Damnata
@Damnata
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virgo switches roles. decides to care. or not to?
Posted by airespisces
So for the next 3 days I kept refusing to meet. "wow..you re that busy you didnt have time for me in 3 days?". I did..I just wanted to punish him.
I left to work that day thinking he ll call me later to hang ..he didnt. a day went by two... nothing. then a week. I texted him asking what s going on?
he said he realizes how busy I am and he didnt want to disturb. Never heard from him ever since.
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE VIRGOS!!!! 😄
I would've handled it the same way I swear.
"Oh I see you're so busy. Poor little you..I'll give you all the space in the world"
*laughing maniacally*
"Oh I see you're so busy. Poor little you..I'll give you all the space in the world"
*laughing maniacally*
IS CAP TESTING ME/US/THIS?
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...did I mention I LOVE VIRGOS—
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Posted by airespisces
Anyway we were good after I explained like you said that I would never do anyone else if im doing him.
...did I mention I LOVE VIRGOS—
Posted by Damnata
I would've handled it the same way I swear.
"Oh I see you're so busy. Poor little you..I'll give you all the space in the world"
*laughing maniacally*
See now, here's where Virgo & Scorp are somewhat familiar...I wouldn't waste a second of energy, after her selfish tantrum (and I'd bet my house she let him know she was screwing the Cap in there somewhere for good measure), I would have simply left the next day never to be heard from again.
Scorpios vanish..Virgos crack some jokes and then vanish.
Yeah, I can see that.
Yeah, I can see that.
Posted by airespisces
.... the flight was 12 hours plus jet lag ....
:::: raises eyebrows ::::
Eventhough you realize this ... you act like a spoiled brat anyway, who didn't get her way!
Your little attention game (in which juveniles play) didn't work. In fact, it backfired on you, and now you lost it all .... all because you couldn't handle acting like a respectful, understanding adult.
You're not pitied ... you made this fucking bed all by yourself.
Now lay in it and weep
Posted by LetltBPosted by Damnata
I would've handled it the same way I swear.
"Oh I see you're so busy. Poor little you..I'll give you all the space in the world"
*laughing maniacally*
See now, here's where Virgo & Scorp are somewhat familiar...I wouldn't waste a second of energy, after her selfish tantrum (and I'd bet my house she let him know she was screwing the Cap in there somewhere for good measure), I would have simply left the next day never to be heard from again.click to expand
same, zero energy would have been wasted.... I need help with my laugh Damnata.....
OP, are you 12?
@AriesPisces....
From my experience with Virgos, you may want to avoid attempting to get a rise out of a volcano that lies dormant pretty much of the time.
Here lies your dilemma,
You took a nonchalant approach to a budding romantic relationship but expected to be considered first priority with the benefits of an exclusive relationship.
You can't have it both ways. These signs may be mutuable, but they're still pretty much very grounded.
I doubt anyone is judging you. If you want to play the field, knock yourself out.
Just don't throw tantrums like a two year old when the FWB reminds YOU of your position and reaffirms his stance by keeping you at an emotional distance.
If you prefer to take it slow with no committments attached, just stop assuming the role of the crazy overbearing vengeful girlffriend.
The two of you are not exclusive.
From my experience with Virgos, you may want to avoid attempting to get a rise out of a volcano that lies dormant pretty much of the time.
Here lies your dilemma,
You took a nonchalant approach to a budding romantic relationship but expected to be considered first priority with the benefits of an exclusive relationship.
You can't have it both ways. These signs may be mutuable, but they're still pretty much very grounded.
I doubt anyone is judging you. If you want to play the field, knock yourself out.
Just don't throw tantrums like a two year old when the FWB reminds YOU of your position and reaffirms his stance by keeping you at an emotional distance.
If you prefer to take it slow with no committments attached, just stop assuming the role of the crazy overbearing vengeful girlffriend.
The two of you are not exclusive.
Posted by Damnata
Scorpios vanish..Virgos crack some jokes and then vanish.
Yeah, I can see that.
LMAO +3
Tauruses with Gemini Moons...
Quietly observe, ponder, crack some jokes, and then vanish.
Changing our minds will be like moving a volcano.
Please read closely.
It was a 12 hour flight. He wanted to surprise you. He fell asleep. He apologized. He kept communication lines open.....
Posted by airespisces
but by the time I got to his place..he fell asleep. this is his uncle's house in my city where he would stay while here, but I had no code to get in and got no answer from his phone. As the flight was 12 hours plus jet lag I assumed he was asleep..but I got really mad. when he woke up he begged me to forgive him and I said I m really upset that 1, he didnt tell me he was coming I could have planned my week with him. 2, he fell asleep within 15 minutes meaning he didnt even care about seeing me.
The flight was 12 hours. He wanted to surprise you. He fell asleep.
It was a 12 hour flight. He wanted to surprise you. He fell asleep. He apologized. He kept communication lines open.....
Posted by airespisces
but I got really mad. when he woke up he begged me to forgive him and I said I m really upset that 1, he didnt tell me he was coming I could have planned my week with him. 2, he fell asleep within 15 minutes meaning he didnt even care about seeing me. So for the next 3 days I kept refusing to meet.
You on the other hand, played vengeful games, took a passive agressive approach, and didn't keep communication lines open.
Now he's reciprocating your behavior...
And allegedly labeled the 'childish one.'
I comprehend very well, what I stated did relate to you and your Virgo.
I'm noobody's fool.
Stop playing the victim with this nonchalant, carefree, go with the flow attitude, your lack of emotional maturity makes you socially inept to deal with the Big Dogs.
You're not about that life. You're not there yet.
Posted by airespisces
my question is why cant ppl just act normal and have fun? it would all be so easy. after 2 year of knowing someone they should be able to communicate and either move on or keep having fun. the disappearing part is .... turn offf........
You played games with him how did you expect him to react? He's just giving what he got from you.. You are not acting like an adult from your own words nor where you mature in how you handle it.
Say we don't understand all you want but we are reading it loud and clear! 🙂
Posted by Ixion120
I won't mirror the game you play though, I will leave, you stated the result, I stated the result...that above behavior is the case when not in a vested relationship.
This ^^^^
The OP was hoping for some tension, some fire, but tried to misrepresent it as a means for wanting open communication.
This is a Virgo Board, AriesPisces...
A Virgo will know and understand the difference.
Posted by airespisces
I decided: I will call him and see what his side of the story is. its not worth leaving it up in the air. will post after i talk to him
Prediction: Goes to voicemail and stays in the air.
Posted by airespisces
A week later I get a phone call. he was in MY town. Said he wanted to surprise me. I went to see him immediately, but by the time I got to his place..he fell asleep. this is his uncle's house in my city where he would stay while here, but I had no code to get in and got no answer from his phone. As the flight was 12 hours plus jet lag I assumed he was asleep..but I got really mad. when he woke up he begged me to forgive him and I said I m really upset that 1, he didnt tell me he was coming I could have planned my week with him. 2, he fell asleep within 15 minutes meaning he didnt even care about seeing me. So for the next 3 days I kept refusing to meet. Finally we met... intense amazing all that jazz. He did mention "wow..you re that busy you didnt have time for me in 3 days?". I did..I just wanted to punish him.
And how did that work out for you?
Posted by LetltBPosted by airespisces
I decided: I will call him and see what his side of the story is. its not worth leaving it up in the air. will post after i talk to him
Prediction: Goes to voicemail and stays in the air.click to expand
LOL.
AriesPisces, you may want to reconsider this....
Scorpios have the gift of foresight.
Posted by airespisces
Exactly what I wanted, Taurus, a Virgo male s opinion on this. although I appreciate yours too, I do think you are throwing words like "big dogs" and "emotional maturity" and accusing me, and although entitled to do whatever you please, I will refrain from starting an argument with you on what you or I lack. again, we dont know each other and your assumptions are far from my reality. also you judge me based on a paragraph the story is longer, but no one has time for that now. So...
I wasn't throwing insults.
I just wanted to make you aware of how you were coming across.
If it's a FWB, respect and honor the set up.
You worked yourself up over nothing.
Keep in mind, you're not permanent.
Which makes you dispensible.
He's not obligated to play into it or return your phone calls.
If you want it to transform to a blossoming relationship, avoid passive aggressive patterns of behavior and learn to communicate like an adult.
If you really like him...it's OK...stop pretending as if you're aloof or disconnected from the whole thing.
No one will judge you for falling for a FWB. Shit happens. Just own it.
Nearly every time you make a post, it contradicts another one .... liars loose all credibility.
I see you struggle with getting people to take you seriously .... good luck with not caring that you lack integrity.
*lose
Posted by airespisces
You re takiking it way to serious.
Says the woman who went 'batsh&t' crazy when she was stood up. Then created a batsh*t contradictory thread to support it.
Posted by P-Angel
Nearly every time you make a post, it contradicts another one .... liars loose all credibility.
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AMEN.
Posted by airespisces
So I called him. It was 2 am in his country he picked up..one hour conversation. Surprised to hear from me...we talked about everything. Tryingvto be short: he said he was getting too involved and didnt want to get hurt. Said im too cold and act aloof while he was falling. That when i avoided him for 3 days he realised i have my own life and could be doing anything and he s scared to think about that. we re long distance and its hard. We never hanged more than a few days at a time so he decided to come for 3 weeks to spend more time...but freaked out at what will happen after. He regreted it after but didnt know how to approach me...thought ill never talk to him again. Great convo..honest. we miss each other but yeah. I didnt want awkardness between us. I wanted fun. So i get why he pushed me..it was to protect him so all good. He was honest and happy we talked so thanks guys you helped me clear the air.
Oh and cheers to the Lady of Bath for sharing her interesting experiences....
But sorry to disappoint you on this one...
The most recent Canterbury tale you expressed in this post....never happened.
lol@ hiding all your messages
weak peeps.
weak peeps.
ah-ha-ha-ha
Do people not realize they look more the fool by hiding their own thread than if they just left it alone.
Posted by LetltBPosted by airespisces
So for the next 3 days I kept refusing to meet. "wow..you re that busy you didnt have time for me in 3 days?". I did..I just wanted to punish him.
I left to work that day thinking he ll call me later to hang ..he didnt. a day went by two... nothing. then a week. I texted him asking what s going on?
he said he realizes how busy I am and he didnt want to disturb. Never heard from him ever since.
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LOL I guess you "showed" him...LOLLLL!
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