Aqua Man Scorpio Woman, please help

I met this aqua man 2 months ago and we both decided to try a friend with benefit kinda of relationship.

I am no expert on it as it is my first FWB relationship but somehow I feel like it never was one as we kiss when we meet and leave each other, hold each others' hands, spend a long time looking at each others' eyes and share tons of time together. Isn't that more like dating?

Anyway..eventually in just a few weeks we changed our label into 'dating' and subsequently we became each others' partner. He even told me he loved me at some point and I responded to that because I do love him too; Yes, as you can see we moved very fast as we connected deeply from day one.

Now that's where things went downhill. He knows I am bisexual and did mention here and there how he would have been really happy for me if I found a woman with whom sharing what I share with him, which obviously made me confused. So at this stage I asked him if we were exclusive and he said I was free to date other women if I wanted to, just not other men. The thing is, when we established that I already slept with someone else (man) and it was before we were officially 'dating'.

When we got 'officially' together I felt the urge to let him know because I wanted complete transparency. He didn't react well unfortunately. Got really disappointed, said he was struggling to trust me....but then after a day of thinking he said he could trust me which he obviously didn't really mean, just like he didn't mean that it was ok for me to sleep with a woman but not a man. The truth is he didn't want me to see either.

Was he testing me? What should I do? I would have not slept with someone else if he told me he wanted me to be exclusive!

Now he has decided that he wants to be just friends, even if that would mean no benefits. He doesn't want me out of his life as he 'loves' me, just not in a romantic way he says. He says he realised he is not ready for a relationship in general and he realised that now and that in general cannot see a romantic future with me.

We met a few days ago to talk about this and eventually we ended up having sex, so we are back to the FWB stage, we still hold each other's hands, kiss when meeting and when leaving and cuddle a lot. Is this him protecting his feelings and will eventually, if I play my cards right, trust me again and develop into something more or did he really just lost the romantic love for me like that?

Help please, I really fell hard for him.

I'm a Scorpio with Scorpio Rising, Moon in Aries and Sagittarius in Venus.

He is an Aquarius with Cancer Rising, Moon in Virgo and Pisces in Venus. We have both Scorpio Eros. I don't know if you need anymore information but I can provide both natal charts if needed 🙂

He's coming in today I just want to talk to him but I don't want to scare him away.

What happened with this?

Transparency is nice but, you put your foot in your mouth by "confessing" 🤦 IMO, since you two weren't an item, there was no beneficial purpose to him knowing.

Thank you everyone, it's true that I should have not said it because it was before we started anything and I should have left it at that 😢

@Peachy06, the problem is that he considers that cheating and has emotionally shut off.

@Bumboklatt Which details from the charts would you need? I can provide them 🙂

The thing is that he says he loves me and feels a soul connection (which I also feel) but not in a romantic relationship kinda way. Although for me his actions say completely otherwise.

But I know in his mind he doesn't trust me and I think that is the biggest issue, he shut down because of what I did that he calls cheating. Is that trust ever going to build again with time or am I never gonna stand a chance for a relationship with him?

Give him some time to miss you. Stop the calling and texting.

He was the one to propose the FWB so its silly he is having this reaction. At the same time I hope you learned your lesson on oversharing, especially early on.

I’ll never understand the need for complete “transparency” when someone is dating and not in a official relationship. What the hell is the point. As long as your not cheating in a relationship.

DXP get more transparency then I’m ever willing to admit to someone who isn’t my boyfriend.

@Bumboklatt Thank you. I checked and his Sun is in 7th House, Moon in 3rd and Venus in 8th. My Sun is in 12th House, Moon in 6th and Venus in 1st.

Just to clarify, I am not texting or calling him. I'm seeing him still, as friend with benefit. And that's where I can sense that he is saying just FWB but he doesn't really mean that. When he is with me he never wants to leave, walks with me and keeps me close, holds my hands and hugs me outside as well, just like a couple. Asks me to decide when to meet next before we depart from each other and says he is gonna miss me. That's why I am so confused, because I feel like his actions and his words don't match and he is conflicted because he loves me but feels betrayed.