Confused Leo woman about Aqua man behavior

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I met an Aquarius guy about a month ago. From the beginning he was great, at least he seemed so. He expressed his need and want for commitment, a relationship, and eventually mariage and kids. Everything I wanted just didn't want to hear it so soon, but it was to know we were on the same path. He called everyday and texted me good morning every morning. Being a Leo female, all this cutesy attention is right down my ally!! First date was great, second date was a week later, even better. Third date he invited me to his house and cooked for me. The third week he went on vacation to visit family and called and texted me just about every day. I didn't plan on even talking while he was on vacation cause I figured he would want to enjoy it without me bothering. But he mad it his business to keep in contact with me. Great! Last weekend we were intimate which was also pretty effing good. Which brings us to this week, I asked him if he would accompany me to a friend's BBQ, reason being she's a friend I hadn't seen in years and I wouldn't know anyone else there but her she wouldn't have time to entertain me. I assured him it was my family or close friend just in case he's fearful of commitment or that I was trying to rush him to meet my family or something. He agreed to come. Friday I reminded him about it and he said yes I'll come with you. Saturday the day of the BBQ I txt him saying let me know if you'll still be able the BBQ later tonight? NO answer! About 3 hours later I texted him again. No answer. So I go to the BBQ and come back. Later that night I call him just to make sure he's ok. Cause being no responsive hasn't been his behavior. NO answer! as a Leo woman I like consistency and I hate being ignored! Is this part of the infamous disappearing act? How should I move with him here on out? The reality is I do like him and wanted to get to know him more and better. Do I just leave him or is his way of backing out? I don't understand why would he agree if he didn't want to! Is this normal aqua man behavior?
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I met an Aquarius guy about a month ago. From the beginning he was great, at least he seemed so. He expressed his need and want for commitment, a relationship, and eventually mariage and kids. Everything I wanted just didn't want to hear it so soon, but it was to know we were on the same path. He called everyday and texted me good morning every morning. Being a Leo female, all this cutesy attention is right down my ally!! First date was great, second date was a week later, even better. Third date he invited me to his house and cooked for me. The third week he went on vacation to visit family and called and texted me just about every day. I didn't plan on even talking while he was on vacation cause I figured he would want to enjoy it without me bothering. But he mad it his business to keep in contact with me. Great! Last weekend we were intimate which was also pretty effing good. Which brings us to this week, I asked him if he would accompany me to a friend's BBQ, reason being she's a friend I hadn't seen in years and I wouldn't know anyone else there but her she wouldn't have time to entertain me. I assured him it was my family or close friend just in case he's fearful of commitment or that I was trying to rush him to meet my family or something. He agreed to come. Friday I reminded him about it and he said yes I'll come with you. Saturday the day of the BBQ I txt him saying let me know if you'll still be able the BBQ later tonight? NO answer! About 3 hours later I texted him again. No answer. So I go to the BBQ and come back. Later that night I call him just to make sure he's ok. Cause being no responsive hasn't been his behavior. NO answer! as a Leo woman I like consistency and I hate being ignored! Is this part of the infamous disappearing act? How should I move with him here on out? The reality is I do like him and wanted to get to know him more and better. Do I just leave him or is his way of backing out? I don't understand why would he agree if he didn't want to! Is this normal aqua man behavior?
i like consistency too. He sounds wishy washy. I wouldn't waste my time.

what are your charts?
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He may not have wanted to meet your close friend

He may have disappeared now he got in your pants

He may have lost his phone

He may have had an accident

He may have thought u were being annoying by keeping on at him about the BBQ when he already told you yes

You don't know.

Send him one last text, but keep the emotion out of it. Don't apportion blame if you don't know the facts. Say sorry he couldn't make the BBQ, hope all is ok.

If he comes after you with a genuine reason all well and good. If he doesn't then he's a douche..move on.

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He never wanted to go but he couldn't refuse you( annoying Air Sign trait to say yes to things they don't want to do because they don't want to hurt the feelings). But he chickened out at the right moment and now he's hiding from you because he doesn't want confrontation. Aquarians HATE confrontations. He'll come up with lies and excuses later so that you don't yell at him,lol.That's just my guess. Flaky men *rolls eyes*
i thought this was a libra trait?? The Aquarius probably has libra.

I Always CONFRONT my problems with my husband and anything in my life.

I hate shit that isn't resolved. Me and my husband Always resolve shit right away that's why we have a good relationship and we don't go and do shit like that.
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He never wanted to go but he couldn't refuse you( annoying Air Sign trait to say yes to things they don't want to do because they don't want to hurt the feelings). But he chickened out at the right moment and now he's hiding from you because he doesn't want confrontation. Aquarians HATE confrontations. He'll come up with lies and excuses later so that you don't yell at him,lol.That's just my guess. Flaky men *rolls eyes*
yes, I have seen that too. lulz

The best approach is to just not get but hurt and the aqua will relax more and feel accepted, and will be more honest next time.

I was on the phone for a while with my aqua friend one time and I could hear echo while he was at his home, And he says, well I just got to the gym, I have to go but will talk later. omg, that was the funniest lie I have heard from him in my face.. hahhaa

I told him "wtf hahaha, you could just have told me you had to get busy or something, I can still hear the echo at your house and you are not even at the fucking gym.. omg, we laughed so hard and told him it was ok, I had to get busy too. And I always tease him for that ..

I accept and love my friend very much. and his white lies are just funny as hell.
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you just like to put down Aquarius all the fucking time.Especially your sister, 88. I've seen you do it all the time. "Your Aquarius sun sister and her Leo moon" blah blah blah.

calling her a flake and shit. You don't have anything NICE or kind to say about her at all.
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here, for you people who NEED to understand these types of men who hate confrontation:

http://www.sheknows.com/love-and-sex/articles/812843/why-men-avoid-relationship-confrontation-1

"Everyone knows that guys get freaked out at the age old question, "How do you feel about our relationship?" Even statements along the lines of "We need to talk" usually send guys running for the hills.


Why do men avoid verbal confrontation in relationships? How can you communicate to your man about your relationship without making him act out defensively? What is the right way to go about communicating to your man, so you can ensure your relationship stays positive?"

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Obviously this is why people don't have good relationships. and can't STAY IN one.
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Thank you all for your comments. I've never been involved with an Aqua man before actually I don't really know any Aqua people. Therefore this behavior is annoying to me. But to be clear I didn't annoy him with asking about going to the BBQ. I asked him on Monday, then Friday as a reminder in which he affirmed that it had totally slipped his mind, but he would go. Yesterday is when he went MIA. And I still haven't heard from him today. It's funny because on Wednesday he asked to hang out after to work, but he would call me to confirm. When he didnt call I figured he got tied up, when I texted him on Thursday, asking what happens, he said he was waiting on me to call to confirm. I just took it as miscommunication as we both were at work so the phone convo went by pretty quick. Now after reading all these comments about Aqua man I'm wondering if him flaking is him being petty about Wednesday. Nonetheless, like I said I like him and what he said he's looking for aligns with what I'm looking for. He's definitely good on paper. I'm just wondering if I should reach out again or does that come across as annoying or just leave him and he'll come around. Do these Aqua men typically come across after their disappearing acts? And if does is this something I should address or just typical Aqua man behavior.
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Posted by Thickcarmelkiss
Thank you all for your comments. I've never been involved with an Aqua man before actually I don't really know any Aqua people. Therefore this behavior is annoying to me. But to be clear I didn't annoy him with asking about going to the BBQ. I asked him on Monday, then Friday as a reminder in which he affirmed that it had totally slipped his mind, but he would go. Yesterday is when he went MIA. And I still haven't heard from him today. It's funny because on Wednesday he asked to hang out after to work, but he would call me to confirm. When he didnt call I figured he got tied up, when I texted him on Thursday, asking what happens, he said he was waiting on me to call to confirm. I just took it as miscommunication as we both were at work so the phone convo went by pretty quick. Now after reading all these comments about Aqua man I'm wondering if him flaking is him being petty about Wednesday. Nonetheless, like I said I like him and what he said he's looking for aligns with what I'm looking for. He's definitely good on paper. I'm just wondering if I should reach out again or does that come across as annoying or just leave him and he'll come around. Do these Aqua men typically come across after their disappearing acts? And if does is this something I should address or just typical Aqua man behavior.
what's his chart?
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He never wanted to go but he couldn't refuse you( annoying Air Sign trait to say yes to things they don't want to do because they don't want to hurt the feelings). But he chickened out at the right moment and now he's hiding from you because he doesn't want confrontation. Aquarians HATE confrontations. He'll come up with lies and excuses later so that you don't yell at him,lol.That's just my guess. Flaky men *rolls eyes*
i thought this was a libra trait?? The Aquarius probably has libra.

I Always CONFRONT my problems with my husband and anything in my life.

I hate shit that isn't resolved. Me and my husband Always resolve shit right away that's why we have a good relationship and we don't go and do shit like that.

There's a lot of shit word in the last few sentences,lol. Well,I've seen some Aquas in my family pull that shit so I just gave my opinion.He could have been stuck with some urgent work etc.And we're different breed of Aquas Lisa, you and me. I never make promises I can't keep. Some Aquas think avoiding the discussion is better when there are chances of accusations and yelling especially men,lol.
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lol i have no filter when it comes to my mouth.

anyway, if 88 wants to RESOLVE her issues with her sister she should do so. Not CONFRONTING the issues she has with her is kind of the antithesis of NOT confrontational stuff.

I've confronted issues with my sisters and omg. WORLD WAR III!!!!

although my aries sister starts crying so we stop. Then i start crying, and my sag sister also starts crying. we all start crying.

it's horrible. but we still confront shit. (lol)
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@lisabethur8 I have no clue what's his chart. I don't even remember his birthday. And since he's Mia right now I can't ask. Also what's does "butter" and "treetrunk" mean on this site?
lmao

well butter is the stuff you put on your bread. It's the new cuss word. 😆

"You better put some of that BUTTER on meeeee!!!! or elseeeee!!!"

"What the hell? I'll slam that TREETRUNK over your head!!"

that kind of thing.
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lmao@ the "perfect" aquarius. shut the fuck up. seriously? I'd be super sweet and pretentious if that were the case.

if that is what you feel i am to YOU, then hey why not? 😆

yeah, whatever on your sister.

you're the one saying shit about her all the time. I dont have any problems with my sisters.

But YOU, you NEED to CONFRONT your issues with her. You don't sound like you love her at all. Instead, you sound like you're RESENTFUL.
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I don't care if you get but hurt of what I have noticed and post it here. I do not put down aquarius, My sister has messed up in many ways and abandoned her kids for another man. Not because she is my sister or sun Aquarius I will bow to her butter She has done.
Id say the same of her if she was my same sun sign. so get off my ass and do not try to shut me up when I try to post something is VERY TRUE.

If you get but hurt for my comment is your problem.
you seem more hurt than me honestly.


You just said right there: my sister is MESSED up.

and you put her down by saying how she abandons her children.

how sweet you are, i see through your bullshit.
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YES I am resentful and I have taken it up with her. Because her kids went through hell because of her actions. and what I do with her or not is not your problem, so fuck off.
so YOU are the one NOT CONFRONTING the issues.

you are the the NON confontational one aren't you—
pfffft.
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i thought so.


honestly, it is an ISSUE with you because you will KEEP ON talking about how bad your sister is. As long as you keep on talking shit, and hurting and hating how she is, the ISSUE will NEVER go away.

and you know that.

so what shall you do?? huh? what shall you do?
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I don't care if you get but hurt of what I have noticed and post it here. I do not put down aquarius, My sister has messed up in many ways and abandoned her kids for another man. Not because she is my sister or sun Aquarius I will bow to her butter She has done.
Id say the same of her if she was my same sun sign. so get off my ass and do not try to shut me up when I try to post something is VERY TRUE.

If you get but hurt for my comment is your problem.
you seem more hurt than me honestly.


You just said right there: my sister is MESSED up.

and you put her down by saying how she abandons her children.

how sweet you are, i see through your bullshit.
fuck you, you just get but hurt because this is a side of you. If it wasn't you wouldn't take it personal.

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lol ok if you think so.
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anyway, it's sad about your sister. But you DO sound resentful. There is a very deep hatred about you, and i can feel it.

You say you love her, but i dont really think so.

or else you'd have more compassion. She is after all your sister. You're not responsible for how she is, but she is still your sister.

i dont really want to hurt you, but i can feel your hate about her and you seem to attach it to her sign.
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@88, you know you can look up stuff online if you can't get your sister to find help, but maybe since you can't help her, you can help you.


http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/1102011126

4. Forgive and forget. Serious problems need to be discussed and resolved. But must you call your sibling to account for every mistake he or she makes"

that part, is hard to "forget" but you can forgive.

if you forgive, you can resolve the issues within yourself and not act out harshly about her. like it says above, you can't account your siblings for every mistake they make.
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and this is for ThickCarmelkiss and for the women who keep dating PASSIVE non confrontational men:

(it sounds like this is FOR the passive NON Confrontational men) See??!! i knew it!!!! you girls keep dating these passive men.

http://andrewschwab.com/2013/07/passive-men-non-confrontational-approach-life-destroys-man-parts/

"Fellas, it's time we learn to take our power back, and in the process restore our lost courage, confidence, and character. Here's how: 1. Reprogram your thinking about conflict. Conflict is hard. It is scary. But it almost always produces lasting fruit. Be the type of guy that is willing to get in the mud and engage those around you with honesty, and you will find a new courage you never thought you had. 2. Practice assertiveness. This doesn't mean flip/flop from the pleaser to the jerk. It means asking for what you want with kindness and tact. It also means saying no sometimes when saying yes might be easier. It means setting healthy boundaries with people who may have taken advantage of your generosity and kindness in the past. Even if it's someone you have known for years, if you are assertive and stick to your guns without being coarse, harsh, or vindictive, they will respect you more than they did before. 3. Let your yes, be yes, and your no, no. This is straight from the Bible, guys. If you make a promise, stick to it. If you don't intend to keep your word, then don't promise it, even if it may sound good to the listener. Show up on time to meetings, and don't make excuses if you are late. Don't be a flake. I can't tell you how much drama can be avoided if you become a person of your word. - See more at: http://andrewschwab.com/2013/07/passive-men-non-confrontational-approach-life-destroys-man-parts/#sthash.tqlUg1n8.dpuf</strong>