Cancer man with a Scorpio moon

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Hello. This will be my first time posting here lol but anywho….

So I’ve been knowing this cancer man for almost 10yrs now. We somewhat dated some time ago and I know for a fact he was super into me because he would always let me drive his cars and never really ever asked for nothing in return…. We hung out/dated for about 1yr before we ever had sex with eachother. I was like 18-19 so he was about 21 years old. Lol kind of young… we went everywhere together as well. He met my family as well as I meet majority of his. And I also was with him during a time that he lost his grandmother whom he was extremely close to…. I ended up having children with another guy and we lost communication for a while….

Fast forward to the present…. He ended up doing some time in prison. But we would still talk every now and then. He checking up on me and how I was doing in life etc…. He’s now out of prison and ever since he’s been home we’ve been inseparable again lol. ( no I’m not with my children’s father any longer). But the problem I’m having with him is that I feel as if he’s using me. We weren’t in a relationship when he went to Jail nor when he came home but idk I feel like he feel as if I’m obligated to be there for him. I allow him to drive my car , he asks me to cook for him as well. The only problem I have is that he still stays with his child’s mom. But he swears he isn’t with her, he just stays there. I he gave me his password to his phone and his debit card pin lol. He usually texts me every single day. Maybe not all day but he for sure checks in either first thing in the am, or we will talk in his way home after the day has ended. He smiles at me often and is always touching me … not sexually but like rubbing his arms against mines or just being hella close to my face . Looking me in my eyes often. And is ALWAYS trying to make me laugh (and it works) . I just look at it as helping a friend get back on their feet . But I also like him . He told me he didn’t want a relationship right now , that he was working in himself and I respected that. Not trynna pressure him into anything… and NO I haven’t had sex with him either. I just don’t want to feel used and I’m so close to cutting ties with him because it’s overwhelming . And it’s like if you don’t want a relationship with me then it’s like I’m not obligated you know?

Am I tripping out, or does it sound like he can be using me in a way. Or does it sound like he likes me? I know it may sound all over the place but I’m trying to say without putting to much of my business out lol so any kind advice would help , please

Signed confused Libra Gal
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He said he was trying to get back on his feet.

In order to do that, he has to use the resources available to him. And you’re one of those resources.

It is your choice to be in his life or not. Neither of you owe anything to the other.

He’s not living with you. Not having sex with you. Only driving your car, asking for a sandwich and what sounds like some groping.

You may want to practice saying NO to things that you ultimately don’t want.
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LibraLeoVirgo
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Posted by bmoon8We hung out/dated for about 1yr before we ever have sex with each other.… and NO I haven’t had sex with him either.

A Libra that cannot keep their story straight. Why am I so surprised?!

Anyone in prison has all the time in the world for you.

He told you that he can’t be in a relationship now and needs to work on himself. You respected that?!

If you feel that he is using you, then tell him how you feel. It does not sounds like you are tripping out. Listen to your intuition… it is never wrong.


I feel like I can keep my story str8. I said I was talking to him 1yr before I had sex with him YEARS ago. Saying past tense…

I also started the next paragraph stating “ now in present times.”… MEANING NOW…. I haven’t had sex with him as of yet… since YEARS AGO! Hopefully that clarified for you if it was typed good enough
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I see what you guys are saying tho. I definelty have been having that hunch. But I guess since I’ve been knowing him for so many years … I just kinda felt like a friend to him as I’m not necessarily looking for a relationship from him or anyone at this point . But I don’t want to feel like I’m being used either … so I guess my thoughts have been clarified . I just wanted to get opinions of people who don’t know anything about me and see what their thoughts were but thank you