Virgo guy courting Scorpio girl

Hello everyone, I've already posted this on the Scorpio sub-forum, but was advised to post here as well as there are quite a few Virgo guy Scorpio girl pairings here.

I'd really love to hear some inputs from any Virgo guys who previously courted a Scorpio girl or is with one right now, thanks.

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I currently reside in Canada, and I'm finishing off my post-secondary degree end of this December. Last winter break in Asia (which is December 2009), I met a Scorpio girl that I think may've been love on first sight type of girl for me. I've only seen her once, and it was my last day in Asia as well. We hung out for a day and there was a pretty positive vibe (good eye contact). I've returned to Canada to continue my studies, and will be heading back to Asia in a month-ish after my school term ends. Right now the only way I can keep in touch with her is through Facebook and MSN - and it's not like she even comes on too often. She's a conservative girl with very strict parents. That's really the gist of it.

Now... I'm taking this very seriously, and I intend on making this work out as a long term relationship. She's single and is a very attractive girl, and I won't even need to see to know that there are other guys sniffin' around trying to court her as well.

Which brings me to my questions...

How should I approach her?
1. Should I be aggressive and show interest - contact her whenever she's online, try to ask her on dates more, hang out as much as possible?
2. Should I mirror what she does plus a little more - she's somewhat responsive when talking to me, we can hold down a decent conversation but it's not too deep since we've only met once. My friends told me to not initiate a conversation everytime she's available, but only do so occasionally to not present myself as a desperate person. So far I've initiated every conversation - it's not like I really expect girls to initiate, especially girls in Asia (that's the culture there). So that really means I have to tone down what I'm doing.
3. Other suggestions?

Do Scorpio girls tend to hide their interest in someone? Meaning they'll treat someone they like and someone they don't give a toss about the same? Or do they tend to treat people who they take interest in colder?

GET OUT WHILST YOU CAN

THEY WILL BREAK YOU HEART AND YOUR MIND


DRZHIVIRGO dying inside

DrZhivirgo, it's too late for that now. It's do or die for me since I met her.

Posted by wilch
Hello everyone, I've already posted this on the Scorpio sub-forum, but was advised to post here as well as there are quite a few Virgo guy Scorpio girl pairings here.

I'd really love to hear some inputs from any Virgo guys who previously courted a Scorpio girl or is with one right now, thanks.

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I am a self proclaimed expert on the Scorpion woman and their thinking processes.

Now... I'm taking this very seriously, and I intend on making this work out as a long term relationship. She's single and is a very attractive girl, and I won't even need to see to know that there are other guys sniffin' around trying to court her as well.

There will always be some idiot sniffing around a Scorpion woman. Typically a Sag or Cancer, but she is not likely to take either seriously, unless she wants to. The Cancer wins out more than the Sag.

A Virgo though.... that's the kind of man she will fall for much more easily.

Which brings me to my questions...

How should I approach her?
1. Should I be aggressive and show interest - contact her whenever she's online, try to ask her on dates more, hang out as much as possible?

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Depends on the Scorpio.

1st Decans [October 23rd - November 3rd] are more of the serial daters. If she picks up on your mystery and has an interest be aggressive. Though, I must warn you, they are all cowards when it comes to the heart.

3rd Decans [Novemeber 14th - November 23rd] are much more playful and goofy, outgoing and talkative. They are likely to tell you first if they find you are taking too long to show interest.

The most important thing is that they need to choose you. As much as they enjoy the thrill of the chase, if they have not chosen you, you're out of luck.

2. Should I mirror what she does plus a little more - she's somewhat responsive when talking to me, we can hold down a decent conversation but it's not too deep since we've only met once. My friends told me to not initiate a conversation everytime she's available, but only do so occasionally to not present myself as a desperate person. So far I've initiated every conversation - it's not like I really expect girls to initiate, especially girls in Asia (that's the culture there). So that really means I have to tone down what I'm doing.

Yes, you should.

Scorpios are random, so the depth of conversation is naturally limited. They like small talk and awkward interludes.

Do Scorpio girls tend to hide their interest in someone? Meaning they'll treat someone they like and someone they don't give a toss about the same? Or do they tend to treat people who they take interest in colder?

This is how they try to maintain control. They are deathly afraid of rejection and being screwed over, so their caution levels are always high, they are always on guard, their fears eats them.

Get closer with her, hugs, touching, to break some of that ice.

Posted by hikoro
Bump...

Caj, Dy, truthseeker: where are thou?

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Haha, says the Scorpio who can probably be more useful than Dy or myself 😛

Posted by Indie_Scorp

Posted by Cajunspirit
They are [...] afraid of rejection and being screwed over, so their caution levels are always high, they are always on guard, their fears eats them.

That's most females.

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It's more prominent in the Scorpio! 😄

3. Other suggestions

Keep her on her toes
Never let her thinks she has won
Make her work for real rewards [kisses,hugs, gifts]
Give her stuff to complain about [reach late for dates, don't do what she says or give her exactly what she wants]

Posted by Indie_Scorp
that is ridiculous!

Works for me, exceptionally well.

Maybe you need to try me on for size 😉

Posted by jade_dragon
@ Cajun:
Wait, Is Nov23 a third decan Scorp)—— I thought I was a Sag—

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My bad, I always get the transfer dates wrong. November 22nd

Posted by hikoro

True but he had already posted his inquiry in the scorpio board. I want him to get insight on the subtle ways Virgo men catch the scorpio. It seems that Virgo men don't have to do much for this to happen. 🙂

It typically starts with a "Stare Off"
Bahahaha!

Hey hikoro thanks for bumping this thread.

Now, she's actually a second decan (11/09), if that even exists (I'm not too familiar with horoscope terminologies).

And you're suggesting not to make my self too available or seem to deseperate right? Thanks for your inputs so far Caj.

Posted by wilch

And you're suggesting not to make my self too available or seem to deseperate right? Thanks for your inputs so far Caj.

Yeah, pretty much.

Posted by satori
Cajun said-

Scorpios are random, so the depth of conversation is naturally limited. They like small talk and awkward interludes.

I don't understand this, Cajun. I don't really think we are "random". Scorps are so passionate, we usually have strong interests in subjects that we really feel deeply about and study them inside and out.

And I think most Scorpios, myself included, detest small talk. I like to get into "deep" conversations even with strangers all the time.

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Yes, you all like the deep conversation and topics and are very passionate.

But you need only look to a Scorpio man and his trend of speaking. Very disorganised.
The Scorpio woman also has random outbursts and talk of unrelated facts when compared to the Virgo.

Geminis and Cancers are worse.

Hikoro: I'm not sure what decan I am, but I'm 8/30. I'm guessing that's the first?

Caj: I've thought about this just now... I think I'm going to contact her and get as much face time as I can get. If she's the type to become disinterested because I'm too available or if my interest for her seem to obvious, then the relationship won't last between us anyway. At least, that's what I think.

Posted by wilch

Caj: I've thought about this just now... I think I'm going to contact her and get as much face time as I can get. If she's the type to become disinterested because I'm too available or if my interest for her seem to obvious, then the relationship won't last between us anyway. At least, that's what I think.

She will love it, trust me.
Just make sure she's serious first. We had a couple Virguys coming in here and complain about their Scorpio moving slow. The cowardly ones are nigh impossible to crack.

All my relationships, 3 Scorpios, approached me first, showed interest first. I have never chased a woman... ever.

Posted by Kaleidescorp44
Caj, I have to disagree a bit with you. You stated, "1st Decans [October 23rd - November 3rd] are more of the serial daters." I'm first decan sweetie, and I've never been a serial dater. The idea of it doesn't sit well with me at all.

Depends on how strong the Libra influence is.

Cajun: "Scorpios are random, so the depth of conversation is naturally limited. They like small talk and awkward interludes."

I also very much disagree with that assessment. I abhor idle chit chat. I look for depth in everything I do, including conversations. I also rarely get involved with small talk. If it doesn't have depth for me, then typically you will find me to be very quiet and unengaged in the conversation. It's one of the reasons my virgo friend and I get along so well, neither of us does small talk, and we both look for depth in our conversations. We're both pretty equal in that arena. I also do not throw out random facts unrelated to the topic at hand. If it's not going to bring something to the conversation, if it's not going to add to the depth, then there is no need for me to speak.

Can you recall how it was for you when you were in your late teens early twenties?
Does this still hold true?

Maybe mine had more Sag and Libra influence.

Yes we are afraid of rejection and being screwed over.

Yet it happens so often. Seems you guys are not very good at this.

Again, this comes back to our depth of analysis of currents that most people don't want to visit. We know the dark side of human beings. Chances are we have experienced that darkness of others first hand, or we've observed it very closely. We know words don't mean a thing without action backing them up. It's one of the reasons I think that scorpios and virgos get along so well. Virgos say nothing they don't mean, and often they are willing to back up what they say with their actions. It takes awhile of knowing you virgos though to realize that about you. Too often, people don't back up what they say so we're a little gun shy.

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Being the Naive Virgo I am, people's darksides turn me off. I'd rather believe these things don't exist.

Cajun: "The most important thing is that they need to choose you. As much as they enjoy the thrill of the chase, if they have not chosen you, you're out of luck."

You need to bold that, capitalize it, and paste it everywhere in which men congregate. That is the undeniable truth. We know within minutes of meeting you whether there is chemistry for us, and whether eventually you will get to experience our more, ummm, shall we say, subtle seduction. If we decide we are not interested, nothing you say and cand do will alter that fact.

Scorpio? Subtle?
That's like saying you guys are patient LOL

Even if they choose you though, the next step is gaining their trust. And booy... that topic goes on and on and on... it ain't easy.

Posted by Kaleidescorp44

Also in the post to Caj, the cand should be can. *insert an embarrassed grimace here for all of the typos! *

*Naughtily enjoys the sexy Scorpio pout* >=D

Cajun is too funny.

Posted by ScorpSuperior
Cajun is too funny.

That and soooo much more baby 😉

Posted by Kaleidescorp44

Yes it does still hold true, even for my late teens and early twenties. I was very quiet and rarely spoke. If the topic was on something I felt passionate about, and had depth, then I would happily engage in the conversation and was very lively while doing so. If I was forced into small talk, you could tell then (and now), that I am just not involved with it. I was always described as an old soul in a young body though. Even as a teenager, I was often mistaken for being in my mid twenties due to my quiet, observant nature and the depth of the conversations I would engage in. And you forget that I have a lot of Sag influence. I have my moon, venus, and mars in Sag, and an Aquarius rising.

What a fascinating chart you have, I would very much like to... taste it.

Unfortunately though, that darkside does exist. In my early childhood I saw things that would make grown men cringe. Working as a Social Worker only seals the deal for me regarding peoples' darkside. It exists, it's real, and people too often find themselves allowing themselves to engage in, and revel in, their darkness.

Depressing really...

Posted by satori
Cajun said-
Interesting. But did you ever consider that though the facts may seem unrelated to the topic at hand to you, we may see how they relate to it? Some people see more of the "big picture" and some focus on the details more... and we all know that Virgos are detail people.

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Touche'

Oh yeah wilch mind your Virgo wit around her, Scorpios don't take being the butt end of jokes well.

Sensitive much like us, albeit 10 X more likely to take offense unnecessarily and unwittingly.

Kaleidescorp44:

Thanks for your analysis. I'll try to stick to what I've been doing then. And I'm not at all concerned about her parents... I'd say 95% of the people age 40 and over seem to like me. Which is a good thing, though I'd prefer to have 95% of the people age under 40 to like me instead.

Caj:

I will keep that in mind. I have a sharp tongue and it's caused a lot of problems for me in the past, so I will definitely tread carefully.