Bipolar Aquarius?

After a rollercoaster of emotions, seasons of liking and not liking,spells of radio silence,mega rucuss on whether to be or not to be in a relationship, telling him finally that I am only attracted to him,no liking here,but a lot of love for him as a friend,and he telling me that I am no more his friend, he's tried enough to work things but to no avail because I didn't understand him and he didn't feel connected, although he said I can talk to him when I have things to tell,we now talk for about 1.5 to 2 hours twice or thrice a week,with always me being the one who calls,he sometimes gets pissed and then,in most convos,stay up late till the night,forcing himself to stay awake,talking to me half asleep,only to talk to me and perhaps advice me on stuff,and yes,he does listen carefully.He always talks,no matter how sleepy he is,will make some coffee to stay awake whatsoever. Although many a times,while voluntarily giving me advice,he would stop and be like,why should I advice you,do what you want,I don't care and when I'll tell him that it does affect me,he'll go on with it.He can be such a darling at times and rude the other times.what is on his mind?and what am I for him?

Why are you keeping someone awake to talk about your problems when it's obvious they're ready to go to sleep. To me, that seems kind of selfish and inconsiderate to their needs.

And this situation has NOTHING to do with him being bipolar.

He talks to you because he's a nice guy.
He's rude because he's TIRED and ready to go to sleep.

Truecap,haha,I knew this may come across like that. but no,its like,I'll tell him to go to sleep and he'll be like no,I'm okay,I've already made coffee, I'll stay up.And it is always me who hangs up and tells him to go to sleep,it's just the the gesture I'm talking about. 🙂 It happens some times,not always and that's because we talk for so long,that it extends in the night.I don't feel sleepy becauae I wake up till late night,he however, falls asleep earlier.secondly,no,when he's rude, it's not when he's feeling sleepy or is tired, he does get rude at times,you know,when he says we'll end contacts and stuff.Thirdly,I didn't mean bipolar in the literal sense,it's more of-'confusing aqua'.

And today,my call goes unanswered :/ I think he got scared of the closeness? What say?

Well,phone calls are the only means by which we communicate,so basically, all communications that happen is via phone calls,although we're in the same class in college. In this scenario,is Talking over the phone twice a week for a couple of hours clingy? Do let me know please. 🙂 And what would qualify as not being clingy? I just feel that we shouldn't have a communication gap between us,hence the calls.Advice is welcome 🙂

Posted by Huldra
Bipolar disorder has nohing to do with extreme mood swings. Most of the population assumes that for some reason.

What you're describing sounds more like cyclothymia, which lacks classic qualifying bipolar symptoms.

But then again, most of the population has one or more psych disorders.

My post was not actually in the literal sense of bipolar Although,as you said,my description does seem like that of cyclothymia.But Huldra,considering at times aquas do behave in two extremes,what would you account for his behaviour towards me? Is something troubling him?

I was in a long distance relationship for over a year.. so phones calls was all we had apart from the odd e-mail.. we would chat often but sometimes it would be a week or so that we didn't talk.

I can totally relate to your man... I was exactly the same, talking to my Aries on the phone for hours.. sometimes over 3!! I enjoyed the chats but i would get tired too.. its like 1am already let me go to sleep. He loved talking and I just couldn't get him off the phone sometimes. I dont actually like talking on the phone so I always prefer a 20 minutes.. "hello how are you" in between the looong calls. He did more of the phoning than me and I didn't answer his calls sometimes because basically.. I couldn't be arsed talking on the phone for 2 hours... I wanted to watch that show that was starting in half n hour... or I wanted a bath etc.. Its not because I didnt want to speak to him, its more because I didnt want to speak to him for soo long. If I was used to more 10-20 minute calls then I would have answered so I knew i could get on with other things before my evening was gone!

I would say, make your next call to him be short and sweet.. get used to just having a quick chat " just letting you know im thinking of you" type thing. Maybe cut that loong chat down to 1 per week!

Also, we Aquarius do love to listen and advise but to a certain point... I get bored, it gets abit annoying if its rambling on and tbh im not an adviser or your problem solver! Id rather hear about the funny thing that happened at work today and also talk about a few things thats on my mind. x

And Aquarius men hate clingyness.. woman too but i found the man even less tolerant of it, also if you cant do things for yourself, or you cant sort out your own problems. We like independent people that can think and do for themselves.

Posted by Huldra
I'd just not overanalyze all these Aqua men people are inquiring about lately.

Leave them alone. It's a bad time transit-wise to confront or shit talk with your feelings instead of your brain.

Scorpio full moon is the worst time. Try to keep your beau/interest out ofnyour head and do some personal growth. It's a good transit for fighting own demons.

Pro tip people. Write this shiz down!

Posted by ccaqua
I was in a long distance relationship for over a year.. so phones calls was all we had apart from the odd e-mail.. we would chat often but sometimes it would be a week or so that we didn't talk.

I can totally relate to your man... I was exactly the same, talking to my Aries on the phone for hours.. sometimes over 3!! I enjoyed the chats but i would get tired too.. its like 1am already let me go to sleep. He loved talking and I just couldn't get him off the phone sometimes. I dont actually like talking on the phone so I always prefer a 20 minutes.. "hello how are you" in between the looong calls. He did more of the phoning than me and I didn't answer his calls sometimes because basically.. I couldn't be arsed talking on the phone for 2 hours... I wanted to watch that show that was starting in half n hour... or I wanted a bath etc.. Its not because I didnt want to speak to him, its more because I didnt want to speak to him for soo long. If I was used to more 10-20 minute calls then I would have answered so I knew i could get on with other things before my evening was gone!

I would say, make your next call to him be short and sweet.. get used to just having a quick chat " just letting you know im thinking of you" type thing. Maybe cut that loong chat down to 1 per week!

Also, we Aquarius do love to listen and advise but to a certain point... I get bored, it gets abit annoying if its rambling on and tbh im not an adviser or your problem solver! Id rather hear about the funny thing that happened at work today and also talk about a few things thats on my mind. x

Thanks for the insight! 🙂 I definitely don't want him to get bored so I guess I will lessen the times I talk to him for long 🙂 However, if I do hang up early,sometimes,he will too at that instant but mostly, He'll extend the conversation for 10-15 mins and leave it at that or he'll keep extending unless we exhaust our talk times. Lol.

Hey,you're on the Taurus forum too right? 🙂

Posted by Huldra
In case people forgot, I'm involved with an Aqua sun/Aqua moon. Leaving the situation as is without making any ruckus is the way to go right now. That's beside the point of not doing the usual female overthinking thing.


I don't do synastries but follow general transits, so that much info I can give you.

Oooh,I didn't know about the transit thingy.Thank you soo much for the info. 🙂

And yet again,even after calling him one week later,my call goes unanswered...what have I done :/ why is he doing this?it's been 10 days since we've talked..

Maybe he doesn't have the time to spend 2 hours on the phone.
I avoid calls from people that I can't seem to ever get off the phone unless I have the time or the energy to talk to them.

*aqua mars*

Well,this time around,I had thought of going by ccaqua's advice and had thus thought of limiting my 2 hours convo to just once a week,others I had thought of keeping them short and sweet.This way,he might lessen the breaks he takes at times and also,it will keep both of us interested.But the strange part is,he did this once a year or two back and now he's doing it again that too when we didn't have any argument or anything,that is what is troubling me :/

Seems like a pattern....so maybe he just goes into his inner head every so often. It probably ahs nothing to do with you personally.

Well,another thing,since I'm Gemini dominant and love to talk and I know what I'm writing in this comment right now is just a random impulsive thought,but today's day went sooo good and I'm so happy that I want to share everything with him,but since he won't answer,I really want to text him about the awesome day I had today.I know I might read this after sometime and feel really stupid but this thought won't pass as of now,should I?

10 days no text or phone calls? Think he is just having time out... but maybe your good news might cheer him up so text it but don't mention about him not having been in touch or answering your calls!

You know? I have written this text already but can't press send? Was waiting for a reply 🙂 Thanks 🙂 but the thing is,I called him about 4 hours back,it's 2 am here and he's surely slept,I was so busy over the phone with people that I didn't realise it's been soo late 😛 should I still text him? He'll probably see it tomorrow.I don't want to look needy.It's just that,after all that confusion with what we are actually, (friends /lovers) and finally settling for not friends, just ppl who would chat for hours 😛 I feel he's still not gotten himself around to the fact that I now consider him as my best friend, nothing more,just attraction, nothing serious and that's why I think sooo much before doing any not-so-everyday thing :/ do you still think I should proceed with the text?

I wouldn't. The moment has passed.

Already did :/ I told him about the trip Which I had been planning with my seniors for quite sometime and had now been finalised.Short and exactly what I wanted to share today 🙂 Well yes I did think about the time thingy but then I thought he should Know I called him twice because I was eager to share my happiness about the trip and not because I was going crazy to hear him speak 😛 so I added a little-sorry for the late text, realised had sent it to someone else 😛 maybe its is lame and maybe he sees through it but point one I mentioned about the 'going crazy to hear his voice'? That I had to clarify. Hmm,will my text affect him anyhow? Positive, negative, neutral?

Thankyou so much for the insights Sammy20 🙂 Well,we've not spoken for the past 15 days,he's not answering my calls,I've called him twice since.Also,he's been ignoring me at college.We usually stop talking if we've had a fight or something but this time, I don't know. Also,my birth day is coming up,and I'm usually very excited about it and I wait for it like crazy and I do tend to count days left,I do that with him too,one of our mutual friends and his flatmate told me that when he mentioned about me counting days for my birthday, the aqua guy,in a mildly irritated way( as told by our friend) said that I tend to overdo at times..He's pissed perhaps,he had also gotten pissed in our last conversation for something I did,but he soon went back to normal and then to a darling later in the conversation. But then he didn't answer and our mutual friend narrated this incident. He's pissed?otherwise why will he stop talking out of the blue?

I think Truecap speaks sensibly.
Unfortunately, your guy is Aqua.
So you can probably forget about common or even lesser known sense.

Here's some tips for you - although how relevant it is without a Venus/7th House/Mars/Moon/Merc analysis...?

[Many] Aqua men, on
1. like a good crisis - give him something to fix or to stand up for
2. fear Klingons. Don't harass (i.e. don't call him)
3. like to put their SO on a pedestal - let him know about your nonprofit in Bhutan (but not in an obvious way)
4. Will switch off their interest instantaneously if you exhibit some deal-breaking behaviour (like loving to the wrong music).
5. Are slow to grow up - they have to wander aimlessly for a few years. Be careful you don't become a
6. Are terribly insightful about the world but have no idea whats happening under their nose.
7. Hate analysis but love to analyse
8. Are playful - Don't be too openly serious about the relationship
9. Project their fears and needs: He might have dreamed you up as X - but now realises you actually Y
9. Are - in younger years - seeking perfection. If you happen to be imperfect. tread carefully
10. Early aquas are deep dreamers. They are in love with the 'concept' of deeper connections. Mid Aquas are more scientific. Late Aquas can be naive.


Consider Age. Aquas change dramatically over time.
Consider his Moon. Inside he could be totally different to how he appears. And probably is.
Consider his balance - if he's off-balance, in any way emotionally, don't expect proper consideration
Consider his ego. Its probably supermassive. Don't let his close-quarters caring fool you. If v young he's a butterfly. Be careful.

And finally - remember all Aquas will tend to be 'there for you' in dramatic/unusual/unconventional times (e.g. 5am).
A real partner or friend will be there for you in mundane times too.
Air signs are likely to be dreamy at night. Is he responsible enough to check on you in the morning?

If not. Drop him.
Im Aqua (Sun/Rising) by the way.

It sounds to me like he's not for you.
If he was - you'd be his 'project'.

Good luck...

Thank you soooo much aquapiscesmoon 🙂 Well,he's an aqua stellium-sun,moon,venus,Mars all in Aquarius.
Well,yeah,he's just 21 and perhaps he's an immature aqua.point no.7 is spot on! He once said that I'm very analytical and I'm just curious about him,I want to decipher him and will then leave him,after satisfying my curiosity-which is definitely not the case,wonder why he said that.and yes,I find him way more analytical than me.

Pt 8,I don't know,when I go easy with him,he thinks I'm playing him on,when I get serious, he thinks I'm being clingy. :/

Pt. 9-maybe I'm Y,not X :/