Air and fire ends in confusion

So recently I run into this guy. The conversation I had with him was just absolutely mind blowing. Further in, I could tell by the chemistry that this guy was a leo. So it got late and he asked me if I wanted to come back with him. I told him not to have any expectations because I wasn't sleeping with him. He told me it was fine he just really enjoyed speaking to me and found me very interesting. We went back and hung out with his friends for a little while and I must say I believe I made a great first impression. We talked again and I swear I was even surprised by some of the ridiculous things I was saying that night. I got out of control! But it didn't seem to phase him. He appeared very intrigued. Things between us got heated for awhile until I finally just gave in. I know for a fact that the sex was great. At some point in this night he had talked like he definitely wanted to see me again and liked me. When I left I made sure he had the right number, told him to get a hold of me sometime if he would like and that I had a good time. So far I've heard NOTHING! Do you think leo men like to play games typically or is he probably not calling? If it's a game, I can handle it. If not, what a dick! Any similar experiences?

Depends on other factors in both his natal chart and yours. You should consider transits and progressions as well. People are different because of that reason and you cannot put them in the same team.

As for playing games, maybe he likes that sort of "strategy". I don't deal with such pettiness myself, and I don't see why I should waste my time like that. There are far more important things to do.

Anyway, keep analyzing him. Don't give in so easily. I think you should test him as well.

Posted by aloofaqua
I told him not to have any expectations because I wasn't sleeping with him.

Posted by aloofaqua
Things between us got heated for awhile until I finally just gave in. I know for a fact that the sex was great.

Posted by aloofaqua
When I left I made sure he had the right number

Posted by aloofaqua
Do you think leo men like to play games typically

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I don't know about you but why does it sound like you are the game master.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
No confusion at all. You specifically told this guy sex wasn't happening which he probably took as a challenge. Let's face it he didn't listen to you because he did everything in his power to test your fortitude in this area. I'm then end it was kind of easy to get you to give in on something you thought was important enough to say it out loud.

Two things: you proved to be not much of a challenge. You also proved it doesn't take much to get you to completely forget your integrity.

Both might put you in second option mode while he continues to seek out a woman who says what she means and means what she says.

Kinda agree with IrresistableScorp....why would you even go hang out with him and his friends without really knowing a whole lot about him or his friends? Maybe you didn't sleep with him, but he already knows you will compromise, so he just lucked out with the sex on the first go around. Right now, he's planning his next strategy, so don't worry..you'll hear from him again. If he calls or texts, whatever he asks, politely decline and let him know you're busy or you already have plans, but you will call him at a later date and MAYBE you can all get together. Then, see what his take is.

Leo men like to hunt. They like the chase, in other words. By giving in too soon, you made yourself part of the harem of women he keeps as options.

I have a Leo friend like this and as much as he refuses to admit it, the only women he's ever had any kind of real relationship are the ones who made him wait and didn't sleep with him early on. They made him work for it, which increased the chemistry and peaked his interest. That's just me on the outside looking in, of course. He claims that he's not capable of love, but in my opinion, he just hasn't found a woman worthy of the chase.

Oh, but in defense of you, it's hard to resist a leo. 🙂

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Posted by IrresistableScorp
No confusion at all. You specifically told this guy sex wasn't happening which he probably took as a challenge. Let's face it he didn't listen to you because he did everything in his power to test your fortitude in this area. I'm then end it was kind of easy to get you to give in on something you thought was important enough to say it out loud.

Two things: you proved to be not much of a challenge. You also proved it doesn't take much to get you to completely forget your integrity.

Both might put you in second option mode while he continues to seek out a woman who says what she means and means what she says.

Kinda agree with IrresistableScorp....why would you even go hang out with him and his friends without really knowing a whole lot about him or his friends? Maybe you didn't sleep with him, but he already knows you will compromise, so he just lucked out with the sex on the first go around. Right now, he's planning his next strategy, so don't worry..you'll hear from him again. If he calls or texts, whatever he asks, politely decline and let him know you're busy or you already have plans, but you will call him at a later date and MAYBE you can all get together. Then, see what his take is.

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I agree. That would peak his interest and make him want to chase you.

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Posted by IrresistableScorp
No confusion at all. You specifically told this guy sex wasn't happening which he probably took as a challenge. Let's face it he didn't listen to you because he did everything in his power to test your fortitude in this area. I'm then end it was kind of easy to get you to give in on something you thought was important enough to say it out loud.

Two things: you proved to be not much of a challenge. You also proved it doesn't take much to get you to completely forget your integrity.

Both might put you in second option mode while he continues to seek out a woman who says what she means and means what she says.

Kinda agree with IrresistableScorp....why would you even go hang out with him and his friends without really knowing a whole lot about him or his friends? Maybe you didn't sleep with him, but he already knows you will compromise, so he just lucked out with the sex on the first go around. Right now, he's planning his next strategy, so don't worry..you'll hear from him again. If he calls or texts, whatever he asks, politely decline and let him know you're busy or you already have plans, but you will call him at a later date and MAYBE you can all get together. Then, see what his take is.

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Sorry..I missed the whole sentence about already having sex...You can scratch it then..you did the one thing you told him you wouldn't do..WOW..Do you really expect to hear back from him? If you do, do you think it will be more than just a booty call?

That's ^^ what I meant about the harem on standby. 🙂

He was a Leo, He was cute, He had nice pecs, He talked a REALLY good game for being 12 years my junior but all his work to get me to go home with him (ohhhhh no, "not for sex") ended as I closed the door to the cab and watched it drive away. The look of deflated pride was a little hard to take... 😭
but I endured it and today I am not another notch on his harem tally and still have my self-respect.

..... but he was cute, did I mention that already ..... ?
(Giggling and slapping my Scorp michievious side for entertaining other thoughts)

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Posted by aloofaqua
I told him not to have any expectations because I wasn't sleeping with him.

Posted by aloofaqua
Things between us got heated for awhile until I finally just gave in. I know for a fact that the sex was great.

Posted by aloofaqua
When I left I made sure he had the right number

Posted by aloofaqua
Do you think leo men like to play games typically

I don't know about you but why does it sound like you are the game master.

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Honestly it's because I am but not to a point where I try to use people. I think this is why it's really getting to me. Because although I did have a great time, I don't know how interested I am when I really think about it. Maybe it was just the game all along. But I'd at least like to be friends. He was a cool guy!

And for the record I wouldn't normally just sleep with him. Sometimes I just get out of control and have too much fun. You could also say that hanging out with people I don't really know is a terrible idea, but so far I'm still alive and have some awesome memories and friends from doing so. I like a little thrill in my life =)

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Posted by aloofaqua
I told him not to have any expectations because I wasn't sleeping with him.

Posted by aloofaqua
Things between us got heated for awhile until I finally just gave in. I know for a fact that the sex was great.

Posted by aloofaqua
When I left I made sure he had the right number

Posted by aloofaqua
Do you think leo men like to play games typically

I don't know about you but why does it sound like you are the game master.

Honestly it's because I am but not to a point where I try to use people. I think this is why it's really getting to me. Because although I did have a great time, I don't know how interested I am when I really think about it. Maybe it was just the game all along. But I'd at least like to be friends. He was a cool guy!

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They are fun and charismatic! Maybe if you run into him again, be friendly, but don't be flirty. Make it clear you aren't 'after him'. Perhaps yall can become friends.

Stop playing the game, you know it was never a game that's to save face you were interested be truthful aqua. Something you cant be aloof on, you reached out asking about his disappearing. He peaked your interest so much you pondered in your brain about it, seals the deal to me 🙂. But like cap said he's got you on standby. I helped a leo once get many girls with cheesy pickup lines. Had me thinking they wanted nothing to do with him after a month or two, turns out it was just an excuse not to commit and have all the variety in women he wanted. They aren't that irresistible cap haha but they are cute well some of them 🙂.

Posted by LivingOnPorpoise
Stop playing the game, you know it was never a game that's to save face you were interested be truthful aqua. Something you cant be aloof on, you reached out asking about his disappearing. He peaked your interest so much you pondered in your brain about it, seals the deal to me 🙂. But like cap said he's got you on standby. I helped a leo once get many girls with cheesy pickup lines. Had me thinking they wanted nothing to do with him after a month or two, turns out it was just an excuse not to commit and have all the variety in women he wanted. They aren't that irresistible cap haha but they are cute well some of them 🙂.

I don't mean I'm the actual player. I like to be the chaser in the game and normally I win. So what I meant was maybe it's upsetting me because I feel a little defeated. I guess I genuinely was interested but not necessarily in a relationship. I admit I did have a good time and great conversation. At this point I'm guessing where the whole thing went wrong was that we both showed too much initial interest when we are both chasers. Oh well, lesson learned. Thanks everyone who responded. It really helped me think my feelings through in my head being I'm an aquarius and don't normally consider that I have any, let alone deal with them.

awww the only defeat is letting things pass you by and regretting not having involved yourself later on. You see where it went wrong now get your irresistible natured self out there and find your beau before summer starts, try not to think of relationships as a game of chess too often because nothing is life is ever set of planned. We never know the next move and sometimes even our strategies are deterred when we catch the feels haha ok now I'm just being hilarious. You veer see that life alert picture where it says 411 help me I think I caught the feelings lol ok I'm done. So in short the world isn't keeping score of how many fails or losses you take so neither should you 🙂.

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Posted by LivingOnPorpoise
awww the only defeat is letting things pass you by and regretting not having involved yourself later on. You see where it went wrong now get your irresistible natured self out there and find your beau before summer starts, try not to think of relationships as a game of chess too often because nothing is life is ever set of planned. We never know the next move and sometimes even our strategies are deterred when we catch the feels haha ok now I'm just being hilarious. You veer see that life alert picture where it says 411 help me I think I caught the feelings lol ok I'm done. So in short the world isn't keeping score of how many fails or losses you take so neither should you 🙂.

Your right I should have called in to work today and said I had a bad case of the feelings!! Haha! Either way I'm glad I did it in a way. Screw it I'm back to my naturally care free life. By the way your AWESOME!!

That's what I like to hear, I love to look back and laugh then smile and say Carson you're one heck of a situation to handle lol. Aww thanks and yes live it day by day accepting what you can get out of life and let go what you cant. And remember you got a friend in me ^_^.

sex with leo folk is hot but not worth pursuing for a relationship lets get real here they are so vain and egotistical and they pride themselves on it.

Posted by aloofaqua

Honestly it's because I am but not to a point where I try to use people. I think this is why it's really getting to me. Because although I did have a great time, I don't know how interested I am when I really think about it. Maybe it was just the game all along. But I'd at least like to be friends. He was a cool guy!

I tend to believe people think it's all games when certain things don't click within their expectations. From what you've described it's just a guy who enjoys your company and isn't shy. I don't see his game even if he had one, or maybe his game is just being a normal guy.

I mean I certainly don't see it as confusing from a guy's perspective. If he had taken your word at face value and just drifted away would it still be confusing to you?

I was married to a Leo once. Sleeping with him had no effect on his interest. He did the chasing. I wasn't physically attracted to him as much as I was his personality and charm. But in the end I found him to be lazy, childish and had an extremely inflated ego for no reason I could see. I divorced him and he spent a year trying to get me back before giving up. Good luck. If he is not calling you I would bet he falls into the childish/inflated ego part, best to avoid that one as he has some growing up to do.