As the dumper how would you feel if your ex moved on....

Hi

Just after some insight.

If you as an aqua dumped your partner only to find out months later that they have moved on (you have as well), how would you react to it, if you had a very good relationship and you had told your partner you loved them first.

Would you have those feelings that you get when a partner moves on, sadness, regret, question your decision etc, or would you be happy for them that they have found happiness.

Hey! I'm a leo who dumped an Aqua about 5 months ago. I felt as though me and my aqua were more friends then lovers, so by the time I dumped him I didn't really feel a connection towards him (no hard feelings for him though). He also started denying me sex and we talked about it but nothing changed, it ended up making me feel not wanted and my connection with him dwindled even more.

I have moved on already, because in the relationship I felt like I was already in the process of moving on.

My aqua found out that I have been "talking" to this Virgo guy a few months after we broke up (3 months) and his reaction to it was blocking me on his phone.

I don't know if he's moved on, but I would honestly be really happy to see him find someone else suited for him. I wish him nothing but the best.

My ex started to see her ex a few months after we broke up and blocked me on everything. Now I am seeing someone she the barriers have come down. I get a lot of looks and she reads email I sent to a mate (he sits next to her).

As someone who dumped me and moved on first, Im just curious as to why she is taking an interest. I emailed her about work today and got a very polite and professional response, which I didn't get in the past.

I would have thought being a dumper, when the dumpee moves on it helps as there is closure of guilt for the dumper.

Then again, Aquas aren't conventional, hence the reason for the post.

Im happy I have moved on, however my ex did really mess with my mind and as part of me moving on, I don't want to the victim of any games she may play, because I am not prepared.

In her mind she could also be happy I moved on as it gives her closure too, but her behaviour doesn't seem to say that. So im just trying to understand it

Happy!

Posted by Happy_Aqua
I think she is relieved to see that you have moved on, so she can act normal around you again. The pressure is off now and that's why she can act normal again and let her barriers down. I don't think you should mistake that for "taking an interest". So I wouldn't read too much into it if I were you and just go on with your life.

I know this is not the thread but I'm an Aqua sun Venus Pisces too! haven't seen many Venus Pisces here.

🙂

Let me explain.

Generally an Aqua will do anything to stay with the man she likes. Literally Anything!!!!

If we dump someone is because our feelings aren't there anymore. So if you move on as well, it will make us happy, because the fact that we dump you doesn't mean that we don't want the best for you.

We can't give you that happiness but we will be happy if you find someone to make you happy.

That's how I feel with all my ex's. even after I ended a 12 yr relationship.

@happy_aqua - Sorry I missed your post.

Well sort of, but I have since moved on so it doesn't really matter much anymore.

Hi All, So I just ended things with my Aqua last night. It was a very respectful, mutual and peaceful ending to us... He did mention that he will probably regret letting me go. Me, not so much - his loss!

Posted by MrR78
Hi

Just after some insight.

If you as an aqua dumped your partner only to find out months later that they have moved on (you have as well), how would you react to it, if you had a very good relationship and you had told your partner you loved them first.

Would you have those feelings that you get when a partner moves on, sadness, regret, question your decision etc, or would you be happy for them that they have found happiness.

If it was a good relationship why would I dump them?

As for the question- i would be happy for them.

Posted by Happy_Aqua
I think she is relieved to see that you have moved on, so she can act normal around you again. The pressure is off now and that's why she can act normal again and let her barriers down. I don't think you should mistake that for "taking an interest". So I wouldn't read too much into it if I were you and just go on with your life.

This.

My Ex moved on but I think it was more so for a place to stay. It bothered me because she immediately unblocked me from all social media and put up in a relationship status with the girl. Something she didnt do with me in 2 years and did it with someone within 2 months.

It bothered me at first but I still own everything I met her with and I left becaause I was unhappy, and wanted more, so Im just about over it because her baggage belongs to someone else now.

I move on. If I dump someone, then there is no reason to care what my ex does after that.

@milanikisses - My ex said the same thing lol

@justagirl - Sometimes there are outside influences which can affect a persons decision if they aren't strong enough to make it themselves. In my case it was her parents that refused our relationship

As the dumper ive prob already went through the scenario in my head and "felt" it out. By the time ive dumped you I know how ill feel about it-absoultely fine.

lol she did... after a few months of us breaking up she moved on to her ex....