CurlyAries
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Virgo Men are P-ussies
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Shout out to everyone who dosent hastily jump into a relationship because of how they feel
Posted by bittercupcakeThe point of having different Zodiac boards is so that people can talk about a specific sign, or engage with people of the same or different sign..... because we find it interesting. I really hate comments like this. Obviously there are shitty men of all signs. If you read my post I said not all Virgo men, sure I will say my title insinuates ALL but my post clears that up........
What's with all the hate against Virgos?
Shitty men will be shitty men no matter what the sign.
Posted by EffervescentHonestly who knows, whenever I tried to ask him what was up, he never would tell me. No matter how many weeks or months went by without communication. When he pursues, he basically insinuates that he wants me to pursue.. and when I finally do, he's a robot again. We never even dated and I never pushed him for a commitment, but don't say something like I want to be with you and then not act like it or even if we agree to be just friends, he never even treated me like a friend.
Maybe he liked you in the beginning? And then you came off too strong? Sometimes you just gotta let the other person pursue.
I'm Aries sun, Sag moon & rising, Pisces venus
Posted by LazyKAre you implying something here? I never asked him for a relationship, he was the one that wanted to jump into one and I said we should take it slow and still build our friendship.
Shout out to everyone who dosent hastily jump into a relationship because of how they feel
He couldn't even do that, that was the issue. He couldn't even be a decent friend, let alone a good one.
Know the feeling. But i like virgos for this in a way. I get to have my space too.. I had to look at it from their perspective, not just my own...minus the sarcasm and bull at times. Im patiently waiting on one now 😉 and letting it flow naturally.. Difficult to do being overly affectionate at times tho lol
Posted by pisceshazeThat's the thing, I love my space to. It wasn't the space that bothered me. It was when I tried to communicate, he treated like I was nobody all the time. He was the one that said he loved me and cared about me first... but he never showed, not even as just a friend. No care or concern, he just wanted to me to love him and care and support him and not give anything back in return.
Know the feeling. But i like virgos for this in a way. I get to have my space too.. I had to look at it from their perspective, not just my own...minus the sarcasm and bull at times. Im patiently waiting on one now 😉 and letting it flow naturally.. Difficult to do being overly affectionate at times tho lol
Good luck, and I hope things work out for your happiness.
Posted by CurlyAriesIt takes 2 to tango, and I'm guessing you weren't that great of a dancer to begin with ?Posted by LazyKAre you implying something here? I never asked him for a relationship, he was the one that wanted to jump into one and I said we should take it slow and still build our friendship.
Shout out to everyone who dosent hastily jump into a relationship because of how they feel
He couldn't even do that, that was the issue. He couldn't even be a decent friend, let alone a good one.click to expand
Posted by LazyKI never begged him to be in my life. When i was sick of his bullshit, I always told him what bothered me. He never changed so I stayed to myself. After he saw I was "gone" he came back acting open and caring. Yes it's my fault for giving him so many chances, but fuck, you don't have to choose to be a shit person every time! I gave him space, not just for him but bc I enjoyed it as well. I was really affectionate, and extremely supportive of his passion. I tried to be a listening ear and also be understanding by not pushing him... this is naturally who I am and he just took advantage of it. Don't tell me you think I wasn't up to par bc it went south. Yes, it takes 2 to tango, but there's the dancer that leads and the one that follows. He did not set up the right foundation for me to follow. I tried to lead (I'm an Aries, I'm very straight up and honest) he just chose not to follow...Posted by CurlyAriesIt takes 2 to tango, and I'm guessing you weren't that great of a dancer to begin with ?Posted by LazyKAre you implying something here? I never asked him for a relationship, he was the one that wanted to jump into one and I said we should take it slow and still build our friendship.
Shout out to everyone who dosent hastily jump into a relationship because of how they feel
He couldn't even do that, that was the issue. He couldn't even be a decent friend, let alone a good one.
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Posted by bittercupcakeNot salty over your comment. I admit I'm salty over ONE Virgo. In turn, it's the reality of being mad at myself as well. I know this already. But in general, comments like that are just pointless in my eyes.Posted by CurlyAriesNo need to be so salty over my comment or Virgos.Posted by bittercupcakeThe point of having different Zodiac boards is so that people can talk about a specific sign, or engage with people of the same or different sign..... because we find it interesting. I really hate comments like this. Obviously there are shitty men of all signs. If you read my post I said not all Virgo men, sure I will say my title insinuates ALL but my post clears that up........
What's with all the hate against Virgos?
Shitty men will be shitty men no matter what the sign.click to expand
Posted by CurlyAriesCommunicate with an Aries?!?!?Posted by pisceshazeThat's the thing, I love my space to. It wasn't the space that bothered me. It was when I tried to communicate, he treated like I was nobody all the time. He was the one that said he loved me and cared about me first... but he never showed, not even as just a friend. No care or concern, he just wanted to me to love him and care and support him and not give anything back in return.
Know the feeling. But i like virgos for this in a way. I get to have my space too.. I had to look at it from their perspective, not just my own...minus the sarcasm and bull at times. Im patiently waiting on one now 😉 and letting it flow naturally.. Difficult to do being overly affectionate at times tho lol
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I'm better off exchanging ideas with a fly
Posted by CurlyAriesHow does he insinuate that he wants you to pursue him? Like what does he do or say, specifically, that makes you think that??Posted by EffervescentHonestly who knows, whenever I tried to ask him what was up, he never would tell me. No matter how many weeks or months went by without communication. When he pursues, he basically insinuates that he wants me to pursue.. and when I finally do, he's a robot again. We never even dated and I never pushed him for a commitment, but don't say something like I want to be with you and then not act like it or even if we agree to be just friends, he never even treated me like a friend.
Maybe he liked you in the beginning? And then you came off too strong? Sometimes you just gotta let the other person pursue.
I'm Aries sun, Sag moon & rising, Pisces venusclick to expand
Posted by CurlyAriesHard to believe. Cardinal signs are normally the stubborn and selfish onesPosted by LazyKI never begged him to be in my life. When i was sick of his bullshit, I always told him what bothered me. He never changed so I stayed to myself. After he saw I was "gone" he came back acting open and caring. Yes it's my fault for giving him so many chances, but fuck, you don't have to choose to be a shit person every time! I gave him space, not just for him but bc I enjoyed it as well. I was really affectionate, and extremely supportive of his passion. I tried to be a listening ear and also be understanding by not pushing him... this is naturally who I am and he just took advantage of it. Don't tell me you think I wasn't up to par bc it went south. Yes, it takes 2 to tango, but there's the dancer that leads and the one that follows. He did not set up the right foundation for me to follow. I tried to lead (I'm an Aries, I'm very straight up and honest) he just chose not to follow...Posted by CurlyAriesIt takes 2 to tango, and I'm guessing you weren't that great of a dancer to begin with ?Posted by LazyKAre you implying something here? I never asked him for a relationship, he was the one that wanted to jump into one and I said we should take it slow and still build our friendship.
Shout out to everyone who dosent hastily jump into a relationship because of how they feel
He couldn't even do that, that was the issue. He couldn't even be a decent friend, let alone a good one.
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Posted by CurlyAriesYeah its a HUGE issue and i found myself reading a lot more about the virgo sign.. not to just imply that thier like a manual bc i dont think that... but to question whether or not its my behavior...or its something seriously internal for them to figure out. From my experience off and on for some years there is a amount of independence and submissiom expected bc of thier dominance and perspective...especially when theyre available or not. However its no excuse for him to treating you like you dont exist or addressing your feelings and affirming what you need.Posted by pisceshazeThat's the thing, I love my space to. It wasn't the space that bothered me. It was when I tried to communicate, he treated like I was nobody all the time. He was the one that said he loved me and cared about me first... but he never showed, not even as just a friend. No care or concern, he just wanted to me to love him and care and support him and not give anything back in return.
Know the feeling. But i like virgos for this in a way. I get to have my space too.. I had to look at it from their perspective, not just my own...minus the sarcasm and bull at times. Im patiently waiting on one now 😉 and letting it flow naturally.. Difficult to do being overly affectionate at times tho lol
Good luck, and I hope things work out for your happiness.click to expand
How soon after meeting him did he tell you he loved you?
Posted by LazyKI am aware of this, but I'm not the typical Aries ok -__- I'm very compromising, to a fault. I'm very laid back and understanding as well. This particular Virgo just took advantage of me and I let him by believe his bs when he tried to whoo me back into his life. Anyway, we're not all the same, just like not all Virgos are scum bags (like I said in my post)Posted by CurlyAriesHard to believe. Cardinal signs are normally the stubborn and selfish onesPosted by LazyKI never begged him to be in my life. When i was sick of his bullshit, I always told him what bothered me. He never changed so I stayed to myself. After he saw I was "gone" he came back acting open and caring. Yes it's my fault for giving him so many chances, but fuck, you don't have to choose to be a shit person every time! I gave him space, not just for him but bc I enjoyed it as well. I was really affectionate, and extremely supportive of his passion. I tried to be a listening ear and also be understanding by not pushing him... this is naturally who I am and he just took advantage of it. Don't tell me you think I wasn't up to par bc it went south. Yes, it takes 2 to tango, but there's the dancer that leads and the one that follows. He did not set up the right foundation for me to follow. I tried to lead (I'm an Aries, I'm very straight up and honest) he just chose not to follow...Posted by CurlyAriesIt takes 2 to tango, and I'm guessing you weren't that great of a dancer to begin with ?Posted by LazyKAre you implying something here? I never asked him for a relationship, he was the one that wanted to jump into one and I said we should take it slow and still build our friendship.
Shout out to everyone who dosent hastily jump into a relationship because of how they feel
He couldn't even do that, that was the issue. He couldn't even be a decent friend, let alone a good one.
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Posted by LadyNeptuneHe would say "I miss you" "I miss your words" "You were like a gf without being one(I would show him so much love and support, my pursuit or chase)" "If you would be willing to talk to me more I could show you I've changed" "You never hmu anymore".. stuff like that. & just his actions, he only talks to me once i stop pursuing, but it's not a good conversation, it's always about what's wrong with me, why am i acting so distant and colder than usualPosted by CurlyAriesHow does he insinuate that he wants you to pursue him? Like what does he do or say, specifically, that makes you think that??Posted by EffervescentHonestly who knows, whenever I tried to ask him what was up, he never would tell me. No matter how many weeks or months went by without communication. When he pursues, he basically insinuates that he wants me to pursue.. and when I finally do, he's a robot again. We never even dated and I never pushed him for a commitment, but don't say something like I want to be with you and then not act like it or even if we agree to be just friends, he never even treated me like a friend.
Maybe he liked you in the beginning? And then you came off too strong? Sometimes you just gotta let the other person pursue.
I'm Aries sun, Sag moon & rising, Pisces venusclick to expand
Posted by CurlyAriesI hear you, though from your writing I can tell you come off a little brute. It's your choice to get taken advantage of. Not like your in a forced situation.Posted by LazyKI am aware of this, but I'm not the typical Aries ok -__- I'm very compromising, to a fault. I'm very laid back and understanding as well. This particular Virgo just took advantage of me and I let him by believe his bs when he tried to whoo me back into his life. Anyway, we're not all the same, just like not all Virgos are scum bags (like I said in my post)Posted by CurlyAriesHard to believe. Cardinal signs are normally the stubborn and selfish onesPosted by LazyKI never begged him to be in my life. When i was sick of his bullshit, I always told him what bothered me. He never changed so I stayed to myself. After he saw I was "gone" he came back acting open and caring. Yes it's my fault for giving him so many chances, but fuck, you don't have to choose to be a shit person every time! I gave him space, not just for him but bc I enjoyed it as well. I was really affectionate, and extremely supportive of his passion. I tried to be a listening ear and also be understanding by not pushing him... this is naturally who I am and he just took advantage of it. Don't tell me you think I wasn't up to par bc it went south. Yes, it takes 2 to tango, but there's the dancer that leads and the one that follows. He did not set up the right foundation for me to follow. I tried to lead (I'm an Aries, I'm very straight up and honest) he just chose not to follow...Posted by CurlyAriesIt takes 2 to tango, and I'm guessing you weren't that great of a dancer to begin with ?Posted by LazyKAre you implying something here? I never asked him for a relationship, he was the one that wanted to jump into one and I said we should take it slow and still build our friendship.
Shout out to everyone who dosent hastily jump into a relationship because of how they feel
He couldn't even do that, that was the issue. He couldn't even be a decent friend, let alone a good one.
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Lack of communication & understanding will make Virgo cheat or leave
Posted by LadyNeptune3 months. I've known him 5 years now. It's like when I agree to be friends, he pulls away but when I'm sick of it and don't try anymore (like he does) he has an issue and wants me back in his life.... p-ussy
How soon after meeting him did he tell you he loved you?
Posted by CurlyAriesP-ussyPosted by LadyNeptune3 months. I've known him 5 years now. It's like when I agree to be friends, he pulls away but when I'm sick of it and don't try anymore (like he does) he has an issue and wants me back in his life.... p-ussy
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That the thing u gave up between ur legs. Make better choices brickhead
Posted by LazyKPosted by CurlyAriesI hear you, though from your writing I can tell you come off a little brute. It's your choice to get taken advantage of. Not like your in a forced situation.Posted by LazyKI am aware of this, but I'm not the typical Aries ok -__- I'm very compromising, to a fault. I'm very laid back and understanding as well. This particular Virgo just took advantage of me and I let him by believe his bs when he tried to whoo me back into his life. Anyway, we're not all the same, just like not all Virgos are scum bags (like I said in my post)Posted by CurlyAriesHard to believe. Cardinal signs are normally the stubborn and selfish onesPosted by LazyKI never begged him to be in my life. When i was sick of his bullshit, I always told him what bothered me. He never changed so I stayed to myself. After he saw I was "gone" he came back acting open and caring. Yes it's my fault for giving him so many chances, but fuck, you don't have to choose to be a shit person every time! I gave him space, not just for him but bc I enjoyed it as well. I was really affectionate, and extremely supportive of his passion. I tried to be a listening ear and also be understanding by not pushing him... this is naturally who I am and he just took advantage of it. Don't tell me you think I wasn't up to par bc it went south. Yes, it takes 2 to tango, but there's the dancer that leads and the one that follows. He did not set up the right foundation for me to follow. I tried to lead (I'm an Aries, I'm very straight up and honest) he just chose not to follow...Posted by CurlyAriesIt takes 2 to tango, and I'm guessing you weren't that great of a dancer to begin with ?Posted by LazyKAre you implying something here? I never asked him for a relationship, he was the one that wanted to jump into one and I said we should take it slow and still build our friendship.
Shout out to everyone who dosent hastily jump into a relationship because of how they feel
He couldn't even do that, that was the issue. He couldn't even be a decent friend, let alone a good one.
Lack of communication & understanding will make Virgo cheat or leave
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I acknowledge my choice, yes I am upset with myself about this. But that's the thing, when I try to communicate with him more frequently it's too much, when i give more space and when we do communicate it's so dry, the conversation is actually pointless.... I can never win with him... I'm finally choosing to just let it go for good. I'm too understanding and honest for him. I always take accountability for my choices, it's just painfully annoying when other people don't do it in return, like you said, it takes 2 to tango.
Posted by CurlyAriesHopefully you will learn from ur relationship and see your flaws, outside of whatever you think about him.Posted by LazyKPosted by CurlyAriesI hear you, though from your writing I can tell you come off a little brute. It's your choice to get taken advantage of. Not like your in a forced situation.Posted by LazyKI am aware of this, but I'm not the typical Aries ok -__- I'm very compromising, to a fault. I'm very laid back and understanding as well. This particular Virgo just took advantage of me and I let him by believe his bs when he tried to whoo me back into his life. Anyway, we're not all the same, just like not all Virgos are scum bags (like I said in my post)Posted by CurlyAriesHard to believe. Cardinal signs are normally the stubborn and selfish onesPosted by LazyKI never begged him to be in my life. When i was sick of his bullshit, I always told him what bothered me. He never changed so I stayed to myself. After he saw I was "gone" he came back acting open and caring. Yes it's my fault for giving him so many chances, but fuck, you don't have to choose to be a shit person every time! I gave him space, not just for him but bc I enjoyed it as well. I was really affectionate, and extremely supportive of his passion. I tried to be a listening ear and also be understanding by not pushing him... this is naturally who I am and he just took advantage of it. Don't tell me you think I wasn't up to par bc it went south. Yes, it takes 2 to tango, but there's the dancer that leads and the one that follows. He did not set up the right foundation for me to follow. I tried to lead (I'm an Aries, I'm very straight up and honest) he just chose not to follow...Posted by CurlyAriesIt takes 2 to tango, and I'm guessing you weren't that great of a dancer to begin with ?Posted by LazyKAre you implying something here? I never asked him for a relationship, he was the one that wanted to jump into one and I said we should take it slow and still build our friendship.
Shout out to everyone who dosent hastily jump into a relationship because of how they feel
He couldn't even do that, that was the issue. He couldn't even be a decent friend, let alone a good one.
Lack of communication & understanding will make Virgo cheat or leave
I acknowledge my choice, yes I am upset with myself about this. But that's the thing, when I try to communicate with him more frequently it's too much, when i give more space and when we do communicate it's so dry, the conversation is actually pointless.... I can never win with him... I'm finally choosing to just let it go for good. I'm too understanding and honest for him. I always take accountability for my choices, it's just painfully annoying when other people don't do it in return, like you said, it takes 2 to tango.
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It's still fresh, so continue brood
Posted by LazyKAre you actually slow? Holy fuck, I literally said in my post "I thank God that I never gave myself to that butter bag" I never said I had sex with him. We've never done ANYTHING sexual. Get the fuck over yourself yo, you're assuming way too much about me. And by one of or maybe even a few of your previous comments, it SEEMS like you have something against Aries. I don't care about that, but don't assume shit about me, you don't know me. And don't say shit when you didn't even read the post. Or maybe you did and you're incompetent. This is actually the second time, don't project your insecurities onto mePosted by CurlyAriesP-ussyPosted by LadyNeptune3 months. I've known him 5 years now. It's like when I agree to be friends, he pulls away but when I'm sick of it and don't try anymore (like he does) he has an issue and wants me back in his life.... p-ussy
How soon after meeting him did he tell you he loved you?
That the thing u gave up between ur legs. Make better choices brickhead
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Posted by CurlyAriesI can see who u are by the way u express yourself. Blame game gamePosted by LazyKAre you actually slow? Holy fuck, I literally said in my post "I thank God that I never gave myself to that butter bag" I never said I had sex with him. We've never done ANYTHING sexual. Get the fuck over yourself yo, you're assuming way too much about me. And by one of or maybe even a few of your previous comments, it SEEMS like you have something against Aries. I don't care about that, but don't assume shit about me, you don't know me. And don't say shit when you didn't even read the post. Or maybe you did and you're incompetent. This is actually the second time, don't project your insecurities onto mePosted by CurlyAriesP-ussyPosted by LadyNeptune3 months. I've known him 5 years now. It's like when I agree to be friends, he pulls away but when I'm sick of it and don't try anymore (like he does) he has an issue and wants me back in his life.... p-ussy
How soon after meeting him did he tell you he loved you?
That the thing u gave up between ur legs. Make better choices brickhead
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Cardinal problems. Not my problems
Posted by LazyKPosted by CurlyAriesI can see who u are by the way u express yourself. Blame game gamePosted by LazyKAre you actually slow? Holy fuck, I literally said in my post "I thank God that I never gave myself to that butter bag" I never said I had sex with him. We've never done ANYTHING sexual. Get the fuck over yourself yo, you're assuming way too much about me. And by one of or maybe even a few of your previous comments, it SEEMS like you have something against Aries. I don't care about that, but don't assume shit about me, you don't know me. And don't say shit when you didn't even read the post. Or maybe you did and you're incompetent. This is actually the second time, don't project your insecurities onto mePosted by CurlyAriesP-ussyPosted by LadyNeptune3 months. I've known him 5 years now. It's like when I agree to be friends, he pulls away but when I'm sick of it and don't try anymore (like he does) he has an issue and wants me back in his life.... p-ussy
How soon after meeting him did he tell you he loved you?
That the thing u gave up between ur legs. Make better choices brickhead
Cardinal problems. Not my problems
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Blame game? I include myself in the "blame game" I know I contributed to the sadness I feel. I gave him so many chances. Maybe I didn't know how to communicate properly, but I feel you can never go wrong with being honest, but I should've stood stronger for myself. I try to see the best in people... my fault. & I don't give off ill mannered word play unless it's deserved. lol once again, you know nothing about me. It seems you can never see your fault in what you say, so again, you project yourself onto other people. I hope you have a nice day.
Posted by CurlyAriesPosted by LadyNeptune3 months. I've known him 5 years now. It's like when I agree to be friends, he pulls away but when I'm sick of it and don't try anymore (like he does) he has an issue and wants me back in his life.... p-ussy
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Or are you the pussy for letting him back into your life each time...?
Posted by CurlyAriesOnce again cardinal problems. Self righteous selfish fools. If those are the only problems you see in itself you have a lot of self reflecting to do, or maybe not, because ur a rock headed Aries. Have a nice nightPosted by LazyKPosted by CurlyAriesI can see who u are by the way u express yourself. Blame game gamePosted by LazyKAre you actually slow? Holy fuck, I literally said in my post "I thank God that I never gave myself to that butter bag" I never said I had sex with him. We've never done ANYTHING sexual. Get the fuck over yourself yo, you're assuming way too much about me. And by one of or maybe even a few of your previous comments, it SEEMS like you have something against Aries. I don't care about that, but don't assume shit about me, you don't know me. And don't say shit when you didn't even read the post. Or maybe you did and you're incompetent. This is actually the second time, don't project your insecurities onto mePosted by CurlyAriesP-ussyPosted by LadyNeptune3 months. I've known him 5 years now. It's like when I agree to be friends, he pulls away but when I'm sick of it and don't try anymore (like he does) he has an issue and wants me back in his life.... p-ussy
How soon after meeting him did he tell you he loved you?
That the thing u gave up between ur legs. Make better choices brickhead
Cardinal problems. Not my problems
Blame game? I include myself in the "blame game" I know I contributed to the sadness I feel. I gave him so many chances. Maybe I didn't know how to communicate properly, but I feel you can never go wrong with being honest, but I should've stood stronger for myself. I try to see the best in people... my fault. & I don't give off ill mannered word play unless it's deserved. lol once again, you know nothing about me. It seems you can never see your fault in what you say, so again, you project yourself onto other people. I hope you have a nice day.
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Posted by LadyNeptuneI am a p-ussy. Trying not to be anymore.Posted by CurlyAriesPosted by LadyNeptune3 months. I've known him 5 years now. It's like when I agree to be friends, he pulls away but when I'm sick of it and don't try anymore (like he does) he has an issue and wants me back in his life.... p-ussy
How soon after meeting him did he tell you he loved you?
Or are you the pussy for letting him back into your life each time...?
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Hope he grows out his p-ussy behavior. I guess I just won't be there to know whether he did or not.
Posted by bittercupcakeYeah, but according to her, this shitty man just happened to be a Virgo. That's why she's on this forum.
What's with all the hate against Virgos?
Shitty men will be shitty men no matter what the sign.
So, uh, yeah....
OP, I like to deal with honest and straightforward people. Virgo ain't one of them. I'll take aries over virgo anytime. So, learn your lesson, lick your wounds, you'll be fine, you're strong.
There's this quote that reminds me of dealing with virgos (male or female):
"You can't argue with an idiot. He'll drag you down to his level and beat you with experience!"
Now, it's not that I think virgos are stupid, far from it! It's just that most of the time they have no idea how their words and actions affect other people. And when you point it out to them, immediately they try to blame sth. or someone else, probably you, for misinterpreting things, when in fact it's not even a blame game, it's just you, trying to get your point across.
Out of all the signs, virgo (followed closely by libra) men are the most talked/written about in relationship department. Which brings me to think they're the problem and not the women who complain about them.
There's this quote that reminds me of dealing with virgos (male or female):
"You can't argue with an idiot. He'll drag you down to his level and beat you with experience!"
Now, it's not that I think virgos are stupid, far from it! It's just that most of the time they have no idea how their words and actions affect other people. And when you point it out to them, immediately they try to blame sth. or someone else, probably you, for misinterpreting things, when in fact it's not even a blame game, it's just you, trying to get your point across.
Out of all the signs, virgo (followed closely by libra) men are the most talked/written about in relationship department. Which brings me to think they're the problem and not the women who complain about them.
Posted by CherrylipsThank you for articulating this in the way that I couldn't. This is exactly how I feel. It seems so hard to get my point across, no matter how I say it to him and it's frustrating.
OP, I like to deal with honest and straightforward people. Virgo ain't one of them. I'll take aries over virgo anytime. So, learn your lesson, lick your wounds, you'll be fine, you're strong.
There's this quote that reminds me of dealing with virgos (male or female):
"You can't argue with an idiot. He'll drag you down to his level and beat you with experience!"
Now, it's not that I think virgos are stupid, far from it! It's just that most of the time they have no idea how their words and actions affect other people. And when you point it out to them, immediately they try to blame sth. or someone else, probably you, for misinterpreting things, when in fact it's not even a blame game, it's just you, trying to get your point across.
Out of all the signs, virgo (followed closely by libra) men are the most talked/written about in relationship department. Which brings me to think they're the problem and not the women who complain about them.
I'm determined to be done and just ignore him whenever he decides to contact me next. Knowing him, he always does.
Posted by LazyKPosted by CherrylipsYea, go & get a buster who pretends to understand ur feelings and holds your hand in public. Real love
OP, I like to deal with honest and straightforward people. Virgo ain't one of them. I'll take aries over virgo anytime. So, learn your lesson, lick your wounds, you'll be fine, you're strong.
There's this quote that reminds me of dealing with virgos (male or female):
"You can't argue with an idiot. He'll drag you down to his level and beat you with experience!"
Now, it's not that I think virgos are stupid, far from it! It's just that most of the time they have no idea how their words and actions affect other people. And when you point it out to them, immediately they try to blame sth. or someone else, probably you, for misinterpreting things, when in fact it's not even a blame game, it's just you, trying to get your point across.
Out of all the signs, virgo (followed closely by libra) men are the most talked/written about in relationship department. Which brings me to think they're the problem and not the women who complain about them.
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Are all of your responses immediately sarcastic and actually unrelated to what was said?
and, are you a Virgo? bc you come off as if someone is attacking you.
Posted by CurlyAriesYea I'm Virgo, and I'm just reading between the lines.Posted by LazyKPosted by CherrylipsYea, go & get a buster who pretends to understand ur feelings and holds your hand in public. Real love
OP, I like to deal with honest and straightforward people. Virgo ain't one of them. I'll take aries over virgo anytime. So, learn your lesson, lick your wounds, you'll be fine, you're strong.
There's this quote that reminds me of dealing with virgos (male or female):
"You can't argue with an idiot. He'll drag you down to his level and beat you with experience!"
Now, it's not that I think virgos are stupid, far from it! It's just that most of the time they have no idea how their words and actions affect other people. And when you point it out to them, immediately they try to blame sth. or someone else, probably you, for misinterpreting things, when in fact it's not even a blame game, it's just you, trying to get your point across.
Out of all the signs, virgo (followed closely by libra) men are the most talked/written about in relationship department. Which brings me to think they're the problem and not the women who complain about them.
Are all of your responses immediately sarcastic and actually unrelated to what was said?
and, are you a Virgo? bc you come off as if someone is attacking you.
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Posted by LazyKuhhhhhhhh.... well what you said, isn't even what @Cherrylips was saying. I don't even see how you arrived at that analysis. Something I notice about Virgos is that they're actually the ones that misinterpret a lot of what other people say and do. Too busy analyzing, not enough just straight forward conversation. You Virgos seem to try to beat other people to the punch by figuring out the underlying message but you really don't even come close. Too much logic isn't always right y'know (general statement there)Posted by CurlyAriesYea I'm Virgo, and I'm just reading between the lines.Posted by LazyKPosted by CherrylipsYea, go & get a buster who pretends to understand ur feelings and holds your hand in public. Real love
OP, I like to deal with honest and straightforward people. Virgo ain't one of them. I'll take aries over virgo anytime. So, learn your lesson, lick your wounds, you'll be fine, you're strong.
There's this quote that reminds me of dealing with virgos (male or female):
"You can't argue with an idiot. He'll drag you down to his level and beat you with experience!"
Now, it's not that I think virgos are stupid, far from it! It's just that most of the time they have no idea how their words and actions affect other people. And when you point it out to them, immediately they try to blame sth. or someone else, probably you, for misinterpreting things, when in fact it's not even a blame game, it's just you, trying to get your point across.
Out of all the signs, virgo (followed closely by libra) men are the most talked/written about in relationship department. Which brings me to think they're the problem and not the women who complain about them.
Are all of your responses immediately sarcastic and actually unrelated to what was said?
and, are you a Virgo? bc you come off as if someone is attacking you.
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Posted by CurlyAriesThey drag you along? From my experience with Virgo's they just leave or stop talking to you if they're done.
Virgo men will drag you along bc they're too pussy to let you know they're done or the mere fact that they're scared. They string you along, simultaneously pulling away so much so that they do it until they have the least possible amount of care in them, and they just still drag you along and make you feel like you have the problem.... they project their own self hatred onto you.
They really can be quite evil in the most passive way.
Of course not all, I know some very lovely Virgo men that I truly adore. But I came across a bad seed, he really did me dirty in the only way a Virgo could do it and master it--complicated and indirect. Complete mental and emotional manipulator. He has Virgo sun, Gemini moon, Libra venus.. i don't remember much else. The Virgo sun, Gemini moon combo is a killer... honestly I think his Asc. is in Gemini too *rolls eyes*
Letting go of trying to make a friendship work... learning my lessons and taking responsibility on my part for not ending this bullshit sooner. I thank God I never gave myself to that shit bag, but I do still wish him happiness. I'm internalizing a lot of pain from him, I know this. He'll get his karma, whatever it is, good or bad. I don't care anymore, at least not as much. Trying to master the art of letting him go, completely.
I guess this was just a rant. Any thoughts or experiences on Virgo men are definitely welcomed of course. Shoutout to all of the honest, straightforward, loving, caring, and compromising Virgo men out there.
Posted by CurlyAriesAries may be good at a lot of things, but telling me where I stand intellectually is not one of them. The problem is you can't see what I see, but I can see what u see ?Posted by LazyKuhhhhhhhh.... well what you said, isn't even what @Cherrylips was saying. I don't even see how you arrived at that analysis. Something I notice about Virgos is that they're actually the ones that misinterpret a lot of what other people say and do. Too busy analyzing, not enough just straight forward conversation. You Virgos seem to try to beat other people to the punch by figuring out the underlying message but you really don't even come close. Too much logic isn't always right y'know (general statement there)Posted by CurlyAriesYea I'm Virgo, and I'm just reading between the lines.Posted by LazyKPosted by CherrylipsYea, go & get a buster who pretends to understand ur feelings and holds your hand in public. Real love
OP, I like to deal with honest and straightforward people. Virgo ain't one of them. I'll take aries over virgo anytime. So, learn your lesson, lick your wounds, you'll be fine, you're strong.
There's this quote that reminds me of dealing with virgos (male or female):
"You can't argue with an idiot. He'll drag you down to his level and beat you with experience!"
Now, it's not that I think virgos are stupid, far from it! It's just that most of the time they have no idea how their words and actions affect other people. And when you point it out to them, immediately they try to blame sth. or someone else, probably you, for misinterpreting things, when in fact it's not even a blame game, it's just you, trying to get your point across.
Out of all the signs, virgo (followed closely by libra) men are the most talked/written about in relationship department. Which brings me to think they're the problem and not the women who complain about them.
Are all of your responses immediately sarcastic and actually unrelated to what was said?
and, are you a Virgo? bc you come off as if someone is attacking you.
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Posted by themilkyway36Yes I agree, they tend to move on quite quicklyPosted by CurlyAriesThey drag you along? From my experience with Virgo's they just leave or stop talking to you if they're done.
Virgo men will drag you along bc they're too pussy to let you know they're done or the mere fact that they're scared. They string you along, simultaneously pulling away so much so that they do it until they have the least possible amount of care in them, and they just still drag you along and make you feel like you have the problem.... they project their own self hatred onto you.
They really can be quite evil in the most passive way.
Of course not all, I know some very lovely Virgo men that I truly adore. But I came across a bad seed, he really did me dirty in the only way a Virgo could do it and master it--complicated and indirect. Complete mental and emotional manipulator. He has Virgo sun, Gemini moon, Libra venus.. i don't remember much else. The Virgo sun, Gemini moon combo is a killer... honestly I think his Asc. is in Gemini too *rolls eyes*
Letting go of trying to make a friendship work... learning my lessons and taking responsibility on my part for not ending this bullshit sooner. I thank God I never gave myself to that shit bag, but I do still wish him happiness. I'm internalizing a lot of pain from him, I know this. He'll get his karma, whatever it is, good or bad. I don't care anymore, at least not as much. Trying to master the art of letting him go, completely.
I guess this was just a rant. Any thoughts or experiences on Virgo men are definitely welcomed of course. Shoutout to all of the honest, straightforward, loving, caring, and compromising Virgo men out there.
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Also, nobody can be *dragged* along unless they choose to do so
We have to look at our own behaviour too
Posted by MyStarsShineYeah it can be easy to move along with someone if they're purposely trying to drag you along, because you're hoping inside that something will happen. I don't blame people for feeling that way though, things can get complicated and blame thrown around when two people both are wishy-washy with each other/play games, or non-communicative.Posted by themilkyway36Yes I agree, they tend to move on quite quicklyPosted by CurlyAriesThey drag you along? From my experience with Virgo's they just leave or stop talking to you if they're done.
Virgo men will drag you along bc they're too pussy to let you know they're done or the mere fact that they're scared. They string you along, simultaneously pulling away so much so that they do it until they have the least possible amount of care in them, and they just still drag you along and make you feel like you have the problem.... they project their own self hatred onto you.
They really can be quite evil in the most passive way.
Of course not all, I know some very lovely Virgo men that I truly adore. But I came across a bad seed, he really did me dirty in the only way a Virgo could do it and master it--complicated and indirect. Complete mental and emotional manipulator. He has Virgo sun, Gemini moon, Libra venus.. i don't remember much else. The Virgo sun, Gemini moon combo is a killer... honestly I think his Asc. is in Gemini too *rolls eyes*
Letting go of trying to make a friendship work... learning my lessons and taking responsibility on my part for not ending this bullshit sooner. I thank God I never gave myself to that shit bag, but I do still wish him happiness. I'm internalizing a lot of pain from him, I know this. He'll get his karma, whatever it is, good or bad. I don't care anymore, at least not as much. Trying to master the art of letting him go, completely.
I guess this was just a rant. Any thoughts or experiences on Virgo men are definitely welcomed of course. Shoutout to all of the honest, straightforward, loving, caring, and compromising Virgo men out there.
Also, nobody can be *dragged* along unless they choose to do so
We have to look at our own behaviour too
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Posted by themilkyway36Posted by CurlyAriesThey drag you along? From my experience with Virgo's they just leave or stop talking to you if they're done.
Virgo men will drag you along bc they're too pussy to let you know they're done or the mere fact that they're scared. They string you along, simultaneously pulling away so much so that they do it until they have the least possible amount of care in them, and they just still drag you along and make you feel like you have the problem.... they project their own self hatred onto you.
They really can be quite evil in the most passive way.
Of course not all, I know some very lovely Virgo men that I truly adore. But I came across a bad seed, he really did me dirty in the only way a Virgo could do it and master it--complicated and indirect. Complete mental and emotional manipulator. He has Virgo sun, Gemini moon, Libra venus.. i don't remember much else. The Virgo sun, Gemini moon combo is a killer... honestly I think his Asc. is in Gemini too *rolls eyes*
Letting go of trying to make a friendship work... learning my lessons and taking responsibility on my part for not ending this bullshit sooner. I thank God I never gave myself to that shit bag, but I do still wish him happiness. I'm internalizing a lot of pain from him, I know this. He'll get his karma, whatever it is, good or bad. I don't care anymore, at least not as much. Trying to master the art of letting him go, completely.
I guess this was just a rant. Any thoughts or experiences on Virgo men are definitely welcomed of course. Shoutout to all of the honest, straightforward, loving, caring, and compromising Virgo men out there.
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No. They string you along. I wish it was like you said, though.
Posted by CurlyAriesIve learned people don't really change. And they certainly don't change if you keep giving them more chances to keep fucking up. Stay strong and deny him entrance to your life. He will respect you more and if anything it'll help catapult him towards change himself.Posted by LadyNeptuneI am a p-ussy. Trying not to be anymore.Posted by CurlyAriesPosted by LadyNeptune3 months. I've known him 5 years now. It's like when I agree to be friends, he pulls away but when I'm sick of it and don't try anymore (like he does) he has an issue and wants me back in his life.... p-ussy
How soon after meeting him did he tell you he loved you?
Or are you the pussy for letting him back into your life each time...?
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Posted by EarthgoddessWhenever I put myself forward and expressed I would love to be with him, he backed away. He knows that I always saw him as who I wanted to be with, but I've always known to not rush a committed relationship. But so much time has passed and the friendship has been an on and off strain for most of it.... well, I have just discovered that he has a girlfriend (again) he just throws me to the waste side for fun. I'm done trying to figure him out, he's not even man enough to speak to me with truth. There's no maybe's. I'm ending it now, with silence.Posted by CurlyAriesClearly this virgo has a thing for you if he "always contacts you" while ur ignoring him, or not reciprocating contact. This seems tough. I really believe the understanding between an Aries and a virgo is non existent.Posted by CherrylipsThank you for articulating this in the way that I couldn't. This is exactly how I feel. It seems so hard to get my point across, no matter how I say it to him and it's frustrating.
OP, I like to deal with honest and straightforward people. Virgo ain't one of them. I'll take aries over virgo anytime. So, learn your lesson, lick your wounds, you'll be fine, you're strong.
There's this quote that reminds me of dealing with virgos (male or female):
"You can't argue with an idiot. He'll drag you down to his level and beat you with experience!"
Now, it's not that I think virgos are stupid, far from it! It's just that most of the time they have no idea how their words and actions affect other people. And when you point it out to them, immediately they try to blame sth. or someone else, probably you, for misinterpreting things, when in fact it's not even a blame game, it's just you, trying to get your point across.
Out of all the signs, virgo (followed closely by libra) men are the most talked/written about in relationship department. Which brings me to think they're the problem and not the women who complain about them.
I'm determined to be done and just ignore him whenever he decides to contact me next. Knowing him, he always does.
They( aries) either come of as playfully interested or ice cold to me. All the while saying how much they like/love you. Im sure the issue here is confusion. Virgo wonders if ur genuinely interested in him? Or if u just love the challenge? Wat would you say or think if i asked to move our friendship toward a relationship? Virgo isnt comfortable putting themselves out for rejection when aries already said they were interested in friendship.
Idk if most Aries in these situations are having the same feelings. From ur post it seems u are.
Move on this will always be the problem ( understanding)
Dnt respond to him at all and virgo will lose love interest and move on as well. As long as there is a strand of maybe in a virgos love interest. We tend to linger?
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Posted by CurlyAriesThis doesn't sound like an Astro aka Virgo thing.Posted by LadyNeptune3 months. I've known him 5 years now. It's like when I agree to be friends, he pulls away but when I'm sick of it and don't try anymore (like he does) he has an issue and wants me back in his life.... p-ussy
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You may be dealing with what they call in psychology a love avoidant.
Love avoidants -
1. Evades Intimate and Emotional Connection
In romantic relationships evading intimacy and getting too close emotionally is the name of the game for a love avoidant. Emotional intimacy is a vital component of healthy relationships. Intimacy involves allowing oneself to ‘be known’. Intimacy is about trust, vulnerability, sharing reality of self, communicating wants and needs, as well as expressing genuine feelings and emotions. When there is authentic love, intimacy is at the core of that love.
Yet, intimacy and emotional closeness is the love avoidants greatest fear. Because of early childhood experiences, they learned to associate intimacy with engulfment, suffocation and being controlled. So the closer you try to get to your partner- their response is not to reciprocate, but to distance and run. Instead of healthy boundaries to protect their sense of space and themselves (something intimacy also requires), they use thick emotional walls- that makes intimate connection impossible.
They are emotionally like a turtle that repeatedly pulls into his/her rigid shell when one attempts to get too close and connect emotionally. You may get occasional glimpses of his/her real self, openness, or vulnerability-- only to see them retreat once again behind their walls.
As your relationship progresses, you notice a complete change in your partner’s attitude. A "complete about face" occurs. Your partner is notably different from the person you first met.
In the initial part of addictive relationships, the love avoidant exhibits an illusion of intimacy, caring, and connection. They form an immediate attachment idealizing their love addict partner. They come on strong and appear charming, strong, stimulating, caring, generous, and devoted - (all seductive maneuver's). Then the relationship moves forward and soon enough the true colors of the love avoidant emerge. The charm, attention, and seductiveness go out the door- no more! The seemingly once available “magical” person you fallen for becomes cold, devaluing, and disengaged.
Invariably, you try to give more, do more, be more romantic, or try to make things as they were. There is a pursuit of keeping the fantasy alive in order to recreate the euphoria experienced in the beginning of the relationship. And the toxic dance is in order. It is at this phase when a love avoidant is carrying out many of their strategies to avoid (3rd sign-next).
3. Uses Distancing Strategies to Avoid Intimacy and Closeness
You eventually feel a shift in your partner’s attitude. You sense your partner is not really ‘showing up’ in the relationship. And it is true- because a love avoidant is busy with their behavioral or emotional distancing strategies which are used to impede closeness and squelch intimacy.
For example, the love avoidant will compulsively focus outside the relationship. Instead of seeking intensity in the relationship, they seek intensity outside the relationship with the use of various behaviors and distractions (i.e., staying very busy with activities, hobbies, internet, partying, gardening, gaming, playing sports, shopping, spending all their time volunteering, or much more time with friends or family, etc.).
Some will use the distancing strategy of “no commitment” and never fully commit to the relationship. They may say, “I love you, I care about you, I want to be with you, but I’m not quite ready for a relationship.” They may use the distancing tactic of avoiding ‘I love you’, and make excuses for why they do so. They may avoid physical closeness (i.e., not wanting to have sex, or share the same bed; or avoid touching or caressing; hugging, kissing or holding hands; walking ahead of you or at a distance, etc.).
Another strategy commonly used to sabotage intimate connection is by creating a lot drama in the relationship such as starting arguments, or constantly complain about you, people, the world, or grumbling about their personal problems they never seem to resolve. They may sabotage closeness by criticizing, judging, being condescending, being passive-aggressive, attacking, lying, making threats, even by being accommodating (in certain situations) without being honest.
With a partner using strategies to avoid intimacy and closeness- a healthy loving relationship is unattainable.
Posted by CurlyAriesYou nailed it when you said the Virgo Sun, Gemini Moon combo is a killer....
Virgo men will drag you along bc they're too pussy to let you know they're done or the mere fact that they're scared. They string you along, simultaneously pulling away so much so that they do it until they have the least possible amount of care in them, and they just still drag you along and make you feel like you have the problem.... they project their own self hatred onto you.
They really can be quite evil in the most passive way.
Of course not all, I know some very lovely Virgo men that I truly adore. But I came across a bad seed, he really did me dirty in the only way a Virgo could do it and master it--complicated and indirect. Complete mental and emotional manipulator. He has Virgo sun, Gemini moon, Libra venus.. i don't remember much else. The Virgo sun, Gemini moon combo is a killer... honestly I think his Asc. is in Gemini too *rolls eyes*
Letting go of trying to make a friendship work... learning my lessons and taking responsibility on my part for not ending this bullshit sooner. I thank God I never gave myself to that shit bag, but I do still wish him happiness. I'm internalizing a lot of pain from him, I know this. He'll get his karma, whatever it is, good or bad. I don't care anymore, at least not as much. Trying to master the art of letting him go, completely.
I guess this was just a rant. Any thoughts or experiences on Virgo men are definitely welcomed of course. Shoutout to all of the honest, straightforward, loving, caring, and compromising Virgo men out there.
Had a life long, very dear friend, do exactly what you described to me. Pulled me in, made me feel as if our friendship was important to him as it was to me, said all the right things, invited me to a function with him, then pushed me away without any answers.
I've been at a loss for several years about this. But I'm starting to think you're analysis about them pushing their self hatred on you is correct. They project their insecurities onto you, but in doing so, they act as if nothing is wrong. It makes you question if you did something to offend them; the reality is, they are the one who purposely undermined the relationship. I truly think they are obsessed with self sabotaging relationships. It's beyond anything I can comprehend.
I reached out, but nothing. And yes, they manipulate with emotions. And they love it when you tell them about yourself, but in return, they won't share anything personal. It's like they live their lives in a state of perpetual walls to protect their deepest secrets and fear if anyone finds the truth about them.
I miss my friend because we were close. But honestly, anyone whose willing to treat a life long friend or anyone in a serious relationship in the manner you were treated and what I experienced isn't worth the time of day.
They can spend years analyzing this or that and finding faults of loved ones. I would rather spend my time with people who truly care about me and I them. People who are honest and have integrity as my husband. Thank God he's not a Virgo. As you said, not all Virgo's are bad people. But I've interacted with enough, especially VM, to know that I don't have the tolerance for their passive aggressive BS! They will bring you down one way or another.
Posted by EarthgoddessNo one wants to be ignored, I sure don't. That's why I NEVER ignored the Virguy I'm talking about. I don't ignore anyone for that matter. And when it comes to ending it, I have ended it a few times before. I told him how I felt and that I was done. But always, a few months later he comes back, giving his script with all-the-right-things-to-say. And I always end up giving him another chance after he's convinced me enough to let him at least try. And he takes advantage each time. So I'm FINALLY after 5 years, going to focus on me just as much as you Virgos like to focus on you. Him, I'll be ignoring because he doesn't deserve my time anymore. It's taken me 5 years to become this person with him. I wish it could be different but it's OKAY to be THAT selfish in certain situations. His selfishness is on a whole other manipulated level. I'm done. His form of selfish ignoring is cowardly, like a lot of Virgos. My form of selfish ignoring is out of strength. Strength to love myself enough to not let him hurt me because that's all he's done.Posted by CurlyAriesUnderstandablePosted by EarthgoddessWhenever I put myself forward and expressed I would love to be with him, he backed away. He knows that I always saw him as who I wanted to be with, but I've always known to not rush a committed relationship. But so much time has passed and the friendship has been an on and off strain for most of it.... well, I have just discovered that he has a girlfriend (again) he just throws me to the waste side for fun. I'm done trying to figure him out, he's not even man enough to speak to me with truth. There's no maybe's. I'm ending it now, with silence.Posted by CurlyAriesClearly this virgo has a thing for you if he "always contacts you" while ur ignoring him, or not reciprocating contact. This seems tough. I really believe the understanding between an Aries and a virgo is non existent.Posted by CherrylipsThank you for articulating this in the way that I couldn't. This is exactly how I feel. It seems so hard to get my point across, no matter how I say it to him and it's frustrating.
OP, I like to deal with honest and straightforward people. Virgo ain't one of them. I'll take aries over virgo anytime. So, learn your lesson, lick your wounds, you'll be fine, you're strong.
There's this quote that reminds me of dealing with virgos (male or female):
"You can't argue with an idiot. He'll drag you down to his level and beat you with experience!"
Now, it's not that I think virgos are stupid, far from it! It's just that most of the time they have no idea how their words and actions affect other people. And when you point it out to them, immediately they try to blame sth. oeone else, probably you, for misinterpreting things, when in fact it's not even a blame game, it's just you, trying to get your point across.
Out of all the signs, virgo (followed closely by libra) men are the most talked/written about in relationship department. Which brings me to think they're the problem and not the women who complain about them.
I'm determined to be done and just ignore him whenever he decides to contact me next. Knowing him, he always does.
They( aries) either come of as playfully interested or ice cold to me. All the while saying how much they like/love you. Im sure the issue here is confusion. Virgo wonders if ur genuinely interested in him? Or if u just love the challenge? Wat would you say or think if i asked to move our friendship toward a relationship? Virgo isnt comfortable putting themselves out for rejection when aries already said they were interested in friendship.
Idk if most Aries in these situations are having the same feelings. From ur post it seems u are.
Move on this will always be the problem ( understanding)
Dnt respond to him at all and virgo will lose love interest and move on as well. As long as there is a strand of maybe in a virgos love interest. We tend to linger?
Question for curiosity sake- why end it with silence? Why not wait until he calls then calmly tell him u will not be taking his calls or continuing your friendship? Why leave any room for him to guess? then ignore him once youve said ur peace. I have always found this a cowardly trait in aries.
But since i have ram girl here i thought id ask
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Posted by Adreamuponwakingwhat you wrote is very good! was that your original thought or did you copy and paste? in any event, thanks. great read.Posted by CurlyAriesThis doesn't sound like an Astro aka Virgo thing.Posted by LadyNeptune3 months. I've known him 5 years now. It's like when I agree to be friends, he pulls away but when I'm sick of it and don't try anymore (like he does) he has an issue and wants me back in his life.... p-ussy
How soon after meeting him did he tell you he loved you?
You may be dealing with what they call in psychology a love avoidant.
Love avoidants -
1. Evades Intimate and Emotional Connection
In romantic relationships evading intimacy and getting too close emotionally is the name of the game for a love avoidant. Emotional intimacy is a vital component of healthy relationships. Intimacy involves allowing oneself to ‘be known’. Intimacy is about trust, vulnerability, sharing reality of self, communicating wants and needs, as well as expressing genuine feelings and emotions. When there is authentic love, intimacy is at the core of that love.
Yet, intimacy and emotional closeness is the love avoidants greatest fear. Because of early childhood experiences, they learned to associate intimacy with engulfment, suffocation and being controlled. So the closer you try to get to your partner- their response is not to reciprocate, but to distance and run. Instead of healthy boundaries to protect their sense of space and themselves (something intimacy also requires), they use thick emotional walls- that makes intimate connection impossible.
They are emotionally like a turtle that repeatedly pulls into his/her rigid shell when one attempts to get too close and connect emotionally. You may get occasional glimpses of his/her real self, openness, or vulnerability-- only to see them retreat once again behind their walls.
As your relationship progresses, you notice a complete change in your partner’s attitude. A "complete about face" occurs. Your partner is notably different from the person you first met.
In the initial part of addictive relationships, the love avoidant exhibits an illusion of intimacy, caring, and connection. They form an immediate attachment idealizing their love addict partner. They come on strong and appear charming, strong, stimulating, caring, generous, and devoted - (all seductive maneuver's). Then the relationship moves forward and soon enough the true colors of the love avoidant emerge. The charm, attention, and seductiveness go out the door- no more! The seemingly once available “magical” person you fallen for becomes cold, devaluing, and disengaged.
Invariably, you try to give more, do more, be more romantic, or try to make things as they were. There is a pursuit of keeping the fantasy alive in order to recreate the euphoria experienced in the beginning of the relationship. And the toxic dance is in order. It is at this phase when a love avoidant is carrying out many of their strategies to avoid (3rd sign-next).
3. Uses Distancing Strategies to Avoid Intimacy and Closeness
You eventually feel a shift in your partner’s attitude. You sense your partner is not really ‘showing up’ in the relationship. And it is true- because a love avoidant is busy with their behavioral or emotional distancing strategies which are used to impede closeness and squelch intimacy.
For example, the love avoidant will compulsively focus outside the relationship. Instead of seeking intensity in the relationship, they seek intensity outside the relationship with the use of various behaviors and distractions (i.e., staying very busy with activities, hobbies, internet, partying, gardening, gaming, playing sports, shopping, spending all their time volunteering, or much more time with friends or family, etc.).
Some will use the distancing strategy of “no commitment” and never fully commit to the relationship. They may say, “I love you, I care about you, I want to be with you, but I’m not quite ready for a relationship.” They may use the distancing tactic of avoiding ‘I love you’, and make excuses for why they do so. They may avoid physical closeness (i.e., not wanting to have sex, or share the same bed; or avoid touching or caressing; hugging, kissing or holding hands; walking ahead of you or at a distance, etc.).
Another strategy commonly used to sabotage intimate connection is by creating a lot drama in the relationship such as starting arguments, or constantly complain about you, people, the world, or grumbling about their personal problems they never seem to resolve. They may sabotage closeness by criticizing, judging, being condescending, being passive-aggressive, attacking, lying, making threats, even by being accommodating (in certain situations) without being honest.
With a partner using strategies to avoid intimacy and closeness- a healthy loving relationship is unattainable.
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Posted by GC01so i take it you've experience the wonderful virgo passive aggressive crap too? it's annoying as hell, isn't it? i'd rather be confronted to my face and hear things that he didn't like about me than be a total wuss pulling the PA BS.
Virgos passive aggressive nature drives me up the wall.
I prefer the types that are closer to Leo side of Virgo because their more upfront when something bothers them and aren't so not picky and bothered by everything.
Honestly, the last time I had to deal with so much PA crap was in Jr. High years ago. For a grown man to act this way is beyond pathetic.
Posted by CherrylipsReally? I thought it was Virgo and Scorpio men who were most talked/written about. ??♀️ Not trying to start anything, I just always thought Scorpio men were most popular
OP, I like to deal with honest and straightforward people. Virgo ain't one of them. I'll take aries over virgo anytime. So, learn your lesson, lick your wounds, you'll be fine, you're strong.
There's this quote that reminds me of dealing with virgos (male or female):
"You can't argue with an idiot. He'll drag you down to his level and beat you with experience!"
Now, it's not that I think virgos are stupid, far from it! It's just that most of the time they have no idea how their words and actions affect other people. And when you point it out to them, immediately they try to blame sth. or someone else, probably you, for misinterpreting things, when in fact it's not even a blame game, it's just you, trying to get your point across.
Out of all the signs, virgo (followed closely by libra) men are the most talked/written about in relationship department. Which brings me to think they're the problem and not the women who complain about them.
Posted by FknNerdLol and what do you mean by "stuff like this" ?
Cardinals should stick to cardinals. Mutables dont give af about stuff like this 😆
Posted by CurlyAries
They string you along
and they just still drag you along
You sound like you seriously lack intuition. The fact that you are so easily played ... you even used the word "still" to insinuate that after knowing you're a fool, you are still up his ass.
He's probably laughing his ass off ... I know I would be if I had a woman who cannot even manage to know her own worth.
Fucking Gemini placements ruining everything. 😆
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