Regaining Virgo Mans Trust

Its been about 6 months since my virgo and I (scorpio) have been broken up. I did a lot to hurt him, I was at a place in my life where a lot was putting me into a downward spiral. I said, a lot did, a lot to hurt him. WEll after about four months of ignoring me mr. virgo finally decided to meet with me. We had a long talk and decided to be friends and try to rebuild the trust. The first month was difficult and we still fought like crazy, but recently after airing out all of our issues we have been making much better strides. He texted me on my birthday, and called me everyday when I sprained my ankle recently.

Last week he got really sick, and he has no family out here. So I went grocery shopping for him, brought him food, etc. because he could not get out of bed. He constantly thanked me for being there for him. He also told me I am the first ex he has been friends with or even spoken to, he doesnt have any idea where the others are.

AS much as I would like him back, gaining his trust is more important to me, because we were friends for like two years.

Virgos how is everything looking, I know you guys are real selective with who you trust, and I know they say you never go back, but am I regaining his trust

I agree, he still very ill, but he has been keeping me updated on everything, and is still allowing me to care for him. I told him that i had no problem caring for him, and I thanked him for trusting me to do so. I have no malice intentions I just have dealt with what he has and no it excruciating, and I know he has really no one. So I just want to be there

Kindle,

I just simply wrote a letter, I hadn't spoken to him in a while when I wrote it, I have found virgos arent people who really like the im sorry im sorry im sorry, he wanted to know why I had done the things I had done to him, and he said he liked that I took responsibility for my actions. I feel like TIME was the main thing. He needed time to calm down, reflect. He did not want to hear it if i was not being logical about the situation. Take your own time, and just write how you feel, ask if you could read it to him, if not slide it under his door. Then leave him alone, when he is ready he will talk.

No I contacted him after four months asking to talk, we met, and during our meeting I read the letter to him

Yes my virgo is very talkative when you get him on a subject he loves. When he was really mad at me, he would only say 1 or 2 words. I heard virgos use words as a means of trust, if they talk a lot it means that they are close are trust you in some way. If they don't then it means you are at a distance.

Posted by Scorpheartbreak24
Yes my virgo is very talkative when you get him on a subject he loves. When he was really mad at me, he would only say 1 or 2 words. I heard virgos use words as a means of trust, if they talk a lot it means that they are close are trust you in some way. If they don't then it means you are at a distance.

This is so true. 100% .
Kindleberry, he doesn't trust you and you're not that close to him. I'm not blaming you because it's not because you did something, it's just how it is.
I'm a man of few words with most people, with others it's difficult to get me to stop talking. With the right person I've talked 5-6 hours straight.

I feel like virgo MEN in general are the hardest to crack when they are mad and lose trust. They are very loyal men, and when their trust is challenged its like a deadlock on feelings. I am still going through the process, but my virgo made it clear that it takes Time. Just like it took time for him to like me, and to be with me, and breakup with me. All I can say is give him space. The harder you push the more he's gonna start resenting you.

Virgos am I wrong?

in my opinion,
you're right
he resents the fact that you don't trust him.
That, he takes for a slight or, an insult to be exact
it's very patronizing of you to just want to be friends
and that is something he doesn't like about you

i think it means
that she's keeping him at a distance by being a friend
she doesn't trust him to have his way

friendship is not intimacy

Virgo's aren't good listeners.
underdeveloped ones, worse.
they are slow bloomers
but, if they ever do bloom
they might read your thoughts.
writing is better however.

Posted by Scorpheartbreak24

I did a lot to hurt him, I was at a place in my life where a lot was putting me into a downward spiral. I said, a lot did, a lot to hurt him.

Apologizing, or talking it out, or whatever was in your letter doesn't mean shit to him or anyone for that matter because if you haven't addressed the real issue here, then your letter is just superficial bullshit.

When life put you into a downward spiral .. you took it out on him. Posted by Scorpheartbreak24

WEll after about four months of ignoring me mr. virgo finally decided to meet with me.




You said that he met with you after recieving a letter from you ... so where does "finally" come into this?

Wording it that way, makes it sound like you've been trying to contact him all along and he's been ignoring this, and then finally decided to respond .... when that isn't the truth.

He hasn't been ignoring you .. you two broke up.

You are making the insinuation here that even though you two are broken up, that he has an obligation to keep in contact with you so you don't feel ignored.

"ignoring me"

Posted by kindleberry

It never used to be this way. I have upset him by not trusting him. Calling him out on because he was emailing some girl I knew he was not interested in. But I out-lashed when he went through my phone computer looking through my msgs. Because he has no reason not to trust me. HOw do I regain his trust? We were all goo until he kept bringing up this one girl's name all the time. He went behind my back to try to reach her and I took it out on him. It was a text conversation and basically said to him 'how stupid can you be to go behind my back and do that and risk few peoples friendships.. and for what?!' After that he got short. But he knew he was wrong. He tells me it's nothing but I can't help but think in my gut that something is wrong.

You said, "he was emailing some girl I knew he was not interested in" .. why say at the end of that sentence, a girl he wasn't interested in? Are you in competition? Do you realize that saying that implies that if he IS interested in the girl, then this gives him a valid excuse to talk to her?

You called him out on his personal business, which means you looked at his emails ... then you turn around and say he's not allowed to snoop on you. What a hypocrite!!!

Then you use guilt trips on him to try and get him to respect you?

And now he doesn't ... and you can't figure out why?

Seriously?

You said, "he knew he was wrong" .... do you know you were wrong? Are you expecting him to atone for his wrong-doings while you don't hold yourself accountible for your wrong-doings?

You are on a sure path to pushing your Virgo so far away that he will never want to associate with you again. You are approaching this completely wrong.

What you SHOULD have done to gain Virgos respect: If you truly believed that he was flirting with or attempting to hook up with another woman, while being your man ... then you should have looked him dead in the eye and stated unequivocally, "I will NOT tolerate being disrespected. Goodbye" ... and walk the fuck out, and never look back.

THEN .... you will be respected.


But, if he flirst with another woman, and your response is to whimper about your feelings while still being loyal to him then you're a sucker in his eyes, AND emotionally dependent.

You want a Virgo? Then you have to be emotionally independent, and be able to take care of yourself and not have to rely on him to cater to your feelings.

Which of course, is a perfect partner for a Fish, considering we are emotionally self-sufficient, and not only do we NOT rely on others to approve of our feelings ... we are appalled by people who seek emotional approval from others so that they can feel worthy.

P-Angel
how very true

Question to P-Angel , because you're very objective. What is your opinion of people, guy / girl, trying to make the other jealous? Why ? For what purpose?

Your insecurity is causing you to contridict yourself.

You said that you lashed out at him for going through your messages, then in the post above you turn around and state, "He always goes through my phone and I don't care."

Of course you care, hence: you made a post in this thread to address it that if he trusted you then he has no need to go through your personal business.


This makes no fucking sense ... "I don't have any proof nor do I care to see any. b. I know he's not interested in the girl as she's not his type" ... if you don't care to see any proof, nor do you care, then stfu about it.


Instead, your running your mouth about shit you claim to not care about.


You're going to be hard pressed to get me to talk to you with respect if you talk out of both sides of your mouth ... put Virgo into that mix, and not only will you be allowed to walk off a side of a cliff, you'll be led there.

hehehe....
you certainly have a way with words

I dont know what you want me to say woman.

Posted by kindleberry
I dont know what you want me to say woman.

Are you talking to me?

Why would I want you to say something to me?

It's not me you failing with communicating with in a relationship .... the person you should have somethign to say to is the Virgo.

If you truly want him to respect you, then you have to be a respectable person .. simple as that. There isn't anything that you can do to act upon, as if to manuever your way to him. If you have shown him that you don't honor your own words, then he won't view you as a respectable person.

If you tell him you don't care .. then act like you do ... then he sees you as deceptive, and you're just a toy to fuck with, if he feels like it.

There's many things you've said that makes me believe that you'll never have a Virgo due to this ... for example you've mentioned several times about him not being interested in the woman, as if to suggest that has any relevance to your relationship with him.


like wtf —?

If that is where your maturity level and mindset is .... then you were finished with him before you even began.

If you truly want him to respect you, then you have to be a respectable person .. simple as that. There isn't anything that you can do to act upon, as if to manuever your way to him. If you have shown him that you don't honor your own words, then he won't view you as a respectable person.

too true

You're an Aries .... no wonder you would be jealous and act impulsively.

You might as well move along now ..... because a Virgo will never be able to handle the Rams lack of prudence.

P-Angel, it is quit funny because most of the so called "advice" that you have given to me has usually come to be wrong. It quite interesting watching you post though because for an older person you would think you wouldnt be always so sarcastic and rude, but I guess that just your style . I am sure I am going to get a long post and reply, but we are currently back together :-) so thank you everyone else who gave really good advice and helped me learn more about my virgo! you guys are great!

Posted by kindleberry
P-Angel blocked me. Talk about emotional weakness.

Lol...that's how that bitch is. Join the club, hahaha. She wants to dish it but she can't take it. Pisces broad, what do you expect?

Posted by RealTalk

Posted by kindleberry
P-Angel blocked me. Talk about emotional weakness.

Lol...that's how that bitch is. Join the club, hahaha. She wants to dish it but she can't take it. Pisces broad, what do you expect?

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You're right. They're envious and jealous.

Posted by kindleberry
P-Angel blocked me. Talk about emotional weakness.

I don't have anyone blocked .... check yourself.

Or perhaps, that was just lie you used to try and make me look bad.


Which goes to show how stupid you are, consider only the person themselves can present how they look.

Posted by Scorpheartbreak24

P-Angel, it is quit funny because most of the so called "advice" that you have given to me has usually come to be wrong.

You're such a dumbass !!

Every person on this site knows I don't give advice, I point out where YOU are accountible for what you do.

So, for you to even say that in such as a way, as to suggest I gave you bad advice goes to show how dumb you are.



:::: shakes head :::::