Aquarius man MIA when scorpio confessed—

Please aquarius guys help me out here, im a scorpio female and my chart is water dominant, so theres this aquarius dude who was in college with me but we never talked, after like 4 years we met again and exchanged phone numbers, the conversations were pretty entertaining so we would chat entire nights (even though i have work in the morning, same for him) after a few weeks of chatting he proposed!!! said he was always curious about me and stuff and i told him to calm down (Good Lord!!) so we keep on talking and meeting a few times. The thing is he always probed to know the real me and im pretty secretive and hesitant in divulging my secrets but regardless i caved in and told him a few things. He was always very supportive of all my insane moods. so a few days ago i told him i caught feelings for him and he was like okay. He's like bottle them up for now and i have to think about my job and family situation (he has some problems at work and he's very old school when it comes to relationships so he does prefer the dude having to take care of all the expenses and stuff). but yeah now he doesnt text or anything and just went cold. he is an aquarius sun virgo moon, venus sagittarius and has a stelium in capricorn. should i move on or should i wait? i mean he was the one wanting to be a thing and when i get feelings he's being like oh wait i have to look at things? I mean he made a lot of promises and now that im ready to trust him he just vanished.

Girl listen to him and be patient. He didn't end things. He said he has to get his ducks in a row first! Not a bad thing at all. You should feel grateful you have a man who wants to work that hard to provide for you. Those are hard to find, showing love by doing for you. Give it time and get your ducks in a row at the same time. Take this time to work on yourself and become who you picture yourself being as a wife or partner. I know you must miss him but try not to jump to conclusions and know whatever happens is for the best.

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Girl listen to him and be patient. He didn't end things. He said he has to get his ducks in a row first! Not a bad thing at all. You should feel grateful you have a man who wants to work that hard to provide for you. Those are hard to find, showing love by doing for you. Give it time and get your ducks in a row at the same time. Take this time to work on yourself and become who you picture yourself being as a wife or partner. I know you must miss him but try not to jump to conclusions and know whatever happens is for the best.

okay that is sound advice. i just panicked cause he's always there for everything, but like when i got serious he's secluding himself. But yeah i really should focus on my things. Thanks!! ^_^

yess im trying my best for the past few days to give him space and also like manage my emotions cause God knows i want to go berserk. 😭

😄 ahahaha you're so sweet ^_^ i will try my best!!

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Girl... chill and give him a call.

I want to, but I'll probably throw my emotions at his face, and from our last convo it seemed like he needed space, so I'm just clenching my teeth and trying to be patient, I will though in a week if he doesn't reach out at all.

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There are lots of men who withdraw when a woman tells them how she feels, or gets serious. It may not even be a 'typical' Aquarius thing, just a 'man-thing'. How long has he been missing? Only a few days? That is not much if he has to think about something that could potentially affect the rest of your lives.

It's been a few days, also I saw him yesterday as I was walking by he either ignored or didn't see me, (although I'm pretty sure he did knew) so ignored now I'm just trying to calm my emotions cause he made alot of heavy claims like marriage and future and moving in, I was reluctant at first but whence I started caving in and expressed that maybe I'm serious too he suddenly needed time to think, so I'll just wait a week or maybe two and see. But currently gonna focus on my things ☺️

Posted by peachy06

"He does prefer the dude having to take care of all the expenses and stuff"

Red flag.

Red flag? How so? I'm still gonna work though

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Was he kidding when he *proposed* because that's some crazy shit right there.

Apparently not, that's why I was reluctant. 😐 Like we have kinda known each other for like 6 7 yrs but got close just recently.

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Came on too hot then crazy and then cold. I would be on alert with every fiber of my being. Seriously I think you freaked him out in some way. The initial attraction was a rush but you need to feel steady and comfortable but how can you with him going every which way? Back off hard and see what this dude is gonna do next.

EXACTLY!!! that's how I feel, like BAAM!! That's why I'm sooo skeptical atm!! As far as freaking out I don't know I've already told him I have depression and get anxiety attacks, he was pretty chill with it and wanted to help, and I have asked him a few times about it that are you sure you still want to be with me he's like yes. But when I told him my feelings he backed off. I'm trying not to contact him further until he makes a move, but I will In a week or two either to check where he stands and if his answer isn't satisfying then moving on.

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Girl... chill and give him a call.

I want to, but I'll probably throw my emotions at his face, and from our last convo it seemed like he needed space, so I'm just clenching my teeth and trying to be patient, I will though in a week if he doesn't reach out at all.

What emotions? If you are upset with him you better wait. But if you reach to support him, even if he doesn’t let you do it he will appreciate it.

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Support him how? We use to talk everyday and about energy thing and he would keep telling me very bluntly that he likes me, I would usually ignore or just keep the convo going, but when I told him I have feelings he freaked out? This just confuses me ☹️😟

If I should support how do u reckon I should do it? Or should I wait for a while? Your insight would be appreciated 😊

You deserve better

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Girl... chill and give him a call.

I want to, but I'll probably throw my emotions at his face, and from our last convo it seemed like he needed space, so I'm just clenching my teeth and trying to be patient, I will though in a week if he doesn't reach out at all.

What emotions? If you are upset with him you better wait. But if you reach to support him, even if he doesn’t let you do it he will appreciate it.

Support him how? We use to talk everyday and about energy thing and he would keep telling me very bluntly that he likes me, I would usually ignore or just keep the convo going, but when I told him I have feelings he freaked out? This just confuses me ☹️😟

If I should support how do u reckon I should do it? Or should I wait for a while? Your insight would be appreciated 😊

Making sure that he knows that things are ok and that you understand him.

I don’t think he is freakin out. He has shit to do and you opening up make him want to fix it. Don’t assume that he is backing up. Girls always think that and start to misbehave 😂.

I doubt his feelings has changed.

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"Girls always think that and start to misbehave" ahahahaha 😂

Hmmm let's see I'll still wait though, give him some room. Thanks 😀

Posted by peachy06

"He does prefer the dude having to take care of all the expenses and stuff"

Red flag.

Why are you always shit on everyone’s parade?

Does it make you feel better about some shit that you going through whatever it is...?

Red flag— Man being a man?

Are you buying your man burger? GTFO!

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"He does prefer the dude having to take care of all the expenses and stuff"

Red flag.

Why red flag? 🙂

In Poland culture says guy should be provider. I don't know how in rest of Europ but here you will find a lot of men who will try and be this way. Not that they like it haha 😛

And that is not okay. Women need to provide for themselves. Being a man's bitch isn't fine.

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Fully agree!! He can provide all he wants but I'm still gonna make sure I'm financially independent

Ok here’s my two cents. He’s got another girl. When men act weird like this after they’ve OBVIOUSLY been coming on hard to you, it almost always means he’s got loose ends somewhere. This could mean he has to break up with a chick in order to be serious with you... or he thought deeply about how he actually felt about you and now doesn’t want to leave the other lady... or he’s still thinking hard about leaving this lady and is in limbo...

In my experience, men are never hot and cold for no reason. You told him you were ready... and he thought, Oh shit, I’m not actually ready. And the only thing that could stop a man from moving forward with a girl he likes a lot and talks all night to... is another girl in his life. He said it was work etc but where was “work” when he was up all night with you?

Not 100% certain of course. Just something to rule out. And if you suspect it could be true, still do what everyone’s advising. Maybe he really does want to be with you but it’s taking time to leave this girl. At least he’s doing the right thing by you to not involve you in a triangle. If he comes around, he’ll come around cleaner and more ready this time. So be patient..

UPDATE + RANT:

well regarding the Aquarius guys matter, I ended things with him like 3 weeks ago. Emotionally I was overwhelmed and have been MIA in all aspects of my life (just got my head straight set some goals now trying to achieve them but the depression persists ) cause I did let my guard down and sincerely told him things about me. So after i confessed I met up with him and discussed that even if he does have job issues its okay we can work things out as a unit, like if his claims are indeed true then i will stick with him, but lo and behold his response "Treat me as an option and not a priority" By God this confused me to no end so i said I consider you a priority so i do want to be with you, but obviously take things slow but i was willing for the long haul. and then his replies took a complete 180 degree, and i asked him if he even had feelings for me and he goes "Honestly i dont feel anything for anyone, aquarians are heartless in that sense" Good Lord i wanted to strangle him but I kept my mouth shut, a few days later tried chatting and checking to see things and it felt like he was keeping me on a hook, said he didn't like me like that but wouldn't let me leave either. I'm too old for this crap so I ended it. I don;t know if all aquarian guys are like that but my experience wasn't the nicest. Also i showed my close friends his convos and everysingle one of them is like whats wrong with him before he was talking about marriage and now i don't have feelings for you. 😢

Well theres that

Posted by lilyofthevalley

Ok here’s my two cents. He’s got another girl. When men act weird like this after they’ve OBVIOUSLY been coming on hard to you, it almost always means he’s got loose ends somewhere. This could mean he has to break up with a chick in order to be serious with you... or he thought deeply about how he actually felt about you and now doesn’t want to leave the other lady... or he’s still thinking hard about leaving this lady and is in limbo...

In my experience, men are never hot and cold for no reason. You told him you were ready... and he thought, Oh shit, I’m not actually ready. And the only thing that could stop a man from moving forward with a girl he likes a lot and talks all night to... is another girl in his life. He said it was work etc but where was “work” when he was up all night with you?

Not 100% certain of course. Just something to rule out. And if you suspect it could be true, still do what everyone’s advising. Maybe he really does want to be with you but it’s taking time to leave this girl. At least he’s doing the right thing by you to not involve you in a triangle. If he comes around, he’ll come around cleaner and more ready this time. So be patient..

reading your comment made me feel better lool, this hit me hard.

yes, yes you did 😄,

Someone who proposes after a few weeks of chatting??! Tf.

Run girl. Something is seriously wrong.

@aquaman2 I reciprocated in about a month,but I would always reply and talk to him whenever he initiated convo

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Someone who proposes after a few weeks of chatting??! Tf.

Run girl. Something is seriously wrong.

Well I gave his claims some credibility (the biggest mistake on my part) but yeah if I had caught feelings later on then this would've been worse, so in a way glad this thing only spand for a couple of weeks 6 at tops..

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UPDATE + RANT:

well regarding the Aquarius guys matter, I ended things with him like 3 weeks ago. Emotionally I was overwhelmed and have been MIA in all aspects of my life (just got my head straight set some goals now trying to achieve them but the depression persists ) cause I did let my guard down and sincerely told him things about me. So after i confessed I met up with him and discussed that even if he does have job issues its okay we can work things out as a unit, like if his claims are indeed true then i will stick with him, but lo and behold his response "Treat me as an option and not a priority" By God this confused me to no end so i said I consider you a priority so i do want to be with you, but obviously take things slow but i was willing for the long haul. and then his replies took a complete 180 degree, and i asked him if he even had feelings for me and he goes "Honestly i dont feel anything for anyone, aquarians are heartless in that sense" Good Lord i wanted to strangle him but I kept my mouth shut, a few days later tried chatting and checking to see things and it felt like he was keeping me on a hook, said he didn't like me like that but wouldn't let me leave either. I'm too old for this crap so I ended it. I don;t know if all aquarian guys are like that but my experience wasn't the nicest. Also i showed my close friends his convos and everysingle one of them is like whats wrong with him before he was talking about marriage and now i don't have feelings for you. 😢

Well theres that

Eeewww... glad you got to see his a-hole tendencies early on.

I’m sorry to hear it caused you some depression 😒. I hope your Mr. Next has a much more caring heart ❤️than this cold fuck.

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Exactly!! Better to realise is early. Ahahah yess depression Im a ball of emotion 😅

Sounds like my ex. He was very hot in the beginning and then turned very cold, but he never went away completely. Still talk to him casually every month and it’s been over two years but obviously it’s never gone anywhere. Some men just aren’t the serious relationship type. They can’t handle high expectations in a relationship when it gets serious.

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He love bombed you.

He seems bi polar.

sure seems that way!!

@BathHouseCulture yes my mars is definitely a problem, but I have a sun conjunct pluto in scorpio in the 6th and a venus in capricorn in the 7th and saturn in 8th. though I crave relationships but Im not the type to give in easily, as far as relating to men on emotional levels? like me being too emotional and them not being in the same page? then no I've been told my emotionas are like a robot, although im very empathetic but i dont show how i feel until im dead sure that i can trust the person.

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Sounds like my ex. He was very hot in the beginning and then turned very cold, but he never went away completely. Still talk to him casually every month and it’s been over two years but obviously it’s never gone anywhere. Some men just aren’t the serious relationship type. They can’t handle high expectations in a relationship when it gets serious.

well its reasonable if the other person initiates it and puts them on spot, this dude was the one who went waaaay overboard and went i reciprocated then he bailed. so i dont know...

@Bellabebe you're right also its fine i do prefer other peoples opinions so no judgements 🙂 it's definitely hard mostly cause people either aren't serious enough or are on completely different chapters in their lives. and i'm in the phase where i need the other person to commit otherwise i really don't have time for flings or time pass.

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Sounds like my ex. He was very hot in the beginning and then turned very cold, but he never went away completely. Still talk to him casually every month and it’s been over two years but obviously it’s never gone anywhere. Some men just aren’t the serious relationship type. They can’t handle high expectations in a relationship when it gets serious.

well its reasonable if the other person initiates it and puts them on spot, this dude was the one who went waaaay overboard and went i reciprocated then he bailed. so i dont know...

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So was my aqua ex. Initiated and acted super in love. Then bailed too.

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Sounds like my ex. He was very hot in the beginning and then turned very cold, but he never went away completely. Still talk to him casually every month and it’s been over two years but obviously it’s never gone anywhere. Some men just aren’t the serious relationship type. They can’t handle high expectations in a relationship when it gets serious.

well its reasonable if the other person initiates it and puts them on spot, this dude was the one who went waaaay overboard and went i reciprocated then he bailed. so i dont know...

So was my aqua ex. Initiated and acted super in love. Then bailed too.

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This is super confusing 😣 why do that?? Maybe they realized the responsibility that comes with these then got cold feet? But that's when u are new to relationships and are still exploring what u want and need, but he's almost 28,... I'm just like huh??

@Bellabebe because we had barely chatted for a few weeks and no one in their right mind would do that, plus I didn't know him completely and also he didn't know then that I have anxiety issues, although when I did forewarn him about it he was pretty accepting and said he already knew and stuff. But im a scorpio so I can't trust anything at face value I need proof of the claims, so I told him to take things slow

@BathHouseCulture yes his pluto was conjunct my sun and pluto, no the Mars venus opposition orb is too wide my Mars in cancer is at 28 deg and venus in cap is at 2 deg. We had alot of good synastry aspects like he has 4 or 5 planets including his NN in my 7th his sun saturn conjunction in my 8th, a venus conjunct venus (his venus is in sag) his NN was on my venus, from the synastry charts I did online they all had alot of marriage factors. His moon conjunct my ic etc, also my moo. And Mars is in his 8th. but I'm the type that if I commit come what may I will stick with that person provided my feelings are also reciprocated, the bad part I let alot of things slide even if the other person is wrong cause I keep giving chances and it ends up going against me. Even though he claimed marriage when it actually came to it he chickened out, so I'm just left confused why make such high stake claims if ur not gonna do it, plus when I showed I have feelings and he backed off he wouldn't let me leave and wouldn't commit either he kept me on a hook, like I should now go after him.. 😕

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Sounds like my ex. He was very hot in the beginning and then turned very cold, but he never went away completely. Still talk to him casually every month and it’s been over two years but obviously it’s never gone anywhere. Some men just aren’t the serious relationship type. They can’t handle high expectations in a relationship when it gets serious.

well its reasonable if the other person initiates it and puts them on spot, this dude was the one who went waaaay overboard and went i reciprocated then he bailed. so i dont know...

So was my aqua ex. Initiated and acted super in love. Then bailed too.

This is super confusing 😣 why do that?? Maybe they realized the responsibility that comes with these then got cold feet? But that's when u are new to relationships and are still exploring what u want and need, but he's almost 28,... I'm just like huh??

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This guy is 34. He’s just not good at committing. He’d rather have something casual because it’s easy and he doesn’t have to live up to any expectations and can be completely selfish. Do you see that with your guy?

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Sounds like my ex. He was very hot in the beginning and then turned very cold, but he never went away completely. Still talk to him casually every month and it’s been over two years but obviously it’s never gone anywhere. Some men just aren’t the serious relationship type. They can’t handle high expectations in a relationship when it gets serious.

well its reasonable if the other person initiates it and puts them on spot, this dude was the one who went waaaay overboard and went i reciprocated then he bailed. so i dont know...

So was my aqua ex. Initiated and acted super in love. Then bailed too.

This is super confusing 😣 why do that?? Maybe they realized the responsibility that comes with these then got cold feet? But that's when u are new to relationships and are still exploring what u want and need, but he's almost 28,... I'm just like huh??

This guy is 34. He’s just not good at committing. He’d rather have something casual because it’s easy and he doesn’t have to live up to any expectations and can be completely selfish. Do you see that with your guy?

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Not at first no, he was pretty adamant on commiting, started changing and backing off when I agreed to commit

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Sounds like my ex. He was very hot in the beginning and then turned very cold, but he never went away completely. Still talk to him casually every month and it’s been over two years but obviously it’s never gone anywhere. Some men just aren’t the serious relationship type. They can’t handle high expectations in a relationship when it gets serious.

well its reasonable if the other person initiates it and puts them on spot, this dude was the one who went waaaay overboard and went i reciprocated then he bailed. so i dont know...

So was my aqua ex. Initiated and acted super in love. Then bailed too.

This is super confusing 😣 why do that?? Maybe they realized the responsibility that comes with these then got cold feet? But that's when u are new to relationships and are still exploring what u want and need, but he's almost 28,... I'm just like huh??

This guy is 34. He’s just not good at committing. He’d rather have something casual because it’s easy and he doesn’t have to live up to any expectations and can be completely selfish. Do you see that with your guy?

Not at first no, he was pretty adamant on commiting, started changing and backing off when I agreed to commit

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Right. Mine locked me down in two days making me his gf after one date. But it’s been two years and I’ve witnessed his actions of being unable to fully commit. He just can’t do it longterm.

@BathHouseCulture we have a venus semi-sextile sun, and apologies his Jupiter is on my IC not his moon. which is in virgo other then that I don't have any virgo placements. Our mercurcury aspects are as follows (I have a retrograde mercury in sagittarius in the 6th, and he has capricorn mercury in his 2nd.)

1. His mercury conjunct my Neptune and uranus in my 7th.

2. My mercury conjunct his ascendant, square his moon and sextile his saturn.

Thank you for the analysis it was very nice reading it ☺️

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Sounds like my ex. He was very hot in the beginning and then turned very cold, but he never went away completely. Still talk to him casually every month and it’s been over two years but obviously it’s never gone anywhere. Some men just aren’t the serious relationship type. They can’t handle high expectations in a relationship when it gets serious.

well its reasonable if the other person initiates it and puts them on spot, this dude was the one who went waaaay overboard and went i reciprocated then he bailed. so i dont know...

So was my aqua ex. Initiated and acted super in love. Then bailed too.

This is super confusing 😣 why do that?? Maybe they realized the responsibility that comes with these then got cold feet? But that's when u are new to relationships and are still exploring what u want and need, but he's almost 28,... I'm just like huh??

This guy is 34. He’s just not good at committing. He’d rather have something casual because it’s easy and he doesn’t have to live up to any expectations and can be completely selfish. Do you see that with your guy?

Not at first no, he was pretty adamant on commiting, started changing and backing off when I agreed to commit

Right. Mine locked me down in two days making me his gf after one date. But it’s been two years and I’ve witnessed his actions of being unable to fully commit. He just can’t do it longterm.

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Aaah, exactly in my case I didn't agree when he suggested it. So I took a while feeling him out and stuff. Are you guys still together? Like in what aspects hasn't he fully commit himself? You don't have to answer if you're not comfortable

@BathHouseCulture that is what I did 😂😂

@BathHouseCulture *curious* why do you think I should run? Like in astrological terms if you could explain it.

@BathHouseCulture , hmmm we dont have a venus conjunction mercury,

Sagittarius Ascendant

venus in sag in 1st house

mars, neptune, uranus + mercury in capricorn in 2nd

sun +saturn in aquarius in 2nd house

jupiter and moon in virgo in 9th house, not conjunct. jupiter is conjunct his virgo MC.

pluto in scorpio in 12th.

he doesnt have a mars venus conjunction in natal although we have this in synastry. he does have a moon square pluto...

@Arielle83 aaaaaah yeah learnt that lesson. well chatting and telling secrets was an initial stage like feeling him out and stuff, his reactions to what i say and generally assessing his psyche. But his reactions when the commitment got serious was something that put me off considerably.

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Sounds like my ex. He was very hot in the beginning and then turned very cold, but he never went away completely. Still talk to him casually every month and it’s been over two years but obviously it’s never gone anywhere. Some men just aren’t the serious relationship type. They can’t handle high expectations in a relationship when it gets serious.

well its reasonable if the other person initiates it and puts them on spot, this dude was the one who went waaaay overboard and went i reciprocated then he bailed. so i dont know...

So was my aqua ex. Initiated and acted super in love. Then bailed too.

This is super confusing 😣 why do that?? Maybe they realized the responsibility that comes with these then got cold feet? But that's when u are new to relationships and are still exploring what u want and need, but he's almost 28,... I'm just like huh??

This guy is 34. He’s just not good at committing. He’d rather have something casual because it’s easy and he doesn’t have to live up to any expectations and can be completely selfish. Do you see that with your guy?

Not at first no, he was pretty adamant on commiting, started changing and backing off when I agreed to commit

Right. Mine locked me down in two days making me his gf after one date. But it’s been two years and I’ve witnessed his actions of being unable to fully commit. He just can’t do it longterm.

Aaah, exactly in my case I didn't agree when he suggested it. So I took a while feeling him out and stuff. Are you guys still together? Like in what aspects hasn't he fully commit himself? You don't have to answer if you're not comfortable

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No. He got cold after the 2nd month. I tried for two years to be with him. We kept in touch the whole time. Talked every month. I posted on snap a lot every day and he was checking first a lot. Funny how one time I snapped I was with a guy friend on his boat at the lake, he immediately went to the lake and followed me to that restaurant. He said he was coming to the lake, but I assumed just to his boat dock. He drove his seadoo right away, but we left 10 mins before he got there. Then the next day, he invited me to the lake with him. Now I just started dating a Pisces in September (he knows) and he’s asked me 3 different times to hook up with him. I said no every time. I finally told him on Thursday that I want a serious relationship, someone I can marry. We are simply looking for different things in life.

To me, this shows me he cares. There’s still a tiny bit of him that hasn’t let go, but he isn’t living up to my standards so I’m done with him. Plus I’m dating someone else who’s so much better!!

@BathHouseCulture here's a chart if ur interested. The orb between his merc and my venus is more then 10 deg so it probably doesn't count.

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He is artistic likes music but doesn't play any instruments

@pinkbird03 I'm soo glad you've moved on and are happy!! I'm just hopping I find the right guy as well. And saying no to him was the right thing to do, and I hope the pisces guy makes you happy 😊😊