Aqua Man ghosted me then comes back a week later like nothing happened

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So I've been talking to this aqua guy for awhile and he doesn't ask me out but txts me everyday, we've met 2ce and I didn't understand why he keeps txting me if he's not going to ask me out so last week I just was straight to the point and was like your a very confusing guy... i say that in the best possible way & he was like what does that mean, I was like I'm sure you can work it out then he was like or you could stop playing games so we can work out what our situation is, I completely laid everything on the table saying I like you and would like to get to know you but you seem too busy and I don't understand why you're txting me everyday if your not going to bother asking me out. He apologized saying he had a personal dilemma then said he was going to come and see me later that night cause he was out with friends. He txtd me every 20mins really flirty then said I have to go home first then just vanished. No response so I didn't know if I could go to sleep or if he was coming over or what then a week later he txts me like nothing happened. I didn't reply to 3 diff txts but was on a bar crawl and he works at a bar and i went in there with like 10 ppl. I could tell he was super nervous and he paid for one of my drinks then he txtd me like you never said goodbye, i replied like well wouldn't that be a double standard then he was like hmm rude and then I had a go. I couldn't believe he was just acting like he didn't completely ditch me the week before and saying I was the rude one!! The next night he was txting me just ?? so I was like well you completely ditched me last wk, no phonecall, apology or anything. I don't understand what you want from me. I feel completely disrespected and then I got no response again, like wtf is with this guy...
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It's just a bad sign when they ghost you like that. I don't think there's enough interest there, tbh. I wouldn't waste my time, it's really a blessing that he shows you now who he is. It's like they're really passive and skittish or too pushy.
Yeah he told me he is usually really shy, I could tell when I was at his work that he was super nervous. He has a cancer moon and I feel like maybe he's a bit socially slow... but really how could anyone think that is socially acceptable...
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It's just a bad sign when they ghost you like that. I don't think there's enough interest there, tbh. I wouldn't waste my time, it's really a blessing that he shows you now who he is. It's like they're really passive and skittish or too pushy.
Yeah he told me he is usually really shy, I could tell when I was at his work that he was super nervous. He has a cancer moon and I feel like maybe he's a bit socially slow... but really how could anyone think that is socially acceptable...
Ahh.. man. **activate libra moon** Now I feel sorry for him. lol. Is he a young guy/inexperienced? It's funny what age and lots of experience can do to people.

He's probably just kind of innocently clueless and doesn't realize it, I suppose.
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He's 28 and attractive so I don't know but he told me he doesn't want a random hook up and isn't seeing anyone else but he obviously doesn't want to see me either....
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My Aqua bf flaked on our first date bc he got drunk bc he was nervous and couldn't drive to our date.

Sometimes they're in their own world.

Good luck though...they're hard to train πŸ˜†


lol yeah but i bet he apologizes after and didn't just act like he didn't do anything wrong and not talk to you for a week after... it's like he obviously knew I was going to be pissed cause he usually txts me everyday...
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It's just a bad sign when they ghost you like that. I don't think there's enough interest there, tbh. I wouldn't waste my time, it's really a blessing that he shows you now who he is. It's like they're really passive and skittish or too pushy.
Yeah he told me he is usually really shy, I could tell when I was at his work that he was super nervous. He has a cancer moon and I feel like maybe he's a bit socially slow... but really how could anyone think that is socially acceptable...
Ahh.. man. **activate libra moon** Now I feel sorry for him. lol. Is he a young guy/inexperienced? It's funny what age and lots of experience can do to people.

He's probably just kind of innocently clueless and doesn't realize it, I suppose.
He's 28 and attractive so I don't know but he told me he doesn't want a random hook up and isn't seeing anyone else but he obviously doesn't want to see me either....



Hmm.. I wonder where his Mercury, Venus and Mars are though. I would think a Cancer moon on an Aqua would be a nice position for them, soften him up nicely.

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I think its Merc in Aqua, Venus in Cap and Mars in Taurus.
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My Aqua bf flaked on our first date bc he got drunk bc he was nervous and couldn't drive to our date.

Sometimes they're in their own world.

Good luck though...they're hard to train πŸ˜†


lol yeah but i bet he apologizes after and didn't just act like he didn't do anything wrong and not talk to you for a week after... it's like he obviously knew I was going to be pissed cause he usually txts me everyday...


Do you get pissed a lot? Did he know you would reprimand him? If so his logic was to avoid you until you forgot about it. They don't want to be parented. They don't like conflict at all or nagging. They like good vibes.



My Aqua rarely says sorry and when he does it sounds like a kid whose mom has forced him to say it. He does the dishes when he's sorry but he won't say it.

In the beginning when he was on his own Aqua time I stayed on my own time too. I never asked him what happened I just became less interested in him and he hated when he couldn't have all of my attention so he finally stopped doing it



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I wouldn't say a lot but obviously I was annoyed. I wasn't annoyed at the fact he didn't talk to me for a week I was annoyed he said he was coming over then just vanished off the face of the earth and I didn't know if something happened to him or if I could go to sleep or what. Like if he had just said sorry not coming over that would have been fine cause I wouldn't have been sitting around wondering... I'm not really the type of girl who is okay sitting around waiting for a man...
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My Aqua bf flaked on our first date bc he got drunk bc he was nervous and couldn't drive to our date.

Sometimes they're in their own world.

Good luck though...they're hard to train πŸ˜†


lol yeah but i bet he apologizes after and didn't just act like he didn't do anything wrong and not talk to you for a week after... it's like he obviously knew I was going to be pissed cause he usually txts me everyday...


Do you get pissed a lot? Did he know you would reprimand him? If so his logic was to avoid you until you forgot about it. They don't want to be parented. They don't like conflict at all or nagging. They like good vibes.



My Aqua rarely says sorry and when he does it sounds like a kid whose mom has forced him to say it. He does the dishes when he's sorry but he won't say it.

In the beginning when he was on his own Aqua time I stayed on my own time too. I never asked him what happened I just became less interested in him and he hated when he couldn't have all of my attention so he finally stopped doing it




I wouldn't say a lot but obviously I was annoyed. I wasn't annoyed at the fact he didn't talk to me for a week I was annoyed he said he was coming over then just vanished off the face of the earth and I didn't know if something happened to him or if I could go to sleep or what. Like if he had just said sorry not coming over that would have been fine cause I wouldn't have been sitting around wondering... I'm not really the type of girl who is okay sitting around waiting for a man...


I understand. It's kind of up to you to figure out if it's malicious or if he just made a dumb guy mistake.

My Aqua makes a lot of mistakes but he's not malicious and he's not playing games.
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Yeah but it feels like a total game play, especially since i said I felt disrespected and still didn't get any apology... like wtf is that

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It's just a bad sign when they ghost you like that. I don't think there's enough interest there, tbh. I wouldn't waste my time, it's really a blessing that he shows you now who he is. It's like they're really passive and skittish or too pushy.
Yeah he told me he is usually really shy, I could tell when I was at his work that he was super nervous. He has a cancer moon and I feel like maybe he's a bit socially slow... but really how could anyone think that is socially acceptable...
Ahh.. man. **activate libra moon** Now I feel sorry for him. lol. Is he a young guy/inexperienced? It's funny what age and lots of experience can do to people.

He's probably just kind of innocently clueless and doesn't realize it, I suppose.
He's 28 and attractive so I don't know but he told me he doesn't want a random hook up and isn't seeing anyone else but he obviously doesn't want to see me either....



Hmm.. I wonder where his Mercury, Venus and Mars are though. I would think a Cancer moon on an Aqua would be a nice position for them, soften him up nicely.


I think its Merc in Aqua, Venus in Cap and Mars in Taurus.


Oh Mars in Taurus, he's going to take his sweet time to ask you out, plus the Venus in Capricorn. Wants a proper courtship probably. But yeah, he should have been courteous and told you he wasn't going to make it that night. Since you told him already that you didn't appreciate it hopefully he won't do it again, that's just rude leaving you to wonder.

Does he at least seem engaging when he's texting you. Is he making the effort to ask you questions, trying to find out more about you?



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He makes an effort to see what i'm doing, he sends good morning txts a lot seeing how my day is. Every Friday and Sat he finished work at like 2am and txts me to see what i'm doing but its not a booty call cause I have tried to get him to come over after I've had a few drinks and he refuses...

lol great mars in Taurus... we've been talking for 3 months... how long do I have to freaking wait!
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He makes an effort to see what i'm doing, he sends good morning txts a lot seeing how my day is. Every Friday and Sat he finished work at like 2am and txts me to see what i'm doing but its not a booty call cause I have tried to get him to come over after I've had a few drinks and he refuses...

lol great mars in Taurus... we've been talking for 3 months... how long do I have to freaking wait!
Ok first thing you need to relax! You sound way too desperate for an Aqua. If you can't go at his pace then just block him but tell him you are no longer interested and have moved on. He'll get the hint.

3 months is NOTHING. I have Mars in Taurus and I took about 6months-a year to ask my partner out. About a year to officially commit.
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I don't think expecting someone who you have plans with to tell you when they are ditching you is demanding at all. I think its a matter of respect. The funny thing is i'm not demanding at all. I'm a gemini and usually just go with the flow but i'm not going to let someone disrespect me.
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He makes an effort to see what i'm doing, he sends good morning txts a lot seeing how my day is. Every Friday and Sat he finished work at like 2am and txts me to see what i'm doing but its not a booty call cause I have tried to get him to come over after I've had a few drinks and he refuses...

lol great mars in Taurus... we've been talking for 3 months... how long do I have to freaking wait!
Ok first thing you need to relax! You sound way too desperate for an Aqua. If you can't go at his pace then just block him but tell him you are no longer interested and have moved on. He'll get the hint.

3 months is NOTHING. I have Mars in Taurus and I took about 6months-a year to ask my partner out. About a year to officially commit.
I don't think expecting someone who you have plans with to tell you when they are ditching you is demanding at all. I think its a matter of respect. The funny thing is i'm not demanding at all. I'm a gemini and usually just go with the flow but i'm not going to let someone disrespect me.


Him buying you a drink was him trying to apologize but you wanted to keep the conflict going.

I understand that it's flaky and thoughtless but your approach is kind of bitchy.

He's playing out his future and picturing you holding week long grudges over his mistakes wondering if he wants to deal with it

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lol yeah thats cause he's just ignoring it. haha If he just apologized or said anything about it rather then just pretending he didn't do anything I would be over it by now. I'm a gemini i need communication!

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Lol

One I knew went missing for three weeks and then came back as though nothing had happened

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They can't be tamed
Taming a Water Bearer man ...

Hah, is that even possible within this earthly domain ? πŸ˜†


No

Lol

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Ah, in the past ... this is the very reason as to why I never felt awful for having rejected Water Bearer men.

It would have been full of fun and laughter, with a great connection on an intellectual level but in the long run, it would merely burn, and crash. They are social creatures, and not particularly one for conflicts, or anything disagreeable for that matter. Always on the go, needing stimulation, surrounded by those whom they enjoy the company of, and when it comes to this sign, that is a great amount of people. You must be one of the masses, always entertaining, and constantly surrounded by others.

There are simply far too many differences, and they are not bound by the ways of any woman. It would only end up in heartbreak for a Stinger, if they were to choose to be in a relationship with one.

Would you still fancy another Water Bearer experience ? πŸ˜†
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Lol

One I knew went missing for three weeks and then came back as though nothing had happened

πŸ˜›

They can't be tamed
Taming a Water Bearer man ...

Hah, is that even possible within this earthly domain ? πŸ˜†


No

Lol


Ah, in the past ... this is the very reason as to why I never felt awful for having rejected Water Bearer men.

It would have been full of fun and laughter, with a great connection on an intellectual level but in the long run, it would merely burn, and crash. They are social creatures, and not particularly one for conflicts, or anything disagreeable for that matter. Always on the go, needing stimulation, surrounded by those whom they enjoy the company of, and when it comes to this sign, that is a great amount of people. You must be one of the masses, always entertaining, and constantly surrounded by others.

There are simply far too many differences, and they are not bound by the ways of any woman. It would only end up in heartbreak for a Stinger, if they were to choose to be in a relationship with one.

Would you still fancy another Water Bearer experience ? πŸ˜†

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haha well my ex was a sagi and liked freedom but he would at least make it clear he was into me. This guy is just all over the map, I feel like he doesn't know what he wants so is just keeping me on the side lines...
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Lol

One I knew went missing for three weeks and then came back as though nothing had happened

πŸ˜›

They can't be tamed
Taming a Water Bearer man ...

Hah, is that even possible within this earthly domain ? πŸ˜†


No

Lol


Ah, in the past ... this is the very reason as to why I never felt awful for having rejected Water Bearer men.

It would have been full of fun and laughter, with a great connection on an intellectual level but in the long run, it would merely burn, and crash. They are social creatures, and not particularly one for conflicts, or anything disagreeable for that matter. Always on the go, needing stimulation, surrounded by those whom they enjoy the company of, and when it comes to this sign, that is a great amount of people. You must be one of the masses, always entertaining, and constantly surrounded by others.

There are simply far too many differences, and they are not bound by the ways of any woman. It would only end up in heartbreak for a Stinger, if they were to choose to be in a relationship with one.

Would you still fancy another Water Bearer experience ? πŸ˜†

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As friends definitely....i like their energy, but as a lover, no lol....I heard an aqua man here describe the sign as random...lol.
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Lol

One I knew went missing for three weeks and then came back as though nothing had happened

πŸ˜›

They can't be tamed
Taming a Water Bearer man ...

Hah, is that even possible within this earthly domain ? πŸ˜†


No

Lol


Ah, in the past ... this is the very reason as to why I never felt awful for having rejected Water Bearer men.

It would have been full of fun and laughter, with a great connection on an intellectual level but in the long run, it would merely burn, and crash. They are social creatures, and not particularly one for conflicts, or anything disagreeable for that matter. Always on the go, needing stimulation, surrounded by those whom they enjoy the company of, and when it comes to this sign, that is a great amount of people. You must be one of the masses, always entertaining, and constantly surrounded by others.

There are simply far too many differences, and they are not bound by the ways of any woman. It would only end up in heartbreak for a Stinger, if they were to choose to be in a relationship with one.

Would you still fancy another Water Bearer experience ? πŸ˜†




As friends definitely....i like their energy, but as a lover, no lol....I heard an aqua man here describe the sign as random...lol.

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haha yeah that sounds about right. I'm an aqua moon so I thought I would be pretty compatible with an aqua but umm maybe not lol
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Lol

One I knew went missing for three weeks and then came back as though nothing had happened

πŸ˜›

They can't be tamed
Taming a Water Bearer man ...

Hah, is that even possible within this earthly domain ? πŸ˜†


No

Lol


Ah, in the past ... this is the very reason as to why I never felt awful for having rejected Water Bearer men.

It would have been full of fun and laughter, with a great connection on an intellectual level but in the long run, it would merely burn, and crash. They are social creatures, and not particularly one for conflicts, or anything disagreeable for that matter. Always on the go, needing stimulation, surrounded by those whom they enjoy the company of, and when it comes to this sign, that is a great amount of people. You must be one of the masses, always entertaining, and constantly surrounded by others.

There are simply far too many differences, and they are not bound by the ways of any woman. It would only end up in heartbreak for a Stinger, if they were to choose to be in a relationship with one.

Would you still fancy another Water Bearer experience ? πŸ˜†


haha well my ex was a sagi and liked freedom but he would at least make it clear he was into me. This guy is just all over the map, I feel like he doesn't know what he wants so is just keeping me on the side lines...

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That was how I always felt about them when it came to Water Bearer men, despite knowing the fact that deep inside, there is a core that is sensitive and very much full of kindness / care for those who are important to them. Unfortunately, that core, rarely translated into their actions, therefore to try to decipher their intent or meaning became a constant battle of misunderstandings / frustrations.

Having befriended their kind in the past, their past SO, always complained about their wishy washy behaviour, how unreliable or undependable they were until when it came to an utter emergency. Then they would be around in a heartbeat. However, life is not about a crisis, it is about a constant, a constant support. They need to be independent, so much so that they have this great fear, to be placed within any form of constraints at all even if it were to be in one which they often long for.

You would and must always be their friend, at the foremost, one of many, within their lives. To be able to live with that lack of any particular importance, of being one of the masses, having to be apart of his colourful life with no end.

They are a strange dichotomy, these creatures. I still find them absolutely fascinating, but I would only touch them with a ten foot pole. πŸ˜†
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Lol

One I knew went missing for three weeks and then came back as though nothing had happened

πŸ˜›

They can't be tamed
Taming a Water Bearer man ...

Hah, is that even possible within this earthly domain ? πŸ˜†


No

Lol


Ah, in the past ... this is the very reason as to why I never felt awful for having rejected Water Bearer men.

It would have been full of fun and laughter, with a great connection on an intellectual level but in the long run, it would merely burn, and crash. They are social creatures, and not particularly one for conflicts, or anything disagreeable for that matter. Always on the go, needing stimulation, surrounded by those whom they enjoy the company of, and when it comes to this sign, that is a great amount of people. You must be one of the masses, always entertaining, and constantly surrounded by others.

There are simply far too many differences, and they are not bound by the ways of any woman. It would only end up in heartbreak for a Stinger, if they were to choose to be in a relationship with one.

Would you still fancy another Water Bearer experience ? πŸ˜†




As friends definitely....i like their energy, but as a lover, no lol....I heard an aqua man here describe the sign as random...lol.

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Hah, I would agree with that assessment. They are at once highly predictable yet not so, as well.