Virgo man Help !!!

Virgo man advice please !!!!! Hey so I'm a Pisces woman that has been seeing this Virgo man for a month now. We met at a party, where we shared this intense but awkward eye contact moment. I approached him and he asked for my number stating that he liked me but didn't know how to approach me. From there we talk and text nonstop, we share a lot of the same interest and get along very well. He told me when we first started talking that he was scared of commitment and he wasn't looking for anything but if it happens it happens & I completely understood because I'm not looking for anything either but a friendship right now & maybe in the future if we do get together that's cool but if not that's cool too,I still want to be his friend. He also said that he can be inconsistent when he's busy and it's not that he doesn't like a person it's just he needs space to figure things out. So I made sure to note that so I wouldn't come off clingy if that was to happen and it seems like it is. ? Recently we went on a date and everything seem so perfect. We talked laughed and he definitely gave me tons of compliments, of course I complimented him back. He told me that I was like a breath of fresh air and I was different from most girls because I could make him laugh. Though he's very timid and reserved he initiated a kiss twice, took me home and we texted non stop that night after the date continuing to joke around.The last text he sent to me which was a couple of days after our date he asked if he could call me to talk about a show we both enjoy watching but he never did. I figured it was because it was late so he just went to bed. But recently he has become very distant like he's completely ignoring my text, the next day I sent him a message just saying hey & he hasn't even opened it , it's going a little over a week now. I know he's ignoring me because ( I know it sounds crazy ) but I texted him from a fake number to see if he would respond and he did but he told the fake person I was pretending to be to treetrunk off lol. So my question is why did he become distant out of no where for no reason ? Should I send him a text again asking him why he's ignoring me or should I just take it as he's not interested in getting to know me even as a friend.

Send a text! Ask wtf is going on! Say, "it's not right to just ignore the person when it was going so well, unless you're not interested, which is fine, but if it's someing, or you think l don't like you, that's silly" something along those lines. I let my feelings be heard, idgaf, it doesnt work much, pol tend to say lm a creep, or weirdo, l guess for that reason, but the few people l became friends with, it's like brothers and sisters, really close friendships. And lovers too, not like sisters...although...

Unfortunately for you it will probably continue in the same manner should you continue seeing him.

If you're okay with it, continue. If not let him know and if he doesn't change then move on. As a pisces I want the man that I'm seeing make an effort and be a man in the relationship. I'm a female and wanted to be treated as such.

From my personal experience with the ex virgo. He would constantly do this whole push and pull. If I wanted something to happen then I would have to initiate if not it would go through stages of no communication. This got tiring fairly quickly. It always made you question yourself and would bring on my insecurity.

I'm always of the adage that if a man is into you, he should show it and not do this whole push and pull. There's got to be communication, if you don't talk or see each other there's no progress.

Just a quick question, how many dates have you had? If just the one, why?

uhh.. why did you send him a text in disguise as another person?

who did you pretend to be?

lol I just messaged him from a fake number saying hey just to see if he would respond & he did.

Just a quick question, how many dates have you had? If just the one, why?



Well we just started talking, plus he seems like the type to move very slowly. But he has contacted me back explaining his absence. I didn't make it a big deal but I did tell him if he's going through something to let me know so I can give him his space. But you're right he seems like the type of guy that I will have to do all the chasing with. It's like the closer we get & the more we connect the more I have to pull him out of his shell. I don't know if he's doing this because he's scared to like me or something. I know he's been hurt in the past but still I want a man to be a man and come for me.

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Just a quick question, how many dates have you had? If just the one, why?



Well we just started talking, plus he seems like the type to move very slowly. But he has contacted me back explaining his absence. I didn't make it a big deal but I did tell him if he's going through something to let me know so I can give him his space. But you're right he seems like the type of guy that I will have to do all the chasing with. It's like the closer we get & the more we connect the more I have to pull him out of his shell. I don't know if he's doing this because he's scared to like me or something. I know he's been hurt in the past but still I want a man to be a man and come for me.

Then he doesn't sound like the man for you. He sounds like my ex Virgo very wishy washy. He talked the talk but couldn't quite walk the walk.

My Sag Fiance, right from the get go he showed me that he wanted to see me/talk to me, be with me.

I never had to experience the whole push and pull thing. He would tell me if he was busy with work and wouldn't be able to text me back promptly etc.

During the early stage of our relationship we would talk every night on the phone as we both worked so was unable to catch up during the week. But he would ask me out and ask me to make time for him for the Friday, Saturday and Sunday when we were both free.

Our relationship was a progression, I never had to question the sincerity of his feelings for me. He always made me a priority and made sure to involve me in his life. On our second date I knew he was the man for me when a wasp was targeting me he made sure to kill it or block it so I wasn't in the position to be bitten. He's been my protector, my best friend and lover. He's a very manly man.

I'm very lucky to have him and I think if the Virgo isn't behaving in the manner that you want then you should find someone or wait for someone who fits that bill.

xx

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@PiscesGyal22

uhh.. why did you send him a text in disguise as another person?

who did you pretend to be?

Agreed ^^

Why?

Not cool when people do this, in my book.

Then he doesn't sound like the man for you. He sounds like my ex Virgo very wishy washy. He talked the talk but couldn't quite walk the walk.

My Sag Fiance, right from the get go he showed me that he wanted to see me/talk to me, be with me.

I never had to experience the whole push and pull thing. He would tell me if he was busy with work and wouldn't be able to text me back promptly etc.

During the early stage of our relationship we would talk every night on the phone as we both worked so was unable to catch up during the week. But he would ask me out and ask me to make time for him for the Friday, Saturday and Sunday when we were both free.

Our relationship was a progression, I never had to question the sincerity of his feelings for me. He always made me a priority and made sure to involve me in his life. On our second date I knew he was the man for me when a wasp was targeting me he made sure to kill it or block it so I wasn't in the position to be bitten. He's been my protector, my best friend and lover. He's a very manly man.

I'm very lucky to have him and I think if the Virgo isn't behaving in the manner that you want then you should find someone or wait for someone who fits that bill.

xx



lol you're going in the opposite direction from me, my ex was a sag & he did all of those things you are saying. They are very affection people and know how to make you feel good. But just be mindful of them they can be very sneaky as the relationship progresses. He's different from my sag ex, he's more reserved and I guess that's why I'm intrigued by him.

But if you don't mind can you explain to me some characteristics about your Virgo ex good & bad like how can I tell if he's interested or just things to look out for. Did you have to plan the dates since you said you had to reach out first ? This Virgo doesn't seem like a bad guy, I just think he's scared to get to close to fast because he has expressed his feelings but he also told me he was hurt badly in the past & he likes to vet (observe at a distance ) someone before actually opening up to them.

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Posted by yupvirgoo
@PiscesGyal22

uhh.. why did you send him a text in disguise as another person?

who did you pretend to be?

Agreed ^^

Why?

Not cool when people do this, in my book.

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I just wanted to know if he was ignoring me.

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Posted by yupvirgoo
@PiscesGyal22

uhh.. why did you send him a text in disguise as another person?

who did you pretend to be?

Agreed ^^

Why?

Not cool when people do this, in my book.

I just wanted to know if he was ignoring me.

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IMO that didn't give you an answer. Instead, you took an underhanded, sneaky position to lure him into whatever you thought you'd lure him into. The honest, proper, way of going about it would have been to just ask him straight up. If I were him and found out what you'd done... You would never have a chance after that. Be above that. Be the trustworthy one, even if he isn't.

Posted by PiscesGyal22
Then he doesn't sound like the man for you. He sounds like my ex Virgo very wishy washy. He talked the talk but couldn't quite walk the walk.

My Sag Fiance, right from the get go he showed me that he wanted to see me/talk to me, be with me.

I never had to experience the whole push and pull thing. He would tell me if he was busy with work and wouldn't be able to text me back promptly etc.

During the early stage of our relationship we would talk every night on the phone as we both worked so was unable to catch up during the week. But he would ask me out and ask me to make time for him for the Friday, Saturday and Sunday when we were both free.

Our relationship was a progression, I never had to question the sincerity of his feelings for me. He always made me a priority and made sure to involve me in his life. On our second date I knew he was the man for me when a wasp was targeting me he made sure to kill it or block it so I wasn't in the position to be bitten. He's been my protector, my best friend and lover. He's a very manly man.

I'm very lucky to have him and I think if the Virgo isn't behaving in the manner that you want then you should find someone or wait for someone who fits that bill.

xx



lol you're going in the opposite direction from me, my ex was a sag & he did all of those things you are saying. They are very affection people and know how to make you feel good. But just be mindful of them they can be very sneaky as the relationship progresses. He's different from my sag ex, he's more reserved and I guess that's why I'm intrigued by him.

But if you don't mind can you explain to me some characteristics about your Virgo ex good & bad like how can I tell if he's interested or just things to look out for. Did you have to plan the dates since you said you had to reach out first ? This Virgo doesn't seem like a bad guy, I just think he's scared to get to close to fast because he has expressed his feelings but he also told me he was hurt badly in the past & he likes to vet (observe at a distance ) someone before actually opening up to them.

Every Virgo would be different. It would be dependant upon things like how they were brought up, social/moral values etc..

But bear in mind you guys are still young, he may have a lot of growing up to do yet. I'm in my late thirties and my Virgo in his mid forties...

I didn't have to plan dates but I would have to suggest and decide on a place we go to for dates. Left it up to him he would sit in front of the television and watch his game of cricket.. procrastinating.

But honestly four weeks and just one date in those four weeks seems odd to me.. how far away do you live from each other?

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Posted by yupvirgoo
@PiscesGyal22

uhh.. why did you send him a text in disguise as another person?

who did you pretend to be?

Agreed ^^

Why?

Not cool when people do this, in my book.

I just wanted to know if he was ignoring me.

IMO that didn't give you an answer. Instead, you took an underhanded, sneaky position to lure him into whatever you thought you'd lure him into. The honest, proper, way of going about it would have been to just ask him straight up. If I were him and found out what you'd done... You would never have a chance after that. Be above that. Be the trustworthy one, even if he isn't.

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She's still young. I would've done things like that in my early twenties. With age comes a little wisdom.

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Posted by yupvirgoo
@PiscesGyal22

uhh.. why did you send him a text in disguise as another person?

who did you pretend to be?

Agreed ^^

Why?

Not cool when people do this, in my book.

I just wanted to know if he was ignoring me.

IMO that didn't give you an answer. Instead, you took an underhanded, sneaky position to lure him into whatever you thought you'd lure him into. The honest, proper, way of going about it would have been to just ask him straight up. If I were him and found out what you'd done... You would never have a chance after that. Be above that. Be the trustworthy one, even if he isn't.

She's still young. I would've done things like that in my early twenties. With age comes a little wisdom.

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I agree. Sorry @PiscesGyal22 I really didn't mean to sound so harsh. I'm just feeling a bit sensitive tonight.

Every Virgo would be different. It would be dependant upon things like how they were brought up, social/moral values etc..

But bear in mind you guys are still young, he may have a lot of growing up to do yet. I'm in my late thirties and my Virgo in his mid forties...

I didn't have to plan dates but I would have to suggest and decide on a place we go to for dates. Left it up to him he would sit in front of the television and watch his game of cricket.. procrastinating.

But honestly four weeks and just one date in those four weeks seems odd to me.. how far away do you live from each other?



Well neither of us drive so we live like a good two hours away. Plus I've been really busy with school & he works from Monday to Saturday. I'm a Leo rising Pisces sun and Aquarius moon while he's a Aquarius rising Virgo sun and Gemini moon. Honestly he's very shy, I had to approach him, he was like He didn't want to approach me instead he was just going to stare at me until I noticed and showed him a sign of interest. Lol which is weird. Plus he got his heart broken in the past so he said he doesn't want to get hurt again. He asked me out multiple times after but I wasn't able to make it but that one time & I actually want to ask him out this time just to be nice and show him that I'm interested. When we do talk he compliments me a lot and laughs at my jokes & I make sure to compliment him too, but I try not to be too pushy

Posted by PiscesGyal22
Virgo man advice please !!!!! Hey so I'm a Pisces woman that has been seeing this Virgo man for a month now. We met at a party, where we shared this intense but awkward eye contact moment. I approached him and he asked for my number stating that he liked me but didn't know how to approach me. From there we talk and text nonstop, we share a lot of the same interest and get along very well. He told me when we first started talking that he was scared of commitment and he wasn't looking for anything but if it happens it happens & I completely understood because I'm not looking for anything either but a friendship right now & maybe in the future if we do get together that's cool but if not that's cool too,I still want to be his friend. He also said that he can be inconsistent when he's busy and it's not that he doesn't like a person it's just he needs space to figure things out. So I made sure to note that so I wouldn't come off clingy if that was to happen and it seems like it is. ? Recently we went on a date and everything seem so perfect. We talked laughed and he definitely gave me tons of compliments, of course I complimented him back. He told me that I was like a breath of fresh air and I was different from most girls because I could make him laugh. Though he's very timid and reserved he initiated a kiss twice, took me home and we texted non stop that night after the date continuing to joke around.The last text he sent to me which was a couple of days after our date he asked if he could call me to talk about a show we both enjoy watching but he never did. I figured it was because it was late so he just went to bed. But recently he has become very distant like he's completely ignoring my text, the next day I sent him a message just saying hey & he hasn't even opened it , it's going a little over a week now. I know he's ignoring me because ( I know it sounds crazy ) but I texted him from a fake number to see if he would respond and he did but he told the fake person I was pretending to be to treetrunk off lol. So my question is why did he become distant out of no where for no reason ? Should I send him a text again asking him why he's ignoring me or should I just take it as he's not interested in getting to know me even as a friend.

OP,

The answer you are looking for is in your first post. I'll cut and paste it below:

He said:

He told me when we first started talking that he was scared of commitment and he wasn't looking for anything

You said:

I completely understood because I'm not looking for anything either

He said:

He also said that he can be inconsistent when he's busy and it's not that he doesn't like a person it's just he needs space to figure things out.

He stated his terms. You accepted his terms. The end.