Virgo Man-Distant? Hot/cold? Uninterested? Help!

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Hey everyone! Hopefully some Virgo men can help me out!

I've been friends with this Virgo for 22 years. Strictly platonic in my eyes, but in December he confessed that he's been waiting for me for all of 20 years. I felt that it was perfect timing as I had started getting feelings for him as well. So he aggressively pursued me, and really wanted me to take him seriously. As a Scorpio woman, I don't trust anyone from jump, but he's one of my good friends and how he was pursuing me was impressive, so I let my guard down and really started liking and trusting him in a romantic sense. Mind you, he has always said I am like no other woman he has been with I guess because I am super chill. He went two weeks of constantly calling me, texting me, just really interested about my days and nights. We meet up one night, have a great time as usual, a kiss goodbye.Then BOOM. Distant. It's like out of sight out of mind. Its been four weeks since I have seen him. He hasn't called me to chop it up. Rarely initiates texts. It's like what the heck happened— He randomly texts me things and acts as if everything is cool. But there is an APPARENT change in communication! And he seems clueless which is pissing me off. How does one go about aggressively pursuing someone then just stop and just be cool. When I do contact him, he is usually doing nothing. At home. or he is at work or with family. In my head I am like why hasn't he indicated to see me. I want to ask him "HEY ARE YOU STILL INTERESTED OR WHAT?" I am to the point where I am going to completely cut him off as a friend as well and thats making me sad. I feel like he is playing MAD GAMES! Any insight?
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Posted by DeleterNerd
Your account was invisible when you posted the first time. Idk, have you tried asking him to go somewhere with you? After we get really excited, we need down time to recharge I guess, then we wait for reciprocation. Either that or he's just a dud.
He's actually indicated to go out to dinner, lunch, etc and I've happily accepted. Only for him to not come through with plans that he INITIATED or PLANNED. It's extremely odd to me as I am used to aggressive males.
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Posted by TomSawyer
You were ridin too fast and he hit the handbreak before you crashed.

It's up you what you wanna do now.

Kick him out of the car or understand what was going to happen and maybe slow down a little.


Thanks for your response! I literally went with his flow. Never bothered him, never did too much. I would always match his energy pretty much. When he initiated, I reciprocated. I didn't come for him, he came for me with this pursuing and its just all weird to me. He's definitely getting kicked out of the car, don't pursue and then don't follow through. I've known him for so long, this is the only thing that was his saving grace. He's always saying how I am the only woman thats stuck around him for this many years, well of course we were friends! If you pursue a woman, don't come full force and then do it half-arsed.