He needs time and space again...

This is like the 4th time he's needed space and time to think because he told me it's overwhelming how deep his love is for me and that it makes him feel paralyzed. :/ He also said its not me its him and that his heart just feels too much when it comes to me, it upsets him also which I find a bit weird :/ it's almost like he's upset that he loves me the way he does. So it's like things will be going good between us then out of the blue he gets sad and emotional he told me and then he tells me he needs time and that I should be happy :/

I don't get it honestly because why can't he just be loving me like he does instead of always backing away when things are good. I asked him if he's sure of me and he said I'm perfect even though I denied I'm not. He said his heart knows I'm his world, his purpose, his life and his everything :/

So I am confused like if he's sure of me why need space. It's not like I worry him daily etc. It's like he can't make up his mind or things get too intense for him and he backs away leaving me wondering why and if he's gone for good. He has broken up with me 2 times before because of his thoughts and pretty much him overthinking. He even told me last night that "it's too perfect to be real" and he said I'm perfect which is insane to him :/ He said he loves me unbelievably much and that I shouldn't doubt his love for me.

Like if you have something that you think is perfect why back away? And today we didn't talk but he messaged me "I love you" and with hearteens to which I responded I love you more but he's not even read the message and I think he just didn't want to get into a conversation with me today. I just don't understand him with this whole time space thing... Can someone explain why would an Aquarius guy need space all the time? Keep in mind I don't pressure him about anything but I hate being left to wonder if he's done with me or he really does get overwhelmed..?

His life was so shitty before, he can't believe his luck, so he has to process it...l understand, took me years to digest the happiness that relationships brought me...it's been 20 years since my first, l could get back with her now, l'm ready. But it was way too overwhelming before.

He's just not used to having feelings that run this deep. It should be a good thing, especially since he's admitting that he loves you. He's just in the middle of processing. He actually has something to lose now so it scares him.

Don't think about it too much. Just be encouraging, gentle, and consistent. Don't change your ways, be honest with him, and let him know you love him too. The feeling is just brand new to him. He's probably opened a pandora's box within himself.

stop moaning and deal with it.

if you can't hack that type..why are you even attracted to that? 😕

just accept that he is like that.

or just ASK him.

we don't know his mind and his feelings.

maybe his upbringing was where his parents never gave him closeness and support so he has to process it differently. not understanding how closeness and love is like.

you don't know what he's like in his childhood which may have affected him in his choice of processing relationships emotionally.



if he is lacking in that department, maybe you can show him and then be BRAVE and just ASK him.

not come to strangers, to ask how he is feeling because we have no idea.



edit

also that made me think..

since you came to us asking...

you TOO are the same as him.

you are attracted to that, and don't even understand it yourself.



yet, this maybe who you are too. both of you confused.

Posted by Sagiluv27
Give him all the time in the world and in the mean time don't sit around waiting just shift focus onto yourself do the things that make you happy. He will come back to you once he's ready but this time tell him how you feel about this whole pulling away situation. Communicate clearly to him on how he makes you feel let him understand what he's putting you through. Best of luck

Thanks but this is like the 4th time he's told me he needs space and I messaged him today because quite frankly I don't know where I stand with him. He kept telling me to be happy and in other words it almost sounded like I should move on and be happy. He only messaged me once yesterday saying "I love you" with hearteens then nothing more. It's like he's afraid of even being in love with me because he said anything related to me is important to him but at the same time he leaves me hanging not knowing where I stand. The reason I don't have much patience with him this time is because he constantly does it, when things go good it's like he looks for a problem backs away and needs space.

Posted by lisabethur8
if you can't hack that type..why are you even attracted to that? 😕

just accept that he is like that.

or just ASK him.

we don't know his mind and his feelings.

maybe his upbringing was where his parents never gave him closeness and support so he has to process it differently. not understanding how closeness and love is like.

you don't know what he's like in his childhood which may have affected him in his choice of processing relationships emotionally.



if he is lacking in that department, maybe you can show him and then be BRAVE and just ASK him.

not come to strangers, to ask how he is feeling because we have no idea.



edit

also that made me think..

since you came to us asking...

you TOO are the same as him.

you are attracted to that, and don't even understand it yourself.



yet, this maybe who you are too. both of you confused.

Well I love him and he honestly wasn't like this in the beginning. It seems he was more sure of me then and more committed to me than he is now which obviously confuses me since I've not done anything to hurt him or make him lose trust in me. I'm just waiting to know where I stand with him and Ofcourse I've asked him what does he want etc but I never get stable answers from him. It's why I came to this site to post since he is Aquarius.

Posted by Lilianni
He's just not used to having feelings that run this deep. It should be a good thing, especially since he's admitting that he loves you. He's just in the middle of processing. He actually has something to lose now so it scares him.

Don't think about it too much. Just be encouraging, gentle, and consistent. Don't change your ways, be honest with him, and let him know you love him too. The feeling is just brand new to him. He's probably opened a pandora's box within himself.

It does certainly seem so and he told me he's afraid too. I also feel he's never really felt love like this before so it kind of shocks him but in his words he says it paralyzes him. I did message him today because I just want to know where I stand with him and he probably will reply the same thing making me confused again.

Posted by bricklemark
His life was so shitty before, he can't believe his luck, so he has to process it...l understand, took me years to digest the happiness that relationships brought me...it's been 20 years since my first, l could get back with her now, l'm ready. But it was way too overwhelming before.

Haha I wonder if he will leave me and wait years later he will be ready for me too lol.

Posted by AerialView
stop moaning and deal with it.

U didn't enjoy ur dinner last night? Is thrrr something going on with venus Pisces? Lol

He has an attachment style of avoidant fearful style .. google it 🙂 just keep being consistence..

Posted by Destiny07

Posted by Lilianni
He's just not used to having feelings that run this deep. It should be a good thing, especially since he's admitting that he loves you. He's just in the middle of processing. He actually has something to lose now so it scares him.

Don't think about it too much. Just be encouraging, gentle, and consistent. Don't change your ways, be honest with him, and let him know you love him too. The feeling is just brand new to him. He's probably opened a pandora's box within himself.

It does certainly seem so and he told me he's afraid too. I also feel he's never really felt love like this before so it kind of shocks him but in his words he says it paralyzes him. I did message him today because I just want to know where I stand with him and he probably will reply the same thing making me confused again.

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How come you're confused? It sounds pretty straight forward to me tbh.