Aquarius man confusing me

Hey so to try and make this short and sweet. I’m a leo, aug 6 and he’s an Aquarius Jan. 24th. We’ve been close friends since high school, about 9 years. We’ve started having a sexual relationship but still remaining friends. We spend every day together, he’s great to my son, he wants me around him all the time says he loves me and he’ll always be in my life and he knows i love him and have feelings for him but then he says he’s scared commitment. we rarely ever argue, maybe 3 times our whole time knowing each other and we have a lot in common - never a dull moment. So when things started getting weird i tell him i think it’s wise to stop the sexual relationship and he still makes advances to keep things going but then recently this past week he’s been talking to some girl and she’s been coming around a lot. Two weeks ago we had an argument and he said he’d never mess with me again, and then turned around a day later and apologized and has been asking me to be back around. he had been acting completely normal and then today me and the girl came over a mutual friends house where he was and he ended up leaving at night with her to her house basically to have sex with her and didn’t say a word to me. He just left and although he’s not my boyfriend i feel disrespected and i just don’t know how i should go about the situation.

Yes it hurts what he did, but you allowed him to be with you without commitment. You basically gave him the okay to do whatever he wants. Dr. Laura would say you are being an unpaid whore by having sex with him and no commitment. Don’t be with him until he commits to you. Walk away until then. Show him you have value and standards and show confidence that you don’t need him to be happy.

@Leo188881 please help this fellow lioness past the Aquarius maze safely.

They are supposed to....confuse you....Aqua men that is

@NaeLeo I'm not a Leo, but why don't you have an open conversation about respect. You guys have no title but if he is a real friend to you he wouldn't be throwing this crap in your face. He needs to have some respect for you and treat you like a decent friend.

I don't think most people have titles nowadays, but there isn't a need to blatantly disrespect you like this. Like you were just some place holder until he found someone else.

You guys have never had an argument?? I think nows the time to get all up in his ass and let him have it!

Title or not. He's a dickhead and isn't taking you into consideration. Open your mouth girl! He ain't going anywhere, you've been friends long enough.

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@Leo188881 please help this fellow lioness past the Aquarius maze safely.

Why do you always tag non Aquas for questions about Aquas? Do you know the answer? You can't give advice?

Why not say what your opinion is on this subject? I would love to hear your thoughts on the matter.

I think he is showing you, ok if you don’t want sex with me I get it somewhere else, and wants to make you jealous.

Anyway I think he is behaving like a dick and If I was you I would tell him that his behavior it hurting.

Treating you like that it’s very disrespectful and personally I wouldn’t take it.

@Saggurl88 nailed it. I believe he’d respect you if you told him how you feel and he may very well be throwing it in your face to make you jeskous. He may start off the conversation with “we aren’t together” blah blah blah, but if you hold your ground he’d be attracted to it

When a man says he doesn’t want commitment, it means he doesn’t want it with you. And for him to sleep with another girl, he made it more obvious he doesn’t want to be with you. Sorry. Dating sucks. Men are cruel.

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@Leo188881 please help this fellow lioness past the Aquarius maze safely.

Why do you always tag non Aquas for questions about Aquas? Do you know the answer? You can't give advice?

Why not say what your opinion is on this subject? I would love to hear your thoughts on the matter.

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I always positioned myself as Aqua men's counselor here in Aqua board. They're not here and can't speak for themselves.

Regarding this thread, it's so obvious I don't need to say anything lol.

And I only ever tagged two people so far, one of them is you.

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@Leo188881 please help this fellow lioness past the Aquarius maze safely.

Why do you always tag non Aquas for questions about Aquas? Do you know the answer? You can't give advice?

Why not say what your opinion is on this subject? I would love to hear your thoughts on the matter.

I always positioned myself as Aqua men's counselor here in Aqua board. They're not here and can't speak for themselves.

Regarding this thread, it's so obvious I don't need to say anything lol.

And I only ever tagged two people so far, one of them is you.

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I never said that I minded you tagging me! 😄😄

I just want to read what you think about these types is situations every now and then.

What's obvious to you, as an Aqua, is something that is oblivious to us common folk! 😜😏

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@Leo188881 please help this fellow lioness past the Aquarius maze safely.

Now you explain why the poo head did this to her.

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Naw if I feel that the aqua man is at fault, I won't say anything.

I won't be harsh to my fellow aqua men 😂

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@Leo188881 please help this fellow lioness past the Aquarius maze safely.

Why do you always tag non Aquas for questions about Aquas? Do you know the answer? You can't give advice?

Why not say what your opinion is on this subject? I would love to hear your thoughts on the matter.

I always positioned myself as Aqua men's counselor here in Aqua board. They're not here and can't speak for themselves.

Regarding this thread, it's so obvious I don't need to say anything lol.

And I only ever tagged two people so far, one of them is you.

I never said that I minded you tagging me! 😄😄

I just want to read what you think about these types is situations every now and then.

What's obvious to you, as an Aqua, is something that is oblivious to us common folk! 😜😏

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"We claim no responsibility for this broken individual"

Aquarius09 manual book.

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@Leo188881 please help this fellow lioness past the Aquarius maze safely.

Now you explain why the poo head did this to her.

Naw if I feel that the aqua man is at fault, I won't say anything.

I won't be harsh to my fellow aqua men 😂

Lol. They're always at fault!

They're like children. You say no or don't do that and they do the opposite. But I'm onto it so if he says should i get the lady to take a photo of me in the fitting room so i can send it to you. I tell him yes. Get her to take a nude for me but tell her she can't touch it because i own it. Then he chickens out. But if i were to say NO! He would would do it to piss me off on purpose because he's a man child.

You gotta stay a step ahead or they'll fuck you over.

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Again it's a misconception about us.

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I think he is showing you, ok if you don’t want sex with me I get it somewhere else, and wants to make you jealous.

Anyway I think he is behaving like a dick and If I was you I would tell him that his behavior it hurting.

Treating you like that it’s very disrespectful and personally I wouldn’t take it.

I agree with this. He's being a stupid cunt face to prove a point. But that was a really shitty thing to do.

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Totally.

Horrible.

And very immature. You just cannot play with someone’s feelings like that.

Fact: you are not his girlfriend. They are the masters of manipulation when it comes to non commitment and stringing along. Go strictly to facts and not to words.

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@Leo188881 please help this fellow lioness past the Aquarius maze safely.

Why do you always tag non Aquas for questions about Aquas? Do you know the answer? You can't give advice?

Why not say what your opinion is on this subject? I would love to hear your thoughts on the matter.

I always positioned myself as Aqua men's counselor here in Aqua board. They're not here and can't speak for themselves.

Regarding this thread, it's so obvious I don't need to say anything lol.

And I only ever tagged two people so far, one of them is you.

I never said that I minded you tagging me! 😄😄

I just want to read what you think about these types is situations every now and then.

What's obvious to you, as an Aqua, is something that is oblivious to us common folk! 😜😏

"We claim no responsibility for this broken individual"

Aquarius09 manual book.

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😒😒😒😒🤐🤐🤐🤐🙄

Posted by saggurl88
@NaeLeo I'm not a Leo, but why don't you have an open conversation about respect. You guys have no title but if he is a real friend to you he wouldn't be throwing this crap in your face. He needs to have some respect for you and treat you like a decent friend.

I don't think most people have titles nowadays, but there isn't a need to blatantly disrespect you like this. Like you were just some place holder until he found someone else.

You guys have never had an argument?? I think nows the time to get all up in his ass and let him have it!

Title or not. He's a dickhead and isn't taking you into consideration. Open your mouth girl! He ain't going anywhere, you've been friends long enough.

When i told him how i felt he said I’m not his girlfriend and he wouldn’t care if i did the same thing and he said I’m petty for being mad and not wanting to be around him

It’s not about the fact that he had sex with someone else because i have too, it’s just the principle of how he went about it actually doing it in my face. I’d never do that just out of respect and being a genuine friend. I’ve helped him so much Like we’re young..I’ve helped him have places to stay when he’s gotten kicked out, made sure he had food, clothes, etc just because i care about my close friends and I’d never see them ass out. But, he literally acted as if he didn’t even care. He came around me today laughing and joking about it like it was nothing wrong with how he handled things and he messaged me like he doesn’t care cus I’m not his girlfriend so i was just like ok bye. This is really my bestfriend and it’s so annoying because i don’t have anyone else that i hang with and now I’m gonna be lonely all the time smh.

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@NaeLeo I'm not a Leo, but why don't you have an open conversation about respect. You guys have no title but if he is a real friend to you he wouldn't be throwing this crap in your face. He needs to have some respect for you and treat you like a decent friend.

I don't think most people have titles nowadays, but there isn't a need to blatantly disrespect you like this. Like you were just some place holder until he found someone else.

You guys have never had an argument?? I think nows the time to get all up in his ass and let him have it!

Title or not. He's a dickhead and isn't taking you into consideration. Open your mouth girl! He ain't going anywhere, you've been friends long enough.

When i told him how i felt he said I’m not his girlfriend and he wouldn’t care if i did the same thing and he said I’m petty for being mad and not wanting to be around him

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Well I would be petty then. I wouldn't go date anyone in front of his face but I would stop talking to him until he got some "act right" into his system.

He knows what you guys have been doing, especially if both of you haven't been sleeping with other people. He's playing dumb.

You should start dating quietly and ignoring him.

But! I'm a Sag and cut people off with the quickness if they try this shit. I would explode and give him a big fucc you a s s hole! Then ignore him. 😁 My pride kicks in and I don't want to deal with it, so take what I say at your own risk. 😉

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@NaeLeo I'm not a Leo, but why don't you have an open conversation about respect. You guys have no title but if he is a real friend to you he wouldn't be throwing this crap in your face. He needs to have some respect for you and treat you like a decent friend.

I don't think most people have titles nowadays, but there isn't a need to blatantly disrespect you like this. Like you were just some place holder until he found someone else.

You guys have never had an argument?? I think nows the time to get all up in his ass and let him have it!

Title or not. He's a dickhead and isn't taking you into consideration. Open your mouth girl! He ain't going anywhere, you've been friends long enough.

When i told him how i felt he said I’m not his girlfriend and he wouldn’t care if i did the same thing and he said I’m petty for being mad and not wanting to be around him

Well I would be petty then. I wouldn't go date anyone in front of his face but I would stop talking to him until he got some "act right" into his system.

He knows what you guys have been doing, especially if both of you haven't been sleeping with other people. He's playing dumb.

You should start dating quietly and ignoring him.

But! I'm a Sag and cut people off with the quickness if they try this shit. I would explode and give him a big fucc you a s s hole! Then ignore him. 😁 My pride kicks in and I don't want to deal with it, so take what I say at your own risk. 😉

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That’s what i did. I’m a great friend and I’m the only person that’s ever there for him. He’s just confused, and he’s just basically trying to see what i will and won’t deal with but this is a deal breaker. I’m just gonna keep myself busy and have my own fun.

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@NaeLeo I'm not a Leo, but why don't you have an open conversation about respect. You guys have no title but if he is a real friend to you he wouldn't be throwing this crap in your face. He needs to have some respect for you and treat you like a decent friend.

I don't think most people have titles nowadays, but there isn't a need to blatantly disrespect you like this. Like you were just some place holder until he found someone else.

You guys have never had an argument?? I think nows the time to get all up in his ass and let him have it!

Title or not. He's a dickhead and isn't taking you into consideration. Open your mouth girl! He ain't going anywhere, you've been friends long enough.

When i told him how i felt he said I’m not his girlfriend and he wouldn’t care if i did the same thing and he said I’m petty for being mad and not wanting to be around him

Well I would be petty then. I wouldn't go date anyone in front of his face but I would stop talking to him until he got some "act right" into his system.

He knows what you guys have been doing, especially if both of you haven't been sleeping with other people. He's playing dumb.

You should start dating quietly and ignoring him.

But! I'm a Sag and cut people off with the quickness if they try this shit. I would explode and give him a big fucc you a s s hole! Then ignore him. 😁 My pride kicks in and I don't want to deal with it, so take what I say at your own risk. 😉

That’s what i did. I’m a great friend and I’m the only person that’s ever there for him. He’s just confused, and he’s just basically trying to see what i will and won’t deal with but this is a deal breaker. I’m just gonna keep myself busy and have my own fun.

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And this is exactly what you should tell him.

That you don't care that you weren't his girlfriend. He took things too far throwing that girl in your face and that wasn't cool or something you would have ever expected from him since you guys were supposed to be friends.

You know it's not a deal breaker lol. You just said you've slept with someone else too. But still, we can pretend lol

Just be honest and stay true to yourself.

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It’s not about the fact that he had sex with someone else because i have too, it’s just the principle of how he went about it actually doing it in my face. I’d never do that just out of respect and being a genuine friend. I’ve helped him so much Like we’re young..I’ve helped him have places to stay when he’s gotten kicked out, made sure he had food, clothes, etc just because i care about my close friends and I’d never see them ass out. But, he literally acted as if he didn’t even care. He came around me today laughing and joking about it like it was nothing wrong with how he handled things and he messaged me like he doesn’t care cus I’m not his girlfriend so i was just like ok bye. This is really my bestfriend and it’s so annoying because i don’t have anyone else that i hang with and now I’m gonna be lonely all the time smh.

If you've done it too then you can't really be upset about it even if he did it to your face. If you want to continue the "situationship" with him, maybe tell him you value him as a friend but can't have an intimate relationship with him if he's going to dirty his dick in another hole. Ask if you he'd be cool with exclusivity in that department but remaining friends without a commitment title if that's what you want too. Otherwise you need to just be friends and not cross those boundaries if you want to keep him in your life because I think it will hurt you too much otherwise.

So have a think about what you want from him and if he can give that to you, rather than what he can give you and if you can put up with it.

The moment we settle for less than we deserve, we end up with even less than what we settled for.

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You’re so right. Well idk if ur anything like me but i don’t like awkward situations like this so i said what i had to say and removed myself from the situation cus he’s making a thing where he’s tryna have the girl around every day like how i be around every day and it’s just ridiculous and childish and disrespectful so I’m just gonna fall back. I know for sure he’ll need me before i need him.

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It’s not about the fact that he had sex with someone else because i have too, it’s just the principle of how he went about it actually doing it in my face. I’d never do that just out of respect and being a genuine friend. I’ve helped him so much Like we’re young..I’ve helped him have places to stay when he’s gotten kicked out, made sure he had food, clothes, etc just because i care about my close friends and I’d never see them ass out. But, he literally acted as if he didn’t even care. He came around me today laughing and joking about it like it was nothing wrong with how he handled things and he messaged me like he doesn’t care cus I’m not his girlfriend so i was just like ok bye. This is really my bestfriend and it’s so annoying because i don’t have anyone else that i hang with and now I’m gonna be lonely all the time smh.

If you've done it too then you can't really be upset about it even if he did it to your face. If you want to continue the "situationship" with him, maybe tell him you value him as a friend but can't have an intimate relationship with him if he's going to dirty his dick in another hole. Ask if you he'd be cool with exclusivity in that department but remaining friends without a commitment title if that's what you want too. Otherwise you need to just be friends and not cross those boundaries if you want to keep him in your life because I think it will hurt you too much otherwise.

So have a think about what you want from him and if he can give that to you, rather than what he can give you and if you can put up with it.

The moment we settle for less than we deserve, we end up with even less than what we settled for.

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You’re so right. Well idk if ur anything like me but i don’t like awkward situations like this so i said what i had to say and removed myself from the situation cus he’s making a thing where he’s tryna have the girl around every day like how i be around every day and it’s just ridiculous and childish and disrespectful so I’m just gonna fall back. I know for sure he’ll need me before i need him.

Posted by NaeLeo
Hey so to try and make this short and sweet. I’m a leo, aug 6 and he’s an Aquarius Jan. 24th. We’ve been close friends since high school, about 9 years. We’ve started having a sexual relationship but still remaining friends. We spend every day together, he’s great to my son, he wants me around him all the time says he loves me and he’ll always be in my life and he knows i love him and have feelings for him but then he says he’s scared commitment. we rarely ever argue, maybe 3 times our whole time knowing each other and we have a lot in common - never a dull moment. So when things started getting weird i tell him i think it’s wise to stop the sexual relationship and he still makes advances to keep things going but then recently this past week he’s been talking to some girl and she’s been coming around a lot. Two weeks ago we had an argument and he said he’d never mess with me again, and then turned around a day later and apologized and has been asking me to be back around. he had been acting completely normal and then today me and the girl came over a mutual friends house where he was and he ended up leaving at night with her to her house basically to have sex with her and didn’t say a word to me. He just left and although he’s not my boyfriend i feel disrespected and i just don’t know how i should go about the situation.

He is not afraid of commitment...he just did not want a relationship with you. He is not a friend he is a user and you are better off cutting him off cold turkey.