WaterCup
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FACT: aquas have no emotions
We reallw do relate to other throu ourselves. If a person, animal etc is treated badly, we WILL react to it (not out of emotion), but out of the sense that we know we wouldnt wanna be treated like that ourselves, so its unfair for anybody/anything to be treated in such a way. We really are like leos in that, everything has to revolve around us...by that i mean...we have to relate 1st bfore any action is taken. Its kinda selfish in a way. The motto is "if i cant personally relate or impacted in a way, then i dont care". This is true for me.
I'm curious.
What astrology books have you read? o.0
What you are saying is an opinion based on your experiences. It's not a fact.
I'll post more later when I have time.
What astrology books have you read? o.0
What you are saying is an opinion based on your experiences. It's not a fact.
I'll post more later when I have time.
My dearest friend, my boss, and the man I am seeing are all aquas. True, they don't wear their hearts on their sleeves but I wouldn't say they are emotionless. When I need someone to talk to, really talk to, I go to my dearest friend I've known for years. She is intelligent and accesses situations very quickly and economically. And, she doesn't judge me at all. My boss is the same. Now, my boyfriend, he can be very tender and cold. I know he has Pisces in his chart and that makes a difference. But if he's upset with me he may not show it, but he'll disappear for a while letting me he doesn't want to deal. Aquas process things in their mind like a computer, but in my experience they don't like to DEAL with their emotions or yours. I agree, if they have something in common with you they can relate and appear sympathetic, however, if it causes them pain in the remembering of it you won't get the sympathetic response you are looking for. They have a quiet way about them. Yet, don't let it fool you because when they are pissed - you'll know it!
BSC, i never said i read what i wrote from a book and i also mentioned that "the way i see the world of emotions as an aqua", so it is MY opinion based on myself and MY emotions. My aqua cousin was complaining about the same thing...not knowing how to react in certain situations. 1. She said she couldnt cry at a funeral (a partenal aunt of hers passed away) bcause it was all new to her, so she just sat there while others thought she was repressing.
2. She said her friend just found out she was pregnant, my cousin doesnt have a child @ 28 and she said she told the friend "congratulations" and smiled. But she said she wasnt really feeling excited or anything and she just chalked it up to jealosy for lack of better understanding. She called me & told me about it...she is not into astrology but i could relate. Maybe it has something to do with decans or whatever. We are both 1st decans & two days apart, same year so we are sort of like twins.
2. She said her friend just found out she was pregnant, my cousin doesnt have a child @ 28 and she said she told the friend "congratulations" and smiled. But she said she wasnt really feeling excited or anything and she just chalked it up to jealosy for lack of better understanding. She called me & told me about it...she is not into astrology but i could relate. Maybe it has something to do with decans or whatever. We are both 1st decans & two days apart, same year so we are sort of like twins.
Seraph- u know i do have a lot of water, but i still lack emotional understanding if i cant relate to a situation. With family i can try to put myself in their situation mentally, but with strangers i would be lying if i say i mean it when i say "im so sorry to hear that", im not. Of course im sorry bad things happen to people, but i cant "bodily" feel sorry unless i know exactly what they are talking about or have experienced it myself. I may help them get throu whatever they are going throu, but i still wont *feel* it or understand it if i never went throu it myself. I dont know if i make sense here.
Seraph- u know i do have a lot of water, but i still lack emotional understanding if i cant relate to a situation. With family i can try to put myself in their situation mentally, but with strangers i would be lying if i say i mean it when i say "im so sorry to hear that", im not. Of course im sorry bad things happen to people, but i cant "bodily" feel sorry unless i know exactly what they are talking about or have experienced it myself. I may help them get throu whatever they are going throu, but i still wont *feel* it or understand it if i never went throu it myself. I dont know if i make sense here.
Catfish- yeah, aquas are good at recognizing problems & finding solutions for other people bcause they are not emotionally involved in the mess, so they see things clearly. But when it comes to their own problems it may take a while especially if emotions are involved. 1stly every emotion is dissected, figured out and discarded if needed be. I also agree with the part about not wanting to deal with emotions...emotions can be confusing sometimes. When someone tells me something and i dont get it, i feel overwhelmed and even guilty for my lack of understanding, so i rather not hear/deal with any emo stories for the fear of not reacting the way they expect or hope and seem cold. As for dealing with mine, i rarely go there tbh. I may know something is up, but i wont delve in...i ignore. Im a scorp moon so i may get lost in there for a while if i try and i have.. its not fun
well i dont know about "aquas" in a general astrological sense where the emotions are rare.
But as a woman, gosh I cry like hell. I sob and sob like a baby. 😢
But as a woman, gosh I cry like hell. I sob and sob like a baby. 😢
Watercup,
Does it make a difference when someone explains exactly how they are feeling and why? Such as instead of saying "I've got cancer", what if someone explains it this way "I am feeling overwhelmed because I've got this on my shoulders, then this gets thrown in and now I've got this medical diagnosis (say cancer). I'm scared because I'm afraid of how the treatment is going to make me feel and I don't want to lose my hair. I'm afraid they can't cure it and I'm going to die and leave my kids without a parent. What's going to happen to them? etc etc".
Surely you can related to overwhelmed, and scared and afraid.... Would that kind of explanation help you to be more empathetic?
Capricorns just have the ability to imagine themselves in someone's shoes. We just already assume the above is how you're feeling if you say "I've got cancer". It's hard for me to consider someone wouldn't be able to emote to this statement.
Does it make a difference when someone explains exactly how they are feeling and why? Such as instead of saying "I've got cancer", what if someone explains it this way "I am feeling overwhelmed because I've got this on my shoulders, then this gets thrown in and now I've got this medical diagnosis (say cancer). I'm scared because I'm afraid of how the treatment is going to make me feel and I don't want to lose my hair. I'm afraid they can't cure it and I'm going to die and leave my kids without a parent. What's going to happen to them? etc etc".
Surely you can related to overwhelmed, and scared and afraid.... Would that kind of explanation help you to be more empathetic?
Capricorns just have the ability to imagine themselves in someone's shoes. We just already assume the above is how you're feeling if you say "I've got cancer". It's hard for me to consider someone wouldn't be able to emote to this statement.
I don't think your computer analogy holds up seeing I think that's just a general rule for ANYONE. We empathize better given that we ourselves have had that experience.
I'm certainly not void of emotions and in fact I let my emotions guide me way too much. All of my friends and coworkers have told me they can always tell which mood I'm in and it scares them when they can't work out what I'm feeling. I don't wear my heart on a sleeve, I have massive balloons of them that I carry around with me!
What I will say is that I have a hard time dealing with these emotions and it's like a wall where I can't verbalise HOW I feel or show how I feel until I've used my logical side to work everything out myself. I don't seem to understand why such strong emotions can arise therefore I sit there and dissect as you said and discard all the negativity so I can go back to being me. SO that part you are dead on.
I can however feel sorry and sympathise with others, as if their pain is mine or I'd jump to the moon and mirror their happiness. I'd go to the ends of the world to make sure someone is happy! I like to feel things so to speak but I chalk it up to the pisces in my chart. If I can't feel it then I start to think on it.
I'm certainly not void of emotions and in fact I let my emotions guide me way too much. All of my friends and coworkers have told me they can always tell which mood I'm in and it scares them when they can't work out what I'm feeling. I don't wear my heart on a sleeve, I have massive balloons of them that I carry around with me!
What I will say is that I have a hard time dealing with these emotions and it's like a wall where I can't verbalise HOW I feel or show how I feel until I've used my logical side to work everything out myself. I don't seem to understand why such strong emotions can arise therefore I sit there and dissect as you said and discard all the negativity so I can go back to being me. SO that part you are dead on.
I can however feel sorry and sympathise with others, as if their pain is mine or I'd jump to the moon and mirror their happiness. I'd go to the ends of the world to make sure someone is happy! I like to feel things so to speak but I chalk it up to the pisces in my chart. If I can't feel it then I start to think on it.
Posted by WaterCup
".... i used to disagree with it until it hit me...its true! And im gonna tell u why...
Imagine typing on a computer and saving the data, thats how it works! An aqua get emotions throu experience, so he/she has to be taught how to feel and without that an aqua cant feel or relate to what u feel. Its like with every event, an aqua will take whatever emotion it experienced and save it for future referrance."
I honestly agree with this considering an Aqua has a hard time showing emotion. Let's not mix up that first you "feel"-so you have a feeling and then it manifests itself into an emotion. If an Aqua has no experience feeling a certain way, how can you possibly get them to display an emotion?
"When u tell an aqua an emotional story, its like the mind quickly searches throu the emotional data to get a match and if the match is found then u get a warm response, if not...a confused robot. Its like in order to get a feeling, the mind has to recognise it first before u can actually FEEL it."
^^^this proves my point!
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U know what, Elle might be right about this...maybe it is my scorpio moon after all. Its hard sometimes to know which part of you is operating at any given time, since im an aqua i tend to blame everything on my sun and forget my other planets. Thanks Elle for clearing that for me, my scorp moon must be stronger than i think.
Truecap, in that case i may listen and say/do all the right things, but i still wont relate..i need 1st hand experience to really & honestly feel something (someone that i care very much for must 1st go throu it or even me). It must really be a moon thing cause others dont relate to anything i mentioned here. Oh well
Aquanoz- doesnt matter whether the computer theory holds up or not, its the only way i could describe my feelings in words. Glad u could relate to some of the things i said thou.
Nikki- for me personally, if i dont have an experience about something, i wont fake emotion...u'll get a blank look bcause i have nothing to go on. Thats when the awkwardness kicks in bcause i feel like people await a reaction and when i dont react in a fitting manner, i feel like they maybe thinking im not a good person or whatever. I feel sincerly sorry in my mind and speech...i just dont feel sorry in "spirit" to the point of maybe crying with them etc. Ugh, i cant describe it in words, but i hope u get what i mean. I sound like psychopath right now, but at least im being honest. I dont have killer urges/tendencies yet, so go figure! Haha
WaterCup,
If you can feel apologetic then chances are you aren't a socialpath/psychopath! Though let me just remove that axe from your hands! 😉
Jokes aside, when I was younger I tend to let those overwhelming emotions of others get to me. I react in much the same way you do now. I felt so sorry for them but it felt like their emotion is out of my control, I neither want to add to it or remove it from them because it's the way they feel for now. I do ache for them on the inside.
Friends and family have pointed this out to me and through time you start to realise and see the queues of when someone needs reassurance or lifting up or simply just be heard.
So perhaps we are more similar than you thought. Maybe I'm just optimistic and forcing my own views on you in that I think you do FEEL and have these emotions, you just can't decipher what they mean to you personally. So maybe your computer analogy does hold up in that emotions are another language your computer can't handle? 😛 But then you can't say you are emotionless can you? 😉
If you can feel apologetic then chances are you aren't a socialpath/psychopath! Though let me just remove that axe from your hands! 😉
Jokes aside, when I was younger I tend to let those overwhelming emotions of others get to me. I react in much the same way you do now. I felt so sorry for them but it felt like their emotion is out of my control, I neither want to add to it or remove it from them because it's the way they feel for now. I do ache for them on the inside.
Friends and family have pointed this out to me and through time you start to realise and see the queues of when someone needs reassurance or lifting up or simply just be heard.
So perhaps we are more similar than you thought. Maybe I'm just optimistic and forcing my own views on you in that I think you do FEEL and have these emotions, you just can't decipher what they mean to you personally. So maybe your computer analogy does hold up in that emotions are another language your computer can't handle? 😛 But then you can't say you are emotionless can you? 😉
Aquanoz- lol @ the axe, hope u didnt see the hook attached to my arm. I get and understand what u mean, the only difference is that i DONT ache for people...i let them ache for themselves and just watch them ache, lol. I'll still be there thou and try my best to be helpful. Emotions to me is like a dart game, either a hit or a miss. I really cant explain it. Im 'emotionless' when i cant find anything to be emotional about...i NEED to relate 1st above all else, i cant force anything out of myself if i dont.
Example: the other day a kid was hit by a car a block away from my flat, we all went to see what was happening and the women were crying & making noise. I just stood there and felt out of place bcause i couldnt react like all the other people. I was troubled but didnt know exactly how to feel until i thought about my own child and thats when the sadness of what i saw finally sunk in...delayed reaction. Or maybe im emotionless until i figure out/process the situation, i dont know, lol. I confuse myself a lot. Where is your moon?
Example: the other day a kid was hit by a car a block away from my flat, we all went to see what was happening and the women were crying & making noise. I just stood there and felt out of place bcause i couldnt react like all the other people. I was troubled but didnt know exactly how to feel until i thought about my own child and thats when the sadness of what i saw finally sunk in...delayed reaction. Or maybe im emotionless until i figure out/process the situation, i dont know, lol. I confuse myself a lot. Where is your moon?
wow you guys really know your astrology. decan? what?
aren't aquas humanitarians? i know several aqua men, and it seems to me they tend to look at things more objectively than most. what they're moved by are human themes rather than specific personal stories. for instance, one man i know can't seem to mourn a death in the family, but when thousands died on 9/11 he was very sorrowful. it's the bigger things that get to him. they can get emotional over movies (for the theme)too rather than the story line. if you go to them for sympathy you may not get it, mostly because they will automatically look at it objectively and think you're stupid for not doing things that could've made you avoid your circumstance. That's not to say aqua men don't make good close companions. they may seem aloof in general, but to the few they hold dear they are always there, always caring and serious. I also notice they are very private especially about their personal life, privacy is very high up one their list of values. they can pretty much deal with anything, but when it comes to issues of love (where they're most emotionally invested) they'll say they can't talk or can't deal with it "right now," not for lack of emotion but for too much. i think they need the time to climb down and look at their reaction objectively, once again. my first love is an aqua. i broke his heart. i didn't cheat, i just made a decision based on our difficult circumstances. he couldn't talk about his feelings for years, he always avoided the subject or talked about other things (when i wanted to make sure he's okay). The only thing he's managed to express in the way of emotions verbally is that he still cares for me deeply. but i already knew that. if i know one thing about him it's that he will completely ignore someone he doesn't care for.
aren't aquas humanitarians? i know several aqua men, and it seems to me they tend to look at things more objectively than most. what they're moved by are human themes rather than specific personal stories. for instance, one man i know can't seem to mourn a death in the family, but when thousands died on 9/11 he was very sorrowful. it's the bigger things that get to him. they can get emotional over movies (for the theme)too rather than the story line. if you go to them for sympathy you may not get it, mostly because they will automatically look at it objectively and think you're stupid for not doing things that could've made you avoid your circumstance. That's not to say aqua men don't make good close companions. they may seem aloof in general, but to the few they hold dear they are always there, always caring and serious. I also notice they are very private especially about their personal life, privacy is very high up one their list of values. they can pretty much deal with anything, but when it comes to issues of love (where they're most emotionally invested) they'll say they can't talk or can't deal with it "right now," not for lack of emotion but for too much. i think they need the time to climb down and look at their reaction objectively, once again. my first love is an aqua. i broke his heart. i didn't cheat, i just made a decision based on our difficult circumstances. he couldn't talk about his feelings for years, he always avoided the subject or talked about other things (when i wanted to make sure he's okay). The only thing he's managed to express in the way of emotions verbally is that he still cares for me deeply. but i already knew that. if i know one thing about him it's that he will completely ignore someone he doesn't care for.
WW, Interesting..how so?
The other thing i wanted to ask is, do u guys share your feelings with others? Lets say maybe ur sad, happy etc about something. I personally have a difficult time doing that. In the past, if i shared my sorrow people will start saying things like "oh, ur so strong, why arent u falling apart etc", it annoyed me bcause i felt it inside, but i just dont see the point in going around with a kleenex box attached to my lap for all to see. I deal with it internally. Happiness is the other thing, u tell people your good news and u get "then why arent you jumping up & down with joy", i cant and wont. With me EVERYTHING is internalized so i dont share cause i know theatrics are expected otherwize u get weird looks if u dont act accordingly. Ugh
The other thing i wanted to ask is, do u guys share your feelings with others? Lets say maybe ur sad, happy etc about something. I personally have a difficult time doing that. In the past, if i shared my sorrow people will start saying things like "oh, ur so strong, why arent u falling apart etc", it annoyed me bcause i felt it inside, but i just dont see the point in going around with a kleenex box attached to my lap for all to see. I deal with it internally. Happiness is the other thing, u tell people your good news and u get "then why arent you jumping up & down with joy", i cant and wont. With me EVERYTHING is internalized so i dont share cause i know theatrics are expected otherwize u get weird looks if u dont act accordingly. Ugh
OSF, Yeah exactly! This is the point im trying to make here...if it doesnt really affect u personally then why get dramatic. I dont get it. I swear some people can cry on cue. Reactions like that need to have a special meaning otherwize it looks fake indeed.
Cellardoor, ur getting it too. I think the reason why we would rather get sad over the world rather than a single person is bcause there are no expectations ie. crying @ the sound of "ACTION". No questions..nothing, u just indulge and move on. I was saddened by what happened last in Haiti that i couldnt even watch it on tv bcause i know exactly how it feels to be hopeless and homeless.
Posted by WaterCup
Nikki- for me personally, if i dont have an experience about something, i wont fake emotion...u'll get a blank look bcause i have nothing to go on. Thats when the awkwardness kicks in bcause i feel like people await a reaction and when i dont react in a fitting manner, i feel like they maybe thinking im not a good person or whatever. I feel sincerly sorry in my mind and speech...i just dont feel sorry in "spirit" to the point of maybe crying with them etc. Ugh, i cant describe it in words, but i hope u get what i mean. I sound like psychopath right now, but at least im being honest. I dont have killer urges/tendencies yet, so go figure! Haha
Water-I AGREE with you, so don't be sorry. Since you worded it like this and with all of your honesty behind you are giving a general statement of an Aqua. If people do not understand nor get the Aqua nature, this may confuse them a bit. For a veteran like me I do understand. Think about it like this.....it may explain why to other people an Aqua appears detached, cold, and aloof most of the time when engaged with others in an intimate setting (heart to heart conversation) and why the term A*&hole, jerk, does he love me? blah blah blah then comes to thier minds! LOL.
🙂 Luv ya!
Just because something doesnt invoke my emotions....doesnt mean I dont have any.
Posted by WaterCup
Its said in all astrology books, i used to disagree with it until it hit me...its true! And im gonna tell u why...
Imagine typing on a computer and saving the data, thats how it works! An aqua get emotions throu experience, so he/she has to be taught how to feel and without that an aqua cant feel or relate to what u feel. Its like with every event, an aqua will take whatever emotion it experienced and save it for future referrance.
An example, lets say i (as an aqua) lost both my parents and you come along and tell me that u lost yours too...my reaction will be warmer bcause ive been throu the same thing.
Another example, u come to me and tell me that u have cancer (or whatever i cant relate to due to lack of emotional experience with it), of course i will tell u "im sorry, thats bad" bcause its the right thing to say in such a situation. But do i REALLY REALLY feel sorry? Nope, bcause im not in your shoes and i have no experience to REALLY feel what u r feeling. And in turn i may start feeling awkward bcause i dont know how to react to what u just said
I don't believe that to be an "Aqua" trait you're describing. I can relate to what you've mentioned & I have 0 Aqua in my chart.
^^^That totally did not quote right...anywho...
I don't believe that to be an "Aqua" trait you're describing. I can relate to what you've mentioned & I have 0 Aqua in my chart.
I don't believe that to be an "Aqua" trait you're describing. I can relate to what you've mentioned & I have 0 Aqua in my chart.
Posted by WaterCup
for me personally, if i dont have an experience about something, i wont fake emotion...u'll get a blank look bcause i have nothing to go on. Thats when the awkwardness kicks in bcause i feel like people await a reaction and when i dont react in a fitting manner, i feel like they maybe thinking im not a good person or whatever. I feel sincerly sorry in my mind and speech...i just dont feel sorry in "spirit" to the point of maybe crying with them etc. Ugh, i cant describe it in words, but i hope u get what i mean. I sound like psychopath right now, but at least im being honest.
I get this.
People in general obviously will be able to relate and feel more for people when they have gone through similar experiences as what the other person has gone through. It's human. Not Aquarius. That is why there are words such as empathy and sympathy. Empathy, you'd have to be able to relate and feel something similar to fit the definition. Sympathy is just feeling bad about their circumstance or providing comforting words. Sympathy can be done without feeling any emotion.
As far as not knowing how to react to situations you've never been in, that is also a trait found in many humans. Some are natural talkers and know what to say at the right time, but others, like myself, are lost on how to help. If someone told me they had cancer, I'd just sit there and think "I haven't been through this, so I don't know what to say to make this person feel better." And that, as I've said, is normal.
I think I could possibly be missing your point, so if I am, I apologize. I didn't mean any of this in an argumentative kind of way, though, so I guess I don't have anything to apologize for.
And, as far as all of this nonsense with Aquas having trouble with emotions: I've only known a few in my life. Dated two. And both were more open and sincere with their emotions than I ever was. They didn't express them as much out of the blue, but when I was feeling down, or the conversations became more serious, they were the first to say "You know I love you, right?", etc. Just my two cents on that issue in general. Not and aqua, though, so I can't vouch personally.
As far as not knowing how to react to situations you've never been in, that is also a trait found in many humans. Some are natural talkers and know what to say at the right time, but others, like myself, are lost on how to help. If someone told me they had cancer, I'd just sit there and think "I haven't been through this, so I don't know what to say to make this person feel better." And that, as I've said, is normal.
I think I could possibly be missing your point, so if I am, I apologize. I didn't mean any of this in an argumentative kind of way, though, so I guess I don't have anything to apologize for.
And, as far as all of this nonsense with Aquas having trouble with emotions: I've only known a few in my life. Dated two. And both were more open and sincere with their emotions than I ever was. They didn't express them as much out of the blue, but when I was feeling down, or the conversations became more serious, they were the first to say "You know I love you, right?", etc. Just my two cents on that issue in general. Not and aqua, though, so I can't vouch personally.
Hey WaterCup!
My moon is in Aqua as well with other aspects mainly dominated by pisces which is why I can probably take on the emotions of others a lot better. My computer however has computed a lot of varying emotions already! This is where it gets even worse because as you said it's almost as if they are fake emotions that I can't work out internally in my brain. It's borderline retarded when I can watch a scene in the movie, place myself in that character and start to cry. There's a certain fakeness about it for sure.
I feel what applies to me is that I need to process certain information and for some reason when it comes to my immediate surroundings I tend to lock and freeze up. I'm talking about the deeper emotions like death, fear, and extreme happiness. When my ex's cousin died I did not know how to react at all, I couldn't even use my past experience for it because my brain was churning through all the possibilities, it ended up fixating on the fact I needed to be strong and become void of emotions because everyone wanted a shoulder to lean on.
I guess that answers your other question about discussing or sharing our feelings. I tend to mirror how I feel so you can see how I feel by the way I walk. I'm very bad at hiding simple emotions like that. It's the deeper things that I never share with anyone. Quite recently my episodic depression was triggered by too much stress at work coupled with an injured shoulder. I felt so bad internally but like you said I felt like it was my own problem and I can resolve it internally because it shouldn't be anyone else's burden. Definitely true for happiness as well. It all stays in the nogan.
When I shared my internal conflict once my friend was so amazed by how logical and detached I can view my own personal problems subjectively. Could've sworn she thought I was a weirdo and fake after all that LOL! Her loss.
As for the whole humanitarian side? I use to be! But after the few you tried to help take advantage of you, your view becomes quite bleak. There are still major issues that get broadcasted I feel very sad towards. But perhaps it is true we hate injustice or we ache for lives that were taken away or treated unjustly? I'm not sure, this side of my I've never bothered to sit down and work out internally.
My moon is in Aqua as well with other aspects mainly dominated by pisces which is why I can probably take on the emotions of others a lot better. My computer however has computed a lot of varying emotions already! This is where it gets even worse because as you said it's almost as if they are fake emotions that I can't work out internally in my brain. It's borderline retarded when I can watch a scene in the movie, place myself in that character and start to cry. There's a certain fakeness about it for sure.
I feel what applies to me is that I need to process certain information and for some reason when it comes to my immediate surroundings I tend to lock and freeze up. I'm talking about the deeper emotions like death, fear, and extreme happiness. When my ex's cousin died I did not know how to react at all, I couldn't even use my past experience for it because my brain was churning through all the possibilities, it ended up fixating on the fact I needed to be strong and become void of emotions because everyone wanted a shoulder to lean on.
I guess that answers your other question about discussing or sharing our feelings. I tend to mirror how I feel so you can see how I feel by the way I walk. I'm very bad at hiding simple emotions like that. It's the deeper things that I never share with anyone. Quite recently my episodic depression was triggered by too much stress at work coupled with an injured shoulder. I felt so bad internally but like you said I felt like it was my own problem and I can resolve it internally because it shouldn't be anyone else's burden. Definitely true for happiness as well. It all stays in the nogan.
When I shared my internal conflict once my friend was so amazed by how logical and detached I can view my own personal problems subjectively. Could've sworn she thought I was a weirdo and fake after all that LOL! Her loss.
As for the whole humanitarian side? I use to be! But after the few you tried to help take advantage of you, your view becomes quite bleak. There are still major issues that get broadcasted I feel very sad towards. But perhaps it is true we hate injustice or we ache for lives that were taken away or treated unjustly? I'm not sure, this side of my I've never bothered to sit down and work out internally.
Thanks realtalk, scenic and aquanoz. Well, whether this thread was nonsensical or not, but at least i got some understanding that im not the only person feeling the way i do...it really bothered me somehow. What i understand now is that, i lack empathy, but have sympathy...thats good to know and thanks again scenic for clarifying that. I have no more to say on this topic now cause i got what i was looking for...people who can relate.
Nikki- i love u too, sweety and thats REAL, lol...believe me.
Nikki- i love u too, sweety and thats REAL, lol...believe me.
Oops, i just realised i messed up on empathy vs sympathy...it confuses me a bit, but oh well...i still have an emotion that ends with "thy", which ever one it is so im good. Thanx again, ladies.
Posted by Scenic
People in general obviously will be able to relate and feel more for people when they have gone through similar experiences as what the other person has gone through. It's human. Not Aquarius. That is why there are words such as empathy and sympathy. Empathy, you'd have to be able to relate and feel something similar to fit the definition. Sympathy is just feeling bad about their circumstance or providing comforting words. Sympathy can be done without feeling any emotion.
As far as not knowing how to react to situations you've never been in, that is also a trait found in many humans. Some are natural talkers and know what to say at the right time, but others, like myself, are lost on how to help. If someone told me they had cancer, I'd just sit there and think "I haven't been through this, so I don't know what to say to make this person feel better." And that, as I've said, is normal.
This is found in any dictionary /definition: empathy vs. sympathy.
As an Aquarius Sun, I do cry alot when I watch romantic films, read sad stories, weep when a close family member goes through a hard time.
I love my family members so i want them to be happy. However the sad stories, films, tragic, it is very sorrowful so I weep.
*I also cry at weddings. I dont know why, maybe because I imagine how beautiful their future is going to be, and the light that shines in their eyes only for eachother. It makes me cry of happiness. That's why I cry. It's the tears of joy.
^^ Aww, sorry you feel that way. But it's a good thing you're not with one. 🙂
Posted by Gandalf
Does anyone know omarosa from celebrity apprentice? she is an aquarius . i also heard ayn rand is an aquarius and she is one of the most repulsive females i have ever read about .The book of satanism was said to be based on following her aquarian principles of "rational egoism". everyone expresed a deep hatred for her including me.
Oh OH.....everyone's favourite:
Sarah Palin 😄
I actually don't mind her. Other aquas seem repulsed but as I read on, she's not that bad. She's just who she is. I love her conservativism and her strong values on marriage and family. A little odd on the political scale and not too good with interviews but eh. No one's perfect.
Posted by Gandalf
But seriously though .......iam not trolling ...........but........read ayn rand ..............and you will see why i just went on a rant on aquarius.
well....she's certainly not amused 🙂
^^ here, tyrant.
"The most depraved type of human being . . . (is) the man without a purpose."
("Atlas Shrugged", 1957)
there you go.....(In a soft soothing voice) listen to the Saturnian stern woman who has moved the masses in love and hate.
"The most depraved type of human being . . . (is) the man without a purpose."
("Atlas Shrugged", 1957)
there you go.....(In a soft soothing voice) listen to the Saturnian stern woman who has moved the masses in love and hate.
Posted by WaterCup
Oops, i just realised i messed up on empathy vs sympathy...it confuses me a bit, but oh well...i still have an emotion that ends with "thy", which ever one it is so im good. Thanx again, ladies.
Same here. I would confuse the 2 myself. I can relate to this because I lack empathy too sometimes & don't realize it until someone calls me out on it. It's not that I don't care, it's just a non-factor in my head & I can move on from the subject easily. I guess that seems kinda cold but I really don't mean for it to come across that way.
Welp, there goes another thing I must work on. 🙂
Is it me or did I just hear a kitten meow somewhere?
haha! and that's why I love Leos! and definitely going to watch the hobbit, looking forward to your greatness again!
Aquarians have no conscience. They will mow you down if you get in their way and won't think twice about it.
^^ you're getting it. But, worthy?...that sounds so pompous. lol
**chants**
we.are.not.worthy. we.are.not.worthy.
pfftt
oh who cares. 🙂
**chants**
we.are.not.worthy. we.are.not.worthy.
pfftt
oh who cares. 🙂
Must be the guys. I have emotions and a conscience. Aqua born on Cusp of Cap, with Leo Rising, Gemini Moon.... I also have my Mars in Scorp with Venus in Aquarius (sounds like conflict).
haha this is so subjective.
take a aqua into a scorpio relationship we are considered cold
take a aqua into a virgo relationship we are too emotional or too all over the place
put us with fire and air-we're balanced folks.
who cares what these website states! yeah zodiac is fun and all, and yeah one "could" see that we are "unemotional" but have we at all defined their idea of emotional?
i'm all air, and im "emotional" i dont show it all the time. but when i do its not good! the other day i broke down in tears at work when usually i can keep it together. The threshold in which one expresses their inner feelings depends on the individual. Water signs have less of a threshold and tend to express it all the time. Aquas don't show it ALL the time...they feel it. But they rather balance mind and heart than to just have all heart. Therefore, we are not emotionless.
so we could be unemotional, but "would" we be considered emotionless? if so, then "should" we wear our hearts on our sleeves? why change for every person's comfortability ...afterall its just all so subjective! 😛
take a aqua into a scorpio relationship we are considered cold
take a aqua into a virgo relationship we are too emotional or too all over the place
put us with fire and air-we're balanced folks.
who cares what these website states! yeah zodiac is fun and all, and yeah one "could" see that we are "unemotional" but have we at all defined their idea of emotional?
i'm all air, and im "emotional" i dont show it all the time. but when i do its not good! the other day i broke down in tears at work when usually i can keep it together. The threshold in which one expresses their inner feelings depends on the individual. Water signs have less of a threshold and tend to express it all the time. Aquas don't show it ALL the time...they feel it. But they rather balance mind and heart than to just have all heart. Therefore, we are not emotionless.
so we could be unemotional, but "would" we be considered emotionless? if so, then "should" we wear our hearts on our sleeves? why change for every person's comfortability ...afterall its just all so subjective! 😛
Honestly,it is dumb to think you would not have chemical reactions to external events that would cause rises in emotions no matter what your sign is. Just depends on the emotional intelligence of the individual. It is really kinda weak to let your feelings get the best of your reactions in everyday life..... I mean the only people who really have this problem are bi-polar people.... you gonna argue all water signs are bi-polar or depressed or w/e—?
I'm not saying being emotional is just wimpy it can also be show strength to be not afraid to show others how you feel if it is necessary... To show someone you care.... I'm an Aquarius and I swear to you lol empathize with everyone from all walks of life and I'm pretty sure they can tell... or they wouldn't sit there and talk to me about the problems of there personal life.
The only time I seriously clam up about how I'm feeling is when I'm beginning to fall for someone or I'm in a romantic relationship.... REASONS?? Well (1)Just because I feel this way does not mean the other person does therefore It is not fair for me to be imposing my situation on someone else who does not feel the same way (2) The fear of rejection!! Although now that I am older this is pretty much not as big a factor long as they really show they are interested or not ...I mean they either going to like me or not so... can't really change that might as well find out now.... I think Aquas or at least I have had that deep rooted fear because when I really REALLY begin to be attracted to someone or fall in love... I don't play games and I am absolutely sincere... So it hurts ten times worse when someone else just kicks it in the sand... I never have dated for "FUN" or had a one night stand in my life despite having many opportunities... well at least I perceived them as such because whats the point?
I'm not saying being emotional is just wimpy it can also be show strength to be not afraid to show others how you feel if it is necessary... To show someone you care.... I'm an Aquarius and I swear to you lol empathize with everyone from all walks of life and I'm pretty sure they can tell... or they wouldn't sit there and talk to me about the problems of there personal life.
The only time I seriously clam up about how I'm feeling is when I'm beginning to fall for someone or I'm in a romantic relationship.... REASONS?? Well (1)Just because I feel this way does not mean the other person does therefore It is not fair for me to be imposing my situation on someone else who does not feel the same way (2) The fear of rejection!! Although now that I am older this is pretty much not as big a factor long as they really show they are interested or not ...I mean they either going to like me or not so... can't really change that might as well find out now.... I think Aquas or at least I have had that deep rooted fear because when I really REALLY begin to be attracted to someone or fall in love... I don't play games and I am absolutely sincere... So it hurts ten times worse when someone else just kicks it in the sand... I never have dated for "FUN" or had a one night stand in my life despite having many opportunities... well at least I perceived them as such because whats the point?
Oh OH.....everyone's favourite:
Sarah Palin 😄
I actually don't mind her. Other aquas seem repulsed but as I read on, she's not that bad. She's just who she is. I love her conservativism and her strong values on marriage and family. A little odd on the political scale and not too good with interviews but eh. No one's perfect.
I'm sorry for sounding like a dick but I live in a republican state and it just drives me nuts that people vote for people purely off of what ...that candidate says ... I mean do we actually know her personally? She can say what she wants at the end of the day it's lip service. Actions speak louder than words. It's not that I'm anti republican or hardcore donkey democrat it's just the logic of all that is .... hard for me to understand. To me honestly she seems really fake and not all that bright as well. I hate having someone being voted in as my leader and I feel my IQ is superior to theirs! Yeah I guess I'm a dick w/e. If you only knew how rude the people are where I live lol! And objectively I don't know her so who knows maybe she's all she's cracked up to be doesn't mean I'd vote for her because she says she's so great... like seriously to me.... to try and put yourself on a pedistal and try to show how great your values are, how wonderful I live my life, like only people that do that are Machiavellian-types.... And even if it's not a manipulation.... how does you leading a saintly life prove you know what's the best course of action for the country or that your a genius at leadership—
Sorry ya'll but that has been held in for several years.... Louisiana is a mother fucker of a state when it comes to politics everyone KNOWS EVERYTHING ^.^
Sarah Palin 😄
I actually don't mind her. Other aquas seem repulsed but as I read on, she's not that bad. She's just who she is. I love her conservativism and her strong values on marriage and family. A little odd on the political scale and not too good with interviews but eh. No one's perfect.
I'm sorry for sounding like a dick but I live in a republican state and it just drives me nuts that people vote for people purely off of what ...that candidate says ... I mean do we actually know her personally? She can say what she wants at the end of the day it's lip service. Actions speak louder than words. It's not that I'm anti republican or hardcore donkey democrat it's just the logic of all that is .... hard for me to understand. To me honestly she seems really fake and not all that bright as well. I hate having someone being voted in as my leader and I feel my IQ is superior to theirs! Yeah I guess I'm a dick w/e. If you only knew how rude the people are where I live lol! And objectively I don't know her so who knows maybe she's all she's cracked up to be doesn't mean I'd vote for her because she says she's so great... like seriously to me.... to try and put yourself on a pedistal and try to show how great your values are, how wonderful I live my life, like only people that do that are Machiavellian-types.... And even if it's not a manipulation.... how does you leading a saintly life prove you know what's the best course of action for the country or that your a genius at leadership—
Sorry ya'll but that has been held in for several years.... Louisiana is a mother fucker of a state when it comes to politics everyone KNOWS EVERYTHING ^.^
^^
I dont know. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. She's cool.
Alot of people are made for leadership. Thank god some of us are just wanting a good life without all that hassle. She's extremely strong-willed though, for all those stellium Aquarius planets. So she can do whatever she pleases, but I think she just chose to spend more time with family than trying to go into a leadership role. I commend her for that.
I dont know. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. She's cool.
Alot of people are made for leadership. Thank god some of us are just wanting a good life without all that hassle. She's extremely strong-willed though, for all those stellium Aquarius planets. So she can do whatever she pleases, but I think she just chose to spend more time with family than trying to go into a leadership role. I commend her for that.
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