Sex! Affection! WHERE is it?! (Page 2)

I know 25th, I know, but in an effort to get it back should I expect cooperation or
what? Call him or leave it be and wait and see?

I have a feeling I should just let it go...so what I lost a $ 2500 Mac at least I learned my lesson
but oh what an expensive lesson it was...

Mocha

Posted by caribbeangold

Posted by mochacaremel

I even pawned my laptop to give him money...

huh? then you also have issues, no wonder he was able to fool you then. you already had little self-worth.
it is not only him, it is also you.

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Or maybe she is just generous like most of us libras are? I would give my last penny to someone i cared about, shes was just unlucky that she gave it to an idiot.

@mocha sorry to hear about all this! dont let him get you down though its his loss!!!

Also someone further up said libras are selfish WOW!! i think they are the most generous people ever. I dont think ive ever met a libra who will not bend over backwards to do stuff for people, obviously its never a completely selfless act because we get satisfaction out of pleasing people but FAR from selfish!

Posted by mochacaremel
So, I texted him back when he texted ms yesterday to ask if I wanted to hang out
I told him I didn't want to because I don't want to be his friend but that I would be
cordial and polite and I would like to know if he will still help me get my computer back.

He did not reply. That was yesterday at 8pm.

Should I call to see what he's planning to do or just try to get it back on my
own or what? I am only asking because I can't see him being this callous as to
not assist. He's never been that much of an ass...

I love how he's the user who got everything from me, but then wants to ignore
my simple request that he holds up his end of the financial bargain...

I am so so mad at myself...I want to jump off a bridge...

Mocha

Charge it to the game...You will never see that money coming back to you from him...Cut contact, forgive yourself and move on. Let this be a lesson to never give so much of yourself to a man that isn't really down for you like that. Why you can't see him as callous is elusive to me, he took all through out the so called relationship, never gave back to you in forms of love, intimacy so what makes you think he will give you money if he can't give you something so simple as affection.

Hate to say it but move on, let it go, you won't get that money back and trying to get it back is creating a huge amount of emotional turmoil for you...He's no fool, he's not going to text you back a response, he does not want to end up in small claims court over a text message.

He's text messaging you to USE you again and again...You know you want to see him again, your in love, he's not.

Posted by libra sun

Posted by caribbeangold

Posted by mochacaremel

I even pawned my laptop to give him money...

huh? then you also have issues, no wonder he was able to fool you then. you already had little self-worth.
it is not only him, it is also you.

Or maybe she is just generous like most of us libras are? I would give my last penny to someone i cared about, shes was just unlucky that she gave it to an idiot.

@mocha sorry to hear about all this! dont let him get you down though its his loss!!!

Also someone further up said libras are selfish WOW!! i think they are the most generous people ever. I dont think ive ever met a libra who will not bend over backwards to do stuff for people, obviously its never a completely selfless act because we get satisfaction out of pleasing people but FAR from selfish!

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I have to agree, my X-libra gave his last to me, helped me financially, shared with me, that was never an issue with us, of course I reciprocated to show my appreciation but selfish with money I have never experienced that with libra's. Some can be selfish in other areas but for me that was not one of them.

You pawned your laptop to give him money—?? ..

Ok, I never heard of that before. First time ever. I'm so sorry.

Posted by mochacaremel

...what am I supposed to do to get just a *little* affection here?
Let alone sex...I feel so alone in this relationship.

He says he loves me, but I cant shake the
feeling that he is not anywhere near *in* love with me...

Which is fine, but does that mean I'll always be fighting tooth and nail
for even the most minute amount of affection?

Its been 6 months

It will be just like this in 6 years .. in 20 years.

You just described Virgo's .. they will fuck, but, will always shrug off intimacy .. they don't see the important in it.

Now you will have people to tell you how to get him to fuck you, as I've seen with the first few responses, which are the only ones I read .. but, that isn't the problem as you stated. You can suck him off, you can get him if you initiate .. so, why someone would think the answer to your problem is to grab his dick is beyond me ...

.... since what you lack is loving affection.


This is who they are .. if you listen, they never talk about loving someone, they talk about fucking someone.

And to fuck someone is not just physical .. they will do this in all aspects of the person .. just fuck you ... got it?

fuck you

Yeah, the update is, he says he loves me and doesn't want to lose me
as a friend. He called and blew up my phone texting telling me how sorry he
was for the pain that his Asian girl fetish has caused us (esp since there isn't even
an Asian girl in sight--nor can he afford this fantasy!)

He says he will help me get my computer back.

I'm leaving out loads of the story (typing on my phone instead
of my lovely laptop) but this is the jist of it...

I'm gonna be cautiously cordial and I'm hoping he doesn't notice
I'm not coming to see him just until I get my computer back and then I'm done.

He told me to date other ppl...told me he only mentioned the fetish thing
to explain why we weren't intimate. I said "but we were just intimate 2 days ago
with no complaints?!" he doesn't see how misleading he's been
but I pointed out every instance...

We concluded as friends without benefits...

And now today he is blowing my phone up--Lord just let me get
what's mine and I'm done!

Mocha

I don't know why you keep communicating with this assclown but maybe you haven't really learned your lesson yet. Good luck on getting your money back, I doubt he will come through with that but you can only hope for the best.

You know why he's blowing your phone up....SEX, he has no intentions of being your friend w/o benefits, men move forward, they never hardly look back unless they have to and your heading in the wrong direction, to truly believe he will be your friend w/o attempting to get benefits is naive.

I gather from tiki's response that this is another case of desperate woman degrading herself to man .. so she can fool herself into thinking she's special because he lets her fuck him.

Thats just it, I wouldve probably STAYED if I would've gotten benefits! You see that is the beginning of
this thread. I DON'T get benefits regularly at all...if ever.

Treetrunk it. Its a treetrunked up sitch and now I'm sorry I ever posted.

Mocha

Sex be it sometimes or not is not the issue, the fact is he used to get it when he wanted it, when it was convenient for him...He wants you to be available as you once were, if he hadn't opened his big mouth about preferring asian women you would still be begging for crumbs, he like the fact that you were jumping through hoops and now he's trying to fix it so it can back to the way it was when he held the most power over you...Leave the guy alone unless you like being strung along, that money will not be forthcoming, he wasn't giving anything to begin with so why in the hell would he give you anything when he was never doing that to begin with...put your emotions for him aside and THINK....he's now baiting you in by calling which makes you feel he actually care about you, he doesn't care or he would have given your money back to yesterday, now he's attempting to get things rolling again, unless he's giving you a time and day when he's going to give you back your money then he's just bullshitting you.

If he's really sincere about being your friend w/o benefits then he should be forthcoming with a time and day you can expect to get paid back, making some sort of payment arrangement with you is a good start if his intentions are good, if he's truly on the up and up he will come through and show you through his actions he's truly your friend. If he's not doing that then he's not your friend.

Ok Tiki, I know you're right. The deadline is Sept 5th so I will just wait, but
no, he's lost me as far as ANYTHING else.

I don't enjoy being strung along. Next time he texts I'll ask for specifics.

Mocha

Keep us updated, I really do hope you get your money back Mocha....

I have 4 Scorpio placements though, so if Sept 6th rolls around and I DON'T
have my laptop, I'll be calling the police to come pick him up on an outstanding warrant
that I know he has...and he'll be extradited 700 miles away from whatever precious
Asian he ends up finding....muahahahahaha

He better not treetrunk with me ANY further. Hell, I can do it at any time
any day...and I do feel revenge is a dish best served...ICE COLD!!!

Two can play many games...

Mocha

And guess how much time his conviction will carry? Six months!

THIS Libra will have her SCALES OF JUSTICE!!

Mocha

Posted by P-Angel
I gather from tiki's response that this is another case of desperate woman degrading herself to man .. so she can fool herself into thinking she's special because he lets her fuck him.

psh. she's a libra. libras are more likely to look for proof that we aren't special. for some sick reason, we prefer bad news to good. it's easier to deal with.

and call on his warrant anyways. he deserves it. libra with scorpio= distribution of karmic retribution.

Posted by Ccdarling

Posted by mochacaremel
And guess how much time his conviction will carry? Six months!

THIS Libra will have her SCALES OF JUSTICE!!

Mocha

I would not blame you at all. Maybe he needs a little time to think about his behavior. Might do him some good or at least he can learn some more tricks of his trade. Maybe he could even find him a nice Asian dude in there, ha ha.

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LMAO!

your 6 months is nothing as compared to mine!!!!! i waited 1 year more!!!! until... he showed his affection!! wait...

Posted by libradimple
your 6 months is nothing as compared to mine!!!!! i waited 1 year more!!!! until... he showed his affection!! wait...

please don't encourage nonsense...go back and read the whole thread, it's not just about her waiting for affection, there are a few details that go with this story before you can advise someone to wait.

I got my computer back! I did it myself though, he didn't pay one red cent to help
me...I love craigslist is all I can say!

Fcuk him, I'm on to my next...a new cancer dude!

I'll be back here though, b/c you Virgos are brilliant!

Mocha