Cancer girl falling hard for aquarius guy

Soooo, totally falling for an Aquarius guy. I'm a cancer and going through a divorce. Met my Aquarius while I was married but seperated. Actually, I work with him.
He knew I was married and I know this bothered him some. But I did make it clear that it wasn't a relationship and was ending eventually which it is. Although I have not come out and said it's over, I know he has noticed I am not wearing my ring. I don't know how to come out and say hey it's over. Typical cancer I suppose. I just don't want him to think it's because of him my marriage is over. It's not. It was over a long time ago.
He is so much fun and so precious. The problem is that when we aren't alone he isn't very frank about the way he feels. He's hot then he is cold. When we are alone he says things like he wants to get to know me better and that he enjoys our time together. He is highly intelligent. He doesn't text well either. He is so different when we are alone. He also won't have sex with me, I'm assuming because I'm still technically married. Which says a lot about his character. All we have is texts because we can't express anything at work. It sucks. I don't know how he feels. One minute I feel he is into me the next I feel like he isn't.
I have no idea how to read him. I am also not stupid. I know he has girl friends that he hangs with back home. It just makes me jealous. I have no right to tell him anything. Oh he has also never been married and we are both in our 40's. I have no idea how to handle this or how to tell him how I feel without having him run for the hills. I just feel like when we are alone we connect. We can stare at each other for hours. Maybe I'm just stupid. Someone just slap me.

I'm an Aquarius male and I'm here to help.

Text him, tell him to meet up with you after work at some place fun, yet that has a place to sit and quietly explain what you're going through and how you feel. DON'T come on too strong, however, do impress him with your knowledge, display your vocabulary, and get around to talking about how you feel randomly, this will engage his mind fully. Then after that just tell him about how the marriage's relationship aspect has been over for a long time, and that you understand that he may think you are just looking for a rebound, make sure to take your time and fully heal from the marriage OR allow him in to help you heal if the chemistry is that strong.

Then start randomly texting him after that at random intervals inviting him to various different things that you think he'd like, like if he has on a Rock band T-Shirt, or has a Car on his desk, or if he wears Hiking Boots, all of those are clues as to what he likes, as an Aquarius male will flaunt what he likes either loudly or abruptly. Like I wear Hiking Boots as a sign of my style and that I like Hiking.

I would wait on the sexual aspect, as some Aquarius men aren't overtly sexual, he'll probably warm up to the idea of sex the more you just tease him. But don't force yourself on him, as that would be a turnoff making him think you are looking for a one night stand and/or a primarily sexual relationship.

Overall, you'll be fine, just relax, speak elegantly, speak clearly, and let him know your mind is capable of sorting out your emotions. That will show him your intelligence, your strength, and your knowledge of what you want.

^nice guy.

Thank you so much for your input and help. 🙂

I do intend to speak with him alone after this week. He is leaving town for a few days to pursue his passion. I love that he is so passionate about his hobby.so when he returns I will.

I am a cancer, therefore pretty emotional. It's like we get each other but we don't. He excites me. I am not very confident. He knows this and tells me I need to be.

I can just honestly say I've never felt this way about anyone else before. His aura is strong and something connects. I just don't want to lose that.

I often speak without thinking. I know this drives aquas nuts. But he's also so patient and keeps coming back.I guess I intrigue him a little.

Thank you for your input and knowledge. 🙂

Yes I agree. He is a nice guy for helping 🙂

I'm an Aquarius moon and I tend to be reserved emotionally despite being a gushy Pisces on the inside! Better to be intellectual about it.