@ThatBun
7 Years
Still no kiss?
Does a Capricorn man like you if he hasn't kissed you yet
A Capricorn man may take time to express romantic interest through actions like kisses. His reserved nature and focus on building trust often mean physical intimacy develops slowly. Pay attention to his consistency, attentiveness, and efforts to connect, as these can indicate genuine interest even without immediate physical gestures.
Me:🌞♋🌙♒
Him: ♈
he said on his profile "looking for someone to hang out with". So maybe that's all he's looking for
Go with that.
Me:🌞♋🌙♒
Him: ♈
he said on his profile "looking for someone to hang out with". So maybe that's all he's looking for
Go with that.
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Staying the night and cuddling feels so intimate though?
This sounds cute to me
maybe he's just shy
I don't see a reason to be worried x
at that point I also don't see why you can't take the lead and kiss him during one of your netflix dates or whatever
there's no way that someone is that attentive and still makes time for you with such a busy working schedule & has no genuine/sincere feelings
don't worry 😛 x
That's what I thought! Lol But I'm also shy and if he really wants to take things slow then I don't want to push him. Y'know? I feel like maybe his mistake has been moving too fast in the past, so he's apprehensive.
This sounds cute to me
maybe he's just shy
I don't see a reason to be worried x
at that point I also don't see why you can't take the lead and kiss him during one of your netflix dates or whatever
there's no way that someone is that attentive and still makes time for you with such a busy working schedule & has no genuine/sincere feelings
don't worry 😛 x
That's what I thought! Lol But I'm also shy and if he really wants to take things slow then I don't want to push him. Y'know? I feel like maybe his mistake has been moving too fast in the past, so he's apprehensive.
Welp you may need to step up or wait for the situation to progress?
either way it's in your hands because he doesn't seem to be doing much lolz x
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Eugh.. 🙄 lol
Me:🌞♋🌙♒
Him: ♈
he said on his profile "looking for someone to hang out with". So maybe that's all he's looking for
Go with that.
Staying the night and cuddling feels so intimate though?
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That's all it is this. Just that. Staying the night and cuddling. That's all it is.
Speak up and say what you want from him.
Then you wont be confused on where you stand.
The issue is you didnt draw clear boundaries in the beginning.
If you're too scared to ask where you stand...my advice stands. Take him for exactly what he said.
I wouldn't be able to hold back if I liked him. Sucks that you're a cancer and can't be slick with the flirtiness. 😆
You doing your normal cancer thing of accidentally brushing up against him and pretending you aren't? 😄
If you guys are cuddling in bed, it's pretty easy to turn around and land a kiss on his lips, or elsewhere-
I wouldn't be able to hold back if I liked him. Sucks that you're a cancer and can't be slick with the flirtiness. 😆
You doing your normal cancer thing of accidentally brushing up against him and pretending you aren't? 😄
If you guys are cuddling in bed, it's pretty easy to turn around and land a kiss on his lips, or elsewhere-
Yep, doing my crab dance. Lol
I wouldn't be able to hold back if I liked him. Sucks that you're a cancer and can't be slick with the flirtiness. 😆
You doing your normal cancer thing of accidentally brushing up against him and pretending you aren't? 😄
If you guys are cuddling in bed, it's pretty easy to turn around and land a kiss on his lips, or elsewhere-
Yep, doing my crab dance. Lol
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HELLO!!!!! he's waiting on you to take some initiative! 😛
Get out of that friendzone! 😄
I wouldn't be able to hold back if I liked him. Sucks that you're a cancer and can't be slick with the flirtiness. 😆
You doing your normal cancer thing of accidentally brushing up against him and pretending you aren't? 😄
If you guys are cuddling in bed, it's pretty easy to turn around and land a kiss on his lips, or elsewhere-
Yep, doing my crab dance. Lol
HELLO!!!!! he's waiting on you to take some initiative! 😛
Get out of that friendzone! 😄
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Sounds scary. 😔
I wouldn't be able to hold back if I liked him. Sucks that you're a cancer and can't be slick with the flirtiness. 😆
You doing your normal cancer thing of accidentally brushing up against him and pretending you aren't? 😄
If you guys are cuddling in bed, it's pretty easy to turn around and land a kiss on his lips, or elsewhere-
Yep, doing my crab dance. Lol
HELLO!!!!! he's waiting on you to take some initiative! 😛
Get out of that friendzone! 😄
Sounds scary. 😔
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Well the scooch that ass up on him when you cuddle!
Or
Wait it out lol Someone eventually has to make a move.
It's not like he's gonna say no lol You guys are already cuddling. Do you really think he's gonna reject you?
You guys both have Libra Mars or what? 😆
With your Cancer sun and Aqua moon he probably isn't sure how you feel about him. Aries are DUMB when it comes to knowing if people are flirting with us and what not. You may have to have a conversation with him about it or get up close and give him the opportunity to go in LOL
I had this issue with a Virgo. We NEVER kissed and we had sex the first night we met. At first I didnt mind cause we were fwb but after a while I was like wtf why. Dont wait to long tho cause if you wait to long and he doesnt make a move then yall are just gonna be in a kissless relationship.
Fyi- maybe he has bad halitosis... I found out the Virgo did and I was glad we didnt kiss.
Usually tho if I really like the guy and we didnt kiss on our first date, I'll think hes being a gentleman but if come the 2nd date he doesn't do anything I'll take the initiative and ask him why he hasn't kissed me yet.
This sounds cute to me
maybe he's just shy
I don't see a reason to be worried x
at that point I also don't see why you can't take the lead and kiss him during one of your netflix dates or whatever
there's no way that someone is that attentive and still makes time for you with such a busy working schedule & has no genuine/sincere feelings
don't worry 😛 x
Don’t worry— 👀Are you fucking serious—
This sounds cute to me
maybe he's just shy
I don't see a reason to be worried x
at that point I also don't see why you can't take the lead and kiss him during one of your netflix dates or whatever
there's no way that someone is that attentive and still makes time for you with such a busy working schedule & has no genuine/sincere feelings
don't worry 😛 x
Don’t worry— 👀Are you fucking serious—
what are you suspecting #leomoon?
is this man danger? give us the tea plz
rofl x
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Yeah...like impotent can be a danger...
Geez!!! Man with no sex drive? That’s just so sad and...upsetting and waste of time that could be spent...kissing somebody or something...and then some...with a thing...🤔
This sounds cute to me
maybe he's just shy
I don't see a reason to be worried x
at that point I also don't see why you can't take the lead and kiss him during one of your netflix dates or whatever
there's no way that someone is that attentive and still makes time for you with such a busy working schedule & has no genuine/sincere feelings
don't worry 😛 x
Don’t worry— 👀Are you fucking serious—
what are you suspecting #leomoon?
is this man danger? give us the tea plz
rofl x
Yeah...like impotent can be a danger...
Geez!!! Man with no sex drive? That’s just so sad and...upsetting and waste of time that could be spent...kissing somebody or something...and then some...with a thing...🤔
impotent orrrrrrrr
maybe he's gay
you could be onto something
how is he not getting turned on in such intimate situations ~
op i say wear something revealing but not something where you're trying to be like "oh l0ok i'm wearing something revealing" rofl
& then see what happens 😈
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Nothing will happen! Or it would happen by now...or it’s just Gemini way...making things happen!!!
She is what? Not Gemini is she?
How long would you wait for a kiss between Hi and My name is...?
🤷♀️
This sounds cute to me
maybe he's just shy
I don't see a reason to be worried x
at that point I also don't see why you can't take the lead and kiss him during one of your netflix dates or whatever
there's no way that someone is that attentive and still makes time for you with such a busy working schedule & has no genuine/sincere feelings
don't worry 😛 x
Don’t worry— 👀Are you fucking serious—
what are you suspecting #leomoon?
is this man danger? give us the tea plz
rofl x
Yeah...like impotent can be a danger...
Geez!!! Man with no sex drive? That’s just so sad and...upsetting and waste of time that could be spent...kissing somebody or something...and then some...with a thing...🤔
impotent orrrrrrrr
maybe he's gay
you could be onto something
how is he not getting turned on in such intimate situations ~
op i say wear something revealing but not something where you're trying to be like "oh l0ok i'm wearing something revealing" rofl
& then see what happens 😈
Nothing will happen! Or it would happen by now...or it’s just Gemini way...making things happen!!!
She is what? Not Gemini is she?
How long would you wait for a kiss between Hi and My name is...?
🤷♀️
lolz well damn
OP plz channel all the gemini & whatever extroverted energy you can muster up okay
& get this man! rofl
but you're right gemitati, something can'tttttt be right, not even a kiss after all this time? wot is going on
i am officially suspicious and on board with gemitati
lmfao!
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If he isn’t an impotent it could be like if @PrincePisces hanging out with Britney Spears...beautiful...and sexually pointless...but still beautiful!
🤷♀️🤦♀️🖕🤔
Maybe he’s asexual
This sounds cute to me
maybe he's just shy
I don't see a reason to be worried x
at that point I also don't see why you can't take the lead and kiss him during one of your netflix dates or whatever
there's no way that someone is that attentive and still makes time for you with such a busy working schedule & has no genuine/sincere feelings
don't worry 😛 x
Don’t worry— 👀Are you fucking serious—
what are you suspecting #leomoon?
is this man danger? give us the tea plz
rofl x
Yeah...like impotent can be a danger...
Geez!!! Man with no sex drive? That’s just so sad and...upsetting and waste of time that could be spent...kissing somebody or something...and then some...with a thing...🤔
impotent orrrrrrrr
maybe he's gay
you could be onto something
how is he not getting turned on in such intimate situations ~
op i say wear something revealing but not something where you're trying to be like "oh l0ok i'm wearing something revealing" rofl
& then see what happens 😈
Nothing will happen! Or it would happen by now...or it’s just Gemini way...making things happen!!!
She is what? Not Gemini is she?
How long would you wait for a kiss between Hi and My name is...?
🤷♀️
lolz well damn
OP plz channel all the gemini & whatever extroverted energy you can muster up okay
& get this man! rofl
but you're right gemitati, something can'tttttt be right, not even a kiss after all this time? wot is going on
i am officially suspicious and on board with gemitati
lmfao!
If he isn’t an impotent it could be like if @PrincePisces hanging out with Britney Spears...beautiful...and sexually pointless...but still beautiful!
🤷♀️🤦♀️🖕🤔
so fahking witty & so fahkingggg trueeeee
OR imagine grabbing HeavyEShow by the ears and sucking his face hard...and he’ll be like beeech wheeew beeeetch...😂😂😂
This sounds cute to me
maybe he's just shy
I don't see a reason to be worried x
at that point I also don't see why you can't take the lead and kiss him during one of your netflix dates or whatever
there's no way that someone is that attentive and still makes time for you with such a busy working schedule & has no genuine/sincere feelings
don't worry 😛 x
Don’t worry— 👀Are you fucking serious—
what are you suspecting #leomoon?
is this man danger? give us the tea plz
rofl x
Yeah...like impotent can be a danger...
Geez!!! Man with no sex drive? That’s just so sad and...upsetting and waste of time that could be spent...kissing somebody or something...and then some...with a thing...🤔
impotent orrrrrrrr
maybe he's gay
you could be onto something
how is he not getting turned on in such intimate situations ~
op i say wear something revealing but not something where you're trying to be like "oh l0ok i'm wearing something revealing" rofl
& then see what happens 😈
Nothing will happen! Or it would happen by now...or it’s just Gemini way...making things happen!!!
She is what? Not Gemini is she?
How long would you wait for a kiss between Hi and My name is...?
🤷♀️
lolz well damn
OP plz channel all the gemini & whatever extroverted energy you can muster up okay
& get this man! rofl
but you're right gemitati, something can'tttttt be right, not even a kiss after all this time? wot is going on
i am officially suspicious and on board with gemitati
lmfao!
If he isn’t an impotent it could be like if @PrincePisces hanging out with Britney Spears...beautiful...and sexually pointless...but still beautiful!
🤷♀️🤦♀️🖕🤔
so fahking witty & so fahkingggg trueeeee
OR imagine grabbing HeavyEShow by the ears and sucking his face hard...and he’ll be like beeech wheeew beeeetch...😂😂😂
roflroflroflrolforlf
he'd probably panic lmfao! and be pissed!
heavyentertainmentshow lowkey does not like affection from strangers
so i lowkey lahv making him uncomfortable with this gif:
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That’s the point! Making him cringe and yell Jed!..where were you when daddy had his face raped? Here is the dry finger up your ass...you! ARE! Bi mtfker!!! 🤕😂😂😂
Maybe he’s asexual
...and not very bright?
I am sure there is a box that says ‘asexual’ that he had to check!
Otherwise it’s intentional misinformation and no...’hanging out’ is not an excuse! People do write whatever...doesn’t have to believe in written profiles 100% !
Maybe he’s asexual
...and not very bright?
I am sure there is a box that says ‘asexual’ that he had to check!
Otherwise it’s intentional misinformation and no...’hanging out’ is not an excuse! People do write whatever...doesn’t have to believe in written profiles 100% !
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Maybe he hasn’t realized it yet?
Sorry, but you’re being very naive.
As an ace myself, it’s not something that is super obvious and easy to accept for most people.
The world is so sex driven, that it’s not like “oh I like this person but I don’t really want to have sex. I must be asexual”. It’s not that simple. I took me 29 years and my 8 year relationship ending because of it to accept/realize that I’m ace.
The fact that half these threads are about sex makes it super difficult for someone who doesn’t want sex, to be open about it. What I’ve noticed is that most of you (people in this forum) put a huuuge emphasis on sexual relations when it comes to dating.
Not saying this guy is ace, but just letting you know that things are that black and white
Maybe he’s asexual
...and not very bright?
I am sure there is a box that says ‘asexual’ that he had to check!
Otherwise it’s intentional misinformation and no...’hanging out’ is not an excuse! People do write whatever...doesn’t have to believe in written profiles 100% !
Maybe he hasn’t realized it yet?
Sorry, but you’re being very naive.
As an ace myself, it’s not something that is super obvious and easy to accept for most people.
The world is so sex driven, that it’s not like “oh I like this person but I don’t really want to have sex. I must be asexual”. It’s not that simple. I took me 29 years and my 8 year relationship ending because of it to accept/realize that I’m ace.
The fact that half these threads are about sex makes it super difficult for someone who doesn’t want sex, to be open about it. What I’ve noticed is that most of you (people in this forum) put a huuuge emphasis on sexual relations when it comes to dating.
Not saying this guy is ace, but just letting you know that things are that black and white
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Interesting! I however didn’t understand shit! Would you please explain it in more details? 🙏🏻
Maybe he’s asexual
...and not very bright?
I am sure there is a box that says ‘asexual’ that he had to check!
Otherwise it’s intentional misinformation and no...’hanging out’ is not an excuse! People do write whatever...doesn’t have to believe in written profiles 100% !
Maybe he hasn’t realized it yet?
Sorry, but you’re being very naive.
As an ace myself, it’s not something that is super obvious and easy to accept for most people.
The world is so sex driven, that it’s not like “oh I like this person but I don’t really want to have sex. I must be asexual”. It’s not that simple. I took me 29 years and my 8 year relationship ending because of it to accept/realize that I’m ace.
The fact that half these threads are about sex makes it super difficult for someone who doesn’t want sex, to be open about it. What I’ve noticed is that most of you (people in this forum) put a huuuge emphasis on sexual relations when it comes to dating.
Not saying this guy is ace, but just letting you know that things are that black and white
Interesting! I however didn’t understand shit! Would you please explain it in more details? 🙏🏻
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Explain being ace?
Ok. Well. First of all, it’s pretty damn hard for someone (most people) to accept that they’re “different from the norm”. Because sex is huuuuge in our society (esp western) so not wanting sex definitely makes you feel like you’re broken.
For me, like I said, it took my Ex to end the relationship to realize and accept that I’m
Asexual. I still like being intimate, kissing, making out etc, but I just have no desire for sexual intercourse. I can do it (obviously have done it) but it’s not something I feel the desire to do and when the situation arises, i feel my head starting to make excuses (i just ate, I’m tired, my head hurts) to get out of it.
There’s also different levels of asexuality.
Grey-ace (like I am. Cool with intimacy etc, just no actual sex)
Demi-ace (needs a long time to warm up to someone to eventually have sex)
Etc etc. probably a lot more. I’m not an expert as it’s only been 6 months for me.
Sorry. I don’t know what else to explain.
Basically, being ace feels like something is fuckn wrong with you and it makes you feel super isolated because it seems like everyone in the world thinks sex is the best thing ever and you rather eat cake than have someone’s penis in you/put your penis in someone.
So you shouldn’t judge someone for maybe being ace but not labeling themselves as ace, because it’s super hard to take that step and accept it for yourself, let alone let the outside world now.
To be honest, I can’t even really believe that I’m actually writing about it and “outing” myself.
Me:🌞♋🌙♒
Him: ♈
We've hung out at least 7 times now, probably more. I met him on a dating app, he said on his profile "looking for someone to hang out with". So maybe that's all he's looking for, he's been in some long term dramatic relationships. So maybe he's waiting to see if I'm crazy or something. He's also quite a bit older, he's 32 and I'm about to turn 24. Works 7 days a week, has never turned me down to hang out, we play videos games, watch Netflix, go on walks, or out to eat. And every time he's come over he's stayed the night and we cuddle (he gives amazing back rubs) and chat. No sex. He's met my mom. I'm vegan so whenever we go out he always tries to think of places that have vegan food or brings over vegan snacks, he's very attentive to me if I'm uncomfortable or anxious. He also has anxiety and doesn't take the lead much on things. I think he likes me, but we haven't really gotten into that topic, a lot of the stuff we talk about mostly relates to our interests, or our past. Or we're just goofing around. I'm definitely not the kind that moves fast but this is really slow paced if he's interested in me. I also haven't looked much into capricorn, so I don't know if all of this is normal behaviour for them. 😐
I've actually had this scenario a time or three. I like it and barely noticed any oddity because I naturally just let things flow. It's really precious to me.
Maybe he’s asexual
...and not very bright?
I am sure there is a box that says ‘asexual’ that he had to check!
Otherwise it’s intentional misinformation and no...’hanging out’ is not an excuse! People do write whatever...doesn’t have to believe in written profiles 100% !
Maybe he hasn’t realized it yet?
Sorry, but you’re being very naive.
As an ace myself, it’s not something that is super obvious and easy to accept for most people.
The world is so sex driven, that it’s not like “oh I like this person but I don’t really want to have sex. I must be asexual”. It’s not that simple. I took me 29 years and my 8 year relationship ending because of it to accept/realize that I’m ace.
The fact that half these threads are about sex makes it super difficult for someone who doesn’t want sex, to be open about it. What I’ve noticed is that most of you (people in this forum) put a huuuge emphasis on sexual relations when it comes to dating.
Not saying this guy is ace, but just letting you know that things are that black and white
Interesting! I however didn’t understand shit! Would you please explain it in more details? 🙏🏻
Explain being ace?
Ok. Well. First of all, it’s pretty damn hard for someone (most people) to accept that they’re “different from the norm”. Because sex is huuuuge in our society (esp western) so not wanting sex definitely makes you feel like you’re broken.
For me, like I said, it took my Ex to end the relationship to realize and accept that I’m
Asexual. I still like being intimate, kissing, making out etc, but I just have no desire for sexual intercourse. I can do it (obviously have done it) but it’s not something I feel the desire to do and when the situation arises, i feel my head starting to make excuses (i just ate, I’m tired, my head hurts) to get out of it.
There’s also different levels of asexuality.
Grey-ace (like I am. Cool with intimacy etc, just no actual sex)
Demi-ace (needs a long time to warm up to someone to eventually have sex)
Etc etc. probably a lot more. I’m not an expert as it’s only been 6 months for me.
Sorry. I don’t know what else to explain.
Basically, being ace feels like something is fuckn wrong with you and it makes you feel super isolated because it seems like everyone in the world thinks sex is the best thing ever and you rather eat cake than have someone’s penis in you/put your penis in someone.
So you shouldn’t judge someone for maybe being ace but not labeling themselves as ace, because it’s super hard to take that step and accept it for yourself, let alone let the outside world now.
To be honest, I can’t even really believe that I’m actually writing about it and “outing” myself.
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Hey man! You shouldn’t be saying that and being ashamed. I appreciate your post. I am sure others do as well.
I am also positive that as long as you open about it - there would be ton of women who are just like you and will be happy to cuddle!
The problem is when people trying to cover it up and leading sexual people into believing they are the same!
People do part ways for million of different reasons and sexuality is probably somewhere on the middle - not on the top of the list of reasons for breakups.
So I would really hope you can start thread that will make others join in and educate on asexuality.
There are tons of questions about it that haven’t been answered and asked.
If you are happy and contained with your way - that’s all that matters.
Please talk. And you will see how much lighter you will feel. ❤️
Maybe he’s asexual
...and not very bright?
I am sure there is a box that says ‘asexual’ that he had to check!
Otherwise it’s intentional misinformation and no...’hanging out’ is not an excuse! People do write whatever...doesn’t have to believe in written profiles 100% !
Maybe he hasn’t realized it yet?
Sorry, but you’re being very naive.
As an ace myself, it’s not something that is super obvious and easy to accept for most people.
The world is so sex driven, that it’s not like “oh I like this person but I don’t really want to have sex. I must be asexual”. It’s not that simple. I took me 29 years and my 8 year relationship ending because of it to accept/realize that I’m ace.
The fact that half these threads are about sex makes it super difficult for someone who doesn’t want sex, to be open about it. What I’ve noticed is that most of you (people in this forum) put a huuuge emphasis on sexual relations when it comes to dating.
Not saying this guy is ace, but just letting you know that things are that black and white
Interesting! I however didn’t understand shit! Would you please explain it in more details? 🙏🏻
Explain being ace?
Ok. Well. First of all, it’s pretty damn hard for someone (most people) to accept that they’re “different from the norm”. Because sex is huuuuge in our society (esp western) so not wanting sex definitely makes you feel like you’re broken.
For me, like I said, it took my Ex to end the relationship to realize and accept that I’m
Asexual. I still like being intimate, kissing, making out etc, but I just have no desire for sexual intercourse. I can do it (obviously have done it) but it’s not something I feel the desire to do and when the situation arises, i feel my head starting to make excuses (i just ate, I’m tired, my head hurts) to get out of it.
There’s also different levels of asexuality.
Grey-ace (like I am. Cool with intimacy etc, just no actual sex)
Demi-ace (needs a long time to warm up to someone to eventually have sex)
Etc etc. probably a lot more. I’m not an expert as it’s only been 6 months for me.
Sorry. I don’t know what else to explain.
Basically, being ace feels like something is fuckn wrong with you and it makes you feel super isolated because it seems like everyone in the world thinks sex is the best thing ever and you rather eat cake than have someone’s penis in you/put your penis in someone.
So you shouldn’t judge someone for maybe being ace but not labeling themselves as ace, because it’s super hard to take that step and accept it for yourself, let alone let the outside world now.
To be honest, I can’t even really believe that I’m actually writing about it and “outing” myself.
Hey man! You shouldn’t be saying that and being ashamed. I appreciate your post. I am sure others do as well.
I am also positive that as long as you open about it - there would be ton of women who are just like you and will be happy to cuddle!
The problem is when people trying to cover it up and leading sexual people into believing they are the same!
People do part ways for million of different reasons and sexuality is probably somewhere on the middle - not on the top of the list of reasons for breakups.
So I would really hope you can start thread that will make others join in and educate on asexuality.
There are tons of questions about it that haven’t been answered and asked.
If you are happy and contained with your way - that’s all that matters.
Please talk. And you will see how much lighter you will feel. ❤️
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Someone actually started a thread about it not that long ago. But it kinda died.
Maybe he’s asexual
...and not very bright?
I am sure there is a box that says ‘asexual’ that he had to check!
Otherwise it’s intentional misinformation and no...’hanging out’ is not an excuse! People do write whatever...doesn’t have to believe in written profiles 100% !
Maybe he hasn’t realized it yet?
Sorry, but you’re being very naive.
As an ace myself, it’s not something that is super obvious and easy to accept for most people.
The world is so sex driven, that it’s not like “oh I like this person but I don’t really want to have sex. I must be asexual”. It’s not that simple. I took me 29 years and my 8 year relationship ending because of it to accept/realize that I’m ace.
The fact that half these threads are about sex makes it super difficult for someone who doesn’t want sex, to be open about it. What I’ve noticed is that most of you (people in this forum) put a huuuge emphasis on sexual relations when it comes to dating.
Not saying this guy is ace, but just letting you know that things are that black and white
Interesting! I however didn’t understand shit! Would you please explain it in more details? 🙏🏻
Explain being ace?
Ok. Well. First of all, it’s pretty damn hard for someone (most people) to accept that they’re “different from the norm”. Because sex is huuuuge in our society (esp western) so not wanting sex definitely makes you feel like you’re broken.
For me, like I said, it took my Ex to end the relationship to realize and accept that I’m
Asexual. I still like being intimate, kissing, making out etc, but I just have no desire for sexual intercourse. I can do it (obviously have done it) but it’s not something I feel the desire to do and when the situation arises, i feel my head starting to make excuses (i just ate, I’m tired, my head hurts) to get out of it.
There’s also different levels of asexuality.
Grey-ace (like I am. Cool with intimacy etc, just no actual sex)
Demi-ace (needs a long time to warm up to someone to eventually have sex)
Etc etc. probably a lot more. I’m not an expert as it’s only been 6 months for me.
Sorry. I don’t know what else to explain.
Basically, being ace feels like something is fuckn wrong with you and it makes you feel super isolated because it seems like everyone in the world thinks sex is the best thing ever and you rather eat cake than have someone’s penis in you/put your penis in someone.
So you shouldn’t judge someone for maybe being ace but not labeling themselves as ace, because it’s super hard to take that step and accept it for yourself, let alone let the outside world now.
To be honest, I can’t even really believe that I’m actually writing about it and “outing” myself.
Hey man! You shouldn’t be saying that and being ashamed. I appreciate your post. I am sure others do as well.
I am also positive that as long as you open about it - there would be ton of women who are just like you and will be happy to cuddle!
The problem is when people trying to cover it up and leading sexual people into believing they are the same!
People do part ways for million of different reasons and sexuality is probably somewhere on the middle - not on the top of the list of reasons for breakups.
So I would really hope you can start thread that will make others join in and educate on asexuality.
There are tons of questions about it that haven’t been answered and asked.
If you are happy and contained with your way - that’s all that matters.
Please talk. And you will see how much lighter you will feel. ❤️
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Also. I agree that it’s wrong to lead people on. Which is why I’m not even bothering trying to date at the moment.
But as I said, a lot of people who are ace havnt realized it and therefore are not aware that they might be leading someone on.
My ex could’ve blamed me for leading him on. But he never did. He knows I didn’t do it on purpose and it’s a process
Maybe he’s asexual
...and not very bright?
I am sure there is a box that says ‘asexual’ that he had to check!
Otherwise it’s intentional misinformation and no...’hanging out’ is not an excuse! People do write whatever...doesn’t have to believe in written profiles 100% !
Maybe he hasn’t realized it yet?
Sorry, but you’re being very naive.
As an ace myself, it’s not something that is super obvious and easy to accept for most people.
The world is so sex driven, that it’s not like “oh I like this person but I don’t really want to have sex. I must be asexual”. It’s not that simple. I took me 29 years and my 8 year relationship ending because of it to accept/realize that I’m ace.
The fact that half these threads are about sex makes it super difficult for someone who doesn’t want sex, to be open about it. What I’ve noticed is that most of you (people in this forum) put a huuuge emphasis on sexual relations when it comes to dating.
Not saying this guy is ace, but just letting you know that things are that black and white
Interesting! I however didn’t understand shit! Would you please explain it in more details? 🙏🏻
Explain being ace?
Ok. Well. First of all, it’s pretty damn hard for someone (most people) to accept that they’re “different from the norm”. Because sex is huuuuge in our society (esp western) so not wanting sex definitely makes you feel like you’re broken.
For me, like I said, it took my Ex to end the relationship to realize and accept that I’m
Asexual. I still like being intimate, kissing, making out etc, but I just have no desire for sexual intercourse. I can do it (obviously have done it) but it’s not something I feel the desire to do and when the situation arises, i feel my head starting to make excuses (i just ate, I’m tired, my head hurts) to get out of it.
There’s also different levels of asexuality.
Grey-ace (like I am. Cool with intimacy etc, just no actual sex)
Demi-ace (needs a long time to warm up to someone to eventually have sex)
Etc etc. probably a lot more. I’m not an expert as it’s only been 6 months for me.
Sorry. I don’t know what else to explain.
Basically, being ace feels like something is fuckn wrong with you and it makes you feel super isolated because it seems like everyone in the world thinks sex is the best thing ever and you rather eat cake than have someone’s penis in you/put your penis in someone.
So you shouldn’t judge someone for maybe being ace but not labeling themselves as ace, because it’s super hard to take that step and accept it for yourself, let alone let the outside world now.
To be honest, I can’t even really believe that I’m actually writing about it and “outing” myself.
Hey man! You shouldn’t be saying that and being ashamed. I appreciate your post. I am sure others do as well.
I am also positive that as long as you open about it - there would be ton of women who are just like you and will be happy to cuddle!
The problem is when people trying to cover it up and leading sexual people into believing they are the same!
People do part ways for million of different reasons and sexuality is probably somewhere on the middle - not on the top of the list of reasons for breakups.
So I would really hope you can start thread that will make others join in and educate on asexuality.
There are tons of questions about it that haven’t been answered and asked.
If you are happy and contained with your way - that’s all that matters.
Please talk. And you will see how much lighter you will feel. ❤️
Someone actually started a thread about it not that long ago. But it kinda died.
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I remember. It was something new and seemed like an attempt...
Maybe he’s asexual
...and not very bright?
I am sure there is a box that says ‘asexual’ that he had to check!
Otherwise it’s intentional misinformation and no...’hanging out’ is not an excuse! People do write whatever...doesn’t have to believe in written profiles 100% !
Maybe he hasn’t realized it yet?
Sorry, but you’re being very naive.
As an ace myself, it’s not something that is super obvious and easy to accept for most people.
The world is so sex driven, that it’s not like “oh I like this person but I don’t really want to have sex. I must be asexual”. It’s not that simple. I took me 29 years and my 8 year relationship ending because of it to accept/realize that I’m ace.
The fact that half these threads are about sex makes it super difficult for someone who doesn’t want sex, to be open about it. What I’ve noticed is that most of you (people in this forum) put a huuuge emphasis on sexual relations when it comes to dating.
Not saying this guy is ace, but just letting you know that things are that black and white
Interesting! I however didn’t understand shit! Would you please explain it in more details? 🙏🏻
Explain being ace?
Ok. Well. First of all, it’s pretty damn hard for someone (most people) to accept that they’re “different from the norm”. Because sex is huuuuge in our society (esp western) so not wanting sex definitely makes you feel like you’re broken.
For me, like I said, it took my Ex to end the relationship to realize and accept that I’m
Asexual. I still like being intimate, kissing, making out etc, but I just have no desire for sexual intercourse. I can do it (obviously have done it) but it’s not something I feel the desire to do and when the situation arises, i feel my head starting to make excuses (i just ate, I’m tired, my head hurts) to get out of it.
There’s also different levels of asexuality.
Grey-ace (like I am. Cool with intimacy etc, just no actual sex)
Demi-ace (needs a long time to warm up to someone to eventually have sex)
Etc etc. probably a lot more. I’m not an expert as it’s only been 6 months for me.
Sorry. I don’t know what else to explain.
Basically, being ace feels like something is fuckn wrong with you and it makes you feel super isolated because it seems like everyone in the world thinks sex is the best thing ever and you rather eat cake than have someone’s penis in you/put your penis in someone.
So you shouldn’t judge someone for maybe being ace but not labeling themselves as ace, because it’s super hard to take that step and accept it for yourself, let alone let the outside world now.
To be honest, I can’t even really believe that I’m actually writing about it and “outing” myself.
Hey man! You shouldn’t be saying that and being ashamed. I appreciate your post. I am sure others do as well.
I am also positive that as long as you open about it - there would be ton of women who are just like you and will be happy to cuddle!
The problem is when people trying to cover it up and leading sexual people into believing they are the same!
People do part ways for million of different reasons and sexuality is probably somewhere on the middle - not on the top of the list of reasons for breakups.
So I would really hope you can start thread that will make others join in and educate on asexuality.
There are tons of questions about it that haven’t been answered and asked.
If you are happy and contained with your way - that’s all that matters.
Please talk. And you will see how much lighter you will feel. ❤️
Also. I agree that it’s wrong to lead people on. Which is why I’m not even bothering trying to date at the moment.
But as I said, a lot of people who are ace havnt realized it and therefore are not aware that they might be leading someone on.
My ex could’ve blamed me for leading him on. But he never did. He knows I didn’t do it on purpose and it’s a process
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See, OPs man had said he want to hang out so I supposed he knows.
I am sure it’s different for men than women.
I know. I’ve been there. So I want to tell you it’s such an important subject that it needs to be talked about.
I strongly believe men can be an ace naturally. Also due to a stress...temporarily.
For women it’s an absence of a man that is able to awake her sexuality or unpleasant/wrong/bad sexual experience.
I could be dead wrong...
So I wish there would be not just a thread but forum! We could also figure out if stars are responsible. 👍
Maybe he’s asexual
...and not very bright?
I am sure there is a box that says ‘asexual’ that he had to check!
Otherwise it’s intentional misinformation and no...’hanging out’ is not an excuse! People do write whatever...doesn’t have to believe in written profiles 100% !
Maybe he hasn’t realized it yet?
Sorry, but you’re being very naive.
As an ace myself, it’s not something that is super obvious and easy to accept for most people.
The world is so sex driven, that it’s not like “oh I like this person but I don’t really want to have sex. I must be asexual”. It’s not that simple. I took me 29 years and my 8 year relationship ending because of it to accept/realize that I’m ace.
The fact that half these threads are about sex makes it super difficult for someone who doesn’t want sex, to be open about it. What I’ve noticed is that most of you (people in this forum) put a huuuge emphasis on sexual relations when it comes to dating.
Not saying this guy is ace, but just letting you know that things are that black and white
Interesting! I however didn’t understand shit! Would you please explain it in more details? 🙏🏻
Explain being ace?
Ok. Well. First of all, it’s pretty damn hard for someone (most people) to accept that they’re “different from the norm”. Because sex is huuuuge in our society (esp western) so not wanting sex definitely makes you feel like you’re broken.
For me, like I said, it took my Ex to end the relationship to realize and accept that I’m
Asexual. I still like being intimate, kissing, making out etc, but I just have no desire for sexual intercourse. I can do it (obviously have done it) but it’s not something I feel the desire to do and when the situation arises, i feel my head starting to make excuses (i just ate, I’m tired, my head hurts) to get out of it.
There’s also different levels of asexuality.
Grey-ace (like I am. Cool with intimacy etc, just no actual sex)
Demi-ace (needs a long time to warm up to someone to eventually have sex)
Etc etc. probably a lot more. I’m not an expert as it’s only been 6 months for me.
Sorry. I don’t know what else to explain.
Basically, being ace feels like something is fuckn wrong with you and it makes you feel super isolated because it seems like everyone in the world thinks sex is the best thing ever and you rather eat cake than have someone’s penis in you/put your penis in someone.
So you shouldn’t judge someone for maybe being ace but not labeling themselves as ace, because it’s super hard to take that step and accept it for yourself, let alone let the outside world now.
To be honest, I can’t even really believe that I’m actually writing about it and “outing” myself.
Hey man! You shouldn’t be saying that and being ashamed. I appreciate your post. I am sure others do as well.
I am also positive that as long as you open about it - there would be ton of women who are just like you and will be happy to cuddle!
The problem is when people trying to cover it up and leading sexual people into believing they are the same!
People do part ways for million of different reasons and sexuality is probably somewhere on the middle - not on the top of the list of reasons for breakups.
So I would really hope you can start thread that will make others join in and educate on asexuality.
There are tons of questions about it that haven’t been answered and asked.
If you are happy and contained with your way - that’s all that matters.
Please talk. And you will see how much lighter you will feel. ❤️
Also. I agree that it’s wrong to lead people on. Which is why I’m not even bothering trying to date at the moment.
But as I said, a lot of people who are ace havnt realized it and therefore are not aware that they might be leading someone on.
My ex could’ve blamed me for leading him on. But he never did. He knows I didn’t do it on purpose and it’s a process
See, OPs man had said he want to hang out so I supposed he knows.
I am sure it’s different for men than women.
I know. I’ve been there. So I want to tell you it’s such an important subject that it needs to be talked about.
I strongly believe men can be an ace naturally. Also due to a stress...temporarily.
For women it’s an absence of a man that is able to awake her sexuality or unpleasant/wrong/bad sexual experience.
I could be dead wrong...
So I wish there would be not just a thread but forum! We could also figure out if stars are responsible. 👍
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Oh wow. See, and this is why people don’t “out” themselves as ace. You basically just told me that I’m not ace, that I just havnt met the right guy yet.
Ouch.
Also. I’ve talked to a lot of ace guys, and it’s not actually different at all. Being asexual is just the lack of sexual desire. Doesn’t matter if you’re male, female, or whatever. You might act different because of how society puts pressure on you. But from the conversations I’ve had with ace guys in the past months, they feel exactly the same way (everything is well, and when sex is being brought up, panic arises and you just trying to figure out how to get out of it)
And there is a forum. It’s called AVEN
Maybe he’s asexual
...and not very bright?
I am sure there is a box that says ‘asexual’ that he had to check!
Otherwise it’s intentional misinformation and no...’hanging out’ is not an excuse! People do write whatever...doesn’t have to believe in written profiles 100% !
Maybe he hasn’t realized it yet?
Sorry, but you’re being very naive.
As an ace myself, it’s not something that is super obvious and easy to accept for most people.
The world is so sex driven, that it’s not like “oh I like this person but I don’t really want to have sex. I must be asexual”. It’s not that simple. I took me 29 years and my 8 year relationship ending because of it to accept/realize that I’m ace.
The fact that half these threads are about sex makes it super difficult for someone who doesn’t want sex, to be open about it. What I’ve noticed is that most of you (people in this forum) put a huuuge emphasis on sexual relations when it comes to dating.
Not saying this guy is ace, but just letting you know that things are that black and white
Interesting! I however didn’t understand shit! Would you please explain it in more details? 🙏🏻
Explain being ace?
Ok. Well. First of all, it’s pretty damn hard for someone (most people) to accept that they’re “different from the norm”. Because sex is huuuuge in our society (esp western) so not wanting sex definitely makes you feel like you’re broken.
For me, like I said, it took my Ex to end the relationship to realize and accept that I’m
Asexual. I still like being intimate, kissing, making out etc, but I just have no desire for sexual intercourse. I can do it (obviously have done it) but it’s not something I feel the desire to do and when the situation arises, i feel my head starting to make excuses (i just ate, I’m tired, my head hurts) to get out of it.
There’s also different levels of asexuality.
Grey-ace (like I am. Cool with intimacy etc, just no actual sex)
Demi-ace (needs a long time to warm up to someone to eventually have sex)
Etc etc. probably a lot more. I’m not an expert as it’s only been 6 months for me.
Sorry. I don’t know what else to explain.
Basically, being ace feels like something is fuckn wrong with you and it makes you feel super isolated because it seems like everyone in the world thinks sex is the best thing ever and you rather eat cake than have someone’s penis in you/put your penis in someone.
So you shouldn’t judge someone for maybe being ace but not labeling themselves as ace, because it’s super hard to take that step and accept it for yourself, let alone let the outside world now.
To be honest, I can’t even really believe that I’m actually writing about it and “outing” myself.
Hey man! You shouldn’t be saying that and being ashamed. I appreciate your post. I am sure others do as well.
I am also positive that as long as you open about it - there would be ton of women who are just like you and will be happy to cuddle!
The problem is when people trying to cover it up and leading sexual people into believing they are the same!
People do part ways for million of different reasons and sexuality is probably somewhere on the middle - not on the top of the list of reasons for breakups.
So I would really hope you can start thread that will make others join in and educate on asexuality.
There are tons of questions about it that haven’t been answered and asked.
If you are happy and contained with your way - that’s all that matters.
Please talk. And you will see how much lighter you will feel. ❤️
Also. I agree that it’s wrong to lead people on. Which is why I’m not even bothering trying to date at the moment.
But as I said, a lot of people who are ace havnt realized it and therefore are not aware that they might be leading someone on.
My ex could’ve blamed me for leading him on. But he never did. He knows I didn’t do it on purpose and it’s a process
See, OPs man had said he want to hang out so I supposed he knows.
I am sure it’s different for men than women.
I know. I’ve been there. So I want to tell you it’s such an important subject that it needs to be talked about.
I strongly believe men can be an ace naturally. Also due to a stress...temporarily.
For women it’s an absence of a man that is able to awake her sexuality or unpleasant/wrong/bad sexual experience.
I could be dead wrong...
So I wish there would be not just a thread but forum! We could also figure out if stars are responsible. 👍
click to expand
Sorry. I just realized what you meant by “start a forum”. Like start a sub forum on this site.
Well, you’re free to do so. I will participate, but I’m not here to educate people about being ace, and i have other sites and people to talk about it.
If you are really curious, you should start the forum. Why would I need to?
Maybe he’s asexual
...and not very bright?
I am sure there is a box that says ‘asexual’ that he had to check!
Otherwise it’s intentional misinformation and no...’hanging out’ is not an excuse! People do write whatever...doesn’t have to believe in written profiles 100% !
Maybe he hasn’t realized it yet?
Sorry, but you’re being very naive.
As an ace myself, it’s not something that is super obvious and easy to accept for most people.
The world is so sex driven, that it’s not like “oh I like this person but I don’t really want to have sex. I must be asexual”. It’s not that simple. I took me 29 years and my 8 year relationship ending because of it to accept/realize that I’m ace.
The fact that half these threads are about sex makes it super difficult for someone who doesn’t want sex, to be open about it. What I’ve noticed is that most of you (people in this forum) put a huuuge emphasis on sexual relations when it comes to dating.
Not saying this guy is ace, but just letting you know that things are that black and white
Interesting! I however didn’t understand shit! Would you please explain it in more details? 🙏🏻
Explain being ace?
Ok. Well. First of all, it’s pretty damn hard for someone (most people) to accept that they’re “different from the norm”. Because sex is huuuuge in our society (esp western) so not wanting sex definitely makes you feel like you’re broken.
For me, like I said, it took my Ex to end the relationship to realize and accept that I’m
Asexual. I still like being intimate, kissing, making out etc, but I just have no desire for sexual intercourse. I can do it (obviously have done it) but it’s not something I feel the desire to do and when the situation arises, i feel my head starting to make excuses (i just ate, I’m tired, my head hurts) to get out of it.
There’s also different levels of asexuality.
Grey-ace (like I am. Cool with intimacy etc, just no actual sex)
Demi-ace (needs a long time to warm up to someone to eventually have sex)
Etc etc. probably a lot more. I’m not an expert as it’s only been 6 months for me.
Sorry. I don’t know what else to explain.
Basically, being ace feels like something is fuckn wrong with you and it makes you feel super isolated because it seems like everyone in the world thinks sex is the best thing ever and you rather eat cake than have someone’s penis in you/put your penis in someone.
So you shouldn’t judge someone for maybe being ace but not labeling themselves as ace, because it’s super hard to take that step and accept it for yourself, let alone let the outside world now.
To be honest, I can’t even really believe that I’m actually writing about it and “outing” myself.
Hey man! You shouldn’t be saying that and being ashamed. I appreciate your post. I am sure others do as well.
I am also positive that as long as you open about it - there would be ton of women who are just like you and will be happy to cuddle!
The problem is when people trying to cover it up and leading sexual people into believing they are the same!
People do part ways for million of different reasons and sexuality is probably somewhere on the middle - not on the top of the list of reasons for breakups.
So I would really hope you can start thread that will make others join in and educate on asexuality.
There are tons of questions about it that haven’t been answered and asked.
If you are happy and contained with your way - that’s all that matters.
Please talk. And you will see how much lighter you will feel. ❤️
Also. I agree that it’s wrong to lead people on. Which is why I’m not even bothering trying to date at the moment.
But as I said, a lot of people who are ace havnt realized it and therefore are not aware that they might be leading someone on.
My ex could’ve blamed me for leading him on. But he never did. He knows I didn’t do it on purpose and it’s a process
See, OPs man had said he want to hang out so I supposed he knows.
I am sure it’s different for men than women.
I know. I’ve been there. So I want to tell you it’s such an important subject that it needs to be talked about.
I strongly believe men can be an ace naturally. Also due to a stress...temporarily.
For women it’s an absence of a man that is able to awake her sexuality or unpleasant/wrong/bad sexual experience.
I could be dead wrong...
So I wish there would be not just a thread but forum! We could also figure out if stars are responsible. 👍
Oh wow. See, and this is why people don’t “out” themselves as ace. You basically just told me that I’m not ace, that I just havnt met the right guy yet.
Ouch.
Also. I’ve talked to a lot of ace guys, and it’s not actually different at all. Being asexual is just the lack of sexual desire. Doesn’t matter if you’re male, female, or whatever. You might act different because of how society puts pressure on you. But from the conversations I’ve had with ace guys in the past months, they feel exactly the same way (everything is well, and when sex is being brought up, panic arises and you just trying to figure out how to get out of it)
And there is a forum. It’s called AVEN
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I am older than you and as I said I’ve been there. Done that. For about 10 years...so don’t dismiss my words. Please...
And if you know ace guys - you can find your love right there! I can think of many things that aces will have that others will be jealous about. Like not being worry that your partner will cheat...wow!!! 👍
Maybe he’s asexual
...and not very bright?
I am sure there is a box that says ‘asexual’ that he had to check!
Otherwise it’s intentional misinformation and no...’hanging out’ is not an excuse! People do write whatever...doesn’t have to believe in written profiles 100% !
Maybe he hasn’t realized it yet?
Sorry, but you’re being very naive.
As an ace myself, it’s not something that is super obvious and easy to accept for most people.
The world is so sex driven, that it’s not like “oh I like this person but I don’t really want to have sex. I must be asexual”. It’s not that simple. I took me 29 years and my 8 year relationship ending because of it to accept/realize that I’m ace.
The fact that half these threads are about sex makes it super difficult for someone who doesn’t want sex, to be open about it. What I’ve noticed is that most of you (people in this forum) put a huuuge emphasis on sexual relations when it comes to dating.
Not saying this guy is ace, but just letting you know that things are that black and white
Interesting! I however didn’t understand shit! Would you please explain it in more details? 🙏🏻
Explain being ace?
Ok. Well. First of all, it’s pretty damn hard for someone (most people) to accept that they’re “different from the norm”. Because sex is huuuuge in our society (esp western) so not wanting sex definitely makes you feel like you’re broken.
For me, like I said, it took my Ex to end the relationship to realize and accept that I’m
Asexual. I still like being intimate, kissing, making out etc, but I just have no desire for sexual intercourse. I can do it (obviously have done it) but it’s not something I feel the desire to do and when the situation arises, i feel my head starting to make excuses (i just ate, I’m tired, my head hurts) to get out of it.
There’s also different levels of asexuality.
Grey-ace (like I am. Cool with intimacy etc, just no actual sex)
Demi-ace (needs a long time to warm up to someone to eventually have sex)
Etc etc. probably a lot more. I’m not an expert as it’s only been 6 months for me.
Sorry. I don’t know what else to explain.
Basically, being ace feels like something is fuckn wrong with you and it makes you feel super isolated because it seems like everyone in the world thinks sex is the best thing ever and you rather eat cake than have someone’s penis in you/put your penis in someone.
So you shouldn’t judge someone for maybe being ace but not labeling themselves as ace, because it’s super hard to take that step and accept it for yourself, let alone let the outside world now.
To be honest, I can’t even really believe that I’m actually writing about it and “outing” myself.
Hey man! You shouldn’t be saying that and being ashamed. I appreciate your post. I am sure others do as well.
I am also positive that as long as you open about it - there would be ton of women who are just like you and will be happy to cuddle!
The problem is when people trying to cover it up and leading sexual people into believing they are the same!
People do part ways for million of different reasons and sexuality is probably somewhere on the middle - not on the top of the list of reasons for breakups.
So I would really hope you can start thread that will make others join in and educate on asexuality.
There are tons of questions about it that haven’t been answered and asked.
If you are happy and contained with your way - that’s all that matters.
Please talk. And you will see how much lighter you will feel. ❤️
Also. I agree that it’s wrong to lead people on. Which is why I’m not even bothering trying to date at the moment.
But as I said, a lot of people who are ace havnt realized it and therefore are not aware that they might be leading someone on.
My ex could’ve blamed me for leading him on. But he never did. He knows I didn’t do it on purpose and it’s a process
See, OPs man had said he want to hang out so I supposed he knows.
I am sure it’s different for men than women.
I know. I’ve been there. So I want to tell you it’s such an important subject that it needs to be talked about.
I strongly believe men can be an ace naturally. Also due to a stress...temporarily.
For women it’s an absence of a man that is able to awake her sexuality or unpleasant/wrong/bad sexual experience.
I could be dead wrong...
So I wish there would be not just a thread but forum! We could also figure out if stars are responsible. 👍
Sorry. I just realized what you meant by “start a forum”. Like start a sub forum on this site.
Well, you’re free to do so. I will participate, but I’m not here to educate people about being ace, and i have other sites and people to talk about it.
If you are really curious, you should start the forum. Why would I need to?
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No. I don’t want to start forum. I am out of ace mode. However I was thinking if you had ever thought of ace and astrology...then you could talk about it here. If not - fine also. 🙌
Maybe he’s asexual
...and not very bright?
I am sure there is a box that says ‘asexual’ that he had to check!
Otherwise it’s intentional misinformation and no...’hanging out’ is not an excuse! People do write whatever...doesn’t have to believe in written profiles 100% !
Maybe he hasn’t realized it yet?
Sorry, but you’re being very naive.
As an ace myself, it’s not something that is super obvious and easy to accept for most people.
The world is so sex driven, that it’s not like “oh I like this person but I don’t really want to have sex. I must be asexual”. It’s not that simple. I took me 29 years and my 8 year relationship ending because of it to accept/realize that I’m ace.
The fact that half these threads are about sex makes it super difficult for someone who doesn’t want sex, to be open about it. What I’ve noticed is that most of you (people in this forum) put a huuuge emphasis on sexual relations when it comes to dating.
Not saying this guy is ace, but just letting you know that things are that black and white
Interesting! I however didn’t understand shit! Would you please explain it in more details? 🙏🏻
Explain being ace?
Ok. Well. First of all, it’s pretty damn hard for someone (most people) to accept that they’re “different from the norm”. Because sex is huuuuge in our society (esp western) so not wanting sex definitely makes you feel like you’re broken.
For me, like I said, it took my Ex to end the relationship to realize and accept that I’m
Asexual. I still like being intimate, kissing, making out etc, but I just have no desire for sexual intercourse. I can do it (obviously have done it) but it’s not something I feel the desire to do and when the situation arises, i feel my head starting to make excuses (i just ate, I’m tired, my head hurts) to get out of it.
There’s also different levels of asexuality.
Grey-ace (like I am. Cool with intimacy etc, just no actual sex)
Demi-ace (needs a long time to warm up to someone to eventually have sex)
Etc etc. probably a lot more. I’m not an expert as it’s only been 6 months for me.
Sorry. I don’t know what else to explain.
Basically, being ace feels like something is fuckn wrong with you and it makes you feel super isolated because it seems like everyone in the world thinks sex is the best thing ever and you rather eat cake than have someone’s penis in you/put your penis in someone.
So you shouldn’t judge someone for maybe being ace but not labeling themselves as ace, because it’s super hard to take that step and accept it for yourself, let alone let the outside world now.
To be honest, I can’t even really believe that I’m actually writing about it and “outing” myself.
Hey man! You shouldn’t be saying that and being ashamed. I appreciate your post. I am sure others do as well.
I am also positive that as long as you open about it - there would be ton of women who are just like you and will be happy to cuddle!
The problem is when people trying to cover it up and leading sexual people into believing they are the same!
People do part ways for million of different reasons and sexuality is probably somewhere on the middle - not on the top of the list of reasons for breakups.
So I would really hope you can start thread that will make others join in and educate on asexuality.
There are tons of questions about it that haven’t been answered and asked.
If you are happy and contained with your way - that’s all that matters.
Please talk. And you will see how much lighter you will feel. ❤️
Also. I agree that it’s wrong to lead people on. Which is why I’m not even bothering trying to date at the moment.
But as I said, a lot of people who are ace havnt realized it and therefore are not aware that they might be leading someone on.
My ex could’ve blamed me for leading him on. But he never did. He knows I didn’t do it on purpose and it’s a process
See, OPs man had said he want to hang out so I supposed he knows.
I am sure it’s different for men than women.
I know. I’ve been there. So I want to tell you it’s such an important subject that it needs to be talked about.
I strongly believe men can be an ace naturally. Also due to a stress...temporarily.
For women it’s an absence of a man that is able to awake her sexuality or unpleasant/wrong/bad sexual experience.
I could be dead wrong...
So I wish there would be not just a thread but forum! We could also figure out if stars are responsible. 👍
Oh wow. See, and this is why people don’t “out” themselves as ace. You basically just told me that I’m not ace, that I just havnt met the right guy yet.
Ouch.
Also. I’ve talked to a lot of ace guys, and it’s not actually different at all. Being asexual is just the lack of sexual desire. Doesn’t matter if you’re male, female, or whatever. You might act different because of how society puts pressure on you. But from the conversations I’ve had with ace guys in the past months, they feel exactly the same way (everything is well, and when sex is being brought up, panic arises and you just trying to figure out how to get out of it)
And there is a forum. It’s called AVEN
I am older than you and as I said I’ve been there. Done that. For about 10 years...so don’t dismiss my words. Please...
And if you know ace guys - you can find your love right there! I can think of many things that aces will have that others will be jealous about. Like not being worry that your partner will cheat...wow!!! 👍
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Sorry, but I have to ask 1 question.
If I was gay, would you talk to me like this too? Saying that I just havnt met the right guy?
Also, are you saying that cheating only counts if sex is involved? Coz I sure as hell don’t.
These are rhetorical questions, btw. No need to actually answer.
Please educate yourself. If you have any further questions, feel free to start the forum.
So, I thought this thread was gonna die. Lol Love all the replies.
I feel like I take the lead a lot, I always ask him to hang out. Except for a couple times. And I could be wrong but I would assume that if he didn't want to hang out, he'd just make an excuse or say no thank you. Even this weekend, already working seven days a week one of his co-workers is taking time off so he's working extra hours and is still going to make time to go to a show with me this weekend. Plus we text throughout the week. Pretty surface stuff, like memes and junk.
He told me that his grandma would always make indirect comments about coming out and him constantly telling her he's not gay. Lol But maybe ace? Even that, I would be fine with. I'm not that hung up on sex, it's just the not knowing that drives me crazy.
I also had a capricorn fwb, and he wouldn't do anything with me, except cuddle, unless I made the first move, and he was really into me. So maybe it's just a not wanting to cross boundaries thing?
Plus he's definitely not the most confident person, seems like he feels there's some kind of expectation he hasn't met in life.
With your Cancer sun and Aqua moon he probably isn't sure how you feel about him. Aries are DUMB when it comes to knowing if people are flirting with us and what not. You may have to have a conversation with him about it or get up close and give him the opportunity to go in LOL
Probably tbh. Lmao
Maybe he’s asexual
...and not very bright?
I am sure there is a box that says ‘asexual’ that he had to check!
Otherwise it’s intentional misinformation and no...’hanging out’ is not an excuse! People do write whatever...doesn’t have to believe in written profiles 100% !
Maybe he hasn’t realized it yet?
Sorry, but you’re being very naive.
As an ace myself, it’s not something that is super obvious and easy to accept for most people.
The world is so sex driven, that it’s not like “oh I like this person but I don’t really want to have sex. I must be asexual”. It’s not that simple. I took me 29 years and my 8 year relationship ending because of it to accept/realize that I’m ace.
The fact that half these threads are about sex makes it super difficult for someone who doesn’t want sex, to be open about it. What I’ve noticed is that most of you (people in this forum) put a huuuge emphasis on sexual relations when it comes to dating.
Not saying this guy is ace, but just letting you know that things are that black and white
Interesting! I however didn’t understand shit! Would you please explain it in more details? 🙏🏻
Explain being ace?
Ok. Well. First of all, it’s pretty damn hard for someone (most people) to accept that they’re “different from the norm”. Because sex is huuuuge in our society (esp western) so not wanting sex definitely makes you feel like you’re broken.
For me, like I said, it took my Ex to end the relationship to realize and accept that I’m
Asexual. I still like being intimate, kissing, making out etc, but I just have no desire for sexual intercourse. I can do it (obviously have done it) but it’s not something I feel the desire to do and when the situation arises, i feel my head starting to make excuses (i just ate, I’m tired, my head hurts) to get out of it.
There’s also different levels of asexuality.
Grey-ace (like I am. Cool with intimacy etc, just no actual sex)
Demi-ace (needs a long time to warm up to someone to eventually have sex)
Etc etc. probably a lot more. I’m not an expert as it’s only been 6 months for me.
Sorry. I don’t know what else to explain.
Basically, being ace feels like something is fuckn wrong with you and it makes you feel super isolated because it seems like everyone in the world thinks sex is the best thing ever and you rather eat cake than have someone’s penis in you/put your penis in someone.
So you shouldn’t judge someone for maybe being ace but not labeling themselves as ace, because it’s super hard to take that step and accept it for yourself, let alone let the outside world now.
To be honest, I can’t even really believe that I’m actually writing about it and “outing” myself.
Hey man! You shouldn’t be saying that and being ashamed. I appreciate your post. I am sure others do as well.
I am also positive that as long as you open about it - there would be ton of women who are just like you and will be happy to cuddle!
The problem is when people trying to cover it up and leading sexual people into believing they are the same!
People do part ways for million of different reasons and sexuality is probably somewhere on the middle - not on the top of the list of reasons for breakups.
So I would really hope you can start thread that will make others join in and educate on asexuality.
There are tons of questions about it that haven’t been answered and asked.
If you are happy and contained with your way - that’s all that matters.
Please talk. And you will see how much lighter you will feel. ❤️
Also. I agree that it’s wrong to lead people on. Which is why I’m not even bothering trying to date at the moment.
But as I said, a lot of people who are ace havnt realized it and therefore are not aware that they might be leading someone on.
My ex could’ve blamed me for leading him on. But he never did. He knows I didn’t do it on purpose and it’s a process
See, OPs man had said he want to hang out so I supposed he knows.
I am sure it’s different for men than women.
I know. I’ve been there. So I want to tell you it’s such an important subject that it needs to be talked about.
I strongly believe men can be an ace naturally. Also due to a stress...temporarily.
For women it’s an absence of a man that is able to awake her sexuality or unpleasant/wrong/bad sexual experience.
I could be dead wrong...
So I wish there would be not just a thread but forum! We could also figure out if stars are responsible. 👍
Oh wow. See, and this is why people don’t “out” themselves as ace. You basically just told me that I’m not ace, that I just havnt met the right guy yet.
Ouch.
Also. I’ve talked to a lot of ace guys, and it’s not actually different at all. Being asexual is just the lack of sexual desire. Doesn’t matter if you’re male, female, or whatever. You might act different because of how society puts pressure on you. But from the conversations I’ve had with ace guys in the past months, they feel exactly the same way (everything is well, and when sex is being brought up, panic arises and you just trying to figure out how to get out of it)
And there is a forum. It’s called AVEN
I am older than you and as I said I’ve been there. Done that. For about 10 years...so don’t dismiss my words. Please...
And if you know ace guys - you can find your love right there! I can think of many things that aces will have that others will be jealous about. Like not being worry that your partner will cheat...wow!!! 👍
Sorry, but I have to ask 1 question.
If I was gay, would you talk to me like this too? Saying that I just havnt met the right guy?
Also, are you saying that cheating only counts if sex is involved? Coz I sure as hell don’t.
These are rhetorical questions, btw. No need to actually answer.
Please educate yourself. If you have any further questions, feel free to start the forum.
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Darling! We fortunately know more about gay nowadays than about aces!
And yes! Long ago I would had told gay to think about it...(I had never because I didn’t know anyone)...
Now I know understand and wouldn’t!
And you are not listening! I’ve been an ace between ages of 32 and 42...totally! You couldn’t pay me to have sex! You are 29? You haven’t lived yet...but you are already not listening...
And I don’t need the forum! I am back to my sexual self by whim of the fate!
I thought after your speech about outing yourself and feeling out of norm that YOU would benefit from having one. Planets are moving and everything is changing...so can you be sure your life wouldn’t change one day and you will be surprised? You can’t! That’s all I am saying...
Maybe he’s asexual
...and not very bright?
I am sure there is a box that says ‘asexual’ that he had to check!
Otherwise it’s intentional misinformation and no...’hanging out’ is not an excuse! People do write whatever...doesn’t have to believe in written profiles 100% !
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Well I guess he’s the .000000091% that actually meant what he wrote 😂😂
I don’t know about cheating by aces...
Like I said it’s not a known thing...
I would assume I wouldn’t be jealous if you went to the movie with someone or scratched his back!
I don’t know!
Maybe he’s asexual
...and not very bright?
I am sure there is a box that says ‘asexual’ that he had to check!
Otherwise it’s intentional misinformation and no...’hanging out’ is not an excuse! People do write whatever...doesn’t have to believe in written profiles 100% !
Well I guess he’s the .000000091% that actually meant what he wrote 😂😂
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So...you were ok to just hang out but now you wondering about kiss? 🤷♀️
Maybe he’s asexual
...and not very bright?
I am sure there is a box that says ‘asexual’ that he had to check!
Otherwise it’s intentional misinformation and no...’hanging out’ is not an excuse! People do write whatever...doesn’t have to believe in written profiles 100% !
Well I guess he’s the .000000091% that actually meant what he wrote 😂😂
So...you were ok to just hang out but now you wondering about kiss? 🤷♀️
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Me? I would also be fine just hanging out with someone. But I do really like him, and the mixed signals are what has me wondering if he's interested in more. Because I would be. Like he's sleeping over, cuddling, playing with my hair, and having pillow talk with me. Seems like more than just a hang out. No?
Interesting thread
I personally like going with flow
But cap men are extremely insecure
If he’s working that much shouldn’t you be a little bit more thoughtful and not go out so much
It seems he doesn’t want to let you down
Me? I'm like the laziest person ever and a homebody. I've only been pushing myself to go out more because it seemed like he wanted to. We talked about how we didn't want our personal lives to be consumed by work.
Interesting thread
I personally like going with flow
But cap men are extremely insecure
If he’s working that much shouldn’t you be a little bit more thoughtful and not go out so much
It seems he doesn’t want to let you down
Me? I'm like the laziest person ever and a homebody. I've only been pushing myself to go out more because it seemed like he wanted to. We talked about how we didn't want our personal lives to be consumed by work.
I see. You also created your profile on my birthday. Hope you stick around.
He obviously likes you. Start by holding his hand at events.
Or kiss him directly if that’s what you want
Maybe kiss him on the cheek, see how he reacts
Like aww you’re so cute
Emouh
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Happy belated birthday! And thank you. 😂 I clearly gotta do something. I have to bring up the going out thing now though. Because if he's like exhausted and I'm dragging him around town when he doesn't even want to be out. I'd feel so bad. ☠
Finally got my kiss.
Finally got my kiss.
Tell us allllllllll the details girl
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We hung out all day for my birthday. He bought me dinner, and he had to go back to work for a bit so he invited me to go with him (kind of a big deal because he works on pot farms, can't just trust anyone around the devil's lettuce), then we went to a burlesque show at the bar down the street from my place. Had a blast, kept insisting on buying all my drinks. Then he stayed the night, as usual, cuddled up being all affectionate. Probably more so than usual. Then our faces met up at some point and we both went in for a kiss, then a few more after that. No tongue or anything, which was nice, because I'm not that into sloppy makeout sessions. It was honestly perfect and just an all around great day. 🥰
I am a Cancer but I have Venus in Gemini so I would have flirted and made a move for affection by the second meeting. I have no problem throwing myself at someone as a romantic gesture, it is more a challenge not to lol. Maybe it's my Scorpio in Uranus that makes me want to throw myself head first into the rejection wood chipper, where most Cancers wont.
I don't go out with a guy seven times that wont make a move. I would assume he has no sex drive or his peen was extra small.
I don't know, I read that Caps have a pretty high sex drive but are also really good at composing themselves and also tend to take things slow & not make first moves. Which was also my experience with my FWB Cap. Don't think it's a small peen thing, he sleeps in briefs, so I've seen the outline. 😅 But maybe he thinks it's small? *shrugs*
I have more updates. Lol
I still don't know his exact birthday, so sorry about that. All I know is January.
We haven't kissed since that night but he still stays the night often (5 nights straight is the longest record so far), cuddling and hanging out, plus coffee dates on his breaks from work, and messaging me throughout the day. And I found out his last relationship, which was dramatic and toxic was only like 6 months ago. Also he's definitely not a confident dude, nor pretends to be. I usually have to reassure him that I want to hang out with him and that I enjoy his company. Recently started doing more PDA stuff, like wrapping his arm around me, when we go out. Which to me is kind of huge because he knows a lot of people around town. But he's waiting for this season to be over (pot grower for those that don't know already) to move out from his roommates, balance out his financial stuff, and invest a bit. So maybe he's also waiting to progress things after he's figured his stuff out? Either way, we always have a really good time together and he gives really good cuddles. So, I'm just trying to roll with it, even though another kiss would be cool. Lol c:
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Him: ♑
We've hung out at least 7 times now, probably more. I met him on a dating app, he said on his profile "looking for someone to hang out with". So maybe that's all he's looking for, he's been in some long term dramatic relationships. So maybe he's waiting to see if I'm crazy or something. He's also quite a bit older, he's 32 and I'm about to turn 24. Works 7 days a week, has never turned me down to hang out, we play videos games, watch Netflix, go on walks, or out to eat. And every time he's come over he's stayed the night and we cuddle (he gives amazing back rubs) and chat. No sex. He's met my mom. I'm vegan so whenever we go out he always tries to think of places that have vegan food or brings over vegan snacks, he's very attentive to me if I'm uncomfortable or anxious. He also has anxiety and doesn't take the lead much on things. I think he likes me, but we haven't really gotten into that topic, a lot of the stuff we talk about mostly relates to our interests, or our past. Or we're just goofing around. I'm definitely not the kind that moves fast but this is really slow paced if he's interested in me. I also haven't looked much into capricorn, so I don't know if all of this is normal behaviour for them. 😐