Friendship Break-Up with a Taurus

are you doing it for his benefit or your benefit? what expectations do you have regarding the outcome of trying to reach out to him again? this is the guy you had feelings for right? is that still playing a part in this? are you looking to somehow get something back that you lost?

i'm not a taurus so i'll leave it to them to comment if they would appreciate it or not but i think for your own sake be clear on your motivations and how you would feel if you don't get the response you are hoping for.

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are you doing it for his benefit or your benefit? what expectations do you have regarding the outcome of trying to reach out to him again? this is the guy you had feelings for right? is that still playing a part in this? are you looking to somehow get something back that you lost?

i'm not a taurus so i'll leave it to them to comment if they would appreciate it or not but i think for your own sake be clear on your motivations and how you would feel if you don't get the response you are hoping for.

I am definitely thinking of this from a friendship point of view. I've met someone and it's going well, and now, in hindsight I miss my Taurus friend. I miss talking to him and I miss taking his advice and I wish I can update him on what has been happening and tell him everything. We've known each other for over five years and it feels weird to not be able to share this with him. Thinking of him in a romantic way is completely out of the question.

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so you are doing it for your benefit. nothing wrong with that.

and if he doesn't reciprocate?

(i mean i have to add, i think it's a bit weird to contact a guy who you used to have a thing for after many months to tell him about your new guy and involve him in the details of your new relationship. that just might be me though.)

First of all you are not looking at this guy as a friend but still as an ex lover. C'mon friends move away and get so caught up in their every day lives that they go months without speaking. When one of them wants to see what the other is up to they don't agonize over whether to reach out or not they just do it. The fact that you have to come to a forum to ask about it shows you are still very emotionally involved. More than likely your friend is caught up in his life and is probably seeing someone now. Did you tell your new bf you are trying to reach out to your friend?

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Posted by jeane

are you doing it for his benefit or your benefit? what expectations do you have regarding the outcome of trying to reach out to him again? this is the guy you had feelings for right? is that still playing a part in this? are you looking to somehow get something back that you lost?

i'm not a taurus so i'll leave it to them to comment if they would appreciate it or not but i think for your own sake be clear on your motivations and how you would feel if you don't get the response you are hoping for.

I am definitely thinking of this from a friendship point of view. I've met someone and it's going well, and now, in hindsight I miss my Taurus friend. I miss talking to him and I miss taking his advice and I wish I can update him on what has been happening and tell him everything. We've known each other for over five years and it feels weird to not be able to share this with him. Thinking of him in a romantic way is completely out of the question.

so you are doing it for your benefit. nothing wrong with that.

and if he doesn't reciprocate?

(i mean i have to add, i think it's a bit weird to contact a guy who you used to have a thing for after many months to tell him about your new guy and involve him in the details of your new relationship. that just might be me though.)

I agree, but this is not why I want to contact him. I'm not contacting him to say I met someone.

For example, I saw a film I know he'll like and I felt I can't out of the blue text him to recommend this film after months of not speaking. And I feel the elephant in the room is the reason why we're not speaking which is because I cut him off without explaining. So I wanted to clear the air first if we ever wanted to go back to being good friends.

But maybe you're right. Maybe there's no hope in going back to being the same friends we used to be.

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I think being the friends you were is a big ask. Time has past, feelings were felt, it's hard to pretend you are where you were a year ago.

I think if you want to reach out for your own peace of mind then do it. Understand how much of your own emotion and thought process you are willing to invest in this endeavour. Will you try to reach out again in a year if he still stays quiet? Five years?

But it may work out great and be just the injection you guys need to start speaking again. I cant predict the future. Who knows what will happen. I guess you wont know (and might not be satisfied) unless you risk it.

As a Taurus it's difficult for me to get much of handle on this because of lack of details but I hear you saying you have lost other friendships because of your behavior. As a Taurus I would pull away from someone who is not stable, balanced and is prone to outbursts. I wouldn't necessarily pull completely away if that person had been a long time friend with no prior instances of that behavior. Not sure what his other placements are but i have a lot of Aries in my chart and especially Mercury so I wouldn't have a problem telling you exactly why I pulled away and then tell you that if you ever did that again I'm not sure if I could continue our friendship. If it's a newer acquaintance, I may not even bother; might just leave it alone because it's not worth it and I don't know that person well enough to even try to gauge - or my mouth might just tell you why I really don't want to associate with you anymore. That's a toss up. It sounds like you might have been friends for awhile so other placements and well, just being a young Taurus - I can see why he did what he did. It's a 50/50 shot on whether he will speak to you again so you might as well go for it. Like the other posters said; it's worth a shot and at least you know you tried.

Why is this thread has such deep thoughts on why someone doesn’t want to communicate?

He had decided not to communicate. End of story.

Reason? His business.

Finding out? Nobody’s business.

She wants him to communicate. He doesn’t.

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