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Virgo/Taurus Relationship
Thanks for your response. I guess it's a bit of the virgo in me to "size him up", and see if he meets my standards.
Underneath it all I know he's a good guy, and means well but it seems as though we have this love/hate relationship going, and I want it to me more intimate. He loves to give me a hard time, and he can be quite sarcastic. I can be pretty sarcastic as well, but I feel there's a time and place for it. It's almost as if he's sizing ME up.
He's recently divorced, and I question whether or not he's really ready for another committed relationship. He insists that he is, yet it seems like he's still clinging to something that isn't there. I don't know if it's her, or the memories, or if it's all just the way it went down. Either way, I feel a bit awkward because I'm coming into this with a fresh start, open mind, and ready for something new, and it seems as though he's starting something new with me, but not quite finished with what was. I know that comes along with the territory, but I can't help but want to feel special.
He also does this thing where he'll tell me things, and look for a reaction. For instance, he'll tell me about activities he's involved in, and say things like 'if you want to be with me, this kind of stuff comes with the territory'.
Another confusing thing is he'll talk as if he's planning out a future where both of us are together, yet at times when I say the word 'we', he'll say 'is there a mouse in your pocket?' lol. So confusing.
I know...maybe I'm just over analizing as I do ALL THE TIME with EVERYTHING..but I can't help but wonder if I'm wrong for having these feelings?
I know men and women approach relationships differently to begin with, and I try to keep that in mind, but I can't help but feel that I'm right. 🙂
Underneath it all I know he's a good guy, and means well but it seems as though we have this love/hate relationship going, and I want it to me more intimate. He loves to give me a hard time, and he can be quite sarcastic. I can be pretty sarcastic as well, but I feel there's a time and place for it. It's almost as if he's sizing ME up.
He's recently divorced, and I question whether or not he's really ready for another committed relationship. He insists that he is, yet it seems like he's still clinging to something that isn't there. I don't know if it's her, or the memories, or if it's all just the way it went down. Either way, I feel a bit awkward because I'm coming into this with a fresh start, open mind, and ready for something new, and it seems as though he's starting something new with me, but not quite finished with what was. I know that comes along with the territory, but I can't help but want to feel special.
He also does this thing where he'll tell me things, and look for a reaction. For instance, he'll tell me about activities he's involved in, and say things like 'if you want to be with me, this kind of stuff comes with the territory'.
Another confusing thing is he'll talk as if he's planning out a future where both of us are together, yet at times when I say the word 'we', he'll say 'is there a mouse in your pocket?' lol. So confusing.
I know...maybe I'm just over analizing as I do ALL THE TIME with EVERYTHING..but I can't help but wonder if I'm wrong for having these feelings?
I know men and women approach relationships differently to begin with, and I try to keep that in mind, but I can't help but feel that I'm right. 🙂
Wow- you're good!!
And that's why the color yellow makes me sad 😢 lol!
Yes, I can definitely see your point, and thank you so much for that input. It's especially helpful to get a man's advice on the issue.
Now how would you say I stand up and nip it in the butt? When he says things that are manipulative, such as the territory comment, or so forth- how should I respond without being tactless or cruel?
He has this way of saying what he wants without necessarily attacking, yet it somewhat feels that way?? I thought it was just me being emotional, or reading into it too much.
And that's why the color yellow makes me sad 😢 lol!
Yes, I can definitely see your point, and thank you so much for that input. It's especially helpful to get a man's advice on the issue.
Now how would you say I stand up and nip it in the butt? When he says things that are manipulative, such as the territory comment, or so forth- how should I respond without being tactless or cruel?
He has this way of saying what he wants without necessarily attacking, yet it somewhat feels that way?? I thought it was just me being emotional, or reading into it too much.
Great advice Mr. 2 & 5. Seriously, let me know when you write that book.
@ ss - I have never had a relationship with a bull so I apologize that I can't give you advice from that angle. Perhaps CLNCY30 can. However, as a fellow virgal, I would like to say that I too went through a similar situation with a Cancer and now I wish I would have excercised option 1 that Decan laid out to you which is to confront the manipulation head on. I instead excercised option 2 in an effort to take the high road and remain above the situation because I could simply never be that ruthless. Like you, I constantly overanalyzed the situation and eventually it began to take a toll on me emotionally that I eventually jumped ship (and in only the way a Virgo can). I did regret just leaving like that but not because I was thinking of what 'could have been' but because now I realize that I should of stood up for myself (manipulation is essentially a bullying tactic).
Talk to him openly and tell him that you will not put up with his games and that you will like some clarity on where you stand, and if he's serious about you, I can bet a cow's ass that he will straighten up and begin to make a conscious effort to work on himself and the way in which he communicates with you. Even if it doesn't work out in the end, at least you will be able to rest well knowing that you didn't allow a man to send you into a psychological/emotional tailspin. Talking to him upfront might also give you better insight to what lies beneath the manipulation.
@ ss - I have never had a relationship with a bull so I apologize that I can't give you advice from that angle. Perhaps CLNCY30 can. However, as a fellow virgal, I would like to say that I too went through a similar situation with a Cancer and now I wish I would have excercised option 1 that Decan laid out to you which is to confront the manipulation head on. I instead excercised option 2 in an effort to take the high road and remain above the situation because I could simply never be that ruthless. Like you, I constantly overanalyzed the situation and eventually it began to take a toll on me emotionally that I eventually jumped ship (and in only the way a Virgo can). I did regret just leaving like that but not because I was thinking of what 'could have been' but because now I realize that I should of stood up for myself (manipulation is essentially a bullying tactic).
Talk to him openly and tell him that you will not put up with his games and that you will like some clarity on where you stand, and if he's serious about you, I can bet a cow's ass that he will straighten up and begin to make a conscious effort to work on himself and the way in which he communicates with you. Even if it doesn't work out in the end, at least you will be able to rest well knowing that you didn't allow a man to send you into a psychological/emotional tailspin. Talking to him upfront might also give you better insight to what lies beneath the manipulation.
Dating a Taurus guy now.
Bottomline, I heard that Taurus Fem/Virgo male, and Virgo Fem/Taurus male go good together. I heard that Virgo Fems don't get along with Taurus fems, and Taurus males don't get along with Virgo males.
My mother is a Taurus, stepfather a Virgo, and they don't work at all. They're still together, but don't work at all. If I had to guess why, I'd say they're WAY too stereotypically bad examples of their signs, lol (my mother is INCREDIBLY stubborn, and loud, and gaudy, and acts ignorant most times--my stepfather is a self-proclaimed know it all, stick-in-the-mud, preacher, stubborn as well, hermit, workaholic).
The Taurus guy I'm seeing now is so romantic 🙂 even his little text messages to me during the day are sweet (a little kinky, but my body belongs to him so it's perfectly fine with me 😉 ) I can see where he puts this wall up because he's scared of being used/taken advantage of by people, but I'll nuzzle his neck, and keep kissing him until he breaks, and blushes, he's so cute! And I listen to him, truly listen. I LOVE a man who communicates with me. We'll just lay there together sometimes watching tv, and stare over at each other occasionally and pay each other compliments and we can tell that the other has a hard time accepting "you're cute" or "you're so sweet" or "you mean so much to me", but we're working through it together, and it's nice to be at the same pace instead of too far ahead or behind 🙂
I think the pairing can work if both can pull back from being TOO stereotypically Virgo or Taurus.
Bottomline, I heard that Taurus Fem/Virgo male, and Virgo Fem/Taurus male go good together. I heard that Virgo Fems don't get along with Taurus fems, and Taurus males don't get along with Virgo males.
My mother is a Taurus, stepfather a Virgo, and they don't work at all. They're still together, but don't work at all. If I had to guess why, I'd say they're WAY too stereotypically bad examples of their signs, lol (my mother is INCREDIBLY stubborn, and loud, and gaudy, and acts ignorant most times--my stepfather is a self-proclaimed know it all, stick-in-the-mud, preacher, stubborn as well, hermit, workaholic).
The Taurus guy I'm seeing now is so romantic 🙂 even his little text messages to me during the day are sweet (a little kinky, but my body belongs to him so it's perfectly fine with me 😉 ) I can see where he puts this wall up because he's scared of being used/taken advantage of by people, but I'll nuzzle his neck, and keep kissing him until he breaks, and blushes, he's so cute! And I listen to him, truly listen. I LOVE a man who communicates with me. We'll just lay there together sometimes watching tv, and stare over at each other occasionally and pay each other compliments and we can tell that the other has a hard time accepting "you're cute" or "you're so sweet" or "you mean so much to me", but we're working through it together, and it's nice to be at the same pace instead of too far ahead or behind 🙂
I think the pairing can work if both can pull back from being TOO stereotypically Virgo or Taurus.
I've known a Taurus Man to Virgo Woman relationship.
The Virgette is bipolar and smoked, she was prone to lying and compromising the truth in favour of peace. They broke up eventually and she kept bouncing between exes after.
While they were together though, they seemed genuinely happy. The longevity is just up in the air.
The Virgette is bipolar and smoked, she was prone to lying and compromising the truth in favour of peace. They broke up eventually and she kept bouncing between exes after.
While they were together though, they seemed genuinely happy. The longevity is just up in the air.
Posted by CLCNY30
Dating a Taurus guy now.
Bottomline, I heard that Taurus Fem/Virgo male, and Virgo Fem/Taurus male go good together. I heard that Virgo Fems don't get along with Taurus fems, and Taurus males don't get along with Virgo males.
No waaaay, my best friend in the whole wide world is a Taurus dude! Actually I lie, we aren't really friends, we're more like family! ^_^
My other really good friend is a Taurus female. We're pretty much always together, so much so that people think we date. We've fooled around a few times and care for each other a great deal. I'm sure if we dated that it would work out pretty well, I just don't feel like it and neither does she lmao! 'sides, I've got my hands full with a lovely lioness right now anyway ^_^
While this isn't a romantic relationship, my older brother is a Taurus (technically a taurus-gemini cusp). He is my absolute best friend and we get along beautifully. He can definitely be stubborn, but he's a genuinely good person and if anyone can make me laugh or put me in a good mood, it is him.
Posted by oldskoolflavor
How come you have wings grafted on your back ?
Because I'm not really an angel, I just pretend to be 😉
But seriously- I think I might have given off the wrong initial impression about this man. I really do believe he means well, and if he's manipulative it's not intentional. He doesn't pick fights with me, or look for faults in my behavior. I think what it boils down to is that he suffers from a low self-esteem from his past experience, and doesn't know how to really act in a relationship. That, and that he's a man, and doesn't read into things the way I do. I could be wrong, but that's how I'm reading the situation at current.
I can definitely see us as really good friends, and there are times when I even question if he's psychic because he can read my mind so well- but like I said before I am a bit perplexed by his on again/ off again nonchalant attitude, and his round about ways of asking me where I stand in this relationship. He's not very good at vocalizing his feelings, and I don't think he knows how. On top of all that, I think he just doesn't want to be hurt again.
I appreciate everyone's input, and knowing how other virgos relate to taurus is a big help! 🙂
Posted by 25thDecan
Was with one(lived together) for 3yrs. Dated one for 3 weeks and another for a month. Deleted on after one day. Those women are/were (like me at that time, except for the last one) possessive, mentally abusive, prone to being physically abusive, maladjusted and petty. Those were their bad qualities. Good qualities were well the one I wanted to marry was that she COULD be kindhearted, silly, affectionate, protective and creative. Even when abusive...neither of any of them would tolerate anyone else who would antagonize someone they're close too. But, none of them were just alike...even in looks. Get to know your guy through intimacy and reciprocity. THAT will answer any questions. Don't "size him up"....be with him. You make less mistajes that way.
SHUT THE F*CK UP B*TCH!!!! *SMACK✨
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but seriously,you have to take other aspects and placements in to consideration.I've always been possessive,but that other shit is not like me at all.
I'm a little ray of sunshine. 🙂
"Those women are/were (like me at that time, except for the last one) possessive, mentally abusive, prone to being physically abusive, maladjusted and petty. Those were their bad qualities. "
oh,I beg your pardon.didn't sound unique to me.... 😉
you in a mood? wanna fight? 😛
The question was on Virgs and Taus,and I just wanted to point out there is more to it than that.
Age is a factor as well.
*poof*
oh,I beg your pardon.didn't sound unique to me.... 😉
you in a mood? wanna fight? 😛
The question was on Virgs and Taus,and I just wanted to point out there is more to it than that.
Age is a factor as well.
*poof*
blah blah farggin blah....
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you really fought the system hard to get your point across to me,huh? lol
😈
you really fought the system hard to get your point across to me,huh? lol
Hi Taurusdreamer,
Thank you so much for your reply. I love getting a taurus perception on the situation, especially from a male point of view. I also appreciate everyone else's input, and please- there's no need to quarrel. 😉
We're all on here to learn and appreciate one another, and I've been learning a lot from both the virgo and taurus boards.
I really do care for this man, and I think what makes me the most nervous is the fact that he poses a challenge. I am usually very instintual, and can read other's so keenly that they don't even have to open their mouths. On top of that, I remember EVERYTHING what was said or gestured, and for once I find it so frustratingly difficult to read this man! I don't know if it's my emotions that are clouding my judgement, or if he's just really good at keeping those walls up.
I think time is the best option, but being a virgo/scorpio I want answers and I want them yesterday. lol! I can tell I'm definitely going to have to put in a lot more effort into this with a lot more patience and persistence than I have in the past.
I've never had to work so hard to get a male's full blown attention. (I'm a venus in leo by the way- so that attention means A LOT to me.)
I really want this to work out, and I think you're right, taurusdreamer- it's going to take time. I just hope too much time doesn't fly by before he gets out of that scary-cat frame of mind, and comes for me. (Don't mean to sound like a damsel in distress, but I'm old school & I need to hear/feel that "I want you, I need you" etc.)
Thank you so much for your reply. I love getting a taurus perception on the situation, especially from a male point of view. I also appreciate everyone else's input, and please- there's no need to quarrel. 😉
We're all on here to learn and appreciate one another, and I've been learning a lot from both the virgo and taurus boards.
I really do care for this man, and I think what makes me the most nervous is the fact that he poses a challenge. I am usually very instintual, and can read other's so keenly that they don't even have to open their mouths. On top of that, I remember EVERYTHING what was said or gestured, and for once I find it so frustratingly difficult to read this man! I don't know if it's my emotions that are clouding my judgement, or if he's just really good at keeping those walls up.
I think time is the best option, but being a virgo/scorpio I want answers and I want them yesterday. lol! I can tell I'm definitely going to have to put in a lot more effort into this with a lot more patience and persistence than I have in the past.
I've never had to work so hard to get a male's full blown attention. (I'm a venus in leo by the way- so that attention means A LOT to me.)
I really want this to work out, and I think you're right, taurusdreamer- it's going to take time. I just hope too much time doesn't fly by before he gets out of that scary-cat frame of mind, and comes for me. (Don't mean to sound like a damsel in distress, but I'm old school & I need to hear/feel that "I want you, I need you" etc.)
Sorry! Just noticed your female, not male. *slapping my forehead now*
Either way, it's great to get a taurus response. 😉
Thanks again!!
Either way, it's great to get a taurus response. 😉
Thanks again!!
Posted by 25thDecanPosted by BellatheBull
blah blah farggin blah....
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you really fought the system hard to get your point across to me,huh? lol
Yes. LOL
Now disrobe and let's make up.
*wifey number two always wants to fight....sighclick to expand
Wifey number two my butt...I'm a TAURUS mister! you know we don't take a backseat to no one! 😛
SS,I would love to contribute,as I love Virgos.but I seem to have an affliction with them in the romance department.anything more than friendship apparently terrifies them where I'm concerned. :/
have some great friends though. 🙂
have some great friends though. 🙂
LOL!! Yeah I can see how Virgo's can come off as scared to get 'involved'. I think we are like taurus' in that sense- we watch, research, and analyize the other person to such an extent that it can be exhausting. Then we wait, and wait, and wait some more until we're sure. At least, that's my experience as a Virgo, but then again I do have scorpio mixed in my chart a lot, so that could be part of it.
I think it can be difficult for a virgo/ taurus relationship because we relate so well to one another. As friends, it's great because we share so many points of view, and our outlooks are similar. Yet, in a relationship, (especially in the beginning) we're constantly sizing eachother up, and neither side will back down and open up until the other does. I think that's what I'm facing now with my bull.
He did say to me the other night that he really appreciated me seeing him this weekend, and that made my day! I played it off nonchalantley- but I slept good knowing he was happy I was there. See what I mean? I don't know why it's so hard for us to really open up to one another, and let our guard down.
I think it can be difficult for a virgo/ taurus relationship because we relate so well to one another. As friends, it's great because we share so many points of view, and our outlooks are similar. Yet, in a relationship, (especially in the beginning) we're constantly sizing eachother up, and neither side will back down and open up until the other does. I think that's what I'm facing now with my bull.
He did say to me the other night that he really appreciated me seeing him this weekend, and that made my day! I played it off nonchalantley- but I slept good knowing he was happy I was there. See what I mean? I don't know why it's so hard for us to really open up to one another, and let our guard down.
That's right Bells, numbah two, harruuuuuuuuumph. And NEVAH!
Ahhh and sweet? Was married to a Virgo for 13 years lady, thought I'd drop that one in the ol' think tank there. 😉
Really now? And did you find it difficult initially?
Initially difficult sweets? No, we were friends at first, and it all fell into place rapidly and naturally it seemed. It was later on in the game actually. Which is why I stress communication often and get up on a soapbox about it.
LOL 25th, I'm sure wifey 1 would appreciate the whip.
LOL 25th, I'm sure wifey 1 would appreciate the whip.
Taurus people are best pre-baggage, my opinion.
My experience with Taurus women is that, they became intrinsically warped as they are screwed over more and more, more so than any other sign, until perhaps they reach a plateau of clairvoyance, perhaps in their late 30s or something.
I dumped a Taurus girl of 23 years old, because I realize how badly she was manipulating and abusing me.
Next girlfriend and current is an Aries-Taurus, and she is only 18 (ya im robbin the cradle) but that manipulation which was born from mistreatment and defense mechanisms gone wild havent developed yet, so it's been everything and then some.
With your Taurus, I'd suggest analyzing their actions, and not cutting them slack, challenge them and if they stubborn it up, then boot them out. Those who you don't have to do that to, will be the keepers. Taurus can and will walk over you, if you let them, and chacnes are you won't realize it until it's over.
My experience with Taurus women is that, they became intrinsically warped as they are screwed over more and more, more so than any other sign, until perhaps they reach a plateau of clairvoyance, perhaps in their late 30s or something.
I dumped a Taurus girl of 23 years old, because I realize how badly she was manipulating and abusing me.
Next girlfriend and current is an Aries-Taurus, and she is only 18 (ya im robbin the cradle) but that manipulation which was born from mistreatment and defense mechanisms gone wild havent developed yet, so it's been everything and then some.
With your Taurus, I'd suggest analyzing their actions, and not cutting them slack, challenge them and if they stubborn it up, then boot them out. Those who you don't have to do that to, will be the keepers. Taurus can and will walk over you, if you let them, and chacnes are you won't realize it until it's over.
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