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Posted by Ags1

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Posted by Capricorn91

Posted by Ags1

Posted by Capricorn91

Posted by Ags1

So I’ve been seeing this cap for a little over a month & a half. I fell for him hard & he knows this. I told him on Tuesday. Well, I’ve known that this girl who he used to date was still lurking around. He is 32, she is 21 & I’m 35. He owns a business & she works for him. So it was a secret. She also lives with her parents & is still in school. When we started talking, he told her & he even told her when we got intimate. It sounded to me that he was letting her go. BUT, she is still texting & he insists on having a friendship with her. Well, I come to find out that she’s been in his apartment, finishing a collector set they were working on. I was furious.

Also, he told me two weeks ago that he had commitment problems. We have not made our “thing” official. The day after our talk, his father dies. One of the last convos with his father is about commitment & his mom said how she wants to see him with kids. He told me all of this, so I started thinking that maybe he was coming around. But after hearing about that girl still being around, I’m furious. I started to not answer his texts right away & he started to show his interest by actually initiating.

Well, Friday, he comes over (I live an hour away) after I have dinner with my friends. We only spent a few hours together but he learned that I was furious about that girl being in his apartment bc he offered me a cut of a new business he’s working on. I felt like he wanted me to do this work with him but I’m not sure bc I’m questioning his character. He was talking in circles about how he feels about me. In fact, he actually said they she & me are both friends. He will not commit. So I decided not to text him & he hasn’t reached out. It’s been only a day but we usually text ever day.

We have a wedding next week that he wants to take me to bc I honestly think he’d be embarrassed to take this girl. What is going on here? Do I reach out? I feel like it’s a competition & I’m not into that.

See he clearly has a soft corner for this girl since she is his past love. So he is keeping her around trying to build the bridges back. But he also likes you alot since he is asking you to go with him and is also initiating (we never do if we don't care). You are more compatible with him too. I get why you would be furious and it's fair but he has to decide with whom he sees a future. It isn't easy when past comes back and that's why he is just not committing yet and keeping you both as friends. Maybe just leave him be and let him decide, he needs to decide his priorities and maintain the boundaries.

Btw what's your sign?

Here's an update - He took me to the wedding and came back to work and told people about it. She found out and got really mad and stopped talking to him. While this is great, I wish it came from him. Also, I haven't ever thought of him as a liar until his sister told me that this girl did send flowers for his dad's memorial service before that wedding. He told me that they came from his company. I believe her for sure. So I'm not sure what to believe now when it comes to him. He says they aren't hanging out or talking, and I want to believe him. It's just weird that she is still all about his company. It's like she won't leave. Also, he invited me to another state to see his mom - not sure if I should take this as anything. Besides, he needs to confirm it with his mom yet. He has been calling me more and stepping up, but that's because I have really stepped back. I would love to have something with this man, but I'm not sure if I can trust him. For example, he spent July 4/5 with me and accidentally called me by her name. He apologized and said it was an accident. It was while we were joking around, getting coffee. Not sure if I should read into that.

See him taking you to the wedding and telling everyone about it means he does consider you as a potential future life partner. Moreover he invited you to see his mom means he is definitely serious about you. He is calling you more because he doesn't want to lose you. And yes the other girl doesn't want to let him go and would be doing everything to be in his attention and he also prob does think of her sometimes otherwise he wouldn't have called you by her name. But even he knows that girl is past and maybe there are just lingering emotions which are making things difficult for you both. Either the girl accepts that nothing is possible between her and him and backs off or your guy just cuts her off. He can't be in two boats at the same time.

Well, we got into a little fight on Wednesday. He was calling me a lot and he texted me like twice on Thursday. However, I haven't heard from him in two days. Now, I'm worried and wondering if I've been ghosted. I got mad at him because he didn't make any plans with me this week. At first, I didn't care because I get it when it comes to being busy at work. But while I was on the phone with him on Wednesday, he was making plans to go mountain biking with another girl, who I believe is an actual friend. I don't care about him going mountain biking. I care that he said he was too busy to see me. I'm a believer that if a guy really likes you, he'll see you. I'm so upset because it seemed like it going good. I just texted him this - "...?" and haven't gotten a response.

Sounds like you're too focused on him when you could be building an actual social life. Just a thought. Maybe he's putting you on the back burner because he knows you're waiting on him 🙄

Um, I actually have a great social life. I really don't see how that is relevant to getting upset about someone not responding?

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