What type of virgo man is he & is he playing games (Page 2)

@ChrisNews

I wrote that sentence you referenced incorrectly.... I meant to write: I am NOT so offended that I will never see/speak or sleep with him again. I WANT to do all of those things!

@Shine08

I don't think it's over between you guys. These virgo men live in the moment and he may have gotten caught up and is just taking time to get back to you because he knows he messed up and he probably feels bad about that. If you really like him don't sweat it because he'll be back. :-).

As I said before, this is just how these guys operate.

He did tell me that many times, but just as all the other words, there are no actions to back that. ANd now its worse. He's gone and unresponsive.

@Shine08 If it has been many times, then I agree with you. let it go. He is not worth you going through the emotions. I do understand what you are going through. The silence sucks. I've been fortunate that he would respond to phone calls about 90% of the time when I did call -- just that I rarely called him. I think there has only been 2 calls where he hasn't answered or calling right back.

I just tortured myself I suppose, by not calling or texting first. I went silent too. And went into wonder mode and came on here to wonder and try to learn from others.

Only you know what you can tolerate and what you feel. Listen to that inner voice and trust your instincts above everything and everyone else. And take it one day at a time. Focus on you first, and if needed, only you.

I remember I had to ask myself this question, "What is the worse thing that could happen if you let him go from your heart?"
And my answer to that was to pick myself up and go out and meet more men, go out on multiple dates, let myself be treated well, smile and laugh again. And who knows, maybe I'd find someone else I liked just as much. And I'd never ever get back with this guy. Would that be so bad?

Posted by Shine08
I guess I just wanted the answer as to why he went from calling me "my love" that afternoon, and then gone that evening, without a word or explanation. I wanted him to come back and say something. I hoped he would. But its been 3 days..and im assuming its not going to happen....

"My love, baby, sweetheart" -- all those sweet nothings are just that, sweet, but they don't mean nothing.


I once had a male friend I used to like going out with because he was fun. I used to watch him walk up to a woman who perhaps was not as attractive as others in the room, would say "would you like to dance, my love" - and she would light up and dance a song or two wit him and soon she was buying his drinks.
lol
And he would buy mine.

Posted by Shine08
@VirgoRules,

AND I called and left a message saying I was mad, so that may have scared him away as well. You guys don't seem to have reacted that way. I didn't the first time, but this time, I really was mad.

You shouldn't have said anything at all. Why are you chasing a man? Leaving messages, texting, calling, e-mail, etc. pursuit. It wasn't necessary for you to TELL him you were mad. I'm sure he knew what he did was wrong & that he fucked up. Men hear silence loud & clear. If you would've stopped communication & allowed him to come to YOU, you would know then that he was sorry. Men don't want to hear all of that emotion because they don't get it.

Posted by Shine08
AND, like you said, the connection is so intense...its hard to find that. He felt it also. I just don't get it.

Men pull stunts. That's what they do, sorry. He's probably testing you to see what type of woman you are. Crazy, calm, in control of her emotions...you get my drift. Men test women ALL the time. You just need to be smart enough to past them & beat them at their own game.

Posted by Shine08
@realtalk

I can't blame myself though for his bad behavior.

True indeed, but you can't point the finger at him only. You've allowed the bad behavior thus far, so he was only doing what you were allowing.

How is your guy? Still around, behaving? Hope so, for you.

Hi Shine08
Yes he is still in contact - I chatted with him briefly last night. He says his mom told him that she liked me, that he should keep me. lol that could be a good thing or bad - some men don't like women their moms approve of. I asked what did his son say because kids do carry a lot of influence. I know if my son didn't like him, it would not be easy for me to keep seeing him.

I don't see him everyday nor do we talk a lot on the phone. But he is staying in contact with me. I am slowly learning patience.