What to do with a cheating Virgo Boyfriend

Just broke up with my Virgo b/f of 5 years b/c my friend caught him flirting with another girl on fb. And to think he made me deactivate my fb acc since he couldn't stand other guys commenting on my wall and pics. I've been blinded by his apparent innocence, charm and sweetness. We were so good together and have had so much fun...Idk what went wrong. So heartbroken over here. Should I move on or give him another chance? As a side note, his D.o.B's sept 16, 1986.

Ugh fb...cant wait til that goes away!

What kind of flirting exactly...what was he saying etc. Is this friend even a reliable source?

Posted by LostinmyMind11
Ugh fb...cant wait til that goes away!

What kind of flirting exactly...what was he saying etc. Is this friend even a reliable source?

fb sucks indeed. Well it was one of our mutual friends that told me what was happening behind my back. She's telling the truth, cause I've checked... he's posted "the only guy you're allowed to miss is me" in response to her fb status of "I miss you" :S what nerve!

Posted by scorchedearth
he "made" you deactive your facebook account but felt totally fine having one of his own? you let him control you? now you're upset because after you allowed him to control you he betrayed you? you didn't see that coming?

women...

of course not. He deactivated his acc first before asking me to deactivate mine. Apparently, he'd been using it "secretly" thinking he won't get caught. How bright :S

Is it possible that he was just saying that...just to say it. I joke a lot with people ...even something like that. Not saying its appropriate but it might not even mean much. Is there anything else?

Posted by scorchedearth
i've gotta ask. what is your sign?

Mooo?

Posted by LostinmyMind11
Is it possible that he was just saying that...just to say it. I joke a lot with people ...even something like that. Not saying its appropriate but it might not even mean much. Is there anything else?

He shouldn't have done that when he gets so upset when other guys joke or say something similar to me.

Also to note, that girl have had a crush on him since I don't remember when. I'm pretty sure he feels something for her too, why else would he encourage her?

OMG sounds like my Virgo man. He told me to take my pics of me off my fb cause he hates other guys commenting on my pictures. At first I thought it was cute he cared so much and brused it off but he was serious and still wants me to delete these pics. I am not sure what to do cause this is a newer relashionship and already he is telling me what to do.. Maybe this is just a Virgos way? I dunno he confuses me soo much and I am a total pushover. I hope you can figure it out as 5 yrs is a long time to be together and still just as bf/gf I would have wanted a bigger commitment after that many years and for him to be flirting with another girl would have devestated me too..

Well most guys have double standards ...they can always do what they dont want you doing.

If you feel in your gut something isn't right...then most likely isn't and you did the right thing.

Posted by scorchedearth
you teach people how to treat you. if you take him back after some "harmless" internet flirting you're telling him it's "okay" to flirt with other women. how many flirtations happen before he decides to cross the line? if you allow it he'll take advantage of it. it's human nature. he may never cheat... but, if he does... essentially you are giving him permission to if you take him back.

no man is worth your self respect.

he may be the sweetest most charming bastard that's ever lived but really what good is he to you if you constantly have to look over your shoulder because you know he can't be trusted?

hmmm you're right.. taking him back might give him a ticket to cheat even more. Only wish he hadn't broken my trust. It's hard for me to trust ppl to begin with..now after whta he's done, I can never trust him like I did before, and I can't be happy with him if I have to constantly watch my back.

Posted by Pisces1880
OMG sounds like my Virgo man. He told me to take my pics of me off my fb cause he hates other guys commenting on my pictures. At first I thought it was cute he cared so much and brused it off but he was serious and still wants me to delete these pics. I am not sure what to do cause this is a newer relashionship and already he is telling me what to do.. Maybe this is just a Virgos way? I dunno he confuses me soo much and I am a total pushover. I hope you can figure it out as 5 yrs is a long time to be together and still just as bf/gf I would have wanted a bigger commitment after that many years and for him to be flirting with another girl would have devestated me too..

Exactly. I thought his possessiveness was a way of showing me he truly valued me. Now I'm confused if he really did at all considering what he did to me.

We've been together so long I'd feel..lost w/o him. Even so I don't want to take any more chances.. too devastated to think straight at the moment lol. In any case I wish you happiness in your relationship.

Posted by LostinmyMind11
Well most guys have double standards ...they can always do what they dont want you doing.

If you feel in your gut something isn't right...then most likely isn't and you did the right thing.

true 😢

Posted by PotHeadVirgo22
Insecurity.

yeah..

Posted by scorchedearth
he "made" you deactive your facebook account but felt totally fine having one of his own? you let him control you? now you're upset because after you allowed him to control you he betrayed you? you didn't see that coming?

I agree.

OP, how does someone make you delete your account. You probably deleted it in hopes that he would delete his & got upset when he didn't. Why would you even deactivate it? Please...I'd reactivate my fb immediately & continue to flirt to see how he likes it.

The title of this thread says he's cheating ... when in reality, the only thing you know is second hand information, and this information isn't even cheating.

Talking to other people isn't cheating.


Given everything you've said ... you seem very dramatic.


If you have pics up in face book that cause men to comment on ... then they must be alluring. A decent woman who is taken would remove those kinds of pics and only keep up tasteful ones.

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Posted by scorchedearth
he "made" you deactive your facebook account but felt totally fine having one of his own? you let him control you? now you're upset because after you allowed him to control you he betrayed you? you didn't see that coming?

I agree.

OP, how does someone make you delete your account. You probably deleted it in hopes that he would delete his & got upset when he didn't. Why would you even deactivate it? Please...I'd reactivate my fb immediately & continue to flirt to see how he likes it.

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If you'd read my other posts you'd see that he deactivated his acc first.

Posted by P-Angel
The title of this thread says he's cheating ... when in reality, the only thing you know is second hand information, and this information isn't even cheating.

Talking to other people isn't cheating.


Given everything you've said ... you seem very dramatic.


If you have pics up in face book that cause men to comment on ... then they must be alluring. A decent woman who is taken would remove those kinds of pics and only keep up tasteful ones.

I've clearly mentioned in my other post that I did confirm what she said..
Idk which lines in my posts make you think I'm dramatic.
My friends don't call me a prude for nothing. And those comments weren't even indecent ones. thanks anyways

Posted by Let*It*Be
"fb sucks indeed. Well it was one of our mutual friends that told me what was happening behind my back. She's telling the truth, cause I've checked... he's posted "the only guy you're allowed to miss is me" in response to her fb status of "I miss you" :S what nerve!"



Last time I checked, unless you see your man in another woman's arms (or legs), it's called cheating. Anything short of that is assumptions. I agree with potheadvirgo...INSECURITY.

"ASSUMPTIONS ARE THE TERMITES OF RELATIONSHIPS"

Ikr. What makes it so wrong is that he'd gone berserk when another guy posted something similar on my wall, and he accused me of encouraging him to flirt. So, by his standards he was actually knowingly flirting with her.

Posted by Let*It*Be
"I've clearly mentioned in my other post that I did confirm what she said.."


You confirmed what "she said" and assume he's cheating...which IS an ASSUMPTION.

Huge turnoff for Virgos...huge.

okay, my sister has a fb account too.

Posted by Let*It*Be
I don't give a rats ass about facebook, it's not real world imo.

Bottom line, He flirted. He didn't cheat. Your insecurities will be a result of pushing him away. You might want to look into yourself and get that in check. What's your sign if I may ask?

I wouldn't have been upset if he hadn't made such a big deal out of someone posting a similar comment on my wall a couple weeks back. Besides it was his own idea that we shouldn't indulge in even "subtle" forms of flirting b/c he considered it cheating.

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Posted by Let*It*Be
I don't give a rats ass about facebook, it's not real world imo.

Bottom line, He flirted. He didn't cheat. Your insecurities will be a result of pushing him away. You might want to look into yourself and get that in check. What's your sign if I may ask?

I wouldn't have been upset if he hadn't made such a big deal out of someone posting a similar comment on my wall a couple weeks back. Besides it was his own idea that we shouldn't indulge in even "subtle" forms of flirting b/c he considered it cheating.

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Taurus here. we do get along very well. But what he did this time makes me feel betrayed.

I only came here because I heard this site has experts in astrology that offer mature, impartial advice on relationship problems. Even though there's been some confusion here and there, I've learnt a thing or two too. And now that I've had time to cool off and think more rationally, I guess I'll go have a talk with him now. Thanks everyone and good luck.

It has been confirmed by you ... you are full of shit ...

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I only came here because I heard this site has experts in astrology that offer mature, impartial advice on relationship problems.

nuff said ^^^^

Posted by P-Angel
It has been confirmed by you ... you are full of shit ...

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I only came here because I heard this site has experts in astrology that offer mature, impartial advice on relationship problems.

nuff said ^^^^

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Geez you got me wrong ma'am... I meant to say that I only came here to ask if it's better to move on or give him another chance, not to have my decency questioned and stuff just b/c you didn't read my posts properly. Dramatic me?Maybe I was, but who doesn't get a bit dramatic when they are very upset. You knew I was hurting and still poured out your bitterness and sarcasm on me. Or are you just having a bad day? No offence

Posted by scorchedearth
p-angel is always like that btw.

oh I see..

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Posted by scorchedearth
he "made" you deactive your facebook account but felt totally fine having one of his own? you let him control you? now you're upset because after you allowed him to control you he betrayed you? you didn't see that coming?

I agree.

OP, how does someone make you delete your account. You probably deleted it in hopes that he would delete his & got upset when he didn't. Why would you even deactivate it? Please...I'd reactivate my fb immediately & continue to flirt to see how he likes it.

If you'd read my other posts you'd see that he deactivated his acc first.

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Posted by scorchedearth
he "made" you deactive your facebook account but felt totally fine having one of his own? you let him control you? now you're upset because after you allowed him to control you he betrayed you? you didn't see that coming?

women...

Apparently, he'd been using it "secretly" thinking he won't get caught. How bright :S

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If you'd read YOUR OWN posts, you'd see that he never deactivated it in the first place. You just thought he did.

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Posted by scorchedearth
he "made" you deactive your facebook account but felt totally fine having one of his own? you let him control you? now you're upset because after you allowed him to control you he betrayed you? you didn't see that coming?

I agree.

OP, how does someone make you delete your account. You probably deleted it in hopes that he would delete his & got upset when he didn't. Why would you even deactivate it? Please...I'd reactivate my fb immediately & continue to flirt to see how he likes it.

If you'd read my other posts you'd see that he deactivated his acc first.

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Posted by scorchedearth
he "made" you deactive your facebook account but felt totally fine having one of his own? you let him control you? now you're upset because after you allowed him to control you he betrayed you? you didn't see that coming?

women...

Apparently, he'd been using it "secretly" thinking he won't get caught. How bright :S

If you'd read YOUR OWN posts, you'd see that he never deactivated it in the first place. You just thought he did.

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He actually did. Sorry, I thought I had included that part too.

I've accepted my Virgo's apology and we're happily back together. I'm sure our relationship won't always be smooth sailing even in the days to come, and there will be an occasional mountain or molehill that comes in the way, but my love for him is bigger than any mountain 🙂

Posted by scorchedearth
make sure to come back and make a thread when he cheats on you.

I've faith in him that he won't repeat it. Even if he does, he'll cease to exist for me, so I won't be making a thread about him anymore.

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Posted by scorchedearth
he "made" you deactive your facebook account but felt totally fine having one of his own? you let him control you? now you're upset because after you allowed him to control you he betrayed you? you didn't see that coming?

I agree.

OP, how does someone make you delete your account. You probably deleted it in hopes that he would delete his & got upset when he didn't. Why would you even deactivate it? Please...I'd reactivate my fb immediately & continue to flirt to see how he likes it.

If you'd read my other posts you'd see that he deactivated his acc first.

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Posted by scorchedearth
he "made" you deactive your facebook account but felt totally fine having one of his own? you let him control you? now you're upset because after you allowed him to control you he betrayed you? you didn't see that coming?

women...

Apparently, he'd been using it "secretly" thinking he won't get caught. How bright :S

If you'd read YOUR OWN posts, you'd see that he never deactivated it in the first place. You just thought he did.

He actually did. Sorry, I thought I had included that part too.

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Um ok, right. Even though he's still "secretly" using it...

Posted by scorchedearth
make sure to come back and make a thread when he cheats on you.

Lol...

So we've both overreacted on our parts but we've come so far. I guess mistakes make a relationship stronger if we learn from them. What happened has only made us realize that there are some adjustments to be made here and there, certain things that need to be addressed and fixed. I've picked up some really valuable pointers from here that I plan to keep in mind.

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Posted by scorchedearth
he "made" you deactive your facebook account but felt totally fine having one of his own? you let him control you? now you're upset because after you allowed him to control you he betrayed you? you didn't see that coming?

I agree.

OP, how does someone make you delete your account. You probably deleted it in hopes that he would delete his & got upset when he didn't. Why would you even deactivate it? Please...I'd reactivate my fb immediately & continue to flirt to see how he likes it.

If you'd read my other posts you'd see that he deactivated his acc first.

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Posted by scorchedearth
he "made" you deactive your facebook account but felt totally fine having one of his own? you let him control you? now you're upset because after you allowed him to control you he betrayed you? you didn't see that coming?

women...

Apparently, he'd been using it "secretly" thinking he won't get caught. How bright :S

If you'd read YOUR OWN posts, you'd see that he never deactivated it in the first place. You just thought he did.

He actually did. Sorry, I thought I had included that part too.

Um ok, right. Even though he's still "secretly" using it...

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we both plan to use fb from now on and give each other some slack like we used to when we first started out.

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Posted by scorchedearth
make sure to come back and make a thread when he cheats on you.

Lol...

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He's agreed to reconsider his definition of "cheating".