My virgo man drives me crazy 😩🔫

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Lina994
@Lina994
8 Years

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Hello everyone!

I would like some advice as to how to better handle my man's jealousy and possessiveness. I'm a 23 year old bartender, he is a 29 year old restaurant owner. He's the smartest man I know. So charming, funny and once again, a sarcastic smartass. He won me over being himself, the mysterious guy that speaks only to his friends and doesnt look interested in anything or anyone else.

We met through common friends. We started off as friends for a good year and a half, until he finally asked me out on a "real" date, without any of our friends around. It was very awkward at first but within 15 mins we found ourselves having the craziest conversations about my work, and how hard it is to maintain any type of relationship. Any guy that I meet would juge me for what I do. He understood. Told me he'd actually be the type of guy to be happy and proud to see his girlfriend so financially independant at such a young age.

Months pass by and we're having the time of our lives. Until he started coming more and more often to my shifts. Then get mad about any guy that "flirts" with me. We would get into big fights, he would apologize, but the same thing would happen 2 weeks later.

Now, it's been nearly a year since we're together. I'm very loyal to him and I try to reassure him in any way I can. But nothing would do. He now uses his sarcatic jokes to make comments about my work. He gets very needy and insecure. "You don't care" , "you don't love me like i love you"..."so what skanky ass costume are you wearing for your work halloween party?" It just never stops, it gets draining.

He just doesn't trust me.

PS; Sorry for the long message guys I just don't know how to get my boyfriend back.
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Lina994
@Lina994
8 Years

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Posted by Drogan
Just curious, what's your sign? @lina994
Leo sun & libra ascendant. 🙂

Thank you so much for all your advices guys. We had a long talk. If you guys wanna know I once again reassured him over everything that he's scared of. See, he was in a very toxic relationship in the past and got cheated on..that's why I'm so patient with him till this day. I'm the first serious relationship he's had in 5 years.

I told him I'm done paying for someone else's mistakes. That I've done my part in being so understanding for almost a year now, and it's his turn to prove to me he wants this. I said I needed more time with my family & friends. I need a bit of my old life back. He seemed to understand a lot more. I think it's the way I was talking to him. Not in an angry, upset or agravated way..in a calm reassuring and very respectful way. I think that scared him even more. He just knew I was serious. He was still over analysing every word I said and was freaking out here and there but he finally got it. Again, thanks a lot guys, you've been of great help! ☺️
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Lina994
@Lina994
8 Years

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Posted by Koniuchaa
There is nothing you can do here for him. He just wants to control you. Leaving is your only option
She doesn't want to leave him!

She wants him baaack!

He probably left. Maybe that outfit WAS too skunky? 🤣
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You do realize he hadn't seen the costume,right..? The problem was his insecurities, not my costume or my job or anything else for that matter. & You coming here trying to switch the blame and slutshame me shows a lot about you. Ciao. ✌🏼

Oh, and he didn't leave. 🙂