Virgo Males and his need to fix women (Page 2)

Posted by BlackMamba
We haven't been intimate in like a month... So he can possibly be fuking someone else...

But how I wouldn't know. He'll never reveal his sexual side to his brother he's embarrassed by it...

Evening times he's usually with his brother cooking for him etc ... Daytime he's at the library studying

I know two virgo men who aren't intimate with their wives but cheat on the side every time they can with other women. so to think that your guy isn't having some intimate relationship with someone else because he isn't having one with you is naive. Now I'm not saying he IS for a fact. Just telling you point blank, with virgo men, don't assume they are loyal. Some are, some aren't.

You know CC, you've been posting the same negative vibes on here for how long? Months? Years? Honestly, I don't see why you stick with this guy. You don't need a man to complete you. You are intelligent and beautiful. And I know you have a good heart. But I truly feel you are selling yourself short and not looking at the bigger picture with a clear understanding of what he's putting you through and what you are willingly accepting.

Bottom line: Men will treat you in the manner you allow them. YOU are the one who is allowing him to continue his mind games and keeping you in emotional limbo. When is ENOUGH ENOUGH for you?

You say you love him? Since when did loving someone who treats you like shit and doesn't respect you require you to be a martyr? You certainly aren't happy being a martyr. Don't you value yourself and your dignity? He doesn't. Probably because you're actions are projecting that you don't either. Men aren't drawn to a women because we don't value ourselves. Men are drawn to confident and strong women who value who they are and what they want.

I understand loving someone and not wanting them out of your life. But you're nearly at the point of no return. It's coming down to your self respect and happiness vs. giving those up to him so that you can receive a few texts from him once in a while and his head games. He's doing all of this on purpose. He knows deep down, he can string you along with just enough of an emotional tug. You are addicted to scraps. That's not love. That's total manipulation.

You want REAL love that's not based on games and psychotic drama? Cut him loose and move on. Time will help you heal. Start seeing other guys, preferably, NOT VIRGO MEN.
The longer you delay, the longer you will dwell in this constant state of emotional purgatory. At some point, you're going to break. Is this guy worth that to you? Seriously?

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Posted by Nathan912

Posted by BlackMamba
Blah blah blah... I just used a crab tactic and you fell for it.

All human beings unless sociopathic have depth

Fell for what? Fell in love with you? Hahaha NO! I will never fall in love to someone with anger outbursts lol. But if you are talking about you manage to make me to talk to you then I'll give props for that lol.

I wasn't talking to you

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I was only kidding about it, dummy.

Ok, I already some of the post on this thread today. The real question is how come you keep dealing with Virgo Men if you already know that you will only get cheated on if you deal with my fellow Virgo Men?

I mean you know the consequence already, right? because according to you we are the most disloyal sign. Then how come you keep dealing with Virgo Men?

Posted by BlackMamba
Gemini 64 lol you're crazy when have I ever said a Virgo man is loyal? They're the most disloyal sign... Come on dude...

1. I'm not a dude. I've a very happily married woman to a Scorpio man for over 17 years.

2. You were implying in your earlier post that because you and he were not being intimate, he couldn't be intimate with another woman implying that there is some type of loyalty to you. That is a false assumption and is what I was pointing out.

3. You didn't even touch any of the other points I raised about you standing up for yourself and not letting him manipulate you emotionally anymore. That tells me despite all the time you post bitching about his treatment of you, at the end of the day, you have accepted it. There is no other explanation for it. And you are selling yourself short. You are what's called a
"Co Dependent." You seem to like P Angel's insight. Having read enough of her posts, she would refer to you as a "door mat."

You will NEVER find a true love who cares about you and respects you until you respect and love yourself first. You clearly don't. That's sad. But hey, it's your choice, right?

Posted by BlackMamba
No I pointed out reasons why it be hard for him to be intimate unless he's fuking some chick in his car... He's definitely not taking anybody home or sleeping over anybody's house. His brother is highly religious and that's not happening. He really cares what his brother thinks.

Standing up for myself? Everything I say on dxp I say to the Virgo! I never hold back in fact much to my regret I've said some very nasty things to him and sometimes he tries to change or make me happy but it never lasts long.

In regards to emotional manipulation I'm not jumping or catering to his needs. I already said I'm detaching and have been for awhile.

In regards to being a doormat and codependent. Ummm ya duh! Thanks for voicing the obvious. I have an extremely giving nature Leo Venus and I do spoil ppl I care about. . but I'm working on not giving all of me... Learning an important lesson.

I'm just used to ppl taking advantage of me. Honestly I don't even know how to take from others!

I literally cringe when ppl pay for my meals. I'm getting better about it tho. Learning how to say no.

Anyways I made mistakes with this Virgo. Lots of them. And he's just immature and probably just not into me...

But I have my faults

Not trying to point out your faults, we all have faults. More like trying to address the issues. Mine is trusting people too much. I have gotten burned many times because I'm very giving and forgiving. However, as I get older, I've learned to take care of me first and not get so hung about what the other person is doing or thinking. THEY are in control of their thoughts and actions. What they do is on them. Let them own it.

I just wish you were more assertive. You're too young to be going through this for what seems like forever.....

The bottom line is do you love this guy more than you love yourself? You have to answer that question honestly. If you can't, then you will never get out of this abyss.

FTR, I don't like people paying for my meals either (might be my virgo rising, have no clue). However, I have learned to accept that and when given gifts by people by thinking of it this way.

I put myself into their perception of giving and how it makes them feel. I know giving makes me feel good. So I would assume others feel the same. If you can't accept their gift or generosity on occasion, you are basically denying them the chance to feel good about making you happy and themselves.

Are there no other guys you can date? You live in Seattle, right? Lots of guys there who are Seahawks fans. Go meet some at a Sports Bar. Get out of your funk. You live in this proverbial state of mental and emotional barriers. You put the walls up. Only you can tear them down.

So are you moving on now to other signs or just stick to the most disloyal sign. Well at least according to you.

Because me I find my happiness and true love in the most unexpected combo, not in traditional astrology compatibility.

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Posted by Nathan912
So are you moving on now to other signs or just stick to the most disloyal sign. Well at least according to you.

Because me I find my happiness and true love in the most unexpected combo, not in traditional astrology compatibility.

Oh be certain i've unknowingly dated many virgos, not as bad as this one, but i will never date another virgo again.

LOSERS! BIG L

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HELL YEAH!! This is actually pumped me up. Hopefully you're going to stick to your words not to date a Virgo Man again.

Why not try Aquarius or Scorpio? I've seen some of this combo for Cancer Women.

Hahaha I don't care about Cancer Women, I will even encourage them to hate on Virgo Men if they ever like one.

Posted by BlackMamba
i wonder if he's seen my new updated profile pic, i do look pretty darn good, and my updated background pic, its two lovers walking in snow....

Good for you!! Love the assertiveness!

Btw not to derail the OP thread but want your opinion.

Do Virgo men who are attracted to you and may even love you but can't have you ever stalk you or try to find
Out info on you regarding your daily life etc?

Have you ever had experience witht this?

Posted by BlackMamba
Nathan912....that's good. Do that.



The virgo called my work number and said he's been texting me this weekend and he's never gotten a response. LIES...said something is wrong with my phone...i told him you don't have to lie to kick it...he said im going to show you next time i see you. Again lies, he won't show me, and i wont' ask....Im like who are you studying with? he was like just myself, im like hmmmmmmmmmm....


smh...

And yet you replied to his messages instead of ignoring and cutting him off. Also you are also hoping that he will notice you by posting good picture of yourself.

I'm starting to beleive you will never learn your lesson even when you go with another signs, you will still end up to the man who can't respect and love you properly because you can't even love and respect yourself. It's seems you will only go with a man because of their zodiac sign not because of their personality and how they really care about you.

How about you give yourself respect and love yourself first? It's a good way to start to attract people who will respect and love you.

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Posted by Nathan912

Posted by BlackMamba
Nathan912....that's good. Do that.



The virgo called my work number and said he's been texting me this weekend and he's never gotten a response. LIES...said something is wrong with my phone...i told him you don't have to lie to kick it...he said im going to show you next time i see you. Again lies, he won't show me, and i wont' ask....Im like who are you studying with? he was like just myself, im like hmmmmmmmmmm....


smh...

And yet you replied to his messages instead of ignoring and cutting him off. Also you are also hoping that he will notice you by posting good picture of yourself.

I'm starting to beleive you will never learn your lesson even when you go with another signs, you will still end up to the man who can't respect and love you properly because you can't even love and respect yourself. It's seems you will only go with a man because of their zodiac sign not because of their personality and how they really care about you.

How about you give yourself respect and love yourself first? It's a good way to start to attract people who will respect and love you.

1) I updated my profile pic because i wanted too, i saw a good picture, also i don't even think the virgo saw it yet, but he's not the only person out there checking on me....

2) my background pic is something i love love love, i want to paint it one day, and as much headache as the virgo has given me, i do believe in romance and love...it's not dead to me.

3) im not going to cut him off because as you said i don't respect or love myself. 🙂

4) ive dated other signs that showed me love and respect and i dumped them....guess they weren't interesting or fuked up enough

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So you choose to be miserable and disrespected by men. Then Weeds is right all along the other day that some people cant be help.

I hope you'e not in your 40's because if does then that would make lots of sense, why you can't a attract a nice guy for you.

The ONLY you need to concentrate is on YOU. But you have not done thst. At thid loint, you're bkrdering on codependency in this saga. Let me give an example. My roomate sayd Nothing, literally notjing to me. I, however, know thay Im leaving. I also know that hes in a far worse situation than me. I like ppl. I talm to ppl. Hes anti- social. Warning sign1. He doesnt take responsibility for himself. Hes been stuck in the same apt with the same job and single for 5 years. Can you imagine that? Hed in his 40s. He has one gitl that hd fucks one day a week on his day off and he calls that a relationship. He's a robot. He doesn't demonstrate empathy. No one wants to even rent from this guy. After a couple of months, they see the dilemma and they leave. He refused to fix his own situation. I hate talking to him BC its like talking to an old Jewish woman who complains about everything and everyone else. He started by complaining about his roomates. Black Mamba, seriously🙂 do you think I don't know he won't be complaining about me? I expect it. That's why I'm waiting for the perfect time to give him2 months notice. He's inappropriate. But I'm bitchy and dominant enough to give him it back to him! He's say- So whos your boyfriend? I'm like. You woudn' t know him. Hes an engineer. Besides, yi and I dont talk. I get that its about the money for you. Yu hardly asked me uf I was okay after the fure and now , you want to know who Im seeing? Do I ask you who you are seeing. Witj that, he sbut the fuck up.
Bottom line- YOU need to work on YOU. You are a female - you can always change. But continuing the way you are doing, it's just insanity. Please listen toy words. There are a lot of nicr guys out there wherr respect is a REAL thing. My only hope- more women stand up and walk the hell away from assholes.

Yes, one of my friends mentioned yo me she thought my roommate was autistic- mild mild form. So he dropped the boyfriend issue. I think this guy just doesn't know any better. I couldn't mention the safety thing BC basically he started complaining about his previous roommates again. He says the fire was some kind of freak accident. I looked at him straight in the eye and said let's be realistic. Your dryer was 7 years old. It happens. He's just weird.. It will be such a relief for me to leave.

Posted by BlackMamba
I just gave the Virgo a hand job. Wtf is wrong with me. Made him hot water with vitamin c for his cold and hooked him up with a goodie bag of vitamins. Wtf is wrong with me.

Is you okay??

Please BlackMamba darling take care of yourself. Your Virgo is cold and will not care either way what happens to you. it's a black hole of negativity and self centeredness. if you need to do some assertiveness training or meditation, maybe visualize yourself with a mentally healthy Virgo. Because I tell you Virgo males will never be mentally healthy until they seek some form of therapy. That's a wrap- as we say in NYC!!!