I'm in love with my Virgo but he dumps me.

I'm a Scorpio and was dating a Virgo man for 9 yrs, we faced a lot of ups and downs. I was his first everything, after the 9 yrs he said he doesn't love me anymore and leave me for an 18 yr old. He is 29 and I'm 28. The girl broke up with him after 3 months and he came back to me, when we started to date I told him I was still needing time apart because I felt like he was rebounding me, however everything went too fast too soon, sex with great but he was constantly bringing up our relationship and we encountered some arguments, I knew I need space from him to continue grow myself and for him to also face his feelings. He agreed to my suggestion and said as long as we dont date other people and I was cool with that. Before this had a chance to occur. 2 half months, however I end it this time reason being because he says he is confuse about what he wants. He says he likes me, he find me attractive but our loved died. And he keeps thinking about the other girl. And curious to know how another woman feels,thinks and treats him. The young girl is a Leo, I feel hurt by this all.

After asking him some questions, he message me this,

"We killed our love and relationship now it's not something that will just come back to life. I told you when I was a virgin and never held any woman except you before you were my everything. I was let loose and now I can't stop think of something better with another woman, giving her a chance and see what she does with my heart so I don't go back to you with a thousand what ifs and regrets."

And also send me this.

"I don't want to hurt you but I don't want to keep feel like I am now. I stopped caring for you and it was fear and cowardliness of being alone that brought me back. Not that you are not worth it but I wanted someone else. If my lesson is to be brutally hurt emotionally then so be it. I don't want to use you as protection that is not love. I don't want to do that "



"I guess so as painful as it is yes the love died and we want different things now. Maybe after I satisfy my curiosity and desire for freedom that's when I will miss what you say you want to give me. But I still feel that your love comes with a price of restriction of too many things you feel the need to control. I sense you trying to put a leash on me again a prettier leash with a longer chain but still under your control. I hate that feeling"

I hate that he thinks I want to continue control him. I told him we both need to grow, he need to set up is boundaries just as I need to set mine, and to up our standards. showing our resume to each other and see if we can either accept what the other person beings, compromise or move on. however I told him we need time to dig within ourselves especially me so that I can grow. in the previous relationship we both hurt each other and I told him I forgiven him for some of the stuff he said and do but he said he have not forgive me yet and someday he will.



I do love this man so much and I hate that he no longer loves me and I am just wondering about this all. Although he mentions all of this he says he is still progressing our previous relationship and it's a tough decision for him to go into the world on unknown and waking away from me. I am working on transforming myself into a healthier person because I do want a healthier relationship, not because if him I am changing but for my own well being. I know too well if I don't change my ways all my future relationships will burn. So I honestly wanted some space to work on myself but my Virgo male seem to be more interested in this girl and I ask him if he says a relationship down the road with her a future with her and he replied no. I asked me if I can wait for him and then analysis again and said it wasn't fair and not right for him to wait for him. I am so very confuse by this all, and I hate being confuse which is why I end it.

Do Virgo men ever forgives because I feel like he will never forgive and for me I do feel he might just want to explore with this girl and if it doesn't work out then might come back to me. I feel so hurt by these actions. from your point of view of Virgos what should I do? I mean I do love him but I don't want him to be in and out of my life either because this will make it the second time he leaving. Well he ever truly want to come back to create a healthier relationship? At first I wanted to wait for him but his words are so painful, I will try to move on. does he really doesn't love me one even care? it hurts very much. When I told him the kind of life or relationship I want he says he doesn't trust my words and I told him he doesn't need to, real change doesn't needs words. I truly craving for a better and healthier relationship but my Virgo man doesn't seem like he wants to give me a chance will he ever? I am not doing my transformation just for him in anyway but for my own empowerment and my future relationships whether dating him or not. Please complain all these confusion to me because he telling me he needs time along to think and decide what he will do.

Okay, let me put myself in his shoes since I know how to respond. He was a virgin and all he had was you. I like to utilize this metaphor: He ate at Pizza Hut and noticed Dominoes, Papa John's, etc. He was sooo tired of Pizza Hut he went next door and tried Dominoes. He wanted to explore his having "another" woman, so he chose an 18 year old. This Leo (18 year old chickie) had HER friends tell her constantly, "What do you see in this old man?" (Yeah, to them, a 29 year old man is an OLD man); she was so embarrassed she dissed him for someone her own age. Can you imagine that they (the Leo) & your ex didn't have the same lingo, taste in music, taste in movies, etc., that the Leo knew they were not compatible that's why she dissed him?

NOW, what you posted was that you took him back and realized you were his rebound and STILL had sex with him. Why? Why does this whole entire universe ALWAYS, ALWAYS, always, always!!! Always have the woman go back to their exes? My God!!!!! When it's over for me I NEVER take any of my exes back!! You're now hurt. They say words cut like a knife! You see his texts and it's hurting you.Cannot you see you were HIS 2nd choice? I am NO man's second choice! Another metaphor I have: "When I throw out my trash on trash day and I see the dump truck picking up my trash, I DO NOT run after said truck yelling, 'I want my trash back!!'" (get the meaning?). If you don't here goes: I dump the guy and I don't take him back!! 😡

I don't know what else to tell you other than "good luck"

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

PS: Eva keeps shaking head.. THIS GENERATION OF YOUNG CHICKIES!!!!

move on with your life

As much as it hurts thank you all for responding. I have learned my lesson the hard way of what destroy a relationship. And I definitely learn now not to take an ex back. He was the first person I loved in this way and had a long term relationship with. I will grieve my losses and continue improving myself. I still hope to date another Virgo one day not my ex. I do love the stability of a relationship. I guess I didn't want to accept his words and needing feedback sigh thanks. I am wounded but I hope to find the strength to move on with my life too.

LOL he will be back once he realizes the grass ain't greener on the other side. Just be sure you remind him HE CLOSED THAT DOOR and don't you look back. But by the time he tries to run back you should be completely over him. IF a strong IF he thinks you are "the one" for him he need to propose and marry you because 9 years is too long.

jfc

how many 9 years do you have in your prime?

i see many women made the mistake of not letting go and wasted their prime years. when you don't get a commitment in 6 months and a best friend in a year, leave and find a real love

you must have a low self esteem to be able to want to keep going when he clearly told you he does not care or love you anymore. learn to love yourself first

All I can say is that you are strong, Scorpio's are one of the most strongest signs in the zodiac and as much hurt you are going through you will grow and transform into a better person. Letting go is the hardest part, but you get through it. You have to let go. Feel free to go into darkness and shut down and tend to your emotions with acceptance. Go through depression, go through loneliness. You will be revived from the ashes as a stronger person. After all, every time Scorpios go through pain they transform to become stronger. It's ok to feel what you are feeling, but don't wait for him or try to control the situation because that will not change the outcome. Concentrate on healing and then developing yourself when you find the strength.

I can't believe I read that entire thing buttt to sum it all up, your Virgo was very direct with u , he made it clear that he still cares by being that direct with u .. but as he said the love has died on his end ..as harsh as this may sound , I don't blame him for wanting to explore .. he Needs that & is telling u he needs that .. u guys aren't "meant to be anymore" it will never be the same again , u will have 9 years of memories u will never forget .. learn to be single for now , try your hardest not to go back, lm sorry ?