Another post about a confusing Aqua male? (Page 2)

Posted by Colorofmysunaet
Hi Everyone,

I just want to say first and foremost how helpful this board has been over the past few months. I'm reaching out as I really need help deciding whether I should walk away from my Aqua once and for all. I know everyone says just go with the flow which I am USUALLY great at. However, I've come to realize with this guy I just want to make a decision already. If he doesn't want to be with me I just want to cut him out and move on completely.
After his absence at the end of March I confronted him, in a calm way. It turned out he apparently did not get my last message I had sent him and was not in fact ignoring me. It is highly possible as I was having this issue with other coworkers and friends- a percentage of my texts weren't going through to him. I was also traveling overseas for two weeks. He swore to me he never got the message and thought I was ignoring him. He also mentiond not wanting to bother me as he thought maybe I was still overseas. I chose to believe him because he has never lied to me for as long as I've known him.
This was a couple of weeks ago. My issue now is, we made peace close to a month ago and I still have not seen him. Again. I traveled for a week during Easter and he's teabeling this week. There was about two weeks time we could hang out. He contacted me once to go have dinner with him. I had already made plans for that evening and just couldn't cancel them. I don't know if I'm just spoiled and used to being pursued more but I feel like if he really wants to see me he would try harder- not just ask me to hang out once.
Am I overreating? Is this normal of aquas? I am youngish(26) and have only been in one other relationship. My ex would contact me every single day wanting to see me(Scorpio). I can't tell what he Aquas deal is. And I do want to confront him on this but I'd rather do it face to face- which is difficult when we're both traveling constantly.
I don't know if this counts for a thing but he does open up to me more and more concerning his feelings and getting close to people. He keeps me updated what he's doing, sends me photos of his activities/trips, always offers to help me with different things and seems super concerned when I'm Eick or upset.
I guess I just don't understand why he isn't putting in more effort to see me. Everything is great except for that but it's clouding over all the good stuff.

hope u come back.

tell us what happened...

its weird but there is something interesting with fixed signs.

even if they are fixed venus fixed mars fixed moon... they are super consistent....u can see that alot with earth and the otehr elements.

with air, there is an inconsistency to their consistency...

i think it's the weird hot and cold thing going on...

or maybe that's them being MOODY..??

Posted by truecap
There is emotional stability with an aquarius male. It just takes them a while to give it to you. It's very subtle, though, and without a lot of big guestures. You have to learn to recognize their kind of romance. They won't send flowers, but they will crank your car for you to warm it up when it's cold outside. That's actually very romantic and quite chivalrous if you recognize it for what it is. Flowers are easy. Going out in 20 degree weather takes effort and self sacrifice.

You just have to give them time to want to give that emotional stability to you. They won't be rushed and it has to be on their time table. Most women don't have the patience. They want to skip the development stage and jump straight into the intimacy.

Meanwhile you live your fabulous life and be the interesting, light hearted fun girlfriend. I will admit it's hard, but it's well worth the wait, I promise!

they are actually very protective and romantic so it's weird. lol

they are competitive with other men to grab the woman too....

yeah they do sacrifice alot for u.

i've seen it first hand. (just other aqua sun males with pursuing women and also with my aunts, family members)

When does the sacrificing start....

Uff

M right now facing the disappearing act since 10 days. He did say that he ws upset before vanishing. He is trying hard to get over his ex. Also i know he is starting to give me a place in his imner circle...as he decalared that he likes to share everything wd me now... and to the point he tells why he can't and wont go bak to his ex.

I hv stopped messaging him too....after saying very comforting things when he ws going... i said i will be there n he can always share to lessen his burden

Did i do right?

Posted by Catgirlpk
When does the sacrificing start....
Uff

M right now facing the disappearing act since 10 days. He did say that he ws upset before vanishing. He is trying hard to get over his ex. Also i know he is starting to give me a place in his imner circle...as he decalared that he likes to share everything wd me now... and to the point he tells why he can't and wont go bak to his ex.
I hv stopped messaging him too....after saying very comforting things when he ws going... i said i will be there n he can always share to lessen his burden
Did i do right?

he still not over his ex...

i dont think u should push him..

but it sounds like u really desire this guy...

maybe wait it out?

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by Catgirlpk
When does the sacrificing start....
Uff

M right now facing the disappearing act since 10 days. He did say that he ws upset before vanishing. He is trying hard to get over his ex. Also i know he is starting to give me a place in his imner circle...as he decalared that he likes to share everything wd me now... and to the point he tells why he can't and wont go bak to his ex.
I hv stopped messaging him too....after saying very comforting things when he ws going... i said i will be there n he can always share to lessen his burden
Did i do right?

he still not over his ex...

i dont think u should push him..

but it sounds like u really desire this guy...

maybe wait it out? click to expand

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Yes i do desire him. He has proposed multiple times. But since she ws a Gemini maybe this month is bringing back her memories. He is very clear about her though. He is not gonna go back cz of her few habits but he gets bouts of depression when missing her.

Plus just before vanishing he started being super confiding in me....after like 5 months....so i knew he is being vulnerable...

Now must be thinking if i wd break his heart too....lets see... he is a nice person.

Hasn't shown any extraordinary love. But stable and developing.

Posted by Catgirlpk

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by Catgirlpk
When does the sacrificing start....
Uff

M right now facing the disappearing act since 10 days. He did say that he ws upset before vanishing. He is trying hard to get over his ex. Also i know he is starting to give me a place in his imner circle...as he decalared that he likes to share everything wd me now... and to the point he tells why he can't and wont go bak to his ex.
I hv stopped messaging him too....after saying very comforting things when he ws going... i said i will be there n he can always share to lessen his burden
Did i do right?

he still not over his ex...

i dont think u should push him..

but it sounds like u really desire this guy...

maybe wait it out? click to expand

Yes i do desire him. He has proposed multiple times. But since she ws a Gemini maybe this month is bringing back her memories. He is very clear about her though. He is not gonna go back cz of her few habits but he gets bouts of depression when missing her.

Plus just before vanishing he started being super confiding in me....after like 5 months....so i knew he is being vulnerable...
Now must be thinking if i wd break his heart too....lets see... he is a nice person.
Hasn't shown any extraordinary love. But stable and developing. click to expand

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Are you actually having sex with him? Idk... if it’s just sex go for it but if you really care about this guy you shouldn’t put yourself in this situation. It is not good for you.

Do you really want to be with a guy that is not over his girlfriend? He obviously doesn’t care as strongly about you.

If I was you I will really just make it very clear that you can only be friends for now until he gets over his ex. You being there is not really helping him and if you continue like this he will take you for granted, and the day he gets over his ex he will go with someone else.

You can not rush this process. So the best thing for you and what you really want of him is to back up and support him as a friend.

Just my two cents 😉

We are in LDR. and both musims. So not allowed to hv physical intimacy before marriage. It's all safe. And on watsapp only. Never met him.