He admitted dating a new gal but later apologized?

I was kinda confused by his act.
Let me write our story first.

I met him thorough a dating app. He was so passionate to me at first. He invited me to a club house for drink when we first met. We kissed and slept that night... At the beginning I was feeling lonely and wanted to meet some men on dating app. Even we kissed, I thought we were just having fun.

But after that night, he told me he missed me so much and started all the flirting acts. We met a few times afterwards. He kissed me and held my hands like we were couples everytime.

My mind had changed. I was kinda falling in love with him. I'm Aries. We both love freedom. I admire his personality a lot. He was so gentle to me. However, I felt so insecure with him since I was hurt by two men before.

During the last time we met, I cried in front of him becoz of insecure feeling. I didnt tell him the exact reason at that moment but later texted him abt my thoughts. He didnt response to me directly, only thanked for my honesty. (I guess Aqua doesnt like to show his emotions.)

After a few days, he went for a business trip & travelling. I worried abt his safety so asked him to text me after arrival. But he just disappeared for a whole week then. He went online twice but he didnt text me back.
Finally on the day he backed that he told me before, I decided to text him asking what had happened. He didnt reply immediately but later he said he didn't hv internet connection where he was. He admitted he had met a new lady and was on date that moment.

I felt like: fine, it was me being stupid trusting a man like this. A week has gone. I tried my best to forget everything and lived my life as usual. BUT! he suddenly appeared and apologized to me AGAIN! He told me he didn't want anything just hoping im okay. He said he never played me but only wanted to let me know what he went through these days.

I miss him again after reading his messages. 😢 It's kinda confused by his act. I don't know if he is being honest or not. It's quite impossible for us to see each other again. But I still want to know what he is thinking about... It's hard for me to move on...

Can someone try to guess?

Aquas are honest. I think you can believe what he said. He didn't play you.

You two only dated a few times, so no commitment was made, no promises of exclusivity, no expectations on either side. You were both welcome to continue dating other people as well.

I don't think it was anything you did, or anything about you. He just met this other woman and felt more of a connection with her than he did you. He didn't do anything wrong. You didn't do anything wrong. It is just one of those things.

Had you not had sex, do you think that it would be bothering you as much? I don't think it would. I don't want to sound preachy, but I want to point this out. There is nothing wrong with having sex early on, however, it tends to hurt more when it doesn't work out if you do have sex too soon. Women seem to attach stronger when sex is involved. So maybe next time, wait a little bit before having sex to see if things develop. In reality, though, it really doesn't matter whether you wait or not - it isn't going to make a difference whether it works out or not. But if you haven't had sex, you would be able to walk away a little easier.

And the crying...BIG no no with aqua men. It makes them uncomfortable, gives men in general (not just aquas) that icky feeling about you. He doesn't understand why you can't hold it all together.

The insecurity...BIG no no with aqua men. You're going to feel it, but they don't need to ever guess it. Insecurity is a turn off. They need a secure woman.

All that said, there wasn't a whole lot of time and investment and you're very, very lucky he did give you an explanation. Respect his honesty.

Posted by hauyuc
I was kinda confused by his act.

BUT! he suddenly appeared and apologized to me AGAIN! He told me he didn't want anything just hoping im okay. He said he never played me but only wanted to let me know what he went through these days.

But I still want to know what he is thinking about...
Can someone try to guess?

Haha, that is what my Aqua ex told me....one year after he disappeared from my life. Our situation was a bit different, we dated for seven months, when he got problems with his job. Now he's saying that he should have told me earlier what he went through at that time (lost his job, moved 300 miles away).

Aquas are usually adorable, my ex certainly was. If I think sometimes about him, it's always with a smile. It is good we parted as friends and whatever happened between us doesn't hurt anymore. I'm seeing him tomorrow, first time in almost 12 months!


Don't read too much in what he said. There is no hidden meaning. Aqua's are usually friendly and polite and don't want to hurt someone, or even leave a bad impression.

Probably meant nothing. Leave it at that.

Let him go on and be with the person he was obviously more interested in.

Posted by Undine

Posted by hauyuc
I was kinda confused by his act.

BUT! he suddenly appeared and apologized to me AGAIN! He told me he didn't want anything just hoping im okay. He said he never played me but only wanted to let me know what he went through these days.

But I still want to know what he is thinking about...
Can someone try to guess?

Haha, that is what my Aqua ex told me....one year after he disappeared from my life. Our situation was a bit different, we dated for seven months, when he got problems with his job. Now he's saying that he should have told me earlier what he went through at that time (lost his job, moved 300 miles away).

Aquas are usually adorable, my ex certainly was. If I think sometimes about him, it's always with a smile. It is good we parted as friends and whatever happened between us doesn't hurt anymore. I'm seeing him tomorrow, first time in almost 12 months!


Don't read too much in what he said. There is no hidden meaning. Aqua's are usually friendly and polite and don't want to hurt someone, or even leave a bad impression.

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Thank you for explaining to me. I regret saying words doubting him now. I was too emotional because of the two bad guys I met before.
Same of you, i smile when thinking sometimes about him. I dont know if we still can be friends. :/ He is a good guy that I will never forget.