Aqua men and sex...!!! (Page 2)

lunarlady...i hear ya! i used to fight with my aqua all the time b/c i was sexually deprived...but, it got me nowhere. so, i got over that!!!

us cancer girls are extremely sexual and i don't think they understand how often we need to be satisfied 😉

Too right Moonchild...we are sexual us Cancer ladies !!!

Oh he does want to have sex with me and i'm there when it happens so i know he is into it also !! I don't know a man that doesn't look at porn so i don't get upset about it anymore. I have spoken to many male friends who are in relationships and they really don't think its a big deal. Just wish i could see it from a male perspective maybe it would be easier to understand.

Well we see each other on average about 4 times a week cos we both work shifts..it depends on one week to the next really. On a good week we'll manage 3 times lol! He seems to prefer morning sex and i have to get up early a lot of the time so its a catch 22 sometimes.

ok, so maybe sex isn't THAT important to most people!!!

3 times a day is a bit much for me...but, everyone is different. i don't let it consume my life!

WOW...was that necessary—

leokitten...no offense, but you seem like you are pretty high maintenence. you seem like you may be a little demanding of your bf...?

She's a leo....

I thought it was a bit harsh too!!

leokitten seems like a cool chick, but the last couple of statements she made makes her seem like a bad person.

and, it is shocking to me that her aqua bf puts up with that...if i was demanding like that with my aqua (which i am not that way at all), he would run...for sure.

I'm sure she is cool but i only came here for some friendly chat and advice..i have to say i'm a little scared now !!!!

don't be scared...

she reminds me of a few leo women i know. and what's strange is that i don't mesh well with leos (even though my best childhood friend is leo), but i have a LOT of leo in my chart...weird!!!

Thanks you guys...on the whole everyone has been really nice here so i'm not gonna be scared off that easily!!!!

lunarlady...you can pm me anytime you need advice, as i have said earlier!!!
and, unusualcancer is also a GREAT person to get aqua men advice on 😉 she is very well educated in that area!

Thanks Moonchild i will probably take you up on the offer , thanks for your kindness...

I ought to be well educated too really as this is the third Aqua i have been in a serious relationship with (third time lucky ??). I think i know what makes them tick most of the time but this is just the one issue i wanted to hear someone elses perspective on. I have read some of unusualcancer's posts though and she sure does know her stuff!!

wow!!! three aquas...you should be used to all of their ways then, right?
how is the aqua you are with now different than the other two? do you see a lot of similarities between all three aquas— i would imagine so, since a lot of the aqua guys on here are described pretty similarly...

how old are the two of you by the way?...if you don't mind me asking...

Well the first Aqua i dated i was with for four years and we are still friends to this day, he and my current Aqua are mirror images you could say...very very similar. The second Aqua i dated was very different, he was really reserved and insular, i never really got him, we just couldn't click somehow, there were major communication problems. My first Aqua was so funny, i used to spilt my sides laughing all the time at him but we were very young and grew apart in the end.
My current boyfriend is the same , we laugh a lot and are great friends as well as lovers. He has just gone 37 and i am 38 in July. How about you Moonchild,what are your ages??

my aqua is actually more of the reserved, very quiet type...and very insecure as well.
it takes a lot for him to open up, and he is still shy around me sometimes, even after all this time together. he is on the cusp (jan. 21), so i think he has some characteristics of a capricorn...
i am kind of quiet myself, but i am definitely the "loud" one in the relationship. i feel like i am always talking his ear off on the phone, and he is probably sitting on the other end rolling his eyes or something...LOL!

i am 28 and he just turned 28 in january, so i am actually 6 months older than him...and since i am a female as well, naturally i am far more mature 😉
but, he has grown up A LOT since we first started dating...and he has really been growing up in the last 6 months...so we'll see!

All cancers are loud and talk ALOT on the phone.

i am not loud at all, but in comparison to my aqua bf...i am the loud one.
and the only reason i talk his ear off on the phone is b/c he doesn't say much at all.
in person, it is different...but, on the phone he doesn't talk very much, so i have to keep the conversation going.

Its better if our partner is a talker or else it would be very quiet and boring.

We dont ALL dislike sex regularly.

I just dont think its the focal point for most aquas in the relationship, but we like sex...we like GOOD sex...interesting sex...more than just ...sex...

We definitely need more than just sex though in a relationship....we can most likely get sex from anywhere, but in an actual relationship there has to be more.

i am sure that all aqua men do not dislike sex regularly (and the ladies too!)
i just know that my aqua bf is more about quality thsn quantity...he always says "it's not about the numbers"...meaning the number of times we have sex.
personally, i would like to have sex more often than we do...but we only see each other maybe 2-3 times per week. and when we do have sex, it is out of this world!!! so, i guess i agree with him on the quality over quantity outlook...

...and we never really said that all aqua guys dislike sex.
we were saying that it is not of high importance to a lot of aqua guys, and that they can take it or leave it most of the time.

i don't have morning sex with my bf anymore...too tired!

we used to have morning sex all the time...and i used to wake him up at like 3 inthe morning to have sex with me...ahhh, the good old days.

leokitten...yes, sex is something that should be communicated. as i said before...when i asked my aqua if it bothers him that we only have sex once a week, his reply was "it's not about the number"...

and honestly, once a week is fine for me lately...i have been on this new birth control pill for the last 5 months and it has lowered my sex drive...BIG TIME!!!

Funny,

Mr. Pisces told me last night, "sex isnt everything" Even though I agree I had to give the aqua rebuttal and let him know the other side of the argument.

I told him he's a bad lover because he's selfish...not with me, with his ex gf...and I know this because he said himself that he was selfish.
He says sex was good, but he didnt like her and all they had in their relationship was sex...they werent friends first (interesting...his words huh) He is a feb fish, btb.

Ha - just reading this is funny cause you guys aer mostly right!

Yeah I agree wid allot of you - I not allowed to initiate sex 😢 He likes to have me when he wants me - so I just say K well I gots to go & use my vibrator babes 😄 then he changes his mind cause I just know he'll want to come play with it too - he heh - the whole rolling over works too 🙂 A good massage is another one - If you catch him before he falls asleep! I tried to get him to shag me in this cool little spot but it was kinda public & he declined!! Like he has shagged me in VERY public spots - but he initiated it - thats the dif.

But I was having a bit of a whinge about it this morning cause It is sort of embarrassing when you have to ask for it.

And then there is the 5am sex - I dont understand - we just spent 5 hours together the night before but he wants to play with his hobbies or watch a war doco rather than have sex but he will wake me up & have half asleep sex just fine?? WTF? I am NOT a happy person in the morning - well I am happy if you DONT TALK OR MAKE ANY NOISE AT ALL - except cafe del mar - thats allowed - Ill usually just smile at you.

leokitten...yeah, it does suck!!! it's called Loestrin and it's a much lower dosage of estrogen, which is good b/c the last pill i was on made me a crazy person!!! so, at least i am a lot more mellow on this pill, but almost too mellow. and my sex drive is MUCH lower. i am thinking of just going off the pill completely...every pill i have taken has some radical side effect.

what really sucks is i used to orgasm 99% of the time we had sex...and since i started on this pill i have a really hard time feeling it...i don't orgasm like i used to...and it makes him feel like it is his fault. but, i have told him it is this new pill i am on...it SUCKS!!!

i know, i know...i though about that as i was writing it...oh well.
just letting all you girls out there know how upseting this Loestrin pill can be 😉

i have been on 5 different bc pills in the last 10 years, and they all seem to have side effects on me...
some pills may not have side effects, but also everyone reacts differently to each pill...

moonchild8 yeah know what you mean about the pill - I was taking Yasmin - one of the so called best - I started gettign celulite & totally lost intrest in sex - could not get off for the life of me -I have stoped taking the pill now all together as it is being linked to depression & cancer - Things they dont tell you -

leokitten...i was on ortho tri-cyclen for a number of years, and then i was also on ortho-tri cyclen lo as well for a few years...

don't remember what side effects they had on me b/c it was a long time ago...

pisces...LOL!!! that's funny b/c i was on Yasmin for a while before this pill that i am taking now, and it made me completely INSANE!!! i was seriously a raving lunatic on Yasmin, and i couldn't take it anymore...
see, everyone reacts differently to every pill...

Message posted by: leokitten on 3/1/2007 8:37:44 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.41
i am too paranoid. i could never rely on condoms alone.

plus, the pill....is not actually been shown to link to cancer in any medically approved study of merit.

They havent had long enough to research it - long term effects and all. It has been linked to depression thou - There was a stdy beign done about why doctors dont warn women about it.

moonchild8 - Fully!! I went mental - it was more my man than me that wanted me to stop taking it - he couldnt handle me being such a nut job on it - ha!

Not enough - They are only just starting to find problems so either they knew along time ago & didn't tell anyone or they are only seeing long term effects now.

Sort of like smoking - its been around for a long time but only now are they putting warning labels on the packets & banning it in allot of public places - they didn't realise how much damage it actually does until now.

Damn why is everyone hating on Leos? You're all just jealous :-P just kidding.

Marijuana and sex ...one thing i wonder if i'll ever try. *strokes his chin*

Maybe just once. *shrugs*

is it typical of aquamen to abuse weed or alcohol? I would imagine it would be used to tame their irritating personalities.

"Marijuana and sex ...one thing i wonder if i'll ever try "

You'll go to the paradise of sex..😉