Do Aquas use people?

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by TwinFlame2018 on Friday, July 12, 2019 and has 19 replies.

Do Aquarians Tend to Use People for Their Benefit

Aquarians are typically known for valuing independence and fairness. They may seek support when needed but usually do not manipulate others for personal gain. Their relationships often emphasize mutual respect and understanding rather than using or dropping people once they are no longer useful.

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@TwinFlame2018
8 Years

Are Aquas the type of people that would use people when they need them and drop them when they dont?

For example if you as an Aqua had a relationship with someone whether it was romantic or plantonic. Would you "use" someone by talking to them when you needed someone to talk to and didnt have anyone else. If you would talk to someone who is helpful to you would you be grateful and continue to do so or would you stop talking to them once your issues were resolved. Essentially using someone until they provide you what they needed and drop you after you served your purpose?

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@aquarius09
15 Years10,000+ Posts

Hmm. Interesting question. Yes and no. If you are part of my inner circle or I consider you a friend, then I don’t ever use people for a gain.

However, my acquaintances are not my friends and nor do I keep in touch with them unless I need something and vice versa. Life is hectic enough to keep in touch with close friends let alone acquaintances. Isn’t that what most acquaintances do? They reach out when they want something. The only thing that’s intolerable is when you reach out to an acquaintance for a purpose and you go about it by inserting small talk/catching-up first so it doesn’t look like you are contacting the person for a favour or a means. I rather people get straight to the point since both parties know that they are messaging you for a reason. Whenever I need to contact an acquaintance for something, I get straight to the point.

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@aquarius09
15 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by Jade_Alexander

Aquas are intrigued by people

But all people can serve as interest while the Aqua is not emotionally invested in any

The aquas I know value genuine connection but dont let many close. People assume there is a closeness by their friendly demeanor

Well said! You got it!

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@Leo138
7 YearsLeo

Posted by Jade_Alexander

The aquas I know value genuine connection but dont let many close. People assume there is a closeness by their friendly demeanor

So how can you tell if they’re just being friendly or whether they actually see you as a friend?

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Posted by Jade_Alexander

Aquas are intrigued by people

But all people can serve as interest while the Aqua is not emotionally invested in any

The aquas I know value genuine connection but dont let many close. People assume there is a closeness by their friendly demeanor

So how do you know when you are passed the “just friendly demeanour” —

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@RollergirlOrc
12 Years1,000+ Posts

No, in my experience, they tend to keep people at an arm's length..unless they have Cancer influence, then yes, they will not hesitate to use their minds AND emotions to manipulate you in little ways. (Aqua bff and I are butting heads because of this.. I dislike shadiness of any kind)

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@neves
10 Years1,000+ Posts

Yes, even Aquarius can use people (same as every other astro-sign). I know this for a fact (since it's something i witnessed multiple times).

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@pisceswoman123
9 Years10,000+ Posts

No they don’t. But for them friendship takes a lot of time. What for you may be a friendship for them is just friendlines. Once they care for you you have a friend for life, at least in my experience.

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@candi3bb2
7 Years

Posted by TwinFlame2018

Are Aquas the type of people that would use people when they need them and drop them when they dont?

For example if you as an Aqua had a relationship with someone whether it was romantic or plantonic. Would you "use" someone by talking to them when you needed someone to talk to and didnt have anyone else. If you would talk to someone who is helpful to you would you be grateful and continue to do so or would you stop talking to them once your issues were resolved. Essentially using someone until they provide you what they needed and drop you after you served your purpose?

Sun Aqua

Moon Gemini

Rising Libra

Venus Aqua

Mercury in cap

Mars in scoprio

1st house in Libra - handling of social contacts etc

5th house in Capricorn- handling of family/friendship

I dont use people I believe everyone must exchange something. Even if I have a friend just for partying, I also will give in return. I do drop them if

a) they refused to grow with me (friendships included) e.g. a friend after 7 years still refuse to be there for me. Just weak apologies. I dropped her real quick.

b) they reject accountability- If I keep trying and they reject accountability in anything, then to me nothing can be resolved. Drop em.

c) they did something really really bad (e.g. cheating, abuse, hurting others based on their ego, and being lazy/weak willed)

If its work related: I'll do all I have to even if I dont feel/ agree with it. Taking the high road. As soon as the situation is solved, I continue to do right. As soon as all the sacrificies made are in vain, I pull out quickly. I can quit. I can stop doing all the hardwork. I hate wasted time/energies -in thoughts, feelings, systems, decisions etc. That is a reflection of the aqua rebellion.

With all this said, I still don't go out attacking others, using them, for ego based selfish gains. Fair, diplomacy, justice is what fuels me. I would like to think this applies to other Aquarians. But see above placements to determine your own judgement if it is or not.

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@PoloChat
7 Years

Posted by TwinFlame2018

Are Aquas the type of people that would use people when they need them and drop them when they dont?

For example if you as an Aqua had a relationship with someone whether it was romantic or plantonic. Would you "use" someone by talking to them when you needed someone to talk to and didnt have anyone else. If you would talk to someone who is helpful to you would you be grateful and continue to do so or would you stop talking to them once your issues were resolved. Essentially using someone until they provide you what they needed and drop you after you served your purpose?

Nope..nada..not at all

Even though it depends from person to person, yet aquas in general are not the kind of people who would use others for the sake of it!

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@8BlueberryPie8
7 Years

Yes— but also no, in a sense. I mean, as an Aqua myself, I wouldn’t have someone in my life for absolutely no reason. If you’re my friend, that means there’s something there I like, and see as either useful or entertaining.

So I guess, I kind of use others as an example in order to learn how to be more like them, and in turn, be more likable. Although, that doesn’t mean I don’t care about their well-being..

Now, admittedly, I have been manipulative in the past, but it’s been over stupid things, mostly. I was more manipulative as a child- now I honestly just don’t care.

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@applecherrypie
7 Years

Like most air signs (and caps), sometimes aquas are good at hiding the fact that they don't really like someone. They will still act friendly just because well they don't see the point of creating huge drama and they can easily put their feelings aside. I think it's in this case that they are more transactional.

But idk for your situation since the aqua is using someone for emotional support. That's unusual.... That's no offense more of libra/leo thing lol.

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@Angelia
7 YearsAquarius

Posted by candi3bb2

Posted by TwinFlame2018

Are Aquas the type of people that would use people when they need them and drop them when they dont?

For example if you as an Aqua had a relationship with someone whether it was romantic or plantonic. Would you "use" someone by talking to them when you needed someone to talk to and didnt have anyone else. If you would talk to someone who is helpful to you would you be grateful and continue to do so or would you stop talking to them once your issues were resolved. Essentially using someone until they provide you what they needed and drop you after you served your purpose?

Sun Aqua

Moon Gemini

Rising Libra

Venus Aqua

Mercury in cap

Mars in scoprio

1st house in Libra - handling of social contacts etc

5th house in Capricorn- handling of family/friendship

I dont use people I believe everyone must exchange something. Even if I have a friend just for partying, I also will give in return. I do drop them if

a) they refused to grow with me (friendships included) e.g. a friend after 7 years still refuse to be there for me. Just weak apologies. I dropped her real quick.

b) they reject accountability- If I keep trying and they reject accountability in anything, then to me nothing can be resolved. Drop em.

c) they did something really really bad (e.g. cheating, abuse, hurting others based on their ego, and being lazy/weak willed)

If its work related: I'll do all I have to even if I dont agree with it. Taking the high road. As soon as the situation is solved, I continue to do right. As soon as all the sacrificies made are in vain, I pull out quickly. I can quit. I can stop doing all the hardwork. I hate wasted time/energies -in thoughts, feelings, systems, decisions etc. That is a reflection of the aqua rebellion.

With all this said, I still don't go out attacking others, using them, for ego based selfish gains. Fair, diplomacy, justice is what fuels me. I would like to think this applies to other Aquarians. But see above placements to determine your own judgement if it is or not.

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I have some same placements & I agree. I don’t use ppl. I try to think/do what’s right or fair & I want the same from others. But if ppl aren’t accountable or are repeat offenders of any bs, I’m out

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@Pandora101
10 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by TwinFlame2018

Are Aquas the type of people that would use people when they need them and drop them when they dont?

For example if you as an Aqua had a relationship with someone whether it was romantic or plantonic. Would you "use" someone by talking to them when you needed someone to talk to and didnt have anyone else. If you would talk to someone who is helpful to you would you be grateful and continue to do so or would you stop talking to them once your issues were resolved. Essentially using someone until they provide you what they needed and drop you after you served your purpose?

what is this people resurrectin old Aqua threads? 🙂

anyways, I dont think Aquas would use someone for talking to when they dont have anyone else, its usually other people who use aquas when they dont have anyone to talk to, aquas are good listeners

and at the end of a conversation the aqua would know everything about you and you would not know a single thing about them..... that is how it goes usually 🙂

so no, aquas dont use people because they are bored/troubled

you must be a very special friend or a random stranger for an Aqua to confide in you

imho