Virgo men and dealing with death

How exactly do you guys deal with the death of a loved one? Do you tend to need space/isolation or do you spend more time with your mate and seek comfort? What are your views on death?

From what i've noticed my man has pushed me away and doesn't seem to want to spend time together just the occasional text asking how I am or sorry for acting different.

My virgo automatically was very negative on dealing with the loss of his grandfather until I said that he's out of pain now and with God now (he had cancer) he agreed with me.

I'm really not good with the whole subject of death i dont know if it has anything to do with being an aries sun virgo moon, but I tend to want to ignore it and try to forget about it and move on I'm not so much sad for the person who passed on because i believe they are going to a better place but more sad for the emptiness i feel when its happend, so i usually just ignore it or try to seem posative which i think comes across as being insensitive (im really not)

So how would you like your woman to reach.. give you space or keep reaching out to you?

AND I KNOW.. everyone is a human being and deals with death in their own way BUT my question is, is their a pattern or a similarity in how all virgo's deal with the issue?

When I lost my sons father, I went into mental prison of pain, grief, anger every emotion you can think of for a period of two years. Not one could understand how I felt. Its like I needed to be alone almost all the time. So yes, I isolated myself from everyone. It got so bad that my friends had to intervene cause I had a mental breakdown and I was spiraling out of control. When I look back now im glad they were there and as crazy as I drove them, patient. All I can say to that everyone deals with grief different, while you can move on quickly he may grieve longer. Just been patient and been there for him.

i focus on the retribution - did they achieve it or not

i may be a little resolved than others because i used to assist in autopsies

end of the day, it is sad. they are your loved ones

focus more on the truth and reality of their life - it explains the outcome and if they achieved retribution or not

we are the result of how we decide to walk in life. for those that didnt make efforts to control their life, is also a choice they made

Probably depends on the Moon and Mercury.

My moon is Leo (fire) and Mercury Libra (air).
I don't find myself attached to people at all. So during a death, I am unlikely to be affected much, if at all.

If there were to be a Water moon or Mercury, this could probably make the difference.

His moon is in gemini and mercury is virgo I dont know much about both. I just feel really shut out and neglected. I beleive shit happens to everyone you can't neglect other aspects of your life. Maybe i'm just being selfish, i feel like i am sometimes with this situation because i'd deal with it very differently, But my life still goes on right, its been a month since his grandpa's been sick and he passed away a couple days ago. I've literally been ignored for weeks only communication has been texts (not too many). I really love him but we werent doing that great for a bit then this happend it just feels like everything is going downhill for us.

Any ways you guys can think of how i could reach out and let him know i want him to communicate with me?I feel so in the dark with this whole thing, and am hurting for him, i can feel the emptiness and pain he's feeling. I just wanna shake him and hug him and tell him everything's gonna be alright and we'll go through it together. (I understand he probably needs to go through it alone, i guess i want him to feel like we're one)I just feel like i can't seem to find the words, i'm really not good with the subject of death it actually really freaks me out thinking about the emptiness and pain i'd feel in my heart (all the deaths that have occured in my family were when i was young and i swore to myself i'd never go to a funeral again [kept the promise]i didnt like seeing everyone like that)

so what do you guys think?

this is his chart cajun
Sun Virgo 14.24 Ascendant Taurus 4.57
Moon Gemini 9.42 II Gemini 5.01
Mercury Virgo 0.29 III Cancer 0.51
Venus Leo 11.51 IV Cancer 26.11
Mars Leo 28.07 V Leo 24.22
Jupiter Aquarius 8.14 R VI Virgo 27.48
Saturn Scorpio 22.57 VII Scorpio 4.57
Uranus Sagittarius 14.04 VIII Sagittarius 5.01
Neptune Capricorn 0.52 R IX Capricorn 0.51
Pluto Scorpio 2.49 Midheaven Capricorn 26.11
Lilith Taurus 10.47 XI Aquarius 24.22
Asc node Taurus 10.33 XII Pisces 27.48


Planets in the houses

Sun in V
Moon in II
Mercury in V
Venus in IV
Mars in V
Jupiter in Midheaven
Saturn in VII
Uranus in VIII
Neptune in IX
Pluto in VI
Lilith in Ascendant
Asc node in Ascendant

Posted by ariesbabie
His moon is in gemini and mercury is virgo I dont know much about both. I just feel really shut out and neglected. I beleive shit happens to everyone you can't neglect other aspects of your life. Maybe i'm just being selfish, i feel like i am sometimes with this situation because i'd deal with it very differently, But my life still goes on right, its been a month since his grandpa's been sick and he passed away a couple days ago. I've literally been ignored for weeks only communication has been texts (not too many). I really love him but we werent doing that great for a bit then this happend it just feels like everything is going downhill for us.

Any ways you guys can think of how i could reach out and let him know i want him to communicate with me?I feel so in the dark with this whole thing, and am hurting for him, i can feel the emptiness and pain he's feeling. I just wanna shake him and hug him and tell him everything's gonna be alright and we'll go through it together. (I understand he probably needs to go through it alone, i guess i want him to feel like we're one)I just feel like i can't seem to find the words, i'm really not good with the subject of death it actually really freaks me out thinking about the emptiness and pain i'd feel in my heart (all the deaths that have occured in my family were when i was young and i swore to myself i'd never go to a funeral again [kept the promise]i didnt like seeing everyone like that)

so what do you guys think?

this is his chart cajun
Sun Virgo 14.24 Ascendant Taurus 4.57
Moon Gemini 9.42 II Gemini 5.01
Mercury Virgo 0.29 III Cancer 0.51
Venus Leo 11.51 IV Cancer 26.11
Mars Leo 28.07 V Leo 24.22
Jupiter Aquarius 8.14 R VI Virgo 27.48
Saturn Scorpio 22.57 VII Scorpio 4.57
Uranus Sagittarius 14.04 VIII Sagittarius 5.01
Neptune Capricorn 0.52 R IX Capricorn 0.51
Pluto Scorpio 2.49 Midheaven Capricorn 26.11
Lilith Taurus 10.47 XI Aquarius 24.22
Asc node Taurus 10.33 XII Pisces 27.48


Planets in the houses

Sun in V
Moon in II
Mercury in V
Venus in IV
Mars in V
Jupiter in Midheaven
Saturn in VII
Uranus in VIII
Neptune in IX
Pluto in VI
Lilith in Ascendant
Asc node in Ascendant

you have to look at a person's past too, not just how they process information

some people's coping mechanism involves isolation as a protective measure for both parties

by the way, which website are you using to get the astrological data?

Possibly the Moon in Gemini

"Those born with the moon in an Air sign usually respond to situations in a way they think should fit the facts, that is, they act in a way they think others expect them to act, or they imitate the same behavior as others. This gives them the appearance of emotional coolness or non-involvement. Before turning a situation into a physical experience, and before considering the stability or practicality of the thing, or even how they may really feel about it, they tend to do and say what seems appropriate as if it were not really happening to them. "

My Virgo guy lost his mom a few months ago and me being an Aries, wanted to be there for him to help him through without being overbearing. I knew he was hurting, however he wasn't showing the pain in front of me. He was having to deal with her death and in addition to that having an estate sale, going through her stuff etc. He was really busy and overwhelmed to say the least. Sometimes when I came over he acted like I wasn't there...he was basically in a different world. Initially, I dropped off a note at his house telling him I am there for him if he needs to lean on me for anything at this time. I would call him every day just to check on him and would keep it light asking him how he was doing and if he needed me for anything. Of course he said he didn't need anything. I basically gave him space to grieve. After a few weeks I came over and we talked. As posted here everyone grieves in different ways, however I know if you check on him every few days and let him know you care and are there for him, he will rememember and cherish that. Being an Aries it was hard for me to stand back, however I knew if I were to get into his head too much he might get angry and push me away. How long have you guys been together? My situation is different than most as I'd known mine for about 16 years before we started dating so we had a strong friendship and I also knew his mother. I tried to get him to speak of the good memories of his mother and reminded him of how much she loved him. A few weeks ago on Mother's Day, I knew it would be a difficult day for him. I dropped off a friendly card for him. It basically was a card which said hope things are well for you and knowing today will be difficult as it is Mother's Day...if you need to talk..call me as I am here for you. After he got the card, he called me and told me he had been depressed but receiving my card had helped him a lot that day.

death doesn't affect me at all. i feel a little bad because of it though, seeing everyone wail and break down and i just shrug and go "meh".