancer dynamic is either easy or hard. My last Virgo was very expressive so no problems there... Although he waited years later to admit his wrongs.. I learn more every time we talk. Smh lol I'll just hold out & see how it goes.. (Not that I have a choice)

Thanks for sharing!
(I said "loves" because there are multiple users on this board haha)