Aquarian woman being distant?

I have been really good friends with this aquarian for a while now, I eventually confessed to her and we went on two dates. We ended up holding each other a lot for both of them. She decided to go back to being just friends after the second date. She said she isn't ready for a relationship right now and wants to finish college first. She tried to make me feel better by saying it isn't me, and that she isn't even ready for a relationship with a cat right now. :/ I care deeply for her and we have great chemistry, we smile every time we see each other. I was just wondering if it would be wise to wait for her? She is two years younger than me. All of our phone conversations end up going on for hours, even if we both have to wake up early the next morning. I am confused as to how to proceed right now.

Thanks, I suppose... though telling a crab to relax is like telling water to stop being wet. I am cool with staying friends with her for now, I am just not ready to give up hope for anything happening in the future.

I certainly won't give up hope... She just has a tendancy to forget to text back. 😛 I have learned to just let that go... though it has been difficult.

I do understand that she doesn't not text back to "hurt" me. I have culled my texting back a lot... If she ends up missing a few she always apologizes for it. All I really want I suppose, is to make her as happy as she makes me. 🙂

On a priority list of 1-10, 10 being the highest... She says I am an 8, her family being 10 of course, and her other friends being in the 5-6 range.

.....an 8

See, now I am confused... Why would I directly ask her a question that she has previously answered?

Would it be advisable if I were to stop texting for a few days...?

I pull that "I'm not ready for a relationship" excuse when I'm:

1) dwelling on an ex
2) not physically attracted to the guy
3) not attracted to them as more than friends.

When I want someone, there is nothin that stops me with getting with them, especially if they like me back.

Let's face it: when we meet someone freakin awesome, we don't let it pass by because "we are not ready". Sometimes people truly are not ready but they will see a great guy/girl and make themselves ready.

She said that she was afraid of hurting herself, also that she was afraid that she wouldn't be able to give me the attention I deserve.

The part I don't understand is the whole, "hurting herself" bit... Not, "I am afraid you would hurt me"... but that she would be the one hurting her own self? W.T.F.? Then there is the frustrating part of she thinks that she wouldn't give me the attention I deserve? Even if it is only every couple of days, it would still be worth it for me!

... I guess I understand... How do you mean, "expectations of you"?

So she is disappointed that she isn't able to give back as much as I give to her? Even if I have clearly stated to her that that isn't a problem?

Suppose that makes sense...

I will certainly be back if something develops!

Posted by phineasbardell
Would it be advisable if I were to stop texting for a few days...?

Never do the hot and cold.

If you are busy NEVER stop contacting her, but always tell her that you're going to be busy so you won't be around for days. She will hopefully respect that. I don't know what type of girl you have, but women don't want to be ignored. It's a sign of not caring at all.

I am glad that I am not as spiteful as I used to be... I know she doesn't mean to ignore me, though it still doesn't feel too good. 🙂

Honestly, I don't know if it worth all the effort. I met 3 Aquarius woman, including my grandmother, and they are all like... I can't even describe it.
They don't like good guys, they prefer the gangster type, and they will never give you back all the things you want she gives you. She wil never demonstrate affection, she will always appear as if she doesn't give a *lying *uck to you. She will always blame you that you don't accept the fact that see wanna go to a party with her friends alone.
It's chaotic, it's like the opposite of Peace. It's just harmful. Your choice...

While I cant conjecture at your past experiences with aqua's... I can guarantee that she is not into "gangster" types.

Posted by FeelingShred
Honestly, I don't know if it worth all the effort. I met 3 Aquarius woman, including my grandmother, and they are all like... I can't even describe it.
They don't like good guys, they prefer the gangster type, and they will never give you back all the things you want she gives you. She wil never demonstrate affection, she will always appear as if she doesn't give a *lying *uck to you. She will always blame you that you don't accept the fact that see wanna go to a party with her friends alone.
It's chaotic, it's like the opposite of Peace. It's just harmful. Your choice...

Some aquas are probably like that. Some aren't. Some love peace and some love and thrive on chaos. You never know what you're gonna get. If she even gives you a fraction of affection, some people just want to take it and run with the hills. crazy.

Posted by phineasbardell
I am glad that I am not as spiteful as I used to be... I know she doesn't mean to ignore me, though it still doesn't feel too good. 🙂

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aww. 🙂 I understand what you mean. Some are lost somewhere there in their mind. When all you ever wanted was to have a piece of her heart and have her hold you close and tell you it's going to be allright and she'll never leave you.

See, she has yet to say she doesn't see a future.... Just that school is going to be hectic. She doesn't want to make commitments she won't be able to keep right now.

Why would she agree to go out with me in the first place, if she wasn't at least a little interested?

Posted by phineasbardell
Why would she agree to go out with me in the first place, if she wasn't at least a little interested?

That's awesome. Good luck and go with the flow.

Posted by Grey
why the hell is no one commenting on my Aquarius crush princess Mary of Denmark? come on guys stop being jealous of her beauty.

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lol

We are jealous! She is the true Princess! And all I got was a "princess" t shirt my husband got me. Where is my crown? Lmao!

Good luck with what? That was before she decided that school would get in the way.

Posted by phineasbardell
Good luck with what? That was before she decided that school would get in the way.

Well if school gets in the way, she, like many women want to put their career and education at the forefront. It's a kind of safety net for many of them. If anything happens with a relationship with any guy they'll think, well, they are going to have their security blanket which is their career.
That's another way to look at it. If it's possible to have both, get into a relationship and still pursue a career at the same time ..maybe. Most people try to make a serious relationship after they have finished education. (well in those steps anyway).

Posted by phineasbardell
Good luck with what? That was before she decided that school would get in the way.

and i honestly thought you guys would go out even after she said about school.

It's hard to concentrate both school and having a romantic relationship invested for some. Love gets in the way.

That is what I figured is the matter... My question being, should I wait for another two years? Considering she says she can't know what will happen in the future... While that statement may be true, I still think it might be a bit of a cop out.

Posted by phineasbardell
That is what I figured is the matter... My question being, should I wait for another two years? Considering she says she can't know what will happen in the future... While that statement may be true, I still think it might be a bit of a cop out.

It's probably a cop out. Fear of getting hurt and at least to her, in her mind, the education and career will get a SECURED place in the world.

The only reassurance you can try and give her is that you'll wait. But then, she probably has a hard time probably believing.

Or you can be stern with her. Depending on what type of girl she really is, she may like a stern and more 'fatherly' kind of man. Not saying you are one, but in some relationship dynamics, she may need that push. It's hard with some Aqua women. You can't make them do anything or make them believe in something unless it is they themselves who believe in it. Once she believes in it, nothing stops her. It's kind of tied up to the mind which connects to her heart.

Stern in which way?

Posted by Grey
no i mean i can never take a aqua female seriously. they are too arrogant and perverse. lose morals and overly egotistical. not feminine which gross me out.

ayn rand was one and so was omorosa. they are very psychopathic in nature and probably sleep with your friend when you leave the house.

any sign that wants too much "freedom" is a bad choice for marriage. by freedom they men the right to be perverted etc.


several people said aqua chicks are crazy egotistical. who the hell wants to come home that lol

Lol. Those psychotic ones are sure scaarrryy. Scary with a capital "S"!

Definitely better choices out there for wifeyhood indeed. I agree! ^_~

Posted by phineasbardell
Stern in which way?

ohhhhhh I dunno.

I guess be more passionate. Arck! 😕 Um, set your foot down. Be a little more demanding?

I'm definitely not good at this 'cause honestly, some aquas are just soooo different. I for one want intensity and he chasing me all the way to hell and back with a very decisive streak. I want the Romeo and Juliet thing, which I got. But some Aqua women are so different. Some of them wear the pants and act high and mighty and may want to wear the pants and tyrannical their man. Some of them are so demure. Grrrr. I really honestly can't know either.
But on a general basis, since she has Cancer mars and Cap moon? She's more reserved, and her cancer mars wants family and tradition. She's torn. But there's a demureness and passivity about her you like perhaps. Do your mercs match?

Her Merc is in Pisces... Mine is in Cancer

Posted by phineasbardell
Her Merc is in Pisces... Mine is in Cancer

my sister's merc is in pisces and her hubby is virgo merc. Earth/water combo.

You have a nice match up with the water/water. You can probably "get" her way of thinking much better.

That's part of the problem... I "do" get her thinking process, Which is why I think she is making a mistake... but there really isn't a way to get her to think that.

Posted by phineasbardell
That's part of the problem... I "do" get her thinking process, Which is why I think she is making a mistake... but there really isn't a way to get her to think that.

Generally, Air suns, moons, stellium airs ect make a lot of mistakes and their decision making isn't very good most of the time, if not all the time.

The air element is child like and if you are up against a "fixed" placement, one of the few options is to make them see things that would be actually good for them. Most of the time, they don't even know what is good for them. They're so stubborn and they believe that their thinking is always right, when they have so much to always learn about life.

Showing by example is one option. If you can tough it out, and never give up, she might see things your way. But that is a very high price for you to pay, because you're giving up alot of your time and energy on the side. It's up to you.

How does one "show by example" in this case?

oh jesus christ Grey. LOL

phineasbardell, by your good example.

My grandfather was a Cancer sun, and by his example, I have never seen another man (except my husband) be so good in every way: good father, good husband, good provider, good friend, good grandfather, and loyal to a fault. I do put him on a pedastal but he deserves it.