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I mean.. there's a reason why he's ignoring though. It's not for fun.

Yeah, a bruised ego because he lost.

It doesn't seem like it's because he just lost, but because she embarrassed him in front of friends? Not sure, because I don't know how that game works.

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No friends, it's a private game between us two only. I guess I am exaggerating. Maybe when he would miss me, he will contact.

What is GK?

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Me and my taurus ex used to do this. We'd walk around ignoring each other.

Sounds very romantic (:

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Never saw the point of playing games 😄

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Me and my taurus ex used to do this. We'd walk around ignoring each other.

Sounds very romantic (:

Never saw the point of playing games 😄

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Hahaha true 😄

Thanks everyone for talking to me here.

My current decision is still to wait and see if he wants me around for some more days. We were just having fun, I do not see any point in being serious out of no where.

If he did not contact me, I will but we would have a talk which won't be nice as he will get to see Taurus's boiling anger.

Till then I will pursue my perseverance.

Thank you!

You rejected him for several months.. and now you want all of his attention.

Stop playing games.

If you like him, tell him. I wouldn't put in the effort either if I was him.

I don't understand these people who think going a week without contact is normal or ok. My boyfriend and I talk to each other every day, if we didn't hear from each other we would get worried.

My dad always called my mom from work at lunch every day. Every. Day.

Maybe it is a generation thing. I just find it weird, and irreverent.

I am not playing any games.

We do talk everyday but haven't since last 10 days I guess. I am of course worried but I do not want to annoy him. I do not like to be ignored or feel useless by anyone.

Posted by daisy57

I am not playing any games.

We do talk everyday but haven't since last 10 days I guess. I am of course worried but I do not want to annoy him. I do not like to be ignored or feel useless by anyone.

You pushed him away when you initially rejected him months ago. And you still haven't told him how you feel now that you're talking again.

You realize I can read all of your previous threads, right?

You're making him jump through hoops, and as far as he knows.. he's still been rejected.

Be lucky he's still even talking to you, no matter how much it is. He doesn't owe you anything at this point.

Yes you can go back and read everything what I have posted here but I don't post everything here.

You do not know everything about us.

Posted by daisy57

Yes you can go back and read everything what I have posted here but I don't post everything here.

You do not know everything about us.

So you're just looking for validation?

I used to be involved in a relationship with a Cap male, being myself a Cap female.

What I can tell you for sure is that Cap males are the most self-centered type of person that I have ever met. They put themselves on top of everything. Their needs are always, but always the most important. They will come back to you only when they will NEED your presence again. Only when they will consider that what you have to offer suits their needs in that specific moment.

I am a Capricorn too and I do need some private space and time, but you have to see the difference between the need of being alone and carrying about someone. Don't mix up tolerance with stupidity.

They are not as saints as they like to look like. You are interesting as long as you don't need:l too much affection, attention..you are strong and independent. They really have problems on dealing with emotional intimacy, when they feel something it's like being weak and vulnerable. That's why they prefer to focus on their work since it's a perfect way to keep their power and control, both being what they truly love.

Respect yourself.

Yes I have told him multiple times how much I like him including I find him adorable along with him being smart and sexy. And it went both ways. It's not just me.

I have seen his weak side too, him being emotional which is rare. He has been sorry about multiple things which he did in the past.

I do not know how things will unfold between us but we have a strong compatibility which at least I have not been able to find with anyone else in the past.

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I don't understand these people who think going a week without contact is normal or ok. My boyfriend and I talk to each other every day, if we didn't hear from each other we would get worried.

My dad always called my mom from work at lunch every day. Every. Day.

Maybe it is a generation thing. I just find it weird, and irreverent.

No its not a generation thing. I am the same way.

Even if we are busy and overwhelmed and putting out fires all day there is still enough time to send a gm/gn text so you know the persons alive.

Zero excuse to go ghost on your S.O imo. If you can't find 30 seconds out of your day to communicate then don't be in a relationship. Period.

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Yes I have told him multiple times how much I like him including I find him adorable along with him being smart and sexy. And it went both ways. It's not just me.

I have seen his weak side too, him being emotional which is rare. He has been sorry about multiple things which he did in the past.

I do not know how things will unfold between us but we have a strong compatibility which at least I have not been able to find with anyone else in the past.

What is the nature of your relationship? Are you dating? In a relationship. Exclusive?

We were friends for a long time. He moved to a different state few months ago and around that time he asked for dating but I refused. When he left my life for a short period of time I realized I feel the same for him so we started being exclusive to each other. We are in different states, I do not know if it makes sense to say we are dating. It's a long distance.

Update: He resumed talking last night. He texted me where I am and apologized for him ghosting on me. Communication is still not smooth but we are getting connected.

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Update: He resumed talking last night. He texted me where I am and apologized for him ghosting on me. Communication is still not smooth but we are getting connected.

That's good. Did he tell why he ghosted?

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Update: He resumed talking last night. He texted me where I am and apologized for him ghosting on me. Communication is still not smooth but we are getting connected.

That's good. Did he tell why he ghosted?

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Hi,

We are still not on smooth ride. He said he was busy..

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Update: He resumed talking last night. He texted me where I am and apologized for him ghosting on me. Communication is still not smooth but we are getting connected.

That's good. Did he tell why he ghosted?

Hi,

We are still not on smooth ride. He said he was busy..

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Ohh ok. Yeah it will take some time to get things back to the way they were. Just be positive. Sometimes a bit of distance helps in bringing people closer.

It's okay, I don't think it was that big of a deal to treat me like this distant, it was just a silly game and if he continued behaving like that, we won't be able to have fun and it will become boring. I am Venus in Libra 😉 I like FUN!

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It's okay, I don't think it was that big of a deal to treat me like this distant, it was just a silly game and if he continued behaving like that, we won't be able to have fun and it will become boring. I am Venus in Libra 😉 I like FUN!

Haha yeah true. Maybe his ego got hurt badly. Caps can be very sensitive. It's good you like having fun. That keeps things interesting.

Cap guy Im dating kind of done the same thing. Claimed he was too busy, but well tells me he traveled to visit his friends and other friends on weekends (same time he left my message on seen) lol .. I broke up and he wants to reconcile, but not even sure if he is serious or doesnt want to hurt my feelings. Caps are a riddle or just THICK

Posted by Capgirl15

I used to be involved in a relationship with a Cap male, being myself a Cap female.

What I can tell you for sure is that Cap males are the most self-centered type of person that I have ever met. They put themselves on top of everything. Their needs are always, but always the most important. They will come back to you only when they will NEED your presence again. Only when they will consider that what you have to offer suits their needs in that specific moment.

I am a Capricorn too and I do need some private space and time, but you have to see the difference between the need of being alone and carrying about someone. Don't mix up tolerance with stupidity.

They are not as saints as they like to look like. You are interesting as long as you don't need:l too much affection, attention..you are strong and independent. They really have problems on dealing with emotional intimacy, when they feel something it's like being weak and vulnerable. That's why they prefer to focus on their work since it's a perfect way to keep their power and control, both being what they truly love.

Respect yourself.

This, I thought of, glad someone sees it! Thank you!!!

So I’ve been seeing this cap for a little over a month & a half. I fell for him hard & he knows this. I told him on Tuesday. Well, I’ve known that this girl who he used to date was still lurking around. He is 32, she is 21 & I’m 35. He owns a business & she works for him. So it was a secret. She also lives with her parents & is still in school. When we started talking, he told her & he even told her when we got intimate. It sounded to me that he was letting her go. BUT, she is still texting & he insists on having a friendship with her. Well, I come to find out that she’s been in his apartment, finishing a collector set they were working on. I was furious.

Also, he told me two weeks ago that he had commitment problems. We have not made our “thing” official. The day after our talk, his father dies. One of the last convos with his father is about commitment & his mom said how she wants to see him with kids. He told me all of this, so I started thinking that maybe he was coming around. But after hearing about that girl still being around, I’m furious. I started to not answer his texts right away & he started to show his interest by actually initiating.

Well, Friday, he comes over (I live an hour away) after I have dinner with my friends. We only spent a few hours together but he learned that I was furious about that girl being in his apartment bc he offered me a cut of a new business he’s working on. I felt like he wanted me to do this work with him but I’m not sure bc I’m questioning his character. He was talking in circles about how he feels about me. In fact, he actually said they she & me are both friends. He will not commit. So I decided not to text him & he hasn’t reached out. It’s been only a day but we usually text ever day.

We have a wedding next week that he wants to take me to bc I honestly think he’d be embarrassed to take this girl. What is going on here? Do I reach out? I feel like it’s a competition & I’m not into that.

A part of our yesterday's conversation:

Me: I get a vibe that you do not enjoy talking to me. I never felt that before but now I do. This is not coming from overthinking, I am saying what I feel.

Him: There is nothing like that, between you are looking smoking hot in your picture (it was Snapchat)

Me: I know how you like it hot!

Him: Read a book called Think and grow Rich.

Me: Okay

I felt he is indirectly saying that read that book and be more intellectual and then come back. I am sure it was not attacking but I was so upset that I did not want to carry the conversation hence I said Okay. I wish he had asked me why I feel that way instead of recommending a book to me.

I kind of feel it will be downhill from now on.

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So I’ve been seeing this cap for a little over a month & a half. I fell for him hard & he knows this. I told him on Tuesday. Well, I’ve known that this girl who he used to date was still lurking around. He is 32, she is 21 & I’m 35. He owns a business & she works for him. So it was a secret. She also lives with her parents & is still in school. When we started talking, he told her & he even told her when we got intimate. It sounded to me that he was letting her go. BUT, she is still texting & he insists on having a friendship with her. Well, I come to find out that she’s been in his apartment, finishing a collector set they were working on. I was furious.

Also, he told me two weeks ago that he had commitment problems. We have not made our “thing” official. The day after our talk, his father dies. One of the last convos with his father is about commitment & his mom said how she wants to see him with kids. He told me all of this, so I started thinking that maybe he was coming around. But after hearing about that girl still being around, I’m furious. I started to not answer his texts right away & he started to show his interest by actually initiating.

Well, Friday, he comes over (I live an hour away) after I have dinner with my friends. We only spent a few hours together but he learned that I was furious about that girl being in his apartment bc he offered me a cut of a new business he’s working on. I felt like he wanted me to do this work with him but I’m not sure bc I’m questioning his character. He was talking in circles about how he feels about me. In fact, he actually said they she & me are both friends. He will not commit. So I decided not to text him & he hasn’t reached out. It’s been only a day but we usually text ever day.

We have a wedding next week that he wants to take me to bc I honestly think he’d be embarrassed to take this girl. What is going on here? Do I reach out? I feel like it’s a competition & I’m not into that.

See he clearly has a soft corner for this girl since she is his past love. So he is keeping her around trying to build the bridges back. But he also likes you alot since he is asking you to go with him and is also initiating (we never do if we don't care). You are more compatible with him too. I get why you would be furious and it's fair but he has to decide with whom he sees a future. It isn't easy when past comes back and that's why he is just not committing yet and keeping you both as friends. Maybe just leave him be and let him decide, he needs to decide his priorities and maintain the boundaries.

Btw what's your sign?

Posted by daisy57

A part of our yesterday's conversation:

Me: I get a vibe that you do not enjoy talking to me. I never felt that before but now I do. This is not coming from overthinking, I am saying what I feel.

Him: There is nothing like that, between you are looking smoking hot in your picture (it was Snapchat)

Me: I know how you like it hot!

Him: Read a book called Think and grow Rich.

Me: Okay

I felt he is indirectly saying that read that book and be more intellectual and then come back. I am sure it was not attacking but I was so upset that I did not want to carry the conversation hence I said Okay. I wish he had asked me why I feel that way instead of recommending a book to me.

I kind of feel it will be downhill from now on.

Hey!

Well it could be just your feelings and not his. I can give my example, I mean I felt like that with someone too and then we didn't talk for a long time and when we did things just felt right and better than before. So don't lose heart yet.

And this book is not an intellectual one, it is a self help book and we recommend self help things to people we care since we spend alot of our time reading these type of things.

And yes he should have asked you why did you feel like it but he evaded it. Do you talk emotions generally?

Yes we did talk about emotions before. I was able to speak about almost every feeling or emotion words could tell him without any awkwardness or fear of losing him and that's exactly what I tried to do when I started this conversation.

He is not great in showing his emotions. He almost avoids it all the time. I don't like to force anyway.

So my fear was right, he thinks less of me by recommending me a self help book. Okay cool. Gone are those days when we used to have fun and togetherness. It all sucks now.

Posted by daisy57

A part of our yesterday's conversation:

Me: I get a vibe that you do not enjoy talking to me. I never felt that before but now I do. This is not coming from overthinking, I am saying what I feel.

Him: There is nothing like that, between you are looking smoking hot in your picture (it was Snapchat)

Me: I know how you like it hot!

Him: Read a book called Think and grow Rich.

Me: Okay

I felt he is indirectly saying that read that book and be more intellectual and then come back. I am sure it was not attacking but I was so upset that I did not want to carry the conversation hence I said Okay. I wish he had asked me why I feel that way instead of recommending a book to me.

I kind of feel it will be downhill from now on.

Most guys don't want to talk about feelings and how you feel untill they are really committed unless they are *that type of guy to be very verbal and expressive.

He knows you want him to ask about your feelings and talk, but he doesn't want to. Or *feel like it😉

You are right starlord. He does not want to talk. I will give him as much space as he wants to, I must have forced him to talk to me (un)knowingly. It's fine, I have too much perseverance which asks me to try repeatedly and I guess that's how I lose people.

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You are right starlord. He does not want to talk. I will give him as much space as he wants to, I must have forced him to talk to me (un)knowingly. It's fine, I have too much perseverance which asks me to try repeatedly and I guess that's how I lose people.

You are putting his needs before your own then. If that is not gonna make you bitter or feel bad about yourself, go ahead. But otherwise I would suggest to try and love on from this particular guy, because he is not giving you, what you feel you need and want in your life. So at this point you are settling, and mostly that makes people bitter and unhappy.

Good journey in whatever you do.

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So I’ve been seeing this cap for a little over a month & a half. I fell for him hard & he knows this. I told him on Tuesday. Well, I’ve known that this girl who he used to date was still lurking around. He is 32, she is 21 & I’m 35. He owns a business & she works for him. So it was a secret. She also lives with her parents & is still in school. When we started talking, he told her & he even told her when we got intimate. It sounded to me that he was letting her go. BUT, she is still texting & he insists on having a friendship with her. Well, I come to find out that she’s been in his apartment, finishing a collector set they were working on. I was furious.

Also, he told me two weeks ago that he had commitment problems. We have not made our “thing” official. The day after our talk, his father dies. One of the last convos with his father is about commitment & his mom said how she wants to see him with kids. He told me all of this, so I started thinking that maybe he was coming around. But after hearing about that girl still being around, I’m furious. I started to not answer his texts right away & he started to show his interest by actually initiating.

Well, Friday, he comes over (I live an hour away) after I have dinner with my friends. We only spent a few hours together but he learned that I was furious about that girl being in his apartment bc he offered me a cut of a new business he’s working on. I felt like he wanted me to do this work with him but I’m not sure bc I’m questioning his character. He was talking in circles about how he feels about me. In fact, he actually said they she & me are both friends. He will not commit. So I decided not to text him & he hasn’t reached out. It’s been only a day but we usually text ever day.

We have a wedding next week that he wants to take me to bc I honestly think he’d be embarrassed to take this girl. What is going on here? Do I reach out? I feel like it’s a competition & I’m not into that.

See he clearly has a soft corner for this girl since she is his past love. So he is keeping her around trying to build the bridges back. But he also likes you alot since he is asking you to go with him and is also initiating (we never do if we don't care). You are more compatible with him too. I get why you would be furious and it's fair but he has to decide with whom he sees a future. It isn't easy when past comes back and that's why he is just not committing yet and keeping you both as friends. Maybe just leave him be and let him decide, he needs to decide his priorities and maintain the boundaries.

Btw what's your sign?

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I'm a Libra. This wedding is so weird b/c he wants to match and he's so concerned that I'm not going. I mean, he has a friend going by himself. He doesn't need me. I'm not a jerk and said that I was going to the wedding. But, I really think I need to pull back. I'm not okay with playing competition games with a 21 year old. I'm just at a different stage in my life. Also, he could take her. He flat out admitted when I brought it up that it would be embarrassing. My gosh! Really, he should have never messed around with his employees. How irresponsible. Now, he's being even dumber. She could sue him or something because he is her boss. He knows I'm not happy about it, and I'm pulling back. I don't text him back right away and I don't really initiate anymore. I will say that he has been texting me more. BUT, I'm not sure if it's because of me or the wedding. Also, I'm wondering why he offered me 15% of the business. I mean, is he trying to get my money?

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Posted by daisy57

You are right starlord. He does not want to talk. I will give him as much space as he wants to, I must have forced him to talk to me (un)knowingly. It's fine, I have too much perseverance which asks me to try repeatedly and I guess that's how I lose people.

You are putting his needs before your own then. If that is not gonna make you bitter or feel bad about yourself, go ahead. But otherwise I would suggest to try and love on from this particular guy, because he is not giving you, what you feel you need and want in your life. So at this point you are settling, and mostly that makes people bitter and unhappy.

Good journey in whatever you do.

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Sigh, we reached this point. I am trying to make it work until I can. But once I leave, there won't be turning back ever. I am pretty firm in sticking to my decisions once I make it. It's fine, thank you! 🙂

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So I’ve been seeing this cap for a little over a month & a half. I fell for him hard & he knows this. I told him on Tuesday. Well, I’ve known that this girl who he used to date was still lurking around. He is 32, she is 21 & I’m 35. He owns a business & she works for him. So it was a secret. She also lives with her parents & is still in school. When we started talking, he told her & he even told her when we got intimate. It sounded to me that he was letting her go. BUT, she is still texting & he insists on having a friendship with her. Well, I come to find out that she’s been in his apartment, finishing a collector set they were working on. I was furious.

Also, he told me two weeks ago that he had commitment problems. We have not made our “thing” official. The day after our talk, his father dies. One of the last convos with his father is about commitment & his mom said how she wants to see him with kids. He told me all of this, so I started thinking that maybe he was coming around. But after hearing about that girl still being around, I’m furious. I started to not answer his texts right away & he started to show his interest by actually initiating.

Well, Friday, he comes over (I live an hour away) after I have dinner with my friends. We only spent a few hours together but he learned that I was furious about that girl being in his apartment bc he offered me a cut of a new business he’s working on. I felt like he wanted me to do this work with him but I’m not sure bc I’m questioning his character. He was talking in circles about how he feels about me. In fact, he actually said they she & me are both friends. He will not commit. So I decided not to text him & he hasn’t reached out. It’s been only a day but we usually text ever day.

We have a wedding next week that he wants to take me to bc I honestly think he’d be embarrassed to take this girl. What is going on here? Do I reach out? I feel like it’s a competition & I’m not into that.

See he clearly has a soft corner for this girl since she is his past love. So he is keeping her around trying to build the bridges back. But he also likes you alot since he is asking you to go with him and is also initiating (we never do if we don't care). You are more compatible with him too. I get why you would be furious and it's fair but he has to decide with whom he sees a future. It isn't easy when past comes back and that's why he is just not committing yet and keeping you both as friends. Maybe just leave him be and let him decide, he needs to decide his priorities and maintain the boundaries.

Btw what's your sign?

I'm a Libra. This wedding is so weird b/c he wants to match and he's so concerned that I'm not going. I mean, he has a friend going by himself. He doesn't need me. I'm not a jerk and said that I was going to the wedding. But, I really think I need to pull back. I'm not okay with playing competition games with a 21 year old. I'm just at a different stage in my life. Also, he could take her. He flat out admitted when I brought it up that it would be embarrassing. My gosh! Really, he should have never messed around with his employees. How irresponsible. Now, he's being even dumber. She could sue him or something because he is her boss. He knows I'm not happy about it, and I'm pulling back. I don't text him back right away and I don't really initiate anymore. I will say that he has been texting me more. BUT, I'm not sure if it's because of me or the wedding. Also, I'm wondering why he offered me 15% of the business. I mean, is he trying to get my money?

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See he can go alone to the wedding still he asked you because you mattered enough to him to consider it. And yes he knows it would be embarrassing to take that girl and it is in his mind too that that relationship has no future. Admittedly he shouldn't have been involved with her but you don't know sometimes we just like someone. You are doing the right thing by pulling back otherwise he won't know what your presence means to him. And he probably would be in two minds right now and would be probably thinking how to handle this. Ideally he should just cut her off otherwise he would be losing you in the process. Maybe he wants you to be a part of his business since he trusts you enough.

Posted by daisy57

Yes we did talk about emotions before. I was able to speak about almost every feeling or emotion words could tell him without any awkwardness or fear of losing him and that's exactly what I tried to do when I started this conversation.

He is not great in showing his emotions. He almost avoids it all the time. I don't like to force anyway.

So my fear was right, he thinks less of me by recommending me a self help book. Okay cool. Gone are those days when we used to have fun and togetherness. It all sucks now.

That is how the relationship should be. Maybe he just didnt feel comfortable talking about it then. Give some time. He will come around.

Nah he doesn't think less of you. We like to show care by suggesting such things. Don't over react. Just give some time and if things still bother you just let him know. Always be clear with us.

A recent development:

Yesterday I got certified from Harvard after completing a spring course and I posted a picture on Snap chat out of excitement. He knew about it as I used to mention how difficult I find few assignments to do but as we were not smooth in talks, I did not mention that I completed my course.

Him: That's great!!!

Me: Last few quizzes were very difficult though.

Him: I know how bad you are with quizzes anyway (he was being sarcastic and first time in weeks he talked about it to me)

Me: We can play a fair clean game to see how good I could be (I was being sarcastic too)

Him: No you win

Me: Why are you letting me win without even playing? Give me a topic and we shall play daamn

Him: You are determined to win, you will win. Why playing then?

Me: Why are you being a spoilsport here? I am just saying it for fun, I miss our conversations.

He has not responded to me yet on this. Maybe I am too heavy headed and when he senses this, he tries to escape as it could hurt his ego? But I cannot fake dumbness in my knowledge level just to win his time or heart. I like those guys who appreciates good hard work in everyone and he showed me he did appreciate my course completion. But did it make him feel I am more than him? That's not what I want... And he is very very smart in his work.

I know I am being stupid about writing somethings here. We both are 29, young and just trying to the best we can for any given situation.

Posted by daisy57

A recent development:

Yesterday I got certified from Harvard after completing a spring course and I posted a picture on Snap chat out of excitement. He knew about it as I used to mention how difficult I find few assignments to do but as we were not smooth in talks, I did not mention that I completed my course.

Him: That's great!!!

Me: Last few quizzes were very difficult though.

Him: I know how bad you are with quizzes anyway (he was being sarcastic and first time in weeks he talked about it to me)

Me: We can play a fair clean game to see how good I could be (I was being sarcastic too)

Him: No you win

Me: Why are you letting me win without even playing? Give me a topic and we shall play daamn

Him: You are determined to win, you will win. Why playing then?

Me: Why are you being a spoilsport here? I am just saying it for fun, I miss our conversations.

He has not responded to me yet on this. Maybe I am too heavy headed and when he senses this, he tries to escape as it could hurt his ego? But I cannot fake dumbness in my knowledge level just to win his time or heart. I like those guys who appreciates good hard work in everyone and he showed me he did appreciate my course completion. But did it make him feel I am more than him? That's not what I want... And he is very very smart in his work.

I know I am being stupid about writing somethings here. We both are 29, young and just trying to the best we can for any given situation.

Honestly.... Just do what you feel you gotta do. Listen to yourself. Nobody really knows anything about other peoples interrelationships. I could tell you one thing, but that will be based off my life and my experiences with a cap guy, but that is all bases on how I am too.

I got to a very happy place finally, and that has been because I have invested the most time in myself and listened to myself first and foremost before anyone else.

No I am not in any way in a relationship with the cap, but I am the most happy I have been with myself in a long time and the importance of even being in any kind of relationship is secondary. Or third. Or fourth. Or so on and so on.

Posted by daisy57

A recent development:

Yesterday I got certified from Harvard after completing a spring course and I posted a picture on Snap chat out of excitement. He knew about it as I used to mention how difficult I find few assignments to do but as we were not smooth in talks, I did not mention that I completed my course.

Him: That's great!!!

Me: Last few quizzes were very difficult though.

Him: I know how bad you are with quizzes anyway (he was being sarcastic and first time in weeks he talked about it to me)

Me: We can play a fair clean game to see how good I could be (I was being sarcastic too)

Him: No you win

Me: Why are you letting me win without even playing? Give me a topic and we shall play daamn

Him: You are determined to win, you will win. Why playing then?

Me: Why are you being a spoilsport here? I am just saying it for fun, I miss our conversations.

He has not responded to me yet on this. Maybe I am too heavy headed and when he senses this, he tries to escape as it could hurt his ego? But I cannot fake dumbness in my knowledge level just to win his time or heart. I like those guys who appreciates good hard work in everyone and he showed me he did appreciate my course completion. But did it make him feel I am more than him? That's not what I want... And he is very very smart in his work.

I know I am being stupid about writing somethings here. We both are 29, young and just trying to the best we can for any given situation.

See he was joking and being sarcastic so that's a good thing. Things are returning to normal. And yes his ego got hurt very badly that time when he lost to you. But it isn't your fault. He needs to be humble and accept it. He didn't reply since he just doesn't want to indulge in any emotions right now(since you said about missing those conversations). His bruised ego will take some time to heal so maybe try some other fun activities. Maybe try to work on something together rather than competing with each other. Sorry but egos can be very fragile especially when someone prides on something and yet gets defeated in it.

I am actually doing what I feel like doing. And maybe I should not have posted here and judged him based on a zodiac sign.

But he is talking to me normally now and we are not discussing about any game anymore.

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So I’ve been seeing this cap for a little over a month & a half. I fell for him hard & he knows this. I told him on Tuesday. Well, I’ve known that this girl who he used to date was still lurking around. He is 32, she is 21 & I’m 35. He owns a business & she works for him. So it was a secret. She also lives with her parents & is still in school. When we started talking, he told her & he even told her when we got intimate. It sounded to me that he was letting her go. BUT, she is still texting & he insists on having a friendship with her. Well, I come to find out that she’s been in his apartment, finishing a collector set they were working on. I was furious.

Also, he told me two weeks ago that he had commitment problems. We have not made our “thing” official. The day after our talk, his father dies. One of the last convos with his father is about commitment & his mom said how she wants to see him with kids. He told me all of this, so I started thinking that maybe he was coming around. But after hearing about that girl still being around, I’m furious. I started to not answer his texts right away & he started to show his interest by actually initiating.

Well, Friday, he comes over (I live an hour away) after I have dinner with my friends. We only spent a few hours together but he learned that I was furious about that girl being in his apartment bc he offered me a cut of a new business he’s working on. I felt like he wanted me to do this work with him but I’m not sure bc I’m questioning his character. He was talking in circles about how he feels about me. In fact, he actually said they she & me are both friends. He will not commit. So I decided not to text him & he hasn’t reached out. It’s been only a day but we usually text ever day.

We have a wedding next week that he wants to take me to bc I honestly think he’d be embarrassed to take this girl. What is going on here? Do I reach out? I feel like it’s a competition & I’m not into that.

See he clearly has a soft corner for this girl since she is his past love. So he is keeping her around trying to build the bridges back. But he also likes you alot since he is asking you to go with him and is also initiating (we never do if we don't care). You are more compatible with him too. I get why you would be furious and it's fair but he has to decide with whom he sees a future. It isn't easy when past comes back and that's why he is just not committing yet and keeping you both as friends. Maybe just leave him be and let him decide, he needs to decide his priorities and maintain the boundaries.

Btw what's your sign?

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Here's an update - He took me to the wedding and came back to work and told people about it. She found out and got really mad and stopped talking to him. While this is great, I wish it came from him. Also, I haven't ever thought of him as a liar until his sister told me that this girl did send flowers for his dad's memorial service before that wedding. He told me that they came from his company. I believe her for sure. So I'm not sure what to believe now when it comes to him. He says they aren't hanging out or talking, and I want to believe him. It's just weird that she is still all about his company. It's like she won't leave. Also, he invited me to another state to see his mom - not sure if I should take this as anything. Besides, he needs to confirm it with his mom yet. He has been calling me more and stepping up, but that's because I have really stepped back. I would love to have something with this man, but I'm not sure if I can trust him. For example, he spent July 4/5 with me and accidentally called me by her name. He apologized and said it was an accident. It was while we were joking around, getting coffee. Not sure if I should read into that.

Cap guys lie about other girls just as much as any other guy🤷🏼‍♀️

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So I’ve been seeing this cap for a little over a month & a half. I fell for him hard & he knows this. I told him on Tuesday. Well, I’ve known that this girl who he used to date was still lurking around. He is 32, she is 21 & I’m 35. He owns a business & she works for him. So it was a secret. She also lives with her parents & is still in school. When we started talking, he told her & he even told her when we got intimate. It sounded to me that he was letting her go. BUT, she is still texting & he insists on having a friendship with her. Well, I come to find out that she’s been in his apartment, finishing a collector set they were working on. I was furious.

Also, he told me two weeks ago that he had commitment problems. We have not made our “thing” official. The day after our talk, his father dies. One of the last convos with his father is about commitment & his mom said how she wants to see him with kids. He told me all of this, so I started thinking that maybe he was coming around. But after hearing about that girl still being around, I’m furious. I started to not answer his texts right away & he started to show his interest by actually initiating.

Well, Friday, he comes over (I live an hour away) after I have dinner with my friends. We only spent a few hours together but he learned that I was furious about that girl being in his apartment bc he offered me a cut of a new business he’s working on. I felt like he wanted me to do this work with him but I’m not sure bc I’m questioning his character. He was talking in circles about how he feels about me. In fact, he actually said they she & me are both friends. He will not commit. So I decided not to text him & he hasn’t reached out. It’s been only a day but we usually text ever day.

We have a wedding next week that he wants to take me to bc I honestly think he’d be embarrassed to take this girl. What is going on here? Do I reach out? I feel like it’s a competition & I’m not into that.

See he clearly has a soft corner for this girl since she is his past love. So he is keeping her around trying to build the bridges back. But he also likes you alot since he is asking you to go with him and is also initiating (we never do if we don't care). You are more compatible with him too. I get why you would be furious and it's fair but he has to decide with whom he sees a future. It isn't easy when past comes back and that's why he is just not committing yet and keeping you both as friends. Maybe just leave him be and let him decide, he needs to decide his priorities and maintain the boundaries.

Btw what's your sign?

Here's an update - He took me to the wedding and came back to work and told people about it. She found out and got really mad and stopped talking to him. While this is great, I wish it came from him. Also, I haven't ever thought of him as a liar until his sister told me that this girl did send flowers for his dad's memorial service before that wedding. He told me that they came from his company. I believe her for sure. So I'm not sure what to believe now when it comes to him. He says they aren't hanging out or talking, and I want to believe him. It's just weird that she is still all about his company. It's like she won't leave. Also, he invited me to another state to see his mom - not sure if I should take this as anything. Besides, he needs to confirm it with his mom yet. He has been calling me more and stepping up, but that's because I have really stepped back. I would love to have something with this man, but I'm not sure if I can trust him. For example, he spent July 4/5 with me and accidentally called me by her name. He apologized and said it was an accident. It was while we were joking around, getting coffee. Not sure if I should read into that.

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See him taking you to the wedding and telling everyone about it means he does consider you as a potential future life partner. Moreover he invited you to see his mom means he is definitely serious about you. He is calling you more because he doesn't want to lose you. And yes the other girl doesn't want to let him go and would be doing everything to be in his attention and he also prob does think of her sometimes otherwise he wouldn't have called you by her name. But even he knows that girl is past and maybe there are just lingering emotions which are making things difficult for you both. Either the girl accepts that nothing is possible between her and him and backs off or your guy just cuts her off. He can't be in two boats at the same time.

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So I’ve been seeing this cap for a little over a month & a half. I fell for him hard & he knows this. I told him on Tuesday. Well, I’ve known that this girl who he used to date was still lurking around. He is 32, she is 21 & I’m 35. He owns a business & she works for him. So it was a secret. She also lives with her parents & is still in school. When we started talking, he told her & he even told her when we got intimate. It sounded to me that he was letting her go. BUT, she is still texting & he insists on having a friendship with her. Well, I come to find out that she’s been in his apartment, finishing a collector set they were working on. I was furious.

Also, he told me two weeks ago that he had commitment problems. We have not made our “thing” official. The day after our talk, his father dies. One of the last convos with his father is about commitment & his mom said how she wants to see him with kids. He told me all of this, so I started thinking that maybe he was coming around. But after hearing about that girl still being around, I’m furious. I started to not answer his texts right away & he started to show his interest by actually initiating.

Well, Friday, he comes over (I live an hour away) after I have dinner with my friends. We only spent a few hours together but he learned that I was furious about that girl being in his apartment bc he offered me a cut of a new business he’s working on. I felt like he wanted me to do this work with him but I’m not sure bc I’m questioning his character. He was talking in circles about how he feels about me. In fact, he actually said they she & me are both friends. He will not commit. So I decided not to text him & he hasn’t reached out. It’s been only a day but we usually text ever day.

We have a wedding next week that he wants to take me to bc I honestly think he’d be embarrassed to take this girl. What is going on here? Do I reach out? I feel like it’s a competition & I’m not into that.

See he clearly has a soft corner for this girl since she is his past love. So he is keeping her around trying to build the bridges back. But he also likes you alot since he is asking you to go with him and is also initiating (we never do if we don't care). You are more compatible with him too. I get why you would be furious and it's fair but he has to decide with whom he sees a future. It isn't easy when past comes back and that's why he is just not committing yet and keeping you both as friends. Maybe just leave him be and let him decide, he needs to decide his priorities and maintain the boundaries.

Btw what's your sign?

Here's an update - He took me to the wedding and came back to work and told people about it. She found out and got really mad and stopped talking to him. While this is great, I wish it came from him. Also, I haven't ever thought of him as a liar until his sister told me that this girl did send flowers for his dad's memorial service before that wedding. He told me that they came from his company. I believe her for sure. So I'm not sure what to believe now when it comes to him. He says they aren't hanging out or talking, and I want to believe him. It's just weird that she is still all about his company. It's like she won't leave. Also, he invited me to another state to see his mom - not sure if I should take this as anything. Besides, he needs to confirm it with his mom yet. He has been calling me more and stepping up, but that's because I have really stepped back. I would love to have something with this man, but I'm not sure if I can trust him. For example, he spent July 4/5 with me and accidentally called me by her name. He apologized and said it was an accident. It was while we were joking around, getting coffee. Not sure if I should read into that.

See him taking you to the wedding and telling everyone about it means he does consider you as a potential future life partner. Moreover he invited you to see his mom means he is definitely serious about you. He is calling you more because he doesn't want to lose you. And yes the other girl doesn't want to let him go and would be doing everything to be in his attention and he also prob does think of her sometimes otherwise he wouldn't have called you by her name. But even he knows that girl is past and maybe there are just lingering emotions which are making things difficult for you both. Either the girl accepts that nothing is possible between her and him and backs off or your guy just cuts her off. He can't be in two boats at the same time.

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Well, we got into a little fight on Wednesday. He was calling me a lot and he texted me like twice on Thursday. However, I haven't heard from him in two days. Now, I'm worried and wondering if I've been ghosted. I got mad at him because he didn't make any plans with me this week. At first, I didn't care because I get it when it comes to being busy at work. But while I was on the phone with him on Wednesday, he was making plans to go mountain biking with another girl, who I believe is an actual friend. I don't care about him going mountain biking. I care that he said he was too busy to see me. I'm a believer that if a guy really likes you, he'll see you. I'm so upset because it seemed like it going good. I just texted him this - "...?" and haven't gotten a response.

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So I’ve been seeing this cap for a little over a month & a half. I fell for him hard & he knows this. I told him on Tuesday. Well, I’ve known that this girl who he used to date was still lurking around. He is 32, she is 21 & I’m 35. He owns a business & she works for him. So it was a secret. She also lives with her parents & is still in school. When we started talking, he told her & he even told her when we got intimate. It sounded to me that he was letting her go. BUT, she is still texting & he insists on having a friendship with her. Well, I come to find out that she’s been in his apartment, finishing a collector set they were working on. I was furious.

Also, he told me two weeks ago that he had commitment problems. We have not made our “thing” official. The day after our talk, his father dies. One of the last convos with his father is about commitment & his mom said how she wants to see him with kids. He told me all of this, so I started thinking that maybe he was coming around. But after hearing about that girl still being around, I’m furious. I started to not answer his texts right away & he started to show his interest by actually initiating.

Well, Friday, he comes over (I live an hour away) after I have dinner with my friends. We only spent a few hours together but he learned that I was furious about that girl being in his apartment bc he offered me a cut of a new business he’s working on. I felt like he wanted me to do this work with him but I’m not sure bc I’m questioning his character. He was talking in circles about how he feels about me. In fact, he actually said they she & me are both friends. He will not commit. So I decided not to text him & he hasn’t reached out. It’s been only a day but we usually text ever day.

We have a wedding next week that he wants to take me to bc I honestly think he’d be embarrassed to take this girl. What is going on here? Do I reach out? I feel like it’s a competition & I’m not into that.

See he clearly has a soft corner for this girl since she is his past love. So he is keeping her around trying to build the bridges back. But he also likes you alot since he is asking you to go with him and is also initiating (we never do if we don't care). You are more compatible with him too. I get why you would be furious and it's fair but he has to decide with whom he sees a future. It isn't easy when past comes back and that's why he is just not committing yet and keeping you both as friends. Maybe just leave him be and let him decide, he needs to decide his priorities and maintain the boundaries.

Btw what's your sign?

Here's an update - He took me to the wedding and came back to work and told people about it. She found out and got really mad and stopped talking to him. While this is great, I wish it came from him. Also, I haven't ever thought of him as a liar until his sister told me that this girl did send flowers for his dad's memorial service before that wedding. He told me that they came from his company. I believe her for sure. So I'm not sure what to believe now when it comes to him. He says they aren't hanging out or talking, and I want to believe him. It's just weird that she is still all about his company. It's like she won't leave. Also, he invited me to another state to see his mom - not sure if I should take this as anything. Besides, he needs to confirm it with his mom yet. He has been calling me more and stepping up, but that's because I have really stepped back. I would love to have something with this man, but I'm not sure if I can trust him. For example, he spent July 4/5 with me and accidentally called me by her name. He apologized and said it was an accident. It was while we were joking around, getting coffee. Not sure if I should read into that.

See him taking you to the wedding and telling everyone about it means he does consider you as a potential future life partner. Moreover he invited you to see his mom means he is definitely serious about you. He is calling you more because he doesn't want to lose you. And yes the other girl doesn't want to let him go and would be doing everything to be in his attention and he also prob does think of her sometimes otherwise he wouldn't have called you by her name. But even he knows that girl is past and maybe there are just lingering emotions which are making things difficult for you both. Either the girl accepts that nothing is possible between her and him and backs off or your guy just cuts her off. He can't be in two boats at the same time.

Well, we got into a little fight on Wednesday. He was calling me a lot and he texted me like twice on Thursday. However, I haven't heard from him in two days. Now, I'm worried and wondering if I've been ghosted. I got mad at him because he didn't make any plans with me this week. At first, I didn't care because I get it when it comes to being busy at work. But while I was on the phone with him on Wednesday, he was making plans to go mountain biking with another girl, who I believe is an actual friend. I don't care about him going mountain biking. I care that he said he was too busy to see me. I'm a believer that if a guy really likes you, he'll see you. I'm so upset because it seemed like it going good. I just texted him this - "...?" and haven't gotten a response.

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Well he did try to reach out and wanted to set things right but since you didn't respond he would have thought better to give you space and once you cool your mind he will talk to you. Yeah making plans with another girl instead of being with you would feel bad but what if that person would have been a guy and he just wanted to take a break from all this. Just see from this perspective as well.

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So I’ve been seeing this cap for a little over a month & a half. I fell for him hard & he knows this. I told him on Tuesday. Well, I’ve known that this girl who he used to date was still lurking around. He is 32, she is 21 & I’m 35. He owns a business & she works for him. So it was a secret. She also lives with her parents & is still in school. When we started talking, he told her & he even told her when we got intimate. It sounded to me that he was letting her go. BUT, she is still texting & he insists on having a friendship with her. Well, I come to find out that she’s been in his apartment, finishing a collector set they were working on. I was furious.

Also, he told me two weeks ago that he had commitment problems. We have not made our “thing” official. The day after our talk, his father dies. One of the last convos with his father is about commitment & his mom said how she wants to see him with kids. He told me all of this, so I started thinking that maybe he was coming around. But after hearing about that girl still being around, I’m furious. I started to not answer his texts right away & he started to show his interest by actually initiating.

Well, Friday, he comes over (I live an hour away) after I have dinner with my friends. We only spent a few hours together but he learned that I was furious about that girl being in his apartment bc he offered me a cut of a new business he’s working on. I felt like he wanted me to do this work with him but I’m not sure bc I’m questioning his character. He was talking in circles about how he feels about me. In fact, he actually said they she & me are both friends. He will not commit. So I decided not to text him & he hasn’t reached out. It’s been only a day but we usually text ever day.

We have a wedding next week that he wants to take me to bc I honestly think he’d be embarrassed to take this girl. What is going on here? Do I reach out? I feel like it’s a competition & I’m not into that.

See he clearly has a soft corner for this girl since she is his past love. So he is keeping her around trying to build the bridges back. But he also likes you alot since he is asking you to go with him and is also initiating (we never do if we don't care). You are more compatible with him too. I get why you would be furious and it's fair but he has to decide with whom he sees a future. It isn't easy when past comes back and that's why he is just not committing yet and keeping you both as friends. Maybe just leave him be and let him decide, he needs to decide his priorities and maintain the boundaries.

Btw what's your sign?

Here's an update - He took me to the wedding and came back to work and told people about it. She found out and got really mad and stopped talking to him. While this is great, I wish it came from him. Also, I haven't ever thought of him as a liar until his sister told me that this girl did send flowers for his dad's memorial service before that wedding. He told me that they came from his company. I believe her for sure. So I'm not sure what to believe now when it comes to him. He says they aren't hanging out or talking, and I want to believe him. It's just weird that she is still all about his company. It's like she won't leave. Also, he invited me to another state to see his mom - not sure if I should take this as anything. Besides, he needs to confirm it with his mom yet. He has been calling me more and stepping up, but that's because I have really stepped back. I would love to have something with this man, but I'm not sure if I can trust him. For example, he spent July 4/5 with me and accidentally called me by her name. He apologized and said it was an accident. It was while we were joking around, getting coffee. Not sure if I should read into that.

See him taking you to the wedding and telling everyone about it means he does consider you as a potential future life partner. Moreover he invited you to see his mom means he is definitely serious about you. He is calling you more because he doesn't want to lose you. And yes the other girl doesn't want to let him go and would be doing everything to be in his attention and he also prob does think of her sometimes otherwise he wouldn't have called you by her name. But even he knows that girl is past and maybe there are just lingering emotions which are making things difficult for you both. Either the girl accepts that nothing is possible between her and him and backs off or your guy just cuts her off. He can't be in two boats at the same time.

Well, we got into a little fight on Wednesday. He was calling me a lot and he texted me like twice on Thursday. However, I haven't heard from him in two days. Now, I'm worried and wondering if I've been ghosted. I got mad at him because he didn't make any plans with me this week. At first, I didn't care because I get it when it comes to being busy at work. But while I was on the phone with him on Wednesday, he was making plans to go mountain biking with another girl, who I believe is an actual friend. I don't care about him going mountain biking. I care that he said he was too busy to see me. I'm a believer that if a guy really likes you, he'll see you. I'm so upset because it seemed like it going good. I just texted him this - "...?" and haven't gotten a response.

Well he did try to reach out and wanted to set things right but since you didn't respond he would have thought better to give you space and once you cool your mind he will talk to you. Yeah making plans with another girl instead of being with you would feel bad but what if that person would have been a guy and he just wanted to take a break from all this. Just see from this perspective as well.

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Oh, I responded to his text. I just haven't heard from him in two days. I'm afraid he's ghosting me.

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So I’ve been seeing this cap for a little over a month & a half. I fell for him hard & he knows this. I told him on Tuesday. Well, I’ve known that this girl who he used to date was still lurking around. He is 32, she is 21 & I’m 35. He owns a business & she works for him. So it was a secret. She also lives with her parents & is still in school. When we started talking, he told her & he even told her when we got intimate. It sounded to me that he was letting her go. BUT, she is still texting & he insists on having a friendship with her. Well, I come to find out that she’s been in his apartment, finishing a collector set they were working on. I was furious.

Also, he told me two weeks ago that he had commitment problems. We have not made our “thing” official. The day after our talk, his father dies. One of the last convos with his father is about commitment & his mom said how she wants to see him with kids. He told me all of this, so I started thinking that maybe he was coming around. But after hearing about that girl still being around, I’m furious. I started to not answer his texts right away & he started to show his interest by actually initiating.

Well, Friday, he comes over (I live an hour away) after I have dinner with my friends. We only spent a few hours together but he learned that I was furious about that girl being in his apartment bc he offered me a cut of a new business he’s working on. I felt like he wanted me to do this work with him but I’m not sure bc I’m questioning his character. He was talking in circles about how he feels about me. In fact, he actually said they she & me are both friends. He will not commit. So I decided not to text him & he hasn’t reached out. It’s been only a day but we usually text ever day.

We have a wedding next week that he wants to take me to bc I honestly think he’d be embarrassed to take this girl. What is going on here? Do I reach out? I feel like it’s a competition & I’m not into that.

See he clearly has a soft corner for this girl since she is his past love. So he is keeping her around trying to build the bridges back. But he also likes you alot since he is asking you to go with him and is also initiating (we never do if we don't care). You are more compatible with him too. I get why you would be furious and it's fair but he has to decide with whom he sees a future. It isn't easy when past comes back and that's why he is just not committing yet and keeping you both as friends. Maybe just leave him be and let him decide, he needs to decide his priorities and maintain the boundaries.

Btw what's your sign?

Here's an update - He took me to the wedding and came back to work and told people about it. She found out and got really mad and stopped talking to him. While this is great, I wish it came from him. Also, I haven't ever thought of him as a liar until his sister told me that this girl did send flowers for his dad's memorial service before that wedding. He told me that they came from his company. I believe her for sure. So I'm not sure what to believe now when it comes to him. He says they aren't hanging out or talking, and I want to believe him. It's just weird that she is still all about his company. It's like she won't leave. Also, he invited me to another state to see his mom - not sure if I should take this as anything. Besides, he needs to confirm it with his mom yet. He has been calling me more and stepping up, but that's because I have really stepped back. I would love to have something with this man, but I'm not sure if I can trust him. For example, he spent July 4/5 with me and accidentally called me by her name. He apologized and said it was an accident. It was while we were joking around, getting coffee. Not sure if I should read into that.

See him taking you to the wedding and telling everyone about it means he does consider you as a potential future life partner. Moreover he invited you to see his mom means he is definitely serious about you. He is calling you more because he doesn't want to lose you. And yes the other girl doesn't want to let him go and would be doing everything to be in his attention and he also prob does think of her sometimes otherwise he wouldn't have called you by her name. But even he knows that girl is past and maybe there are just lingering emotions which are making things difficult for you both. Either the girl accepts that nothing is possible between her and him and backs off or your guy just cuts her off. He can't be in two boats at the same time.

Well, we got into a little fight on Wednesday. He was calling me a lot and he texted me like twice on Thursday. However, I haven't heard from him in two days. Now, I'm worried and wondering if I've been ghosted. I got mad at him because he didn't make any plans with me this week. At first, I didn't care because I get it when it comes to being busy at work. But while I was on the phone with him on Wednesday, he was making plans to go mountain biking with another girl, who I believe is an actual friend. I don't care about him going mountain biking. I care that he said he was too busy to see me. I'm a believer that if a guy really likes you, he'll see you. I'm so upset because it seemed like it going good. I just texted him this - "...?" and haven't gotten a response.

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Sounds like you're too focused on him when you could be building an actual social life. Just a thought. Maybe he's putting you on the back burner because he knows you're waiting on him 🙄

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So I’ve been seeing this cap for a little over a month & a half. I fell for him hard & he knows this. I told him on Tuesday. Well, I’ve known that this girl who he used to date was still lurking around. He is 32, she is 21 & I’m 35. He owns a business & she works for him. So it was a secret. She also lives with her parents & is still in school. When we started talking, he told her & he even told her when we got intimate. It sounded to me that he was letting her go. BUT, she is still texting & he insists on having a friendship with her. Well, I come to find out that she’s been in his apartment, finishing a collector set they were working on. I was furious.

Also, he told me two weeks ago that he had commitment problems. We have not made our “thing” official. The day after our talk, his father dies. One of the last convos with his father is about commitment & his mom said how she wants to see him with kids. He told me all of this, so I started thinking that maybe he was coming around. But after hearing about that girl still being around, I’m furious. I started to not answer his texts right away & he started to show his interest by actually initiating.

Well, Friday, he comes over (I live an hour away) after I have dinner with my friends. We only spent a few hours together but he learned that I was furious about that girl being in his apartment bc he offered me a cut of a new business he’s working on. I felt like he wanted me to do this work with him but I’m not sure bc I’m questioning his character. He was talking in circles about how he feels about me. In fact, he actually said they she & me are both friends. He will not commit. So I decided not to text him & he hasn’t reached out. It’s been only a day but we usually text ever day.

We have a wedding next week that he wants to take me to bc I honestly think he’d be embarrassed to take this girl. What is going on here? Do I reach out? I feel like it’s a competition & I’m not into that.

See he clearly has a soft corner for this girl since she is his past love. So he is keeping her around trying to build the bridges back. But he also likes you alot since he is asking you to go with him and is also initiating (we never do if we don't care). You are more compatible with him too. I get why you would be furious and it's fair but he has to decide with whom he sees a future. It isn't easy when past comes back and that's why he is just not committing yet and keeping you both as friends. Maybe just leave him be and let him decide, he needs to decide his priorities and maintain the boundaries.

Btw what's your sign?

Here's an update - He took me to the wedding and came back to work and told people about it. She found out and got really mad and stopped talking to him. While this is great, I wish it came from him. Also, I haven't ever thought of him as a liar until his sister told me that this girl did send flowers for his dad's memorial service before that wedding. He told me that they came from his company. I believe her for sure. So I'm not sure what to believe now when it comes to him. He says they aren't hanging out or talking, and I want to believe him. It's just weird that she is still all about his company. It's like she won't leave. Also, he invited me to another state to see his mom - not sure if I should take this as anything. Besides, he needs to confirm it with his mom yet. He has been calling me more and stepping up, but that's because I have really stepped back. I would love to have something with this man, but I'm not sure if I can trust him. For example, he spent July 4/5 with me and accidentally called me by her name. He apologized and said it was an accident. It was while we were joking around, getting coffee. Not sure if I should read into that.

See him taking you to the wedding and telling everyone about it means he does consider you as a potential future life partner. Moreover he invited you to see his mom means he is definitely serious about you. He is calling you more because he doesn't want to lose you. And yes the other girl doesn't want to let him go and would be doing everything to be in his attention and he also prob does think of her sometimes otherwise he wouldn't have called you by her name. But even he knows that girl is past and maybe there are just lingering emotions which are making things difficult for you both. Either the girl accepts that nothing is possible between her and him and backs off or your guy just cuts her off. He can't be in two boats at the same time.

Well, we got into a little fight on Wednesday. He was calling me a lot and he texted me like twice on Thursday. However, I haven't heard from him in two days. Now, I'm worried and wondering if I've been ghosted. I got mad at him because he didn't make any plans with me this week. At first, I didn't care because I get it when it comes to being busy at work. But while I was on the phone with him on Wednesday, he was making plans to go mountain biking with another girl, who I believe is an actual friend. I don't care about him going mountain biking. I care that he said he was too busy to see me. I'm a believer that if a guy really likes you, he'll see you. I'm so upset because it seemed like it going good. I just texted him this - "...?" and haven't gotten a response.

Well he did try to reach out and wanted to set things right but since you didn't respond he would have thought better to give you space and once you cool your mind he will talk to you. Yeah making plans with another girl instead of being with you would feel bad but what if that person would have been a guy and he just wanted to take a break from all this. Just see from this perspective as well.

Oh, I responded to his text. I just haven't heard from him in two days. I'm afraid he's ghosting me.

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Nah could be just taking his time to reply with a free mind. How was the reply? Angry? Emotional?

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So I’ve been seeing this cap for a little over a month & a half. I fell for him hard & he knows this. I told him on Tuesday. Well, I’ve known that this girl who he used to date was still lurking around. He is 32, she is 21 & I’m 35. He owns a business & she works for him. So it was a secret. She also lives with her parents & is still in school. When we started talking, he told her & he even told her when we got intimate. It sounded to me that he was letting her go. BUT, she is still texting & he insists on having a friendship with her. Well, I come to find out that she’s been in his apartment, finishing a collector set they were working on. I was furious.

Also, he told me two weeks ago that he had commitment problems. We have not made our “thing” official. The day after our talk, his father dies. One of the last convos with his father is about commitment & his mom said how she wants to see him with kids. He told me all of this, so I started thinking that maybe he was coming around. But after hearing about that girl still being around, I’m furious. I started to not answer his texts right away & he started to show his interest by actually initiating.

Well, Friday, he comes over (I live an hour away) after I have dinner with my friends. We only spent a few hours together but he learned that I was furious about that girl being in his apartment bc he offered me a cut of a new business he’s working on. I felt like he wanted me to do this work with him but I’m not sure bc I’m questioning his character. He was talking in circles about how he feels about me. In fact, he actually said they she & me are both friends. He will not commit. So I decided not to text him & he hasn’t reached out. It’s been only a day but we usually text ever day.

We have a wedding next week that he wants to take me to bc I honestly think he’d be embarrassed to take this girl. What is going on here? Do I reach out? I feel like it’s a competition & I’m not into that.

See he clearly has a soft corner for this girl since she is his past love. So he is keeping her around trying to build the bridges back. But he also likes you alot since he is asking you to go with him and is also initiating (we never do if we don't care). You are more compatible with him too. I get why you would be furious and it's fair but he has to decide with whom he sees a future. It isn't easy when past comes back and that's why he is just not committing yet and keeping you both as friends. Maybe just leave him be and let him decide, he needs to decide his priorities and maintain the boundaries.

Btw what's your sign?

Here's an update - He took me to the wedding and came back to work and told people about it. She found out and got really mad and stopped talking to him. While this is great, I wish it came from him. Also, I haven't ever thought of him as a liar until his sister told me that this girl did send flowers for his dad's memorial service before that wedding. He told me that they came from his company. I believe her for sure. So I'm not sure what to believe now when it comes to him. He says they aren't hanging out or talking, and I want to believe him. It's just weird that she is still all about his company. It's like she won't leave. Also, he invited me to another state to see his mom - not sure if I should take this as anything. Besides, he needs to confirm it with his mom yet. He has been calling me more and stepping up, but that's because I have really stepped back. I would love to have something with this man, but I'm not sure if I can trust him. For example, he spent July 4/5 with me and accidentally called me by her name. He apologized and said it was an accident. It was while we were joking around, getting coffee. Not sure if I should read into that.

See him taking you to the wedding and telling everyone about it means he does consider you as a potential future life partner. Moreover he invited you to see his mom means he is definitely serious about you. He is calling you more because he doesn't want to lose you. And yes the other girl doesn't want to let him go and would be doing everything to be in his attention and he also prob does think of her sometimes otherwise he wouldn't have called you by her name. But even he knows that girl is past and maybe there are just lingering emotions which are making things difficult for you both. Either the girl accepts that nothing is possible between her and him and backs off or your guy just cuts her off. He can't be in two boats at the same time.

Well, we got into a little fight on Wednesday. He was calling me a lot and he texted me like twice on Thursday. However, I haven't heard from him in two days. Now, I'm worried and wondering if I've been ghosted. I got mad at him because he didn't make any plans with me this week. At first, I didn't care because I get it when it comes to being busy at work. But while I was on the phone with him on Wednesday, he was making plans to go mountain biking with another girl, who I believe is an actual friend. I don't care about him going mountain biking. I care that he said he was too busy to see me. I'm a believer that if a guy really likes you, he'll see you. I'm so upset because it seemed like it going good. I just texted him this - "...?" and haven't gotten a response.

Sounds like you're too focused on him when you could be building an actual social life. Just a thought. Maybe he's putting you on the back burner because he knows you're waiting on him 🙄

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Um, I actually have a great social life. I really don't see how that is relevant to getting upset about someone not responding?

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Posted by Ags1

So I’ve been seeing this cap for a little over a month & a half. I fell for him hard & he knows this. I told him on Tuesday. Well, I’ve known that this girl who he used to date was still lurking around. He is 32, she is 21 & I’m 35. He owns a business & she works for him. So it was a secret. She also lives with her parents & is still in school. When we started talking, he told her & he even told her when we got intimate. It sounded to me that he was letting her go. BUT, she is still texting & he insists on having a friendship with her. Well, I come to find out that she’s been in his apartment, finishing a collector set they were working on. I was furious.

Also, he told me two weeks ago that he had commitment problems. We have not made our “thing” official. The day after our talk, his father dies. One of the last convos with his father is about commitment & his mom said how she wants to see him with kids. He told me all of this, so I started thinking that maybe he was coming around. But after hearing about that girl still being around, I’m furious. I started to not answer his texts right away & he started to show his interest by actually initiating.

Well, Friday, he comes over (I live an hour away) after I have dinner with my friends. We only spent a few hours together but he learned that I was furious about that girl being in his apartment bc he offered me a cut of a new business he’s working on. I felt like he wanted me to do this work with him but I’m not sure bc I’m questioning his character. He was talking in circles about how he feels about me. In fact, he actually said they she & me are both friends. He will not commit. So I decided not to text him & he hasn’t reached out. It’s been only a day but we usually text ever day.

We have a wedding next week that he wants to take me to bc I honestly think he’d be embarrassed to take this girl. What is going on here? Do I reach out? I feel like it’s a competition & I’m not into that.

See he clearly has a soft corner for this girl since she is his past love. So he is keeping her around trying to build the bridges back. But he also likes you alot since he is asking you to go with him and is also initiating (we never do if we don't care). You are more compatible with him too. I get why you would be furious and it's fair but he has to decide with whom he sees a future. It isn't easy when past comes back and that's why he is just not committing yet and keeping you both as friends. Maybe just leave him be and let him decide, he needs to decide his priorities and maintain the boundaries.

Btw what's your sign?

Here's an update - He took me to the wedding and came back to work and told people about it. She found out and got really mad and stopped talking to him. While this is great, I wish it came from him. Also, I haven't ever thought of him as a liar until his sister told me that this girl did send flowers for his dad's memorial service before that wedding. He told me that they came from his company. I believe her for sure. So I'm not sure what to believe now when it comes to him. He says they aren't hanging out or talking, and I want to believe him. It's just weird that she is still all about his company. It's like she won't leave. Also, he invited me to another state to see his mom - not sure if I should take this as anything. Besides, he needs to confirm it with his mom yet. He has been calling me more and stepping up, but that's because I have really stepped back. I would love to have something with this man, but I'm not sure if I can trust him. For example, he spent July 4/5 with me and accidentally called me by her name. He apologized and said it was an accident. It was while we were joking around, getting coffee. Not sure if I should read into that.

See him taking you to the wedding and telling everyone about it means he does consider you as a potential future life partner. Moreover he invited you to see his mom means he is definitely serious about you. He is calling you more because he doesn't want to lose you. And yes the other girl doesn't want to let him go and would be doing everything to be in his attention and he also prob does think of her sometimes otherwise he wouldn't have called you by her name. But even he knows that girl is past and maybe there are just lingering emotions which are making things difficult for you both. Either the girl accepts that nothing is possible between her and him and backs off or your guy just cuts her off. He can't be in two boats at the same time.

Well, we got into a little fight on Wednesday. He was calling me a lot and he texted me like twice on Thursday. However, I haven't heard from him in two days. Now, I'm worried and wondering if I've been ghosted. I got mad at him because he didn't make any plans with me this week. At first, I didn't care because I get it when it comes to being busy at work. But while I was on the phone with him on Wednesday, he was making plans to go mountain biking with another girl, who I believe is an actual friend. I don't care about him going mountain biking. I care that he said he was too busy to see me. I'm a believer that if a guy really likes you, he'll see you. I'm so upset because it seemed like it going good. I just texted him this - "...?" and haven't gotten a response.

Well he did try to reach out and wanted to set things right but since you didn't respond he would have thought better to give you space and once you cool your mind he will talk to you. Yeah making plans with another girl instead of being with you would feel bad but what if that person would have been a guy and he just wanted to take a break from all this. Just see from this perspective as well.

Oh, I responded to his text. I just haven't heard from him in two days. I'm afraid he's ghosting me.

Nah could be just taking his time to reply with a free mind. How was the reply? Angry? Emotional?

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It was warm. That's why I'm wondering.