Virgoans and security :) (Page 2)

Vulnerable yes, cause I'm still the one who needs security from time to time, but I'm not hurt by it anymore, as I see things from him in his actions instead of what he's saying.

I can relativize things more, and that's not bad for a Pisces 😉

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Little update on my virguy...he finally opened up a bit on the phone today..sigh..

I text him out of the blue today just to say I was happy with him 🙂 He called me just yet and we talked for over 1,5 hours just as we did in the beginning. He asked me if it was ok with me, him going to a dance party with his friends. I asked why he needed to ask, and he said "cause you're my girl and I have to ask if it's ok with you". Ok that's sweet that he reckons me. I talked about his distancing from me from time to time, and that I have a hard time dealing with the feeling of being left hanging. He understood, and knew I couldn't smell if he needed his time alone. It isn't meant personally, he's unaware of it. On my end i told I can live with the fact he needs his space, and I'm happy to give him his space, but he needs to talk to me and say what he wants and needs from me, just like I need to do too.

He told me he was scared to talk to me, cause he never talked with his ex, and after 3 years of being single it's hard for him to have someone in his life again, and have again some responsibillity to a person. I totally understand where he's coming from. I'm scared to talk to him to, cause in my past relationships, my exes ran away. I told him I was scared he would run away if I opened up to him, and he assured me he wouldn't. We went to fast from the beginning, and we now have to take small steps to not break the line. We both want this to work, he honestly said he wants to work for us, and we'll have to see where this brings us too. I told him that I'm dead serious to make this work, cause I feel my feelings for him are growing everyday. Like he said that I'm right, that feelings need to grow.

At least I now know he's serious about me and us, and it makes me more relaxed. I'm optimistic again, and actually I'm proud of my virguy he talked to me, when it isn't in his nature to open up. Eventhough I'm not seeing him much this week, I hope he'll have a great day with his mates, and that the talk has comfort him in a way too...

OK the update wasn't little, and actually the relaxed feeling after being so tensed is giving me a headache lol but I can't wait to hug my virguy tomorrow again and make it the best 24 hours we can have 🙂

Security to virgos is like air. We simply have to have it. Can't live without it. In terms of relationships, we need to trust, trust, trust, and trust some more. We have 'walls' that you have to break through, but once you do, you won't be disappointed because we are loyal, nurturing and extremely giving. Patience is key with us because we want to be secure in our feelings and the feelings of our partner. We also need security/stability as far as pragmatics are concerned. We are pretty emotionally stable people who would rather not deal with the messy world of emotions but when the right person comes along and if they are able to gracefully stir up our often latent pools of passion, we can light up a bonfire with just the touch of a finger. We like our independence but we can also be homebodies and would normally prefer to spend a quiet evening at home with the one we love, versus having a night out on the town. Security to us is a feeling, but equally knowing that there is order on the material plane. We like people who are responsible (because we often are) in money, time, housekeeping, family, friends etc. We are very business-minded folk in that everything is like or can be like a job for us. We are extremely methodical and we have a certain surgical approach to everything. Even love. Our head often rules our hearts and not the other way 'round that's why when we meet someone who can awaken our emotions, we sometimes act a fool (damn you cancers and pisces...LOL!). Provided that you get a rather evolved, secure-in-him-or-herself virgo, then you will see that the love will be pure and steady. No fooling around. We are not game players and once we're in, it's usually for life.

Posted by Candeh15
I have my venus in leo, so security also means, "Hi, acknowledge my presence in your life, don't ignore me, and give me at least a little of your time every day."

You have also said it's not uncommon to not be seen for a week. Does this mean when you need your space? Do you withdrawal? If so, are you in need of your significant other to give you his time as mentioned in the quote above, even if you may have withdrawn?

This entire thread has been enlightening because I, too, am intrigued with my Virgo, but I'm having a hard time figuring him out. He has withdrawn due to to job issues...even warned me on several ocassions thzt he gets this way (withdrawals) and assured me it has nothing to do with me...with a promie he'd be back to normal soon. I have sent him a quick email every couple days just saying Hey I'm thinking about youy and i hope you're oka! But Ive gotten no replies to those. He did email me telling me he wanted to see me this past weekend, but I never heard from him. I'm so confused!

Thanks to everyone for your input here....you all seem like such great people...genuine in helping those who seek it.