Virgos and 'The One'

Guys & Gals - do you think Virgos are mor elikely to meet someone and pursue then in the intention that they are the "One"?

I think we are the sign most prone to do this?

What;s your experience?

Have you done it before?

I am a crab and I do the exact same thing. My moon sign is virgo though, maybe that explains...

I think Virgos do do that.... pursue with a passion, however, then once they "capture" or once the other person reciprocates... then Virgos back off, distance, become "strangers" WTH—? What's up with that—?? Are they so afraid of where their EMOTIONS/FEELINGS (i.e., pursuit) took them that they can't continue and seal the deal? Or at least have the relationship continue or go further, why do they all seem to end it, or cool it down, or whatever.... I mean other signs might behave similarly, but not like that... Virgos just don't respond after awhile and then your left wondering what the H is going on with them? Other signs i think at least explain or something....

maybe cause they really and truly didn't give a flying flip. maybe it's just for experience..then they just move on. hehe

on the other hand, it could be that they're born brain damaged.

I can't ever decide which of the two is right.....hmmmmm

lol

You have to know yourself and what you're looking for out of life. You have to be true to yourself first. And then take your time with him. Don't get to close but close enough to let him know that you care. Yes they will back away but they have to think about things they plan things out, Before they get back into it. My guy done me the same way and then the other night he told me why.. He was scared he want to make sure things are great for me beacause he want to give me so much. That mean alot knowing that. Please have patient we all need that esp for ourself.
soft

I agree with brahn on this?couldn't have said it better..!!

For once you are —..NOT..!

Take it as compliment?!

Excitements perhaps?

Virgos never fall for the idiots... but they are easy to cheat in to their realms when Virgos are ready to make an understandable Images of fools? what we produce as ultimate lover in our mind is that what we want to believe and ultimately love, not the person in front of us clearly cheating on us... !(Huge sense of forgiveness causing us to ignore the facts that we are already aware of).

He/she could be as ugly as monkey? but the image we produce in our mind of that crap is important? (self deceiving processes)..

I've said it before? love will always starts in the mind of Virgos, not in their heart..!!

Nobody can fool Virgos but the Virgos themselves...

correcting...

"what we produce as ultimate lover in our mind is that what we want to believe as ultimately love"

If you manage to capture the Virgo's mind.. you'll have him/her for life time..!

Really? Well, I'll keep that in mind when I hopefully meet another Virgo in this lifetime. The Virgo mind is very interesting to say the least in my opinion.

Good luck with it.. its not easy to capture?!

Believe me I know it. It's very challenging. I get a little insight about once a month.

Fishes and us? and the similarities..??


hummm...


No way...!

when you perceive someone as a liar or someone who is naive and stupid, it's only because what you give in is not the whole truth itself. there are no liars and stupid. everything are all in the mind whether you accept it or not. only unconscious.

garbage in garbage out.

you will see that your partner is faithful, truthful and loyal because you know that you are the same, but if you see your partner just the worst and wrong person for you then sad to say they will eventually turn out to be.

jeez what a mad house is it on this board, somebody kick me pls. *lol*

a person can never be the right one for you unless you make them the right one for you even if you don't know the reasons why.

aloha.
I have my eye on a virgogirl. she seems so solid & stable. Truely sincere in her actions. she glows this incredible energy/vibes. sexy like a hot geek.
amazing personality and gets along with everyone. most important to me is that she HAS principles and morals. Which our generation LACKS incredibly. Her standards are high and focus's on her future family/maternal responsibilities. Very rare. Also, Virgos are extra amazing when raised correctly.

Just a thought.

Female virgos help an aries win over his dream girl.
any tips are greatly appreciated.

Aloha

Mauicountry

Hi Maui....Do-Make her laugh. Do compliment her down to earth yet sexy style . Do have firelit nights with good food and conversation. Take her places she's never been, with different cultures accented. Light tasteful incense and fresh candles. Listen to her financial advice. Be interested in the things/people/animals/art/literature etc.. that she is interested in.
DO NOT: Twist her words to mean what you want
DO NOT: Put her down and then say "I was only kidding"
DO NOT: Lie (she'll read it no matter how good you are at it)
DO NOT: Tell her you love her unless you are willing to back it up through making it through the tough times as well as the good.
DO NOT: Take her gentle kindness and little servings of compassion for granted. (She will never promote herself here but she DOES want thanks).
DO NOT EVER: CHEAT (Unless you plan on saying goodbye for good)
DO: Tell her she's the only one...do all you can to increase her security in you. After all she made you her choice, and she likes to make the right choices. LOL

I totally agree about the Virguy, initiating things and then when you respond to them, they back off. WTF!!! I don't get it either. This happen to me with the last 2 Virguy's that I have shown interest in. The first one initiated things with me and showed interest and we even dated for a while then, he backed off because he said I was too good for him. This last Virguy well, he showed interest first and even asked me if I would date someone like him. Well, at the time I really wasn't even thinking about him that way and then well, I started too. We went out a few times and he wanted to take it slow then, he started going too fast, then he backed off and said he wanted to wait for things to be finacially better for him and now nothing is going on except for the stares that we engage in and a few texts and phone calls but, nothing about us. Basically, I wasn't looking at him that way a first, then he showed interest (alot of interest) I show interest back, and he backs away so, I told him I don't want to play these games and I'm getting too old for this crap and I don't want to deal with his mix messages so, we are better off just being "Just Friends". Not sure if he was Ok with that but, I am just not up to being a YO-YO anymore. I think that I am way too drained right now to date anyone anyways. Virguys are so emotionally exhausting that I think I need a break from dating for a while.

Aloha.
This is it. People. NEED A CRASH COUSRE IN female VIRGO.
Any tips. Usually take her to brunch. I want to let it all happen naturally but the first step should be taken by who, I know us Aries are on fire and its never a problem except for "the ONE". "DA KEEPER". Whole different story.Now.
She is the ONE. The question am I————
HELP.
PLEASE.
MAHALO.

Ohh? sure? someone please give this Aloha guy some magical spell to cast on..!


Love and relationships require honesty and rather some skills like (to HOW TO HANDLE)..!

If you don't have any skills and experience.. then prepare to suffer..! it is the only way you will learn what or how to do next..!!

Virgos don't pursue anybody, ppl pursue THEM! Initially, it may appear as though the Virgo is doing the pursuing. But he will pull back....wait and see...

I don't know what the hell the rest of you are talking about!



you're sooo cute. good thing i'm a virgal. 🙂

tell me what you brag about and i'll tell you what you lack. jeez

humility is an essential ingredient for growth, it prevents arguments, needs to be defensive and breeds respect. humility helps us remember that we have a great deal to learn.

No offense but, the Virgo Males that I have known are the most freaking unsteady emotional men I have ever known. They can drive you absolutly crazy if you care about them what so ever. They want it all. They act so shy and sweet and playful until you get to know them then they treat you like crap when you respond back. They pull away, they are rude, they don't show an once of caring for other people's feelings and they just move on like nothing ever happened in the first place and expect you to have a happy attitude when you see them and will ignore you if you don't. Why the heck do they think that they can treat people like that? It takes alot to piss me off but, I'm pissed now which is probably a good thing so I can stop putting up with this crap and stop being a doormat. I actually lent money to a Virguy and he promised to pay me back within a week and half well, it has been over two weeks. I saw him out last Friday night and asked about the money and he told me to be quiet and don't talk about business out and that I could call him the next day and talk about it. Well, then I asked him how things were going with his work and he started telling me......hah, then I said well, that was business and you had no problem talking about that. Then, I said makes sure you pay me back very quickly. I tried calling the next day but, of course he wouldn't answer. Then the following day I see him at league and told him that friendship is a two way street and it is give and take and not just take. I told him that I was mad at him and he told me I had no right to be. Well, BS I have every right to be and I told him to worry about paying me back. I will be civil but, I will never be his friend again. You don't treat your friends like trash and you don't hush them and come to find out he has done this to some of his other friends and he still owes them money but, yet they still stay his friend like it is no big deal while he has no problem blowing money on stupid crap. He doesn't even acknowledge that he owes people or even tries to pay them pack little by little. Who the heck wants a friend like that. Not Me. He will pay me back because I have set up business contacts for him and various of other things and I know Virgo's like their privacy and I'm a Sag and I'm pissed and if he doesn't start paying me back then people will know that I loaned him money which will make him look bad to others for taking money from a women.

"If you manage to capture the Virgo's mind.. you'll have him/her for life time..!"

been there, done that.....but it doesn't mean its WORTH the bullbutter you'll have to put up with! lol...

"pull away, they are rude, they don't show an once of caring for other people's feelings"

yeah that sounds more like the virgos I know......a throwback to old times indeed....medieval times. cold and emotionless, ruining a good thing by overthinking it, then acting on the WRONG conclusion come to by mis-information.

I just think I have had enough of being walked all over and I allow it to happen and today is my day of being totally fed-up. It's my fault for letting it happen in the first place. Yes, the ones I have met are apparently immature but, I seem to be clueless about it when I meet them. I'm too trusting and niave when it comes to relationships but, I am very untrusting of other people. I really need to stop doing that. I always think that people will be straight with me because I ask them to be and don't lie to me. They always tell me there deep secrets that I don't go sharing with the people they know and yet they still pull one over on me because I give a crap. You would think that by the time a male Virgo is in his 30's he would grow up. Don't live in a big city at all. Just bad judgement on my part. Now I have to figure out how to get my money back from him.

sweethearts and cancer i agree with you 100% -- they come on all sweet and pure and funny and smart and pursuing you, then when you reciprocate after awhile, it's i can't do a relationship, i can't leave her.... or whatever the situation... don't respond to txts, only answer phone when they want... mine told me it depends on what's going on in my life at the time, how i'm feeling -- in other words == how much he's analyzed the situation and if he feels comfortable talking to you, when before it was calling, txting,emailing.... it's just weird that they pull back when things get emotional.... you are right -- all their qualities -- it's not worth all their bullbutter -- because in the end it just comes across as cold, unfeeling, unemotional, stonehearts....

I just have to jump on the Virguy bashing band wagon. I never gone so deep into astrology as I have since I've dated my Virguy. All of our stories are the same, his give and take back behavior baffled me when we met 5 mths ago. I'd see him, have a great time, then no call or responds to my calls or texts, I thought is there someone else.. I ran to the internet to read as much as I could about Virgos, my best friend a female Virgo was even baffled about his behavior. When I came to DXP, I read many stories all with the same scenario. So much so I began to worry others were dating the same guy..LOL..

After 5 mths I've had enough, whats funny is when I dont contact, low and behold here he comes with a text or phone call.. I've also loaned my Virgo money, take that back given, I thought because he was going thru some things the money would help him out. One of my good friends told me a good, decent man doesnt NOT take money from a woman, I thought well things happen, yes we all go thru things but we have to think quick (well for a Virgo analyze quick), and take action. Drystr8z mentioned it was immature for the Virguy to take money even if it was a loan. So going forward my test to men that I will date if they seem to be in a bind, if I offer to help and they accept, I will run for the hills, like Forrest Gump..LOL On the serious side, as I think deeply Dyrstr8z is right I dont know if it's immature or lack of character, but either way is nothing positive..

Sorry just had to vent...

If you really think about it.....well, it's not the Male Virgo's fault. We are the ones that are attracted to them and we are the one's that allow these men to break down our barriers just so the can rip our hearts apart and we are the ones that go from being very strong and sane women to almost losing your sanity over these men. And for what—— Who knows, maybe it is that we are so drawn that we leave ourselves to be vulnerable and since they are men, alot of them are completely clueless of how much they hurt us and when they figure it out they retreat very quickly. They just don't understand the power that we allow them to give over our lives. We are emotional women and yes, Virgo's are very logical but, totally clueless most of the time. What we think would just be common sense well, they think otherwise. So in reality, it is our own fault for allowing ourselves to be involved with these men but, then again we just can't help ourselves. It's kind of when you think things are just too good to be true and you find out that you're right but, after you let your gaurd down. We need to learn to go with our instincts first and keep our gaurd up for at least the first 3 to 6 months period and if they retreat within that time then, you know they would of left you hanging and you won't be hurt because you didn't allow them in your heart.

wow, ya'll make it seem like virgos are just not worth the time of day.

I think some of them are worth it but, maybe not most of the ones that we are all talking about. It seems like we are all dating the same man. The ones that are worth it well, you probably really won't hear about them on here because the women are happy with them and aren't looking for answers or understanding from others. I know if I was in a happy relationship with a Virgo Male then, I wouldn't be trying to research more about his astrology sign of why he does what he does because I would just except who he is for him but, since the ones that I have met have drove me to become a little insane well, I started to research about it. Being in a relationship with a Virgo Male is what brought me hear in the first place. I still know a couple of Virgo Man that when you ask them if they are in a relationship with someone well, they tell me that they aren't dating anyone. I don't think the women that they are seeing even know this because they spend most of their time with these women and they act like they are a couple but, when you see these Virgo Man alone and ask them where their girlfriend is well, they tell me that they don't have one. So, if you are going to be with a Virgo Male, make sure that if you think you are in a relationship with him then you need to talk with him about it and make sure he is on the same page as you.

I think I'm just gonna stick with my intuition- they're not worth the time of day.
I could tell when I met this Virguy that he was bullcracking me. He had way too many random girls around him and when he talked to me, I lisdtened to him but I kept looking away like I wasn't interested. It worked, but I knew it was just a pursue and conquer game. They just attract way too many girls. I don't go after the ones with that many options..

oh well. poor me.

Well, I actually got a phone call from Virguy yesterday. He asked me why I was so upset with him. Well, I told him that I don't like to be treated like the way he did and I don't like being used and then, he appologized over and over again. I told him I wanted to know when he will pay me back and he said the end of next week. Do I believe him....uh...No but, if he does follow through great. If not, well I guess I have to figure something out. He told me on the phone yesterday that he is sorry and that this and that is going on and that he is so confused...blah.blah.blah.... I told him that he is not the only one that has problems and confused emotions going on and that he needs to think about more than just himself and be considerate to other's feelings. He appoligized more. He said that he didn't mean to hurt me and I was snippy and told him well, you did and you pissed me off and don't ever do that again. He said he would try to be more careful about how he treats me. Well, I think he is just being nice for now. He knows I have connections on finding him work for his business and of course he will probably stay somewhat nice because of that. I don't trust him at all now and he would have to show me that he is sincere and not just tell me. Only time will tell. I know that I don't ever want to date him again though. Don't need the rollercoaster ride no more.

What do you virgo men actually look for in a women.....

Sorry please ignore that meant to start new thread, don't ask me how i ended up here....

sweethearts - i'm glad he at least called and apologized, but yeah, i know what you mean.... how long will 'that' last and how sincere/true was it, really? i hope he follows thru and pays you back next week.... they need to stop analyzing so much then they would not be so confused....

good for you for getting off the rollercoaster....

isn't it so ironic that they think they are the confused ones on a rollercoaster, or so it seems, do they not really know/see/understand their behavior and how it comes across as rude, mean, unfeeling? or do they intentionally do it to keep us away - cuz they are afraid of the emotions/feelings we stirred up in them....

Message posted by: dyrstr8z on 12/12/2006 6:33:58 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.16

"I think what usually happens is that we fall in love with the good/charming side of someone (and when that happens, that person can do no wrong from that point on..)"

And, I think the younger VirGuy is on to something... Yeah, once we Trust a woman, we're goners - especially if she managed to fools us about who she really is...



OMG . . apparantly, I'm losing patience today because I tried to read through this thread and this is as far as I could get, without blowing a gasket. Who knows if anybody ever came back and put someone's ass on the line for this comment . . because I probably won't read any further . .

. . . how frigging inflated can Virgo's egos possibly get before you can't fit inside your house any longer, is my only fucking question?

If she's managed to fool us as to who she really is? Did you really say that? You did just say that right after you said, "fall in love with the good/charming side"

. . give me a break, Virgo's, who the hell do you think you are if YOU are the ones stupid enough to "usually happens is that we fall in love with the good/charming side of someone"

Dumbass SOB's for being so intelligent . . my GOD . . ok, a new lesson here must be in order . . so listen up . .

There's more than just one side to a person, want me to say it louder?

Fools, lol, hahahahahaha

Then have the balls to come back and say such an assinign assessment that she's tricked you?

Tricked you? ARe you serious? Dumbass, if you ONLY fall in love with ONE side of a person . . uh, dah!

Perhaps, it wouldn't be out-of-line to ask another question. Something to the effect of, "Why do you Virgo's always fool YOURSELVES by running head-on into stuff that sparkles?

But, wait . .

. . I have another question and this one is serious. I really want to know.

If it's true that the Virgo's partner HAS to be REAL . . how are you going to know if they're being real with you, or not, if you don't see them as who they really are because you can only see their good/charming side?

How do you know if someone is real with you, if you have blindness to an aspect of one's trait?

That is what you said, and Virgo's agreed.

Hypocrites . . I love it!

You have to be one to know one . . so, I can see real clearly . . that is what you meant because that is what you said.

lol, that's ok, I already know that Virgo's are easy once you wave something shiny in front of them.