Stay or run like hell—

I've been dating a Virgo man for about one and half years...it's been slow and agonizing but I'm absolutely crazy about him. I got rid of my blackbook for this guy. When he is sweet, he is the best thing since sliced bread but when his business life takes a turn for the worst, he completely disappears. It's drives me nuts. He doesn't call and I only get a response through text messages about an hour later after my question and it's one word responses every time. He'll mention what's going on but doesn't elaborate. Ugh!!!! This is his third time doing this. I said at the third time, I'm out! But I don't mean it. Last time, I was prepared to leave and he begged me to stay. He apologized! Everyone knows that virgo men do not apologize ever! But he'll disappear for three to four days and come back like a champ. What am I to do, I mean I understand he has to work. I get that! But he could at least make sure I'm still breathing or not stranded on the side of the road. Help!!!

I also must add, every time he sees me he tries to hide his smiles...whats that about?? Or maybe the way I look is funny to him?

That is very hard to say, could be either way. It might be that hhis dissappearing is part of who he is. Might have to adjust to it if youwant to stay with him. It has been my experrience with a virgo man, tthat when he "dissappears" he is hurt/hiding feelings.

Ive found that earthy people will readily disappear to get the job done.

My virg gal friend does this and its annoying as hell. Especially when it takes less than 5 seconds to respond to a text. She says that she just doesn't want to bother people with her issues.

Posted by DMV
Ive found that earthy people will readily disappear to get the job done.

My virg gal friend does this and its annoying as hell. Especially when it takes less than 5 seconds to respond to a text. She says that she just doesn't want to bother people with her issues.

+1 So typical of us Virgos, we don't mean any harm, we just think we're doing people a favor by "not" dumping all of our problems/issues on them. We often forget that people that truly care about us sometimes don't mind weathering the storm with us. Something we always have to work on to be better at for our sake and the sake of others.

So...the fact that this man has a business life that is taking a turn for the worst doesn't even factor in your "absolutely crazy about him" act. If you actually were, you would get it since he COMMUNICATES with you. Yes, doesn't go at length to talk to you about it because:

1)Might not be your fucking job to know all details
2)Is already tired/stressed and all his energy goes into his work life, as it should.
3)Does not want to burden someone he cares about with his problems. Women always want men to come and discuss what they're doing so we can soothe/pacify/whatever. That's not how Virgos operate.

You call a 3-4 days a disappearance?

So you actually went beyond that and tried to enforce a ultimatum..that you won't follow through.

Save the dramatics of "make sure I'm still breathing or not stranded on the side of the road".

Weather the storm or get out and let him find someone who can.

Posted by Unlikeanyscorp

he could at least make sure I'm still breathing or not stranded on the side of the road.

It's only a matter of time before your mellow-dramatics makes him puke.

So since I realize this is a normal Virgo behavior, how can I reel him back to the ordinary consistent world where I found him or where he found me?

Posted by Unlikeanyscorp
how can I reel him back

unlikeanyscorp, she said.

Relax ! He loves you! All men are alike! the question is would you be able to live without him?

Posted by Unlikeanyscorp
I also must add, every time he sees me he tries to hide his smiles...whats that about?? Or maybe the way I look is funny to him?

He is just tryn to hide how much he likes you.. ive done that before. He doesnt have a pokerface for beans