Virguy + Aquagirl — Your thoughts?

As risk of being lynched for being interested in too many women (I'm single, okay, I can go on dates if I want!) I'd like to share my thoughts a bout an acquaintance that I just made...

Last Friday I had the chance to go on a date with an Aquarius girl. I accepted and we had a lovely evening together, so much so that we went out again on Sunday evening. We have been e-mailing and texting a lot since and seem to get on really well.

I know Virgo+Aquarius is supposed to be a disasterous combination, but then so is Virgo+Leo and I had a wonderfully harmonious 8.5 year relationship with a Leo. Similarly, Virgo+Taurus is supposed to be a great combination but the four relationships I??ve had with Taurus girls were incredibly hard work, drainingly anxiety-ridden and, ultimately, complete disasters. So I??ve come to the conclusion that it would be foolish to base my decision whether or not to enter into, or refuse, a relationship on the grounds of Astrology.

I??ve mentioned in other —Virguy??-related threads how shy and reserved I am, in particular having difficulty being physically spontaneous and tactile with women when I first meet them, but for some reason I totally forget myself with this Aquagirl and instinctively touch her and speak openly and honestly to her in a way I have never dared do with anyone else — it's almost as though I??d feel awkward stopping myself from doing these things. Normally I feel awkward doing them!!

I know that the Virgo+Acquarius combination can be hard work — my brother is an Aquarius — but I feel that if I can combine my need to be left alone sometimes with her need for freedom and independence, and when we are together we can capitalize on our shared capacity for deep thought and meaningful conversation, then this might just work! I know how to —manage?? my relationship with my brother so that we can get no well, and while a romantic partnership is a different thing altogether I believe I have cause for optimism.

Posted by machiavelli bull
Oh wow you dont waste your time hehe🙂🙂

Ha ha! Was waiting for that one!!... but I figured as my last relationship died long before it ended and didn't leave me emotionally scarred then I am ready enough to date a few girls and see if I can make something happen with one of them... and I just particularly like the person that I become when I'm with this Aqua!

Virgo man is enthralled by Aquarian girl's looks an intelligence.
He wants more but can never tell what Aquarian girl feels or is thinking.
Virgo man expresses emotions to which Aquarian girl does not respond or reciprocate in a way Virgo man likes.
Aquarian girl has difficulty giving the emotional security Virgo man needs.

My 2 cents.

I think that there are three female signs that get along with EVERYONE, that's Sag, Aquarius, and Libra. They can be compatible with absolutely everyone with what I have seen, they have a lot of love to give and freedom. They are very strong and intelligent. From what I have seen there gals get along with everyone and are attractive to everyone. There are three male signs that initiallly get along with everyone regardless of the outcome, that's Virgo, Libra, and Sagittarius. They are attractive to all and very romantic. Since both Virgo and Aquarius are in those categories it should be a pretty harmonious match? lol

haha he might not be, apparently from various posts Leos are hard to figure out but easy to get over. lol

Posted by machiavelli bullHey whatever makes you happy.But anyway you are still in love with your Leo ex.🙂

Well, I'll always love her, but some time you have to move on. It's like injuring yourself. Firstly you have to rest the injured limb, then you have to start using it to get it fit again. I think I'm in that second stage. There's still some pain but I have to get on with my life. She'll always be my friend, but she's never going to be my partner again, so why wait? When is the right time to move on?

Posted by sweat.lioness
haha he might not be, apparently from various posts Leos are hard to figure out but easy to get over. lol

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I'd say the opposite. She was easy to figure out, which is why I was so happy to get into a relationship with her, but very hard to forget, which is why being ejected from said relationship has proven so difficult.

Anyway, back to the topic... Virguy+Aquagirl?...

Ha ha! This girl is driving me crazy already. She'll text me endlessly but as soon as I send her a text asking when I can next see her she goes silent for hours and then finally replies with some spurious excuse as to why she can't. It's odd 'cause we had two great dates during which she showed great enthusiasm and since then the amount of texts and e-mails would suggest that she's really keen, but she's evading actually meeting me again!

Think I'll just find myself another Leo and be done with it!!!!!

Posted by virg_goki
recently dated one. all I have to say is the initial attraction is very strong! but later on.. it just fades or the different needs starts to surface

i second this. i dated aquas in the past and one for a long time.

not to say that it couldn't work. mine worked for years...

but you need to be a very VERY VERY laid-back and understanding virgo in order to let things flow. otherwise, if its not in you and you need more than that...it will turn into some on and off situation for a while, which can be fun, but also time-consuming...at least mentally :p

aquas are great as friends though, for what i have seen and observed, just make sure you have the basis of what you would both need to make a relationship work. some aquas seem to need time to get to the place where most people would like them to be at in a relationship...maybe yours will maybe she won't. evaluate things as they go or just go with the flow but don't put all your hopes at once.

abee

This combo could work...

I'm in a relationship with a Virgo fella...so far so good...
Yeah most of the time we view the world totally different from one another but that doesn't stop us...
Although there are times I feel as though I'm too strong for him...I haven't yet mastered the art of being a damsil in distress...

From my experience Aqua girls are amazing with us, between 20-25, and then over 35. Their age of course. Sadly, if your woman is between 25-35 - I would just do what you said "be done with it". If she comes back, so be it - but STOP pursuing her.

Posted by excess
From my experience Aqua girls are amazing with us, between 20-25, and then over 35. Their age of course. Sadly, if your woman is between 25-35 - I would just do what you said "be done with it". If she comes back, so be it - but STOP pursuing her.

She's 24.

It's very on/off, but this really doesn't suit me. I like consistency and predictability with a person, so I'm not sure how this is going to work. We first went out just about two weeks ago, on a Friday. Then we went out again two days later, on the Sunday. Since then we've just texted and e-mailed each other. I've tried to arrange another date with her but she's been evasive about it. Last weekend I gave up texting her because I just thought she wasn't interested as she would surely have wanted to see me if she was... but then when I did finally text her she said she thought I must have met someone else because I'd stopped speaking to her!!!!! We've been texting a lot since then but today I asked her if she wanted to go out Friday evening and she said she has plans... so I asked her if she'd be free Sat or Sun and she said she didn't know what she'd be doing as "it's only Thursday". Surely if she doesn't know what she's doing that means she has no plans... which means she can plan something with me? Either she's giving me the run-around or she's just sooooo on another planet that we can never, ever make this work! The problem when I'm treated like this is that I withdraw emotionally to avoid getting hurt, and once I've withdrawn my emotions from a relationship I feel like there isn't a relationship at all, and I just drift away altogether.

Well I did tell her we'll have to catch-up this weekend or I'm giving up. I can live without this sort of randomness!

Hi VirgoM20 ... I haven't commented on this forum in a long time. I tend to be the quiet reader/listener instead LOL. I've really enjoyed your commentary on this site. So, I thought, it was about time, I gave a little back 😉

I've been trying this put myself in her shoes to see what might be happening. I'm a Libra so I'm also an air sign.

Early on in the relationship cycle, I think I too have at one point in time been a little afraid to commit, or uncertain of a situation, and so I go quite.

I can be all open and communicative, but if I feeling unsure of my own feelings and emotions, I can be slow to commit to a follow-up date, even after a few. I don't want to appear too keen or eager, just in case the man isn't.

I don't think she is being intentionally evasive towards you.

I think it is more of an unconscious reaction.

I believe that by the time we get to share our experiences on these boards, it is always different from when we are actually in the situation of talking and texting. So, could she perhaps be leaving the door open for you to make a suggestion of doing something on the weekend? I know you said you had been blunt/direct, but everything is always open for interpretation?

Of, maybe, she is interested, but just hasn't made any plans for the weekend with her friends, and since you've only been on a couple of days, she is leaving herself open. Again, I know this may make her sound uninterested, but, I don't know, sometimes, I think as humans we play a little in order to protect ourselves.

I probably just confused you even more now (sigh).

What have you said to AquaGirl since via text?

It's funny hearing your impatience with an AquaGirl, when I've had to be so patient with a VirGuy — hahaha — you remind me a little of him.

Hi VirgoM20 ... I haven't commented on this forum in a long time. I tend to be the quiet reader/listener instead LOL. I've really enjoyed your commentary on this site. So, I thought, it was about time, I gave a little back 😉

I've been trying this put myself in her shoes to see what might be happening. I'm a Libra so I'm also an air sign.

Early on in the relationship cycle, I think I too have at one point in time been a little afraid to commit, or uncertain of a situation, and so I go quite.

I can be all open and communicative, but if I feeling unsure of my own feelings and emotions, I can be slow to commit to a follow-up date, even after a few. I don't want to appear too keen or eager, just in case the man isn't.

I don't think she is being intentionally evasive towards you.

I think it is more of an unconscious reaction.

I believe that by the time we get to share our experiences on these boards, it is always different from when we are actually in the situation of talking and texting. So, could she perhaps be leaving the door open for you to make a suggestion of doing something on the weekend? I know you said you had been blunt/direct, but everything is always open for interpretation?

Of, maybe, she is interested, but just hasn't made any plans for the weekend with her friends, and since you've only been on a couple of days, she is leaving herself open. Again, I know this may make her sound uninterested, but, I don't know, sometimes, I think as humans we play a little in order to protect ourselves.

I probably just confused you even more now (sigh).

What have you said to AquaGirl since via text?

It's funny hearing your impatience with an AquaGirl, when I've had to be so patient with a VirGuy — hahaha — you remind me a little of him.

I am a virgo girl and I have dated an aquarian guy. It worked really well but in the end we just didnt have enough in common and I found his interests boring. It sounds like you (like me) need a lot of reassurance and I am not sure she will be able to give that to you......but anything is possible it depends on the individual right? Funny about your Taurean experiences...I have a Taurus crush at the moment. I have never dated a Taurus guy just know I get along with the females very well. Anyway...good luck! Oh one thing i noticed with aquarians was their lack of hygiene....and very messy houses...this virgo couldnt handle that.

I gave up on this girl some time ago. Her vagueness was just impossible for me to deal with. She was totally unwilling to arrange a date, but would then contact me at the last minute to see if I wanted to go out... by which time I'd made other plans. I wasn't going to leave my evenings un-planned on the offchance that she contacted me, in case she didn't!

A typical example...

One Thursday I asked if she wanted to go out Fri, Sat or Sun.
She told me she was going out on Friday and didn't yet know what she was doing Sat/Sun "as it's only Thursday".
So I thought, "well if you don't know what you're doing then clearly you have no plan, so lets;' make a plan", but she didn't want to be tied-down to something.
Then she contacted me on Sunday night to see if I still wanted to go out.
I found it quite insulting that she thought she could play me like that and figured she had been holding out for a better offer but hasn't had one so was willing to settle for me.
In the end I told her she was too vague for me and that I like more structure in my life and couldn't conceive of starting a relationship with someone who did things in such a haphazard way.

Whats this Aquarius episode did do was to illustrate how some vagueness on my part had had a negative impact on the relationship that I had previously been in with a Taurus woman, and in fact me and Taurus are now going to make another go of it. With the insight that this Aquarius has given me I reckon I can make it work with the Bull now!

Posted by VirgoM20
As risk of being lynched for being interested in too many women (I'm single, okay, I can go on dates if I want!) I'd like to share my thoughts a bout an acquaintance that I just made...

Last Friday I had the chance to go on a date with an Aquarius girl. I accepted and we had a lovely evening together, so much so that we went out again on Sunday evening. We have been e-mailing and texting a lot since and seem to get on really well.

I know Virgo+Aquarius is supposed to be a disasterous combination, but then so is Virgo+Leo and I had a wonderfully harmonious 8.5 year relationship with a Leo. Similarly, Virgo+Taurus is supposed to be a great combination but the four relationships I??ve had with Taurus girls were incredibly hard work, drainingly anxiety-ridden and, ultimately, complete disasters. So I??ve come to the conclusion that it would be foolish to base my decision whether or not to enter into, or refuse, a relationship on the grounds of Astrology.

I??ve mentioned in other —Virguy??-related threads how shy and reserved I am, in particular having difficulty being physically spontaneous and tactile with women when I first meet them, but for some reason I totally forget myself with this Aquagirl and instinctively touch her and speak openly and honestly to her in a way I have never dared do with anyone else — it's almost as though I??d feel awkward stopping myself from doing these things. Normally I feel awkward doing them!!

I know that the Virgo+Acquarius combination can be hard work — my brother is an Aquarius — but I feel that if I can combine my need to be left alone sometimes with her need for freedom and independence, and when we are together we can capitalize on our shared capacity for deep thought and meaningful conversation, then this might just work! I know how to —manage?? my relationship with my brother so that we can get no well, and while a romantic partnership is a different thing altogether I believe I have cause for optimism.

Whoever said that virgos and aquarius can't get along? It depends on alot of factors, especially decans and such -- You may not get long with a 1st decan Aquarius but you might get along beautifully with a 3rd decan Aquarius.

Just depends on decans, cusp and charts, thats all.

i can't imagine this combo ever working very well. short term, yes, they can click as people and get along long-term as friends/casual acquaintances/business partners. aquarians usually have a lot of projects they are wrapped up in. they're very self-interested. they care about "people" in a greater sense, but rarely care very much about individuals, while virgos care a great deal about individuals and would rather not bother with "people" in general. virgos are chilly on the outside, but have the fire burning hot inside, very passionate, still waters run deep and all that. aquarians seem passionate, but are really quite chilly. they're a good show, but there isn't much to it. they're very shallow and trendy (we libras get a bad rap for this, but aquarians are a lot worse). they're good at being friends with everyone, while virgos are much pickier and would usually rather just be alone than go through small talk.

Posted by sweat.lioness
I think that there are three female signs that get along with EVERYONE, that's Sag, Aquarius, and Libra. They can be compatible with absolutely everyone with what I have seen, they have a lot of love to give and freedom. They are very strong and intelligent. From what I have seen there gals get along with everyone and are attractive to everyone. There are three male signs that initiallly get along with everyone regardless of the outcome, that's Virgo, Libra, and Sagittarius. They are attractive to all and very romantic. Since both Virgo and Aquarius are in those categories it should be a pretty harmonious match? lol

i think that's funny. i've had sag (male only, cannot stand the females) and aquarian friends. and libra friends i liked much more. while i probably could date a libra, i know for a fact i can't date a sag or aquarian, or even be serious friends with them. they're too shallow and flaky (and this is a libra saying this!) and emotionally empty. they're fun as hell, but there's so little behind it. not that i don't get along with them, they are very easy to get along with them. but i don't like them. and anyone with any perception can tell that i'm gritting my teeth and trying not to stab the sags. so obnoxious.