Do aqua girls cheat when in love? (Page 2)

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Posted by iVirgo
@ramparts

It's gotten better, she had opened up, and I understand I had a part in bad things that happened earlier , I complained a lot, I was controlling, verbally aggressive, but I grew and my wife grew. She expressed how bad it made her feel hiding secrets and she needed to get it out. This is why I can forgive her because she told me when I had no clue.

Did you tell her all of that? About your controlling? It seems as though you've both taken accountability for the roles you played. You weren't perfect and she wasn't perfect but you made it through. If it's improving and you still both want to work on the relationship, try to let it go. Provide a relationship that will make her secure and comfortable to be honest with you. Fighting and things like that don't really promote open communication.

As far as aquas cheating, I'll be 100% honest and I don't want to make it seem like im blaming you for her actions, but I only know of them to cheat when the relationships they're in are unstable or volatile.

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that's also BULLSHIT. i stayed monogamous and loyal and faithful with my ex's even when they CHEATED on me. and my ex husband was a cheat and drunkard and heroin addict.

it's not placement dumb ass. maybe some of your sun signs do that.

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Posted by iVirgo
@ramparts

It's gotten better, she had opened up, and I understand I had a part in bad things that happened earlier , I complained a lot, I was controlling, verbally aggressive, but I grew and my wife grew. She expressed how bad it made her feel hiding secrets and she needed to get it out. This is why I can forgive her because she told me when I had no clue.

Did you tell her all of that? About your controlling? It seems as though you've both taken accountability for the roles you played. You weren't perfect and she wasn't perfect but you made it through. If it's improving and you still both want to work on the relationship, try to let it go. Provide a relationship that will make her secure and comfortable to be honest with you. Fighting and things like that don't really promote open communication.

As far as aquas cheating, I'll be 100% honest and I don't want to make it seem like im blaming you for her actions, but I only know of them to cheat when the relationships they're in are unstable or volatile.

that's also BULLSHIT. i stayed monogamous and loyal and faithful with my ex's even when they CHEATED on me. and my ex husband was a cheat and drunkard and heroin addict.

it's not placement dumb ass. maybe some of your sun signs do that.

So you stayed in relationships with cheaters and drug users? What a dumbass woman you are. Aren't you berating OP for the same things you've done in your life? How sad.

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I LEFT!!! obviously.

he is STILL with her.

that's why i can berate. because it is DUMB.

Posted by ramparts
See OP, the truth comes to light. Lisabeth has stayed with men who cheated on her but you're a dumb man for doing the same things she's done.

Makes sense right? *rolls eyes*

i didnt stay with them idiot.

you sure like to put me in my place huh??

why the fuck do you think i'm saying what i'm saying??

she isn't on DRUGS or heroin.....so she just obviously is NOT into him.

so who is the dumb ass??

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Posted by lisabethur8
that's why i can berate. because it is DUMB.

You're just as dumb. Because you've been through the same situations and you're still unable to empathize with this man. Why didn't you give yourself this "pep talk" when you were being cheated on and decided to stay loyal to drug users? They didn't want you and that's why they cheated on you. You were probably abusive so they went and sid drugs so they didn't have to deal with you. How does it feel when you get blamed for other people's actions?

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that's what you wish i was like.

and wow where did that come from?

now i'm being psychoanalyzed.

anyway yeah sure, that's how i really was. heehee. i love it when people assume stuff about me. it makes me feel good.

@Lisa if you are a victim of domestic violence you should really get help, you sound very troubled and sad.

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See OP, the truth comes to light. Lisabeth has stayed with men who cheated on her but you're a dumb man for doing the same things she's done.

Makes sense right? *rolls eyes*

you sure like to put me in my place huh??

You don't like how your own medicine tastes? Imagine that

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you're so bloody into me.

hahaha

my reaction to this guy is what brought you here....

you dont give a fuck about this guy at all.

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go make breakfast for your husband....?

wtf? you ordering me AROUND??

you dont even "Get" It what this guy is doing...

And wtf are you gonna do? Verbally abuse him into seeing the error of his ways?

just like what you're doing to me??

yeah stfu yourself.

Well you're a belligerent idiot.

This man is not calling his wife a bad woman. He's trying to figure out her mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes and some people leave beause of mistakes. He doesn't want to leave her. He just wants some security because new information has come to light.

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Oh geez OP.. next time maybe post on a different area. Aquas are lovely in many ways but I've never personally known one that I would seek advice from.. yikes. Obviously you are not slandering your wife, but instead are surprised by this new info coming to light and just trying to wrap your head around it all. People act in ways early in a relationship that don't always reflect how they will be later so yeah.

you clearly didnt see through his bullshit.

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I don't jump to conclusions. I don't assume every poster on dxp is full of bullshit.

Posted by iVirgo
@Lisa if you are a victim of domestic violence you should really get help, you sound very troubled and sad.

awww look at this guy....

you're so sweet, thanks!!! i have and done so.

but dont worry i'm not troubled and sad anymore.

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that's why i can berate. because it is DUMB.

You're just as dumb. Because you've been through the same situations and you're still unable to empathize with this man. Why didn't you give yourself this "pep talk" when you were being cheated on and decided to stay loyal to drug users? They didn't want you and that's why they cheated on you. You were probably abusive so they went and sid drugs so they didn't have to deal with you. How does it feel when you get blamed for other people's actions?

that's what you wish i was like.

and wow where did that come from?

now i'm being psychoanalyzed.

anyway yeah sure, that's how i really was. heehee. i love it when people assume stuff about me. it makes me feel good.

You truly are an idiot aren't you? You just did the same exact thing to this man. You accused him of beating his wife.

Find a new hobby...one that doesn't have to do with people

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is your new hobby coming on to ME? 😆


oh dear god. it's so Obvious. keep it coming.

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See OP, the truth comes to light. Lisabeth has stayed with men who cheated on her but you're a dumb man for doing the same things she's done.

Makes sense right? *rolls eyes*

you sure like to put me in my place huh??

You don't like how your own medicine tastes? Imagine that

you're so bloody into me.

hahaha

my reaction to this guy is what brought you here....

you dont give a fuck about this guy at all.

Is that all you can do is deflect? How boring.

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i've excited you that's all.

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Posted by lisabethur8
go make breakfast for your husband....?

wtf? you ordering me AROUND??

you dont even "Get" It what this guy is doing...

And wtf are you gonna do? Verbally abuse him into seeing the error of his ways?

just like what you're doing to me??

yeah stfu yourself.

Well you're a belligerent idiot.

This man is not calling his wife a bad woman. He's trying to figure out her mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes and some people leave beause of mistakes. He doesn't want to leave her. He just wants some security because new information has come to light.

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Oh geez OP.. next time maybe post on a different area. Aquas are lovely in many ways but I've never personally known one that I would seek advice from.. yikes. Obviously you are not slandering your wife, but instead are surprised by this new info coming to light and just trying to wrap your head around it all. People act in ways early in a relationship that don't always reflect how they will be later so yeah.

you clearly didnt see through his bullshit.

I don't jump to conclusions. I don't assume every poster on dxp is full of bullshit.

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how he writes and talks about his wife....i dont like his vibe, and the feeling i get from what he is.

Posted by ramparts
You're sad. So all this psychotic behavior is a ploy for attention? Guess perfect hubby isn't doing his job

ooooo are you jealous?

cause it seems that you pay attention to my posts and about my hubby.

and you presume he's the perfect hubby.

well he is really.

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See OP, the truth comes to light. Lisabeth has stayed with men who cheated on her but you're a dumb man for doing the same things she's done.

Makes sense right? *rolls eyes*

you sure like to put me in my place huh??

You don't like how your own medicine tastes? Imagine that

you're so bloody into me.

hahaha

my reaction to this guy is what brought you here....

you dont give a fuck about this guy at all.

Is that all you can do is deflect? How boring.

i've excited you that's all.

Nothing about you is excitable, I can assure you.

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then why do you bother with me?

@Lisa

I dnt think any man should beat on a women, even tho you have been negative towards me, and out right awful person, I still wish u luck and safety from your terrible situation.

I dnt even know what sign you are I thought you were a Aqua but you are not.

why are my comments to this guy make you so heated up and want to defend him so bad? like you are the knight in shining armour.

hey, OP,you have a knight in armour here.

@Lisa

Why do you bother with me?

@Lisa
You need night in shining armour to protect you as well from terrible home life I pray contact the authority to arrest your husband for his abuse.

It is not right and it upsets me to know you are being abused.

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Posted by lisabethur8
why are my comments to this guy make you so heated up and want to defend him so bad? like you are the knight in shining armour.

hey, OP,you have a knight in armour here.

Why are we put on this earth if not to try and help people? It's fine if you don't want to but I think you have a responsibility to not do any more damage. If you can't help then leave. Im sorry someone damaged you so much that you're incapable of human empathy.

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don't be fooled. just because someone is calling for help under the disguise of putting down his wife and what happened many years ago, and still with him...

this guy has not HEALED and is dragging baggage from long ago. it's one thing if he's left her and recalling memory lane and accusing all aquas like this, or aquas in general...

but to come in here and tell us that he's STILL with her?? and then talking bad still?? WHY do that?

i don't understand that part.

if you are dragging this and unhappy why STAY??

Posted by iVirgo
@Lisa
You need night in shining armour to protect you as well from terrible home life I pray contact the authority to arrest your husband for his abuse.

wtf??

it was my EX husband who abused and my 2nd ex.

Posted by iVirgo
@Lisa

I dnt think any man should beat on a women, even tho you have been negative towards me, and out right awful person, I still wish u luck and safety from your terrible situation.

I dnt even know what sign you are I thought you were a Aqua but you are not.

She's often ranting about something.. Obviously your wife did this like SIX YEARS ago when you were both young and yet to mature. Just continue to ignore Lisa, good decision. She's looney but means well.

Posted by iVirgo
It is not right and it upsets me to know you are being abused.

god you're horrible.

Posted by ramparts
Back to OP, im sure you will work things out within your marriage. I know you came for advice but this place honestly isn't the best lol.

Of course every sign cheats no matter how much lisabethyr like to protest on traits of her own sign but then turn around and generalize every other sign...which is a trend in dxp but that's another issue.

The issue is figuring out why each sign cheats. Cancers cheat when they're emotioanlly unfulfilled.

From an astrological standpoint, aquas are said to be loyal...so I don't think it should be your every waking concern that shes cheating. Just keep working on improving your relationship and im sure everything will be fine

i'm the LEAST person on this to generalize sun sign.

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Posted by lisabethur8
why are my comments to this guy make you so heated up and want to defend him so bad? like you are the knight in shining armour.

hey, OP,you have a knight in armour here.

Why are we put on this earth if not to try and help people? It's fine if you don't want to but I think you have a responsibility to not do any more damage. If you can't help then leave. Im sorry someone damaged you so much that you're incapable of human empathy.

don't be fooled. just because someone is calling for help under the disguise of putting down his wife and what happened many years ago, and still with him...

this guy has not HEALED and is dragging baggage from long ago. it's one thing if he's left her and recalling memory lane and accusing all aquas like this, or aquas in general...

but to come in here and tell us that he's STILL with her?? and then talking bad still?? WHY do that?

i don't understand that part.

if you are dragging this and unhappy why STAY??

Im not fooled. I just choose to believe that people are inherently good. You are damaged and paranoid because of your past experiences and you're taking it out on innocent people.

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no theyre not. it's their ACTIONS i look at.

and why are you pointing fingers at ME?

i know NOTHING about you. You must have another account OR have been paying attention to my posts because you mentioned my hubby and commented on my perfect hubby and life.

i'd rather people think i have a bad life then, if only to keep you types away from me.

it's like you cant see through his bullshit.

you dont STAY with someone and keep complaining about them continously. and then say it happened years ago.

Oh my god!!!

i'd NEVER be with a man like that.

the smallest mistakes he will rag on me to the end, and to STRANGERS.

you can't trust that type of man. NEVER.

@Lisa

2 ex s abused you, my God so you have pattern of bad decision in men or women, but please stop this pattern for your own sake.

You must be Scorpio

it shows his character.

i'd rather DIE than to besmirch and put down the man i love.

Posted by iVirgo
@Lisa

2 ex s abused you, my God so you have pattern of bad decision in men or women, but please stop this pattern for your own sake.

You must be Scorpio

you're not even paying attention anymore.

Thank you @ramparts

Thank you @duchesslibro

In all honest I really appreciate good advice.

I can't afford to pay attention, when you are spreading negativity it's not o.K

But didn't you love 2 men all ready, exes or not. Maybe you should have besmirched.

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But didn't you love 2 men all ready, exes or not. Maybe you should have besmirched.

i didnt love the 2nd one.

i did the first one. the 2nd one i was just very loyal and coming off a bad relationship that i loved and held dearly.

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Posted by lisabethur8
the smallest mistakes he will rag on me to the end, and to STRANGERS.

you can't trust that type of man. NEVER.

You're taking this post way too personally. Trust me when I say he probably wouldn't date your type either so it's mutual.

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i have a feeling you three seem like you are working in ca-hoots.

it feels weird that you come in here and defend him and not recognize his baloney.

it's like you just pick and pick at me to find out about my own personal life, which isn't really that secretive since i mentioned about this a long time ago. i just dont want to bring it up all the time.

every person is different.

and i dont know what his intentions are, but they aren't very nice.

Then why did he abandoned you? Why didn't he stay and fight for your relationship to work? So many questions

We're they both boxers?

Posted by lisabethur8
it shows his character.

i'd rather DIE than to besmirch and put down the man i love.

uhm, you'd rather die than be oprn and honest about any potentially negative traits or bad behaviors your man has or had?

That is absolutely crazy.

*open

anyway i tried to love the 2nd one, but it just wasn't "there".....it's true what they say...you can't force love.

i loved my first husband INSTANTLY and the love kept coming.

he was my night and day feeling.

it's only my current husband who i found mature love, deep, beautiful and the most wonderful of all.

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it shows his character.

i'd rather DIE than to besmirch and put down the man i love.

uhm, you'd rather die than be oprn and honest about any potentially negative traits or bad behaviors your man has or had?

That is absolutely crazy.

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my husband doesn't have any so i dont have to worry.

but yeah when i was with my ex's i kept secret.

i am NOT like you.

That is beautiful

maybe it's watery love. because the two i loved the most are water men who are water dominant. but i love my current husband the very very most of all. it's so beautiful and it brings honest and happy tears to my eyes.

today is emotional for me for some reason. didnt get much sleep and went with my mother in law super early to her charity work for prisoners. super tired but had drank some coffee.

iVirgo, your astro-radar is way off. Scorpio peeps are all about probing deep to expose and eventually release negativity for the purpose of transformation and healing. lisa seems to be more about pretending it doesn't exist in her man. Also paranoia and jumping to conclusions.

You very lucky you found a man to not beat you this time, I'm happy for you.

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Posted by lisabethur8
it shows his character.

i'd rather DIE than to besmirch and put down the man i love.

uhm, you'd rather die than be oprn and honest about any potentially negative traits or bad behaviors your man has or had?

That is absolutely crazy.

my husband doesn't have any so i dont have to worry.

but yeah when i was with my ex's i kept secret.

i am NOT like you.

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WHOA! Congrats on finding a PERFECT MAN.

@ duchess

Ahhh I think I understand now

If I recall correctly, the last time Lisa went off ranting at me she also mentioned coffee. Which is a relief because I was started to wonder about a possible booze problem.

Honestly this has been fun in all, it started off very serious with me asking, but Lisa has given me a good laugh, but I have get my coffee and go to work, til next time with love