My Virgo is Acting Weird (Page 2)

tiki, you're thinking about the aqua. the aqua broke up with me the day before my mom passed. he didn't know she would die. he was a man who didn't want to be in a relationship anymore. he wanted to cut ties and that's what he should've done after a breakup....under normal circumstances. but nothing about what happened the day after was normal. thus, it was difficult for both of us. i needed him as a friend in those moments. he wanted it over. years later he wanted it back 😛 he never cheated though and i did need to do some growing in that relationship so again, i don't fault the man.

damnit woman, you're an aqua. you know good and damn well you got a big S on your chest too 🙂 i am indeed quite thick when it comes to change but is that what's necessary in this case?

on paper/internets, i know how this reads. but i was there so it's just...it's difficult to describe. YES, i know dude wants sex with me. is that what you're trying to convince me of? i thought i made it clear that that was a given?

i know this man VERY well. i know when he's lying. i know when he's telling the truth. when he's sure, unsure, worried, whatever....i kNOW this man. thus, i KNOW that his recent changes in behavior have not a damn thing to do with my hot spot. it's totally left field. it's coming out of nowhere. there's no threat, he's not woman less, he doesn't need money or whatever. this morning he called because he wanted to talk.

i'm slooooooooooooooow when it comes to these things so i'm going to need someone to spell out what i'm obviously missing? if it's that he wants to plant love club in dark places, yeah, i know that. so, anything else?

VK - that's just it, i don't think he wants a relationship. that's what's so confusing about it. i mean, ok, that's not true. he wouldn't mind being in a relationship as he's had them in the past. he does not however know how to be in a COMMITTED MONOGAMOUS relationship...which is no relationship at all in my book.

"damnit woman, you're an aqua. you know good and damn well you got a big S on your chest too i am indeed quite thick when it comes to change but is that what's necessary in this case?"

Shhhhhhh that's our secret, I feel exposed LOL

Listen VK is on point, listen to him, he's telling you what the deal is and you don't seem very attentive in a serious way, stop covering up your vulnerable self with the smart ass comments and LISTEN.

He's moving things forward, he's giving you HIS energy. He's paying for your trip, he's opening up his home to you, everything he's doing is saying I want more, now you can sit here and be sassy smart ass or you can take this seriously and recognize when a man is attempting to get closer to you. Giving to a woman is a clear indication of interest and he's investing because hopefully the return will be reciprocated.

If you don't see him as a love interest stay your ass at home.

OH! so you guys think that he's actually interested in me like that? hmm...peculiar.

you do realize that in the same conversation he discussed a good 4 other women? why would he discuss other women if he were trying to move the ball forward.

and sassy be me. i don't know how to check it at the door. maybe that's part of the problem. i don't do well with feelings and stuff. and yes, i am 32 years old.

Well i say this bc you guys have the key things most virgo males look for in starting a relastionship. You guys hang out a lot he trust you and he is attracted to you. He probrably was for a long time than you guys had sex. I know it means nothing to you but it seems like it did for him. This is what happens when friends have sex atleast one person gets feelings. All i would say is have a hotel and just look at him and what he does. remember it is said virgos fall in love with there friends its looking like this is happening.

oh god....oh no. i guess it makes sense i just...i can not wrap my mind around it. i seriously have a mental block and i have for years. i do think that he may have been trying to tell me stuff before and ooooooooooooooooh craaaaaaaaaap!

hmm...well how do i find out if that's what he really thinks? i honestly don't want to know. i would rather continue playing dumb.

the crazy part is this, i dressed like a bum around this dude. i mean old sweat pants, oversized t-shirts, do-rags. it was whatever. i wasn't trying to impress him. i get how he could be attracted to me cause i clean up nice but i honestly did see it as platonic.

yall are ruining it 😛

sassy is a cover up, your a softy.....I'm not a guy but I know what moving forward looks like and it seems he's going there. When men move forward it's because they feel something beyond friendship, if he's giving his time and money and energy, he's moving forward, what that means I dunno but it usually points towards a real relationship.

ok, my stomach just did a flip. i actually feel kinda ill right now and if you could see the stink face i'm making as i type. i need some air. if yall are right, this isn't good...

and tiki, i am going to need you to stop telling people who i really am because you're ruining my rep 😉

LOL okay okay okay....no more exposure

If you decide to go, lean back and observe....you will see for yourself.

Now if we could just clone 2 million Jason's the universe would be a much better place (:

You would be doing a good deed for the world...You would be not only original, you would be a universal icon and the highest of all mankind...wow what pressure lol

i honestly don't know what to look for. i've had these questions about his intentions for a LONG time. but i always dismissed them. he...never really directly said anything and in terms of relationships, i respond to clear advances so i never took anything he did seriously. in fact, he would negate any possibilities by doing the oddest stuff.

once he was going on a date. he came to my house before the date. for some reason he asked the chick to meet him at my house...well, he asked me if it would be ok. i didn't think anything of it. so the chick gets there...

she tall, she's dark-skinned, she has long natural hair...SHE'S ME! so the three of us sat in my living room, having a drink before they left. they were all hugged up on my couch and i'm sorry but it didn't feel a damn thing. no jealousy or anything like that. i think he might've even stayed with me after their date...i can't remember.

the whole episode was weird but as smart as i can be, i am dumb as a doorknob when it comes to men being attracted to me. if i'm not attracted to them, they might as well be a mobile vagina. if i'm not attracted, i'm not.

but yes, i do see that i may have missed a lot of things and now i'm regretting having asked this question because if you guys are right, i can't visit him. i may never be able to see him again and that sucks. and no, it's not because of the aries. i'm serious when i say, no means no and i don't want ot confuse/hurt anyone just because i can't return their affections.

i feel so sad no. i need drink 😢 gotta run to the ABCE store.

ugh! ABC 😛

Oh I wouldn't stress over it. He clearly has his own agenda, maybe that's something you haven't allowed yourself to see, that could be good or bad thing I dunno. Roll with it, that's what you have always been doing, it's worked thus far.

ooooooooooooh, don't try to smooth it over now. yall have driven me to drank! 😛

i don't know if i just had a revelation or a slap in the face.

i really would like to ask him straight up but i know he would joke about it. the only way to find out would be to go down there and once i officially know/acknowledge, that changes everything. i think i will continue being oblivious.

i can't believe it. i can not tell you the number of times this happens to me 😢 the guy i want, out of reach. the ones i don't...UGH! in this case, i'm comfortable throwing this fish back but to the bigger point, i have the worst luck.

drinking is what got you in trouble with him in the first place *wink* lol

i was thinking the same thing but i didn't want to be sassy 🙂

i don't think you guys understand how much the possibility has me unsettled. i really hope yall are wrong. yall have to be. you are. so there 😛

LOL okay were wrong so now go frolick in virgo land for a little while and see for yourself.....this is going to be very interesting, I look forward to more updates d:

i play stupid very well when it comes to matters of the heart.

i told him if i saw him that it'd be sometime this summer so you have a long wait. in the meantime, i will try to be less snappy when he appears to be testing the waters.

i appreciate all the help and although i am a bit depressed right now, tomorrow's another day.

he's gorgeous. just a slut.

Posted by tubbyscubby
he's gorgeous. just a slut.

is this virgo an august one just curious.

no LV

Posted by tubbyscubby
no LV

oh okay lol.

Posted by tubbyscubby
i was thinking the same thing but i didn't want to be sassy 🙂

i don't think you guys understand how much the possibility has me unsettled. i really hope yall are wrong. yall have to be. you are. so there 😛

Tubs...
I sincerely mean the following in a good way...

SHUT THE HELL UP AND JUST GO! Let go of over-thinking it and enjoy the ride. No regrets.

And if you to regret it, then regret HAVING done it rather than NOT HAVING done it.

Posted by VirgoHero

Posted by tubbyscubby
i was thinking the same thing but i didn't want to be sassy 🙂

i don't think you guys understand how much the possibility has me unsettled. i really hope yall are wrong. yall have to be. you are. so there 😛

Tubs...
I sincerely mean the following in a good way...

SHUT THE HELL UP AND JUST GO! Let go of over-thinking it and enjoy the ride. No regrets.

And if you to regret it, then regret HAVING done it rather than NOT HAVING done it.

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Yeah, what he said. Life is too short, enjoy it/him while you can.

Posted by satori
Yeah, he totally wants you, Tubby. If you decide to visit him, as a friend, I would make it abundantly clear to him that you are not interested in him romantically. Even players have feelings. 😛

Heh that will make him want her even more.

you all are funny.

i'm going. at the end of the day, whatever confusion he feels about our situation is just that...confusion. we were thick as thieves. he spent A LOT of time together. i think he just misses me...misses hanging out. he could be himself around me and not put on airs.

for the longest time, i used to wonder WHY he would come over so much and it took a long time before i resolved that he just likes my company. in another life, maybe we could've been something else but he's very comfortable womanizing, i'm very comfortable not going there ever never again.

*shrugs*

forget him....... he's playing games, trying to swoon you and charm you. It's nice to have that attention, but if it were real, he would be driving to see you because he missed you that much. All this rubbish of him flying you out and shit.... blah, blah, blah.

And thick as theives..... that was exactly how my Virgo and I were. Thick as mother-fucking thieves. But people are flawed, and even the perfectionist can't fix everything.............

he did offer to visit me.

but i agree...staying friends

good.... because it's a mistake otherwise........ friends should be friends for a reason. It never works out.

sekhmet, i'm not bi so, i would like to view my VM no differently than i would view a female friend that i was extra close to. no, i can't imagine my female friend sleeping nude next to me but sleeping in the same bed is no big deal. been there, done that.

i think M.I.A's point...and mine, is that just because it has a penis and you connect doesn't mean it's relationship worthy. sometimes friends are just that...and only that. morphing it into something else can lead to the end of a wonderful friendship.

i understand now that my VM did like me more than i was willing to acknowledge. the past few days i've been having so many ahh-ha moments that it's insane. i think the only reason why he might be interested in me is because i was totally oblivious. i know for a fact that he's attracted to women who play coy and conquering them is a challenge that excites him.

now imagine a chick that plays coy ALL the time. i'm not saying he just wants a conquest as we're legitimately close but therein lies his confusion. he wants to break me i guess but once broken, unless we transitioned into fuq buddies where i didn't care about his other exploits, i don't think he could handle a committed relationship. and i couldnt handle seeing his brother for the rest of my life.

sometimes it's best just to let it be.

hmm....the past few hours not the past few days.

it was bugging me. OCD is a bitch and her name is tubbyscubby.