Confusing male friend or more

Hi All .....so I probably have some idea but confirming if I am right on it.
I reconnected with a friend recently (male) for the last 2 months he would contact me almost everyday, (few times a day) more him than me. About a month ago he asked me what weekend I'll be free, (I could be wrong but I don't get just anyone getting on a flight to come see me) I told him and he travelled on flight (3 hours) to come see me for a weekend. He spent a lot of time with me, (lots of talking) and made it a point to tell me that he came to see me. I'm not the one to really share my food or drink. The first day he was here ....we ordered at the restaurant, his response we will share. I order a chai tea latte at a coffee shop he had to have a couple of sips of my drink. Whenever we would talk, a lot of the times he would catch my eyes....and just stare. If he hugs me ....I feel as if it's more than just a hug.
But if I even hint a flirt .....he backs away for the rest of the day.
Am I reading too much into this?

Just play it cool and go with the flow. Let him take the lead. He may not be real sure of things yet, testing out the waters possibly. Don't read too much into it, but it does seem like he's very interested. Relax and let things take it's natural course. Maybe give him a green light without being obvious about it. What I mean is be receptive and let him sense how happy you are just being around him.

Long distance isn't easy, so take that into consideration.

Thanks truecap 🙂
Yes I've been trying to play it cool, he's gone back but Ive been letting him contact me first. He is I believe a pisces. If I don't contact him all day, he texts me "what's wrong"
Lol hey sometimes a person gets busy.
The guy that I love (aquarious) hasn't even gone out of his way to come see me, but this pisces guy did.
Thanks again! 🙂

So I went and did the silly thing, I straight up asked him. "Do u like me more than friends?" His response "I don't want to make this complicated, we are friends"
I felt kinda silly ......but every time I turn around, there's his text and/or his phone call. I made it look like I just wanted to know so I'm not looking into something that is not there.
I guess he won't be contacting me as much now 😢
(I know it was dumb of me but it so much felt like it was more than friends)

Probably felt like that it was more than friends but maybe he wasnt in the same headspace as you were.

A simular thing happened to me, I happen to meet someone I liked alot and if I may be honest I could have sworn it was meant to be and I fell in love with the guy and stupidly I kept on texting himadn making sure I was in contact and then we got on and I think because I came on too strong he just went away and didnt like that just ignored me but still talked to me though I knew he didnt like me like I liked him I think it was because I was angry and because I chased and he never liked that so I sort of then didnt talk to him or started to be more interested in my life more than being interested in his life and he didnt like that and made work impossible for me and just made my life a miserable mess which he is very capable of doing now he told me he loved missed me but yet still does this to me I had enough of it and told him to get fucked out of my life coz I dont need someone who pretends to love me and miss me to control me I have been there too many times and found out he was doing this for information from me to use to control me. Mr Dumbshit he is. I met him online and he is now a psycho stalker hellbent on getting me. How he is to do this is quite puzzling to say the least? Remains an interesting feat in itself and guess what he is a Capricorn so not sure how he is to do this. I am a cap myself so we both know what we are like and he the male version of me and I am the female version of him so it was quite a trip when we were online together just hanging around doing stuff or not. I do miss those days but they are over now and have let them go and dont understand why a cap guy cant or wont let go, what is it that he is trying to prove when he has nothing to prove in the first place. I think he must learn that this is it -Lessoning- He has nothing to prove in the first place.

I think hes trying to prove he does like me when he really doesnt and because he does try hard to prove this to himself he ends up confusing himself and everyone else. You broke my heart, plz be happy with that information and knowledge and I certaintly wont be letting you in at all coz by lying to me about your true intentions you fucked up.

You a Good bloke but geez plz sort yourself out before you go round and pretend to love someone you dont and to do this for information, ugh. Spare yourself the horribleness of it. There are plenty of other ways to get info from another and it doesnt require for a person to pretend to love someone when it is obvious they do not in the first place.

Yeh and thanks for the last 14 years they have been a 'steep learning curve' just what I wanted really. Note the sarcasm in my typing, plz, oh also while you at it what makes you think I would ever be with someone like that. Do you need or want my help? If you do then I will give it to you but apart from that theres nothing else or is there? If there is then what is it(plz be honest if you can)and tell me.

Yeh my lesson learnt is to never accept this male capricorn into your unless you want complications. I wish I knew this before I met him or like after I met him.

Me being the noon com plicated person that I am, he sure does make up for the complications and then goes and blames me for them when its him who makes them up in the first place and I thought I was strange this guy tops the cake for that.

Anyone, cake? Slice of this cap guy for you all.

Nah didnt work out coz I realised I just didnt want to be with him even though I did love him and miss him and yeh still do but in the way of friends only and yeh because we were both going thru hard times it made it harder to understand what the fuck he was on about and now I know he never liked me at all its easier to say goodbye and let him go. So yeh thats what happened to me.

I hope for you it works out.

Thanks mfwb55 thanks
Well I have known him for a number of years, just lost contact for sometime and reconnected. He is in no way controlling, maybe I'm reading too much into it, but it just feels like he's not being honest here.
Everytime I turn around, he's calling me and/or texting me.
He called me his love today, and then I come out and say ...."huh?"
And his response ....I take that back

I don't want to generalize, because every aqua is different. But, sounds like typical aqua avoidance of anything to do with feelings or anything emotional. lol!

Disclaimer: I'm know expert, but I'm around a lot of aquas and I've paid my dues dating one for the last year and a half. Okay, that said, from what I understand, they don't mind you being direct. They respect it. So, it most likely didn't bother him that you asked what he felt. The danger is he doesn't feel the same as you - YET - and he will be honest about it. I really respect their honesty.

In my observance and experience, it takes a long time for them to ever decide what they feel. They like to go with the flow. And it takes a long time for them to admit they feel anything even if they do. They like to be sure about things and have that internal battle of head vs heart. They don't like to jump the gun and give out false hope and they don't want to lead anyone on. They are confusing, though. Talk about mixed signals! lol! But, they often are misunderstood because their acts of friendship can get mistaken for romantic interest and get accused of leading people on, which is really not the case.

However, they are the best friends you could ever have and it would be worth it to set your feelings aside and be friends with him. Don't wait around hoping for something more, but ya never know what the future holds. They really are a friends first sign.

Take a chance on friendship and whatever you do, don't mention it again. Go with the friendship flow - you don't have too much invested, so friendship is a good option.

Thanks truecap .....he is I believe a pisces .....so right after the aquarious.
He was probably just trying to be nice, don't get me wrong he is the most sweetest person I've ever met. But he was so obvious and than all of a sudden just backs away 😢
He still texts and calls me but I'm sure he will be more careful of what he says to me now 😢
Or maybe he just doesn't know his own feelings.

Ohhhhh.. Sorry. You said that. I don't know much about pisces men. My experience with one didn't last long.

Hi truecap, I'm not really sure if he is a pieces. It's not On his fb but I did see some people wishing him HB on the last day of an aqua and the first day of a pieces. I don't know if I should ask him now. He might have both in him.
The thing is, being in love is not his first priority, he has a lot of other things going for him. He says it himself, just wondering if I should limit my contact with him.