Why does my Virgo ex still communicate with me

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Bzeena181
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Im a Capricorn girl So, to make this as short as can be we dated for 4 years but I did something to break his trust by lying so we broke up but when he found out I was lying to protect him he eased up but still didn’t trust me as much and by then had started talking to someone else (a Leo). However it’s been almost two years and he still talks to me randomly every other month or so and at first he would try to still flirt and I fed into it but then I said strictly platonic ( even though I loved him and still had feelings I wanted to respect his new relationship). Anyways I figured after that he’d stop talking to me but he doesn’t. We talk every other month or so and it’s just like we’re old best friends checking on each other. So I’m wondering why after two years he still wants to keep in contact ( and yes he said he won’t give me something that he owes me bc it’s the only thing still keeping us connected. He Also makes it a point to point out he’s rewlly happy in his current relationship but if he could he would still choose ours. Why does he do this it’s odd to me because I never bring our old relationship up or even ask about his but he does.
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Bzeena181
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Because we will settle for the next best thing.
When you invested time in ppl you are not always willing to give up just because it didn't work out.
That bond is cherished regardless of the issues.


I see. He said that he hasn’t mentioned us getting back together because I insisted I would never date him again but I don’t recall saying that either way I doubt I would because as much as I love him and will always care I just don’t see it happening possibly out of fear it wouldn’t work out again. Then told me if we see each other in person again we’re going to break up with our significant others and date again. He’s never done that before. I had to need the conversation at that point it was too much. Like I mentioned earlier he would always say he’d choose us. But now he’s progressed to mentioning or playing around at the idea of us Dating again—??
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Because we will settle for the next best thing.

When you invested time in ppl you are not always willing to give up just because it didn't work out.

That bond is cherished regardless of the issues.




I see. He said that he hasn’t mentioned us getting back together because I insisted I would never date him again but I don’t recall saying that either way I doubt I would because as much as I love him and will always care I just don’t see it happening possibly out of fear it wouldn’t work out again. Then told me if we see each other in person again we’re going to break up with our significant others and date again. He’s never done that before. I had to need the conversation at that point it was too much. Like I mentioned earlier he would always say he’d choose us. But now he’s progressed to mentioning or playing around at the idea of us Dating again—?? click to expand
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Lol who ever said Virgos are pessimists.

Always think it will work again THIS TIME.

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Posted by Weeds
Because we will settle for the next best thing.

When you invested time in ppl you are not always willing to give up just because it didn't work out.

That bond is cherished regardless of the issues.




I see. He said that he hasn’t mentioned us getting back together because I insisted I would never date him again but I don’t recall saying that either way I doubt I would because as much as I love him and will always care I just don’t see it happening possibly out of fear it wouldn’t work out again. Then told me if we see each other in person again we’re going to break up with our significant others and date again. He’s never done that before. I had to need the conversation at that point it was too much. Like I mentioned earlier he would always say he’d choose us. But now he’s progressed to mentioning or playing around at the idea of us Dating again—?? click to expand
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If you are really trying to respect his new relationship you may need to cut contact, just let him know why. Either he'll decide to stay or leave...totally up to him, but I think its not good for either of you to wonder and entertain each other if he's in the midst of a relationship with someone else.